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Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

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LeeWT · 14/01/2010 21:48

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

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SarahMumtoAlex · 12/02/2010 12:36

Joining in the quiet whisper of congratulations for cheepz. I know you must be really unsure, but a line is a line, here's hoping it turns into more.

muser my heart goes out to you. I hope today causes as little pain as possible and makes it possible for you to move forward. We're here for you and know what its like.

Can someone slap me please? I'm symptom spotting. TMI but I'm getting 'snot cm' which I've only had with pregnancy before. But I have heard of others who get it on normal cycles and I know it only means high progesterone. I'm only 9 dpo so I've nearly a week to wait before testing - hence the slap requirement.

Grey and chilly here - but at least I have a view of the sea (blue grey) from my office window

northlondonchoclover · 12/02/2010 12:58

Hi Sarah

Whats a 'snot cm'?

littlemiss72 · 12/02/2010 13:01

Cake.. someone mention cake ooh I feel better already!

sarah I get a that sort of cm on every cycle, never really give it much thought however I noticed it more whilst pregnant. Not sure if it's a good sing or not you'll have me knicker checking at this rate to.

SarahMumtoAlex · 12/02/2010 13:03

Sorry, disgusting term! Its Yellow/green cm.

SarahMumtoAlex · 12/02/2010 13:06

Thanks for the reality check littlemiss with cycles (and hormones) changing all the time after mc, its probably nothing. I will calm down and focus on my real life now [chastened emoticon].

Moofold · 12/02/2010 13:29

More good news I hope for Cheepz!

Thanks for responding Alba. From what you say there shouldn't really be any leftover hormones affecting me then. Its just too depressing to think that I'm at CD24 with no ovulation yet. I'm now wondering if I somehow missed it despite all those OPK sticks and consistent low temperatures.

Hope your day picks up - I know that feeling of wanting to crawl back into bed again!

northlondonchoclover · 12/02/2010 13:29

oohhh....

Cheepz · 12/02/2010 13:31

SMtoA thanks - I have had mega snot CM this cycle too, I only seem to get it when pg - its normally creamy at this stage, I have had a cold but I don't think it has spread 'down there'

viv LMAO at you doing your quiet 'go jerry' dance - would pay money to see a full blown one - lets hope

update - have apointment with doctor to get bloods results back this afternoon (520) as I want to know if I need to be taking anything before I go away - just in case - haven't done anymore tests - will most likely do one tonight to see if darker than last night although they might test me at the doctors - bottom line is I am feeling like its an optimistic CD30 - no AF and faint tests so will wait and see
...... this whole 2ww business is abit of a drag, no?!
have left myself on list as CD30 as until I get a really conclusive BFP don't want to move

AlbaDeTamble · 12/02/2010 13:56

moofold -- you never know, you could have taken a couple of weeks for hcg to get back down to nothing, so could be about to ov any day now... then again, those sticks aren't perfect, could quite well have missed the surge too... the advice I read said just keep on with SWI every other day.

hmm, this is how it becomes a chore... hopefully valentine's day can still maintain a tiny bit of its romance for us all, whether we're SWI or SWOI or just recovering and in need of tlc...

tigerbear · 12/02/2010 15:31

WOW!!! As soon as I go away from this thread for a few days, there are a load of BFP's!!!!

Congratulations to you all, Cheepz, Sarah and SamanthaB - how exciting!!!!!

AF due tomorrow. Trying to hold of buying a test to do today, but we all know that would be highly stupid don't we? I have NOOOO willpower! As if waiting to find out just one day is going to kill me!

Cheepz · 12/02/2010 15:46

fingers crossed for you tiger and hoping you get more conclusive answer than me!!

Pollyanna · 12/02/2010 16:43

congratulations to all of the positives - gives us all hope.

is that true Alba, that you can only start a "normal" cycle when you have a neg. pregnancy test? i still got a strongly positive one a few days ago, so presumably I am no where near ov? it is all very confusing - and I hate not knowing where I am in my cycle, if anywhere.

Pollyanna · 12/02/2010 16:46

and girls, can you tell me how you tell your dps that you are SWI? I discussed this with my dh last night (the need to swi every other day) and he said that he is completely put off. What do you do - be straight with your dps, or just pretend (maybe) that you are perpetually horny?

SarahMumtoAlex · 12/02/2010 16:56

Hi pollyanna this took awhile for me an DH to work out. At first he didn't want to know, but then he changed his mind because he knew it mattered. We talk about the general dates at the begining of the cycle. These days he usually asks around the time I expect to ovulate and I let him know when I'm pretty sure I have. We always try to SWOI through the 2ww as well to make sure that we remember it can be just for fun.

Good luck it isn't easy

Goodluckbear · 12/02/2010 17:30

Pollyanna, I nearly wet my pants at that, thank god everyone else has already left the office today. I was actually thinking about this myself, as am on CD3, and in a slightly OCD way was checking out when might be good days to be SWI over the next couple of weeks. I think with my DH I'll just go down the "perpetually horny" route, as he knows that it's really TTC but I think he likes the idea that it's because I just can't get enough, haha. I agree with Sarah though, SWOI is good too to remind us it's supposed to be fun!!

(Also - totally recognise how difficult it is when you have no idea where in your cycle you may be. If you scan back through my posts over the last week and a bit, you'll see I nearly went crazy waiting for that first AF. It is tough, I just don't know what else to say, don't think anything makes it easier?!)

Tiger....fingers crossed....

Cheepz - update tomorrow yes? Still excited here....

Goodluckbear · 12/02/2010 17:33

P.S. Not to Cheepz or any of you other BFPs though, you have to have the non-alcoholic bears.

Goodluckbear · 12/02/2010 17:35

Non-alcoholic BEERS - what the hell is a non-alcoholic bear - what's wrong with me?!?

xx

SarahMumtoAlex · 12/02/2010 17:47

It would make a good nickname change for you when you get your BFP

Sarahlou8 · 12/02/2010 18:31

Cheepz (whispers) That's fan tas tic!!
I've only ever used ebay cheapies (fertility plan ones) and found them as reliable as any other. A line is a line! Congratulations!!

Well, not sure what is going on with me, AF still not due until tomorrow and came home from work yesterday to find I was bleeding. I thought it was all over and got all upset, but this morning it has stopped and I've had no more. Re-tested and the line is much darker and came up instantly.
I've been reading about implantation bleeding and it says it can occur 7-11 DPO which would fit, but to say I am petrified is an understatement. Has this happened to any of you?

Sam how are you today?

xx

Cheepz · 12/02/2010 19:25

pollyanna - i had to get the monitor so I could hide the fat we were SWI - he would have been soooo suspect with every other day - and actually am not at all sure he would want to do it every other day!! Also we got some toys and pretty raunchy pants to keep things spicy .... and not too babymaking

Been to doctor and my blood work is completely normal so no need for baby asprin and he said that was very 70's and has been rather debunked since then so not to worry, he said research indicates problems that cause mc happen when sperm meets egg, and that there are very few instances where there is a 'cause', he also said age is a factor with fertility of course but not a reason why you might be more likely to have a problem egg and an mc, i had wondered if my eggs were getting on abit .. but apparently thats nothing to do with it. he was very nice.

he didn't do a test and i decided not to register as pregnant until i come back as i don't want to unravel things again. can't qute get my head around it though. test tonight still light but defo came within the window and you can see it without squinting so I am beginning to believe it - keep expecting to go to loo and find AF has started and actually its all in my head!!! few more days and maybe it will sink in - after the blow of having mc at CCD32 in january though I am far from feeling relaxed about it at all yet so denial is probably a good thing

hope all you new ladies who joined last couple of weeks are doing ok - I am sure everything is very raw still and I hope you are all dealing ok.

GLB I'll take a non alc Becks pls, nice!!!

sarah bleeding is such a worry but try not to, I had implantation last month and was sure period was sarting but it only lasted 24 hours

SamanthaB123 · 12/02/2010 19:43

Sarah I'm really sorry that you've had some bleeding. Hopefully it was an implatation bleed and all will be well from now on. I'm fine, really tired not least because it's the end of term and I had a late parent's evening last night. I am quite worried about mcing again and I do think that it is taking the joy out of the moment. I was really careful not to get involved in analysing symptoms (not least because I think that it creates them!), but suddenly I am analysing how I feel every minute of the day. With the other two pregnancies (years ago now I know) I didn't really have any symptoms before week 6. I have been feeling sick but not today so that has worried me. I've had backache since the day I had the positive test and my tummy feels like I've done loads of situps all the time. The things that I've noticed the most though are that I am really thirsty, my boobs are tender and I keep feeling really cold - sudden attacks of goose bumps. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. I am also resisting the temptation to test again. I want to be able to trust that I'm pregnant and that everything will be wonderful. It's really difficult though. .

Cheepz Congratulations! I really hope that it works out for you this time. Fx for a sticky bean.

Hope all else ok, SB

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LeeWT · 12/02/2010 23:23

cheepz its looking good! def treat yourself to a clearblue i dont think you are quite going to believe it til then.. we are here to handhold til whenever you need xxx

samb i have very similar symptoms - freeeezing cold, nauseous and worst of all that horrible must eat or will puke feeling!

hope you all getting on ok, sorry i didnt say hi to everyone individually - so many people in here these days, like a nice noisy cafe

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just1moreplease · 13/02/2010 07:34

congrats cheepz hope it's a sticky one for you.

stil bfn for me only cd 27 for me so not out of the running completely.

going to try and resist poas until tomorrow at least.

sarahlou hope the blleding hasn't returned. fx it was just implantation.

tetleytea · 13/02/2010 12:02

Brill news cheepz quietly rooting for you

Muser · 13/02/2010 12:06

Well I am none the wiser after my scan yesterday. No sign of a pregnancy, ectopic or otherwise. I have to have another blood test on Sunday to see if my HCG levels are still rising. Then possibly another scan to see if anything is showing up. They can't rule out ectopic at this stage. All they can rule out is a healthy pregnancy.

I am so fucking tired of this. I want it to all be over with so we can start trying again. It's so hard sitting here knowing nothing and being able to do nothing. I thought I would have a baby this year, but now we're going to have to accept that it's looking very unlikely.