Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

[LeeWT]

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

VIV we too have always had mini breaks and holidays booked, cash permitting , as a lovely distraction therapy!!! You can t beat it!!! In fact we re suppose to be booking our next cruise for Sept in 2weeks time.I had put the deposit away out of this months wage before my latest bfp!!! Obviously thats gone now!!!!

DIRTGIRL sorry you re down its hard isn t it? sometimes think you just have to wallow in it !!!!

Well , we re back in the world of the living got our internet sorted YEH!!!!!

muser so sorry you are joining us here. and very sorry you are going throughthis.

I have just had my 2nd in a row and 4th altogether, last one was dec 2008 and naturally at 6 wks, this was mmc at nearly 11 wks and had erpc last Friday. Didn't conceive in the year inbetween.

I have to say it can be a bit soul destoying and as i'm sure you know as i think we've been on a few buses together, I left the bus more than once as it all got a bit too much for me at times.

There will be times when you are happy for the BFP's that keep ion coming but are so so sad at your own inability to conceive or to hold on to a pregnancy that it does all seem very hopeless but there will be light at the end of the tunnel, for all of us hopefully. I try and hold onto that.

Have they said whether you will have any investigations yet? I am 43 and so they are being very helpful at the moment I have to say which in turn is helpful to me as it makes me feel as ifI am able to do something.

Feel free to rant, cry, shout and just vent on here, there's not much we haven't heard or seen between us i fear.

Hi MUSER i ve had 1 MMC,1MC and 1 CP.At times i ve been very down and got to the point of giving up {we have our names down on an adoption list} But i founf , for me, counselling helped as does doing stuff for myself like regaining control:accunpuncture, slimming world, the gym etc..........BUT it all takes time and patience for you to work through your feelings and right now is very early for you.

This forum is great for "speaking" to people who have experienced exactly the same crap as you soo totally understand where you re coming from.

Take care X

Hi liahgen. I didn't realise you'd been unlucky so many times. It's awful isn't it? I've been told they'll investigate once I have 3 in a row. I really don't want to have to get to that point. I'm 30 so I guess they think I still have time.

muser you have bags of time, i had ds at 35 and mc last august (6 weeks / at 37 just!!) then had 2nd mc 2 weeks ago (4 and a half weeks / 37 and a half!) They have done some blood tests - something to do with clotting - DS was enormous (10 and a ahlf pounds) and I bled alot and that might have done something, but overall they said nothing to worry about until 3 in a row and even then nothing to really worry about for another few years age wise (although i think she was just being nice!)

If you had mc in dec and again now that means you are conceiving very easily so getting preggers not an issue, and mc's are so common - 1 in 5 pregnancies end in mc and the vast majority of those in the first 8 weeks, in most cases its just bad luck, not medical, not anything you did, just bad science.

It is disheartening but you have to just dust yourself off and decide its not going to beat you!

welcome by the way and sorry you find yourself here at all

if you put your stats MrsR will no doubt pop you on the list - if you are going to TTC right away ...

Morning everyone, and hello to the ladies just arrived, Just wanted to quickly say, yesterday in Boots, I noticed Clearblue tests on offer.

Hello can I join too?

I had miscarriage at the weekend at around 11 weeks, although had been aware for a few weeks that the pregnancy wasn't progressing. I was just waiting for a scan so I could have an erpc, but in the end had an awful traumatic natural mc which ended up with me admitted to hospital.

I am awfully torn atm as I really want another baby, but really can't go through this again. I am not in a position to ttc yet as am still bleeding but don't really want to wait very long. I don't have age on my side .

i am very new to the ttc threads - I have conceived very easily in the past, but it took a few months to conceive last time and I worry that I will take ages again.

Can anyone tell me whether CD1 is counted from the day of my miscarriage?

Hi Pollyanna - that sounds awful ... for you

I counted CD1 as first day of bleeding, I think thats what people generally use, although for that first cycle it is all a little bit whats going on which is why we refer to it as WTF.

Hope you feel a little better soon.

Goodluckbear - I've been told that your cycle can change post m/c so you shouldn't necessarily assume it will be the same length, symptoms etc. But I've heard chocolate is great for TTC - OK maybe I've made that last bit up . Hang in there.

Glad you found us yogamat - welcome. I really obssessed about getting pregnant asap after my m/c and was gutted at my first AF. I suspect it is part of the grieving/healing process we go through. All I can advise is to go with your gut instinct (and try not to be as obsessional as me! )

Dirtgirl - sorry you had a low day. Hope today is a bit better?

Welcome muser. Sorry you're going through this hellish experience. The main ways I coped were this thread (it has been a fantastic source of support) and time (a cliche I know but it helps). Take good care of yourself.

And welcome Pollyanna - it's so horrible and still very early days. I had a MMC last year at 10 weeks (turned out the baby had died at 7 weeks). I had had a suspicion as a lot of my symptoms had gone. But that doesn't take away the pain does it. So sorry for you. Cheepz came up with the brilliant expression of the WTF cycle as things can be so over the place at first.

Effilump - you are an evil lady [TFLS gets out of the way of the stampede to Boots where her Advantage card profile must be pure TTC ]

Louisesh - hiya, how are you doing? I'm exhausted, been permanently frozen for the last week and couldn't sleep (apparently that's the hormones) and started to feel little waves of sickness. But my main symptom is STUPID surfing of the web and re-reading all the m/c stats at each week stage etc. Had a low day yesterday and can't shrug it off today. Please slap me with a wet fish someone. PLEASE!

Cheepz - how are you doing my dear? Got any wet fish handy??

Viv - dare I ask? [nosey but tell me to get lost if you want emoticon!]

Morning everyone xx

In summary:

Big Fat Fuck Off No + 2 x Flights to Portugal + 1 x Clearblue Digital Fertility Monitor = A very expensive morning for Viv.

And would you believe it, but an hour after I got the big fat fuck off no, AF finally put in an appearance. That, my friends, is the definition of Sod's Law...

I think what's frustrating me most about all this is that both of my pregnancies were conceived at the first time of trying, so I'm just not bloody used to it not working.

Still, onwards and upwards. Just got back from my meeting with my consultant who ran through the blood test results that we got back last month. All is fine - no chromosomal abnormalities / chance of us going through that again is 0.75% / physically, I'm fine and clearly have no problem conceiving (ha!) / he's sure I'll have a bouncing baby by the end of this year. Gosh, what it must be like to have his optimism.

Anyway, enough memememe. A big hug and welcome to Pollyanna and Muser and Yogamat. I'm glad that you've found us, even though it's taken something really shitty to get you here. We're a lovely bunch, I promise.

Muser - I've had two losses in a row and it's utterly soul-destroying - and it doesn't help when well-meaning friends and family say things like, "Oh give yourself a break now" or "Don't rush into trying again".

However, somebody on one of the other threads on which I post said to me that when the pain of not trying hurts more than the fear of trying, then you know it's time to try. Which I think is quite possibly the best advice i've ever received.

If anyone could do me the honours of putting me back to the bottom of the list on D1, that would be fabulous, ta!

Much love to everyone xxx

Hope I don't muck it up this time!

Tuesday's list:

sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD28
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD26
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD25
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 10 (post m/c) CD23
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD22
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD21
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD21
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD20
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD20
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD19
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD17
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 8 CD16
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 5 CD14
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD14
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD8
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD6
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD4
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD1

fedupandhateful TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD?
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
allthe8s TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010

That should say

Wednesday's list:

sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD28
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD26
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD25
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 10 (post m/c) CD23
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD22
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD21
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD21
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD20
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD20
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD19
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD17
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 8 CD16
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 5 CD14
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD14
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD8
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD6
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD4
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD1

fedupandhateful TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD?
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
allthe8s TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010

ps: I haven't included new people as am in a mad rush - welcome and sorry you've found yourselves here.

If you want to copy and paste the list and add yourself, feel free! If not, feel free to post your details (cycle day, usual cycle length, what cycle you're on) I or someone can add you later

g'day all

there you go TFLS thats a big pollock slapped round your chops!!

Viv, what a load of pants - hate it when that happens - its like being taunted - will do list honours

Am putting yogamat muser and Pollyanna on list - let me know your stats and will update

Its been a while since have done the list so will try not to screw it up, but am no mrsr!!

Also OCD complusion will mean I have a clear up of anyone whose not posted for a few months, I KNOW ONLY BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN HERE SO BLOODY LONG ......

Pregnant friend is all over the shop wonering what to do - bet mc hasn't even crossed her mind , oh to be back in the pregnant and innocent camp

Wednesday

sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD28
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD26
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD25
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 10 (post m/c) CD23
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD22
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD21
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD21
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD20
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD20
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD19
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD17
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 8 CD16
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 5 CD14
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD14
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD8
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD6
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD4
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD1
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD2

PENDING STATS
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
allthe8s TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
muser TTC#? UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Polyanna TTC#? UCL? WTF CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010

oooo, cheepz get you... "pending stats" eh...? HOW posh and professhenull.... .

Sorry have been quiet as have been feeling rubbish; sick, tired and with a heavy cold and yucky cough. Also had MIL staying, so little time for me, me, me.

Had first MW appt yesterday, classic start.... "ooo, lovely to see you again so soon.... how did it all go".... "oh, you mean my missed miscarriage at 13 weeks last summer which I sent you all paperwork of, and you have obviously failed to notice in my file in preparation for this appointment".... OK, so I didn't say that bit out loud..... but honestly!!!! She did at least look a bit embarrassed... but just burbled "oh how funny, the previous lady had exactly the same scenario". Am sure she'd be delighted you are sharing her details with me... HONESTLY!!!!!

Anyway, scan booked; no chance of an early scan unless I pay, and we no longer go up to Kings but is dealt with locally in Brighton.... not sure how I feel about that... Anyway enought me, me, me.... obviously overcompensating for MIL visit .

Welcome all the newcomers - so sorry, but this is a HUGELY supportive (and currently SUPER-busy) thread. If it helps at all to those of you worried ref age, I am 42 next month, and now 7+5 with #2. First 2 pgs were first month of trying, this time after MMC and ERPC it was cycle 4. Muser I recognise you from buses, so sorry you have had such a hard time, 2 so very close, that's so tough. But I know all our stories are so sad.

Hi to everyone - hope all bumps are doing ok too.

Must dash, DS about to wake and I've achieved bugger all .

JOLLISTER i too work for the nhs but quite often despair at the lack of communication and preparation people do!!! Last time i saw the midwife she went on and on about blood tests etc.....when all iwanted was an early scan due to my history!!! I ended up arranging it myself.Never found the 3 midwifes i ve come across to be nuch cop!!!

TFLS want some chips to go with your fish???? HA HA

STEP AWAY FROM THE PC and crappy statistics.This is a NEW pregnancy soo deserves a chance.But i know exactely what you mean at times i can t possibly see how this time can be any different to the other times but OTOH this could be that ONE time everything falls in to place....Who knows?You ve got symptons thats good i never get any soo.....Although my pg tests stronger every day.

CHEEPZ again know exactely how you feel about unfortunately when we fall pg again its no longer innocent or enjoyable.Thats been taken away from us now and nobody can understand that unless they ve been there.

Hi to everyone else.I m fine on A.L from work yeh!!!! Just been to my accunpuncture its lush...chilling now , lovely.

I love the "pending stats" - I am going to hang out there until my AF arrives, after which I will know what day I'm on and will be proper, no messing, no frills, SWI - well, will maybe add frills on Valentine's Day as a treat for DH

Am less ranty today.

Big wave to all newcomers!!

xxxxx

Feel much better for the pollock and chips thanks! Off to google pollock... I had a bad wave of nasuea just after posting this Louisesh so trying to cheer myself up with that IFKWIM. Will be extremely pissed off to have bad pregnancy symptoms and a miscarriage!

Oh sorry Viv - the only consolation is that maybe your body is not letting you get pregnant until all is right and it's ready. Portugal sounds great. The price of the monitor is isn't it? And the blasted sticks.....

Cheepz - how far along is your friend?

Jollster - lovely to hear from you. at midwife. Wish you had said it aloud - might teach her to read the notes first. And at lack of early scan. Wonder what would happen if you rang your local EPAU and asked them directly [michievious thought!]

DH keeps ringing me as he's lost - I am beyond hopeless at giving directions .

uuurghh. Totally get you TFLS... i really want to post something up lifting and joyous but i tell you i am having the worst MS i've ever had....a quick update for those who haven't scanned the grads thread....hopsital mon with suspected blood clot in lung as very breathless....turns out i have pulled muscle near diaphragm due to my violent retching and this is causing me to breath really shallowly as it bloody well hurts....hence the breathlesness....all the stomach acid has given me attack of gastritis as i have pre-existing condition whereby i have damaged stomach lining.....coupled with copious amounts of mucus which is just an early preg bugbear {but makes me want to hurl every minute i realise it is there} i am just having a pukathon here...

obviously very happy to have reached 8weeks and still be preggers but didn't realise this was going to be a bloody endurance race....i had visions of a free-spirited, sandal wearing, organic cravings kinda pregnancy this year thanks....

this thread has just gone mental since the new year, so many new people, can't name check everyone but hello to you all

My stats - I'm not sure what day I'm on, and might wait until after af arrives to add that.

I'm ttc no 6 and UCL is I think 26 days.

Jollster are you in Brighton?

Oh Boodle - I'm feeling a veritable font of healthiness in comparison. Poor you. Have you had any time off work? Hope you catch up with your vision soon - mind you, it might be a bit cold for the sandals so you might need socks as well!

Still NO AF!!!
5 days late now
AHhhhh

did test last night BFN
No idea what is going on

Thefatlady - that's what pissed me off the most. I got the monitor home, opened it up and then found out I had to go and buy the sticks and the bloody batteries too.

sunburntats - I feel your pain, honey. After I got the BFFN (extra F added for expletive purposes), I just wanted AF to hurry the fuck up so I can crack on with trying this month. Thankfully, it wasn't too long before it arrived, although I have to say, it's still a lot lighter than usual, so I'm a bit too

goodluckbear - Judging from my pottymouth, I think I've got your ranty hat on today.

Updated pollyanna but left on 'pending stats' til we get a cd! Get me and my criteria setting

tfls no no no, you don't get chips with your wet fish slap - that might encourage you to do it again

my friend is only like 3 days late so its early early days

sunburn what a bunch of arse, feeling for you lady - lee was 7 days late before she got a BFP..... just sayin'

nice to hear from our grads jolls youve been away too long, boo tracked your week of mishaps on the other page glad you are feeling really rubbish as that means you must have a sticky sticky

struggling to work today as estate agents are coming every 2 hours to value the house, its a pain but the good news is all the valuations are about the same and its worth more than we thought ... yay

Wednesday

sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD30
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD28
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD26
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD25
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 10 (post m/c) CD23
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD22
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD21
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD21
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD20
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD20
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD19
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD17
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 8 CD16
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 5 CD14
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD14
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD8
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD6
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD4
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD1
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD2

PENDING STATS
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
allthe8s TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
muser TTC#? UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010

BFN for me this morning - both times I've been pregnant I've got a BFP at least 2 days before I'm due, and I have no symptoms at all, so probably fairly safe to assume I'm out of the running this month.

Will sit back and wait for AF now I suppose...