Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

[LeeWT]

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

Morning everyone xx

Firstly, leewt I'm so sorry to hear about your nanna. She sounds like an amazing and inspirational woman. I hope that you and your family are bearing up as well as you can be.

Also third I'm so so sorry, honey. Make sure you rest up and remember we're always here if you need a friendly ear.

Hi to clareanna and allthe8s - I'm sorry that you've found yourself here but hope that we can help somehow. Allthe8s - your story in particular is very similar to mine, albeit I had an mmc first, followed by losing a baby girl at 13/14 weeks last November. There are no words which can describe how utterly shit it all is, but I'm finding that the brighter days are outweighing the darker days at the moment, and I know you'll get there too.

As for me, no holidays booked yet but no AF either!

Browny pinky cm still there, but not enough to make it onto my knickers - I only see it when I wipe. I'd like to try and convince myself it's implantation, but I didn't have that with my previous two pregnancies so doubt it somehow. So the upshot is I'm not going to test for fear of a crushing BFN. However, if AF doesn't arrive tomorrow, then I give it some thought, especially as I've got my routine post-natal appointment with my consultant tomorrow morning to discuss the results of our blood tests. We'll see.

Lots of love to everyone. Hope our mum-to-be's are all doing well too.

xxx

Congrats to TheKurgan The BFP's are coming thick and fast at the moment, it's great! So sorry to everyone who's having a hard time at the moment though, and hello and welcome to those who have just joined us. Im waiting to start testing in a few days, it would be easier to wait and see if AF is late, but I know I wont, last time I got a faint line on a cheepy 2 days before AF was due. I dont feel hopeful though, even if I know we did everything we could, I dont know, I just dont think this is my month.

ooooh viv exciting! the CM you describe is like what I had for implantation ... just sayin you are getting quite late now!!!

Oh Viv - scan back. I had exactly the same about the time I got my BFP (no pressure sweetie!)

Effilump - fingers crossed for you.

Third - so gutted for you. Take really good care of yourself and remember we are here for you whenver you need it.

Clareanna - welcome on board. Sorry to hear about your loss. Lousy timing about your DH as well - hopefully fate is saving up the good luck for your next TTC attempt.

Liahgen - every other day starting today sounds like the winning formula! I know exactly what you mean - I obsessed about getting pregnant asap even though I knew I was setting myself up for a fall. I think it's part of the process we all go through. If only we could learn [TFLS slaps her forehead].

Hi Girls,

I'll pop myself in here for a while, found out yesterday our little one didn't make it past 7wks. Back in hospital Friday for ERPC, first MC from first pregnancy so a little numb right now.

I'm sure we will try again once we are ready, nice to see a little ray of light from you all. x

LittleMiss - just posted on your thread on the miscarriage section [TFLS tries not to look stalkerish!]. I debated mentioning this thread but didn't know if it was too early for you.

Glad you found it - I joined on the second day of my m/c and it was a life saver. Lovely to have you on board.

Hey Lee - just wanted to say sorry to hear about your Nanna, she sounds like a fantastic lady, I'm sure she'll be watching out for you now.

Hi to new people - glad you found this thread, but sorry you're here too if that makes sense xxxx

Tuesday = worst day of week. No gossip from the weekend to discuss, and still 3 and a half days to the weekend. Boo!!!

Fingers crossed Viv!!

Liah - snap - I was so miserable last night (another sign of PMT - hormones!!) and realised I'd kind of been hoping for a BFP, despite only SWI about twice since mc. It's tought not to hope though!!

xxxxxxxxxxx

I spent so long writing that last missive that TFLS and Little Miss had already posted - just to say, hi to Little Miss, glad you've popped in, and hope Friday goes as well as it can . Big hugs xxxxx

Just popping in briefly while DD1 at nursery and my mindee sleeps. Thank you for the warm welcome and your messages - I will catch up properly later. Have a great day xxx

littlemiss and clareanna welcome and so sorry for you for having to join us, hope things get brighter for you soon

GLB loving your sunmmary of why tuesdays are crap - I whoelheartedly concur!!

tfls shall we stop teasing Viv.... naaaaaah lets keep chivvying her along so glad you are hanging here with us for a while xx

effi self protection demands most months you don't think its your month - thats when you get BFP's - its the months where you allow yourself to think that you have symptoms and convince yourself you are when you're not!!

liahg I felt like that after 1st mc - just so desparate to be pregnant again, every day for a month, and very disappointed it didn't happen, but this time I am less like that, I guess the first time the shock is soooo bad, but after that the naive assumption it will just automatically be ok has gone and so you are alot less willing to let yourself go.

good day everyone

TFLS and Cheepz - haha, you can tease me as much as you like - it takes my mind off the possibility that it might be a big fuck-off no...

Gaaaaaah - my best friend at work is pregnant - she just tested, she got pregnant by accident - ie without even trying!! Are you kidding me!

I am genuinely delighted for her and I am sure I will not be far behind her so will be fun for mat leave but for goodness sake .... so easy for some!

go Viv go Viv go Viv if its a BFP we will be swinging from the rafters and if not we will be here with biscuits.... x

Cheepz - I think the new face sums up your friend's news. Great for her but not even trying . Sod's law now dictates you get a BFP just to muck up the company's staff planning [evil wishful face and apologies to Cheepz' employer!]

Viv - us tease you. Never! But what news lady???

oooo liking the new confused face!!

cheepz sorry that was me last time - wasn't trying or even thinking about having a baby . were in total shock but both so chuffed. and then total devastation when it went wrong.

and now look at me

tfls I did say that dh and I will make efforts with renewed vigour to ensure there is some overlap in Mat Leave, for panini noshing and for mucking up the companies resource plans especially since they may well look to me to cover her leave

runfor so sad for you honey big hugs - it was me too when I had DS, we were in the few months where I had come off the pill but we were not actually trying yet, and thankfully that came good. Not so straightforward the second or third times! Maybe this time.. Cheepz hopes optimistically for the next few cycles for post mc fertility and CBFM predicted ovulation and SWI action!

She has two DDs already so this will be #3, and never had any mc's - some people are just lucky I guess

allthe8s, clareanna and littlemiss welcome, sorry you have had to find your way here. littlemiss all the best for Friday...

leewt sorry to hear about your nanna, sending you some big hugs, I hope both Thursdays bring you some peace

third so sorry honey thinking of you and sending love your way

viv exciting, I am watching for your posts, am sending positive vibes your way, fingers crossed it's good news!!!

run sorry AF got you and sorry for missing you out on the longest here if you hadn't all already noticed I am a complete jelly head, which at the moment is further compounded by being on nights

liah good luck in your every other day shagathon! It's hard not to become obsessed even though we all promise ourselves we won't. I don't know how you stop it, although I have recently found a new obsession in my kitchen floor which since the puppy arrived never seems to be clean!!! It's driving me potty!!!

Well, I have boobs like rocks this month and feck they hurt, I'm not holding my breath though as it's beginning to be the same most months and I have no other 'symptoms' to speak of either. 7 days to go....

Hi guys - I have a random question, I might post it on the miscarriage thread, but thought I'd try you guys first!! When did you have your first period post mc (or specifically, post ERPC)? The reason I'm asking is that on Friday coming it'll be exactly 4 weeks post ERPC (and being normally a 28 day cycle, I thought, maybe I'll get it then if things go back to normal quickly). Anyway, I feel like I've got PMT, but it was worse yesterday than today, and still no period. I don't normally have PMT for several days, usually just the one.

I think I'm just overconscious of what's going on in my abdomen, to be honest, the cramps just remind me of the miscarriage so it's bringing back bad memories, but I really want to get this period over and done with so I can get on with getting back to normal!!

Rant over.

5.35pm - nearly home time. Have eaten two chocolate bars to "cheer myself up", maybe have third one way back....

xxxxxx

Hi ALLTHE8S,lITTLEMISS,CLAREANNA Welcome [smile[ we ve ALL been through the same experiences its crap.... Soo you ve come to the right place to whinge,rant or generally feel sorry for yourself.

Sorry LEE X

Go VIV GO!!!!!

I m fine, at work still no internet at home soo cant catch up properly and post on all of you.

THIRD love and hugs to you , take care X

Will catch up properly hopefully tomorrow X

Hi ladies
can I join you? Had a miscarriage yesterday at 6.5w. All happening naturally.
I am totally devastated - I know you have all felt the same.
But the only way I can think of to get over it is to try again.
Do I really need to wait for another cycle? Or can we just try when the bleeding stops?
Is there anything I can do to help strengthen my lining/help things along?
I wish I had the patience which so many of you have but the thought of waiting another two months to try is just not helping me at the moment.
Any advice greatly appreciated.

Hi TFLS no symptons yet...How about you???

Hi YOGAMAT Soo sorry....think theres no problem with ttc asap once you feel mentally and physically ready know i did all 3 times!!!!

HI yogamat and welcome though its sad you're here. You can start as soon as you're ready. There is no need to wait. That being said, I know myself that starting to try was a version of not accepting that I'd really lost the pregnancy - I'd still do it again though

Dashing home so I can't catch up on the other posts, will soon though

Thanks guys. I do feel ready but maybe that's me just being in denial.
I'm just desperate for dc1 to have a little friend. All I can think about is how much I want to be pregnant again. Was just so excited. It's crushing isn't it.

Thirdtime - so sorry. I hope you feel better soon.

Hi Yogamat. Yes, it is crushing.

Lee, sorry about your Nanna.

Hi all the new people, Littlemiss, Clare, Allthe8s. Sorry you've had to make your way here.

I'm having a low day today. I've been feeling back to normal so it has hit me sideways. Hormones can be a nightmare.

Goodluck bear -For both my MCs, my first period came back after 5 weeks (usually my cycle is around 28 days).

yogamat - doctors usually to advise to wait for one period, mainly to enable dating of the next pregnancy. My recent MC was in December and am on my first cycle after MC. We are not trying until March just to give ourselves time to heal emotionally. Also we are going skiing and I don't want to worry about whether the skiing will affect the implantation or survival chances of our little bean if we are succcessful. Not doing anything different except trying out acupuncture this time to improve my chances. Lets see whether it will work

Viv & Cheepz - good luck!!!

Hello thread. Just wondered if there's anyone on here who's had more than one miscarriage in a row, and how you keep positive while TTC?

I had a mc in December, and am having another one now (waiting for that to be confirmed tomorrow, but it looks that way).

Right now the thought of going through this again makes me never want to have sex. So how do I keep positive and keep going?