Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

[LeeWT]

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

Well done cheepz that's the strongest response (in a good way) I've ever heard of for an mc. Hope you continue to be able to talk it rhough till you're ready to ttc again.

Lee it would try the patience of a saint CD34 ought to have an answer in either direction.

No news here, AF will probably show sometime between weds and fri (its been varying since last mc) so I'm trying to avoid obsessing.

good luck to all

lee thinking of you - its hell when you don't know whats going on... sorry you and DH having ructions, its really tough as the important dates come around, March 26th going to be a difficult one for me if no BFP before then and Sept 18th going to be hell, if no BFP by then!!! Not even worrying about it as will happen in own time.

Another day, another challenge. SIL cam round today with 2 month old nephew, hes gorgeous. Was difficult trying not to think I could have been holding him knowing I was pregnant instead of holding him thinking about what might have been.

Bleeding is much lighter now - more like normal period and I am thinking in reality this has just been like a heavier than normal one, which does make it easier.

DH has had terrible hangover today after wedding (and 3 nights out prior) so has not been that useful, but we are going to chill in front of the box tonight.

Thanks sarah I guess each one is different for all of us but for me because I didn't have time to get excited I was less disappointed, and I am so relieved 'its all working'.

Going to get the blood tests done tomorrow so as soon as possible for the results.

xx

Evening all,
Just got back from anniversary weekend away with DH.
Was lovely, but I was still convinced I had pg symptoms all weekend, even after the three BFN's last week.
AF was due today, and was hardly noticeable. Still no spots (hurray, at least that's a good thing), so I've just gone and wasted another CB with a BFN (not surprisingly!).

Do I get the prize for Fool of The WeeK??

Cheepz - glad to hear you're feeling bit better physically.

Lee - sorry to hear things aren't great with your DH - have you spoken to him this evening?

Morning everyone xx

Hope we're all doing okay.

Lee - sorry you're feeling a bit pants. Hope things with your DH are getting better.

Tiger - No, you're not fool of the week. Like Boodle says, you're not out until you're out so hang in there...

As for me, well this week is D-Day Week but am feeling suprisingly okay so far. Somebody said to me that the anticipation of reaching your due date is far worse than the day itself, so am hoping that's true - otherwise poor DH is going to have a shite birthday tomorrow.

On another note, I'm slightly freaked out by the fact that my boobs appear to have doubled in size from Saturday night to Sunday morning. If it were two weeks from now, I'd be getting my hopes up, but the fact that Sat and Sun were D15 and D16 makes me wonder what the hell is going on.

Monday's list:

LeeWT TTC#2 UCL30-32 cycle -2 CD35
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD34
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD31
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD29
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD29
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD25
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 4 CD24
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD23
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD20
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD17
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 13 CD16
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD10
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD9
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD7
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD6
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD5
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD4
PoppyisaPain TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD?
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009 - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010

Woop, finally back home! I love visiting family, but I do love our little (rented) home. Am such a homebody/loser. Really looking forward to moving in a few months and finding somewhere new to make homey!

If there's any chance of me OVing this month, I suppose I'll do so this week, but my cycle will probably be a little screwed one way or another this month due to MC last cycle.

Cheepz well done on keeping positive! Here's to super post-MC fertility.

Tiger and lee have you given into the lure of testing today?

How were the blood tests today Cheepz?

I like the comments about super post-mc fertility, I started feeling pretty good about that idea today, and back to daydreaming about having a baby myself - the daydreams are so much better than thinking about the start of this year!!

Also, just had the leak fixed in the kitchen that was flooding the downstairs flat's kitchen, and the engineer has come and fixed the washing machine this afternoon - just got to get the bathroom leak fixed too and I'm three for three - I'm becoming an expert in the plumbing department in more ways than one this week.

xxxxx

VIV i , like you, absolutely dreaded the due date of my first MMC.Was May 8th 2009, in fact was off sick from work as it felt like it was looming for EVER!!!!!

On the actual day we went to a seaside place said a few words and threw a flower in to the sea .Was cathartic and i did start to feel better after the day and been and gone.I ve also got a couple of garden ornaments to remind me of the same...For the 2 nd one due this April ? 18th i think don t think i ll bother doing anything as feel like i don t have to...

Hope your day goes ok.....

Hi to everyone else ...

Well done CHEEPZ you sound like you re coping well X

hi all!

tiger any luck today?

In answer to the question of whether i gave in and poas - predictably I did and two bfns. so so frustrated. if af wasnt so late i wouldnt even be thinking about it. at this stage there's no chance im preg and ive given up. just have to wait for af :-(

DH still in doghouse, some peacetalks but to be honest it ruined my weekend. men. and just to reiterate - men.

how are you all doing? and tfls what about you? x

Hi..

Lee it's a horrible feeling to see your hopes fade away. I've felt really happy this last couple of weeks, quite optimistic, but now AF is here I'm devastated and just keep thinking it will be 3 weeks until I feel hopeful like this again.
Does anyone else still count weeks? I hate doing it. Should be 24 weeks now and just keep going over and over how I am 6 months behind where I should be.

Anyway, can anyone change my stats for me, I don't know how to do it-need to jump off the top of the list.

ooh and also, does the WTF cycle count as cycle 1, because if it does, I am now on cycle 3, not 2.

ttc#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD3

Thank you xx

Well, looking at the list I see we have a handful past UCL. Any BFP's????

lee, I hope AF rears her NASTY head soon if that's what needs to happen...

Monday's list updated for sarahlou:

LeeWT TTC#2 UCL30-32 cycle -2 CD35
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD34
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD29
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD29
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD25
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 4 CD24
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD23
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD20
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD17
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 13 CD16
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD10
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD9
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD7
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD6
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD5
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD4
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD3
PoppyisaPain TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD?
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009 - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010

didn't make it to hospital today as remembered doctor said to avoid Mondays so planning to go tomorrow

bleeding very light now, feel relieved it is over so quick, and is making me think might be like a normal cycle this month, monitor will probably ask for stick tomorrow and for following 10 days, would expect to ovulate earlier this month - 13 / 14 and a 28 day cycle, last month was 16 / 17 and would have been a 30 dayer, they seem to alternate. But mc might throw things out. Will see how it all goes.

hang in there lee feeling for you as the waiting and wondering wtf is going on is really pants

sarahlou sorry AF got you, the waiting is a killer

Hi everyone,
Lee and Hopefully - I've had FOUR BFN's, the last one I did yesterday. Bah! AF got me today!

Lee - yup, men can be total wankers sometimes can't they?

How is everyone else?

I've updated myself on the list:

Monday's list updated for sarahlou:

LeeWT TTC#2 UCL30-32 cycle -2 CD35
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD34
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD29
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD25
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 4 CD24
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD23
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD20
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD17
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 13 CD16
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD10
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD9
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD7
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD6
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD5
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD4
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD3
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD1
PoppyisaPain TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD?
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009 - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010

Tuesday's list:

LeeWT TTC#2 UCL30-32 cycle -2 CD36
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD35
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD30
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD26
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 4 CD25
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD21
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD18
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 13 CD17
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD15
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD11
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD10
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD8
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD7
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD6
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD5
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD4
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD2
PoppyisaPain TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD?
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009 - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010

Morning! Was going to do the list but see that MrsR has beaten me to it.

Hoping I have a 'normal' cycle too this month Cheepz, as MC last month was relatively early, so perhaps won't have thrown things off too much. Think we're going to go for the highly technical method of SWI (that's Shagging With Intent - the phrase 'baby dancing' makes me want to chew off my own fist in disgust) every other day from here on in until I'm positive I'm well past ovulation.

Sorry AF got you Tiger and sarahlou. It's so rubbish, and the first couple of weeks of a new cycle are so DULL.

Right, DS at the childminder, off to be efficient!

Morning Ladies, can I join you?

Right.... ttc#1
MMC 6/12 ERCP 8/12.
Does that make the 8th CD1?

Haven't quite made up our mind if we're going to wait one cycle to TTC but on the other hand not really not trying either!

My UCL is 27 days and I'm not sure what WTF and CD means.

I think I should be OV ing around nowish?
I don't chart temp or use OPK (yet!)and my CM is normal at the mo so who knows what my body is up to!
I would like to wait until a proper AF date to be sure but as I said, may not .

I have an ipod fingy and it's difficult to read all the thread and remember everything (and also add myself to the list)but I've been lurking for a few days and want to say you are all wonderful, knowledgable, supportive gals and with no doubt you'll have me POS and spending half my wage on CB's and monitors very soon!

Cheepz how you doing? You sound very strong, keep at the Docs, mither, mither,mither!

Viv hope today is not too painful for you. I'll be thinking of you x
Take those boobs out and raise a glass and match your DH in getting krunk for his B'day!

Morning girls

Thanks for all your kind words and thoughts. 9.42am and so far, I'm doing okay.

I have to say two things have made me properly laugh out loud this morning. First, the sentence, "The phrase 'baby dancing' makes me want to chew off my own fist in disgust" ...

I could not agree more. What kind of fucked up cast-iron-knicker-lie-back-and-think-of-England world do we live in, when 'baby dancing' is considered a good simile for a good old shag? Sweet Jesus.

And second, "Take those boobs out and raise a glass and match your DH in getting krunk for his B'day!"

I'm assuming you mean 'drunk' Mrs Gazebo but I kinda like the idea that 'krunk' could be our new term for baby dancing.

Anyway, welcome to our lovely board. I'm so sorry you've found yourself here but if you've been lurking, you know we're a good bunch.

Love to all xx

viv TOTALLY in agreement with BD... there are some others which I find rather twee but am such a sheep I have used...
Sending you much strength today, you sound in a very positive mindset; am full of admiration.

Hope everyone else ok... off to the farm to make some animal noises.

Welcome mrsG, am so sorry you are here, but welcome. I lurked for a while also; CD is cycle day and WTF refers to the first cycle after MC/MMC, and its "what the fuck!!!????" all-over-the-place characteristics.... at least that's what I think WTF is...

Morning to all the ladies old and new. The baby dancing makes me want to chew off my own fist, comment just had me laughing too, it is soo naff! I much prefer the SWI!

viv chin up hun, i felt so much release once my due date was past....hope DH has good BD....BIRTHDAY!!!!! mind you i have to admit i like the idea of baby dancing....it makes me think of rain dancing and sweaty bumping and stamping to bring on a baby!! A bit apocalypto know what i mean!?!

no.....i'll get my coat

gah...got letter from hosp giving me scan date of march 1st!!!! just a normal 12wk scan.....they said i am very low risk given my numbers, i am disputing that obviously and waiting for someone to call me back.....

when i had my mmc i went to my scan at thirteen wks expecting to see bubba and instead there was nothing....just a fetal pole that never made it.....it was the worst experience, second only to my little beating heart bubba that was EP......i just don't think i can cope with waiting til 12 wks again, i'd like to think i can be calm enough to wait but in reality i need to know that we have made it with a beating heart into the right place....

may have to pay for scan privately.....

welcome mrsG

Hello to MrsG! Boodle - how frustrating about the scan!

Cheepz - glad to hear you're doing ok

Viv - I think getting krunk sounds like a marvellous idea!

Hopefully - yep, I hate the first 2 weeks - so boring as you just know nothing exciting is going to happen for a while!

I had my first real sad 'it's not fucking fair' moment at the weekend, when a friend told me she's pg. Obviously really pleased for her, and does give me hope (she's pg with her first and is 41, but has always been really, really fertile and gets pg at the drop of a hat. Although I say she's pg with her first, she's had at least 2 or 3 terminations I know of )

Also saw a gorgeous baby pic on someone's profile here on MN, and just thought 'why is it so easy for other people to get pg and not me??'
Must be so nice to be able to get pregnant as soon as you start trying!

Boodle fib!
Get that scan! Say your worried about something.
Loads of peeps do it, my Doc told me to do it!
Do you have a EPU close by?
Nag,nag,nag! They can't say no!
I got an early scan at 5.5 weeks I said I was spotting.
Doctors orders! It put my mind at rest.
I think it's disgraceful that they won't scan you with your history
Don't ask, don't get.
There! Rant over!

I agree Boodle, say you are spotting and I'm sure your EPU will see you.

As an aside, I forgot to say that I came home yesterday to find a letter from a local mother and baby group asking me to join them for "coffees with other soon-to-be mums". Brilliant. Just brilliant.

Well day 28 here and I caved in and POAS. BFN of course but at least it was a cheapie test! God I'm sad. I was pretty sure I wasn't pregnant but when I got a high temp reading this morning, I started to allow myself to hope. I know it's not over until AF arrives but have already let go.

Tigerbear, I suspect you will have a lot of competition for a POAS prize! Hate to think how many we collectively manage... What's the highest number in a cycle that anyone has managed so far??

Sorry about AF sarahlou and tigerbear.

Welcome MrsGazebo. Sorry to hear about your m/c but lovely to have you on board. I just hope we don't lead you down the path of madness

Boodle - another one saying get that scan if it will put your mind at rest! Lie, cheat or pay privately! Whatever gets it for you.

Love the expression SWI!

at that letter VivC - big hug to you. Don't forget your cycle might still be all over the place and not make sense for a month or two.

Cheepz - well done for getting through the wedding. You really are an inspiration in how you are dealing with this.

Lee - why is it rows like that always come up at the wrong time. I had a corker with DH on Sunday night. I suspect all the TTC business doesn't help our resilience in those situations. Hope things are resolved now. I always hate it if we row at ttc time - I'm torn between being furious and thinking damn we need to have sex .

Any news from meita? I think she should have seen her midwife by now?

Took my dog to the vets for his operation today. God I was such a wreak. Don't feel I could ever cope with having children!!

they have caved and i am going in for tomorr for a walk in appt at 9am...

oh dear God....please let my run of bad scan luck be OVERRRRRRRR.....

sorry to the BFN's....this month guys, this month.....