The continuing adventures of The First Time Frolickers!!!!

[pixiestix]

Somebody come and join me quick, I'm lonely!!

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD91
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD69
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD53
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD46
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD36
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL29-31 CD28
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD26
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD23
Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD21
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD20
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD16
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD16
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD14
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD14
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD12
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD11
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD10
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD8
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD6
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD5
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD4
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD2
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD2
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD2
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

[YorkshireTeaDrinker]

WhiteRoses, accept the promotion and (if possible) take a short break from TTC. I advocate the short break only a a sop to your conscience and to ensure that you do manage more than two weeks in the new job, not because I think its in any way neccessary . If you have a higher salary, then you'll probably have a bit more income during your maternity leave and have a higher proportion of earnings if you decided to go back p/t after mat leave.

The companay will have to replace you when you leave your current job - the administrative overhead fr them is practically the same whichever job you are in. You would go through the same pregnancy risk assessment whichever job you are doing, its just that the outcome would be different in the new job.

When you do get you BFs, you'll be thankful for every bit of spare cash you have in order lavish your PFB with everything s/he needs and will not be at all concerned about the fact that you might have caused a mild administrative headache for the company you work for.

Are you feeling convinced yet? I think your scruples are honest and good, but you don't need to have them. You are preparing to start a family - family needs have to come before the company's.

Re my interesting aches - they are still there, although a bit milder than yesterday. I tested this morning and got the expected BFN. I'll try and hold off till Wednesday, which is when AF is due. I am starting to think its probably just slow-burning PMT . I have a busy week at work coming up, so going to try and focus on work and not think about it too much.

[Calyx]

Yorkshire lol@prodding boobs until they're sore! But gosh... sore boobs, crampy abdomen, not due AF for a week... I'm optomistic too!... did you test yet? Good luck xx

[Calyx]

Dammit cross posted! for you but I'm keeping these fingers crossed for Wednesday for you. No AF = still possible! xx

[YorkshireTeaDrinker]

Calyx my understanding is that nowt can get dislodged by having a few extra swimmers floating past, so get on with it! Not all D-ing needs to be BD-ing IYSWIM? In fact the fertility book that I am reading at the moment reccommends that you make sure you do it at off-peak times as well, just so that sex doesn't become solely about making babies.

We do it less often during the TWW, but when we do it tends to be more fun, cos there's less pressure .

[Calyx]

Thanks Yorkshire makes sense! I kind of knew it was ok but just asked to check LOL!

[Eleanora]

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the welcomes! WhiteRoses - it's a difficult one but I would be tempted to go for both the promotion and the TTC and see what happens. I don't think that there's ever a really convenient time, workwise, to TTC. You don't need to tell your colleagues though! I made the mistake of mentioning to my boss at the start of the year that we might be planning a family next year (can't remember why I thought this was a good idea). He looked embarrassed and said something about me being too young (I'm 30!) and said how he was over 40 when his daughter was born. It has not been brought up again (thank goodness)...

[rollerbaby]

Muser sorry AF got you...it's pants I know. Just make sure you enjoy your christmas becuase it wont be long ok!

Whiteroses and Claire and Yorkshire am now in the same nervy state as you 3 imagine, having probably ov'd middle of last week... I went through about 4 packs of clear blue last month so determined not to make that mistake again. I was so disappointed though as I had spotting 8 days after EWCM and so thought bingo in month 1!! Alas, was not to be. Slightly more circumspect this month I guess.

Very sympathetic on the employment front - my personal view is that you can't put your personal life on hold for work purposes. It feels wrong but ultimately if you really plan to come back then it doesn't matter. The brutal reality is that business will always come first so you need to look after you own interests...

[Muser]

Thanks everyone. I'm kind of ok really. I was very disappointed but it'll happen. And I'd feel stupid being really upset in cycle 2 when I know some people have been waiting far longer. So I'm just going to pick up and start again. There's going to be a lot more sex next month though. Oh yes.

[pixiestix]

Muser - sorry AF got you. I am the same as you - absolutely gutted every single month even though I know that there are people out there who have been trying for years. I am on cycle 6 now and naively never thought that it would take this long. If this is only the beginning of the TTC journey I can't bear it!

WhiteRoses - that is a bit of a tricky situation. I too would feel guilty as hell in that position but I do think that you would be better off trying to have your cake and eat it! I waited for about a year to "settle in" to my new job, thinking that April 2010 would be a good time to go off on maternity leave - no such luck! I will be lucky if I manage a 2010 baby at all at this rate! So say yes to the promotion, and its sods law you will get pregnant immediately

Well, in my news, I have started with the Clearblue Monitor this month. Its quite exciting to be actively doing something every day to get pg - but a bit demoralising when it flashes up "fertility levels low" every morning! I know thats pretty standard in the first half of the month but I still want to see it screaming PEAK FERTILITY at me!!

[kkas]

morning all - didn't sleep well last night. DH is very stressed at work and with some family issues (not our marriage, his own family thank goodness) but i keep worrying it will affect our TTC this month and with christmas coming up.... just all getting a bit stressed! so decided to take a duvet day and i'm going to go see new moon and start the xmas shopping. is that really bad?!? luckily we have a little weekend away planned in the cotswolds this weekend and i'm hoping it will be at the start of my fertile time. think i might be hitting ann summers today too

sorry to hear about AFs but bring on the BD!!!

Monday's list:
Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD95
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD73
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD57
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD50
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD40
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD30
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD27
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD24
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD20
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD20
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD18
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD18
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD16
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD15
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD14
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD12
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD10
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD9
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD8
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD6
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD6
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD6
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD3
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD3
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD1

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

[kkas]

oops didn't see you there muser! sorry!!

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD95
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD73
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD57
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD50
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD40
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD30
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD27
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD24
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD20
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD20
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD18
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD18
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD16
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD15
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD14
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD12
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD10
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD9
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD8
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD6
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD6
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD6
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD3
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD3
Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD2
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

[HypotheticalMummy]

Hello all! I'm new to mn and new to ttc!

[Kaloki]

Going to have to change mine again, 9 days after the last time

TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL ? CD1

[pixiestix]

9 days! Oh Kaloki, that's awful

[Kaloki]

Don't know what my body is doing right now, DP wants me to go see the GP today, but I doubt they can do anything.

[Calyx]

Kaloki I hope things settle down for you. It might be worth going to GP anyway and see what they say?

Welcome HypotheticalMummy! Congratulations on starting TTC! If you give us your details we can put you on the list, you can see if you have any 'cycle buddies' or folk who are on the same cycle length and cycle day as you

If you like, it's:

TTC#1 Cycle (how many months have you been TTC to date) UCL (usual cycle length) and CD (cycle day - how many days since the first day of your period, or AF as it's usually known here)

Lots of luck!

[HypotheticalMummy]

I guess - TTC#1 Cycle1 UCL 30(?)CD 18

I think thats it!

[HypotheticalMummy]

Ok - I am swimming in neurosis having never done this before so help...

It feels like my period is about to start (a crampy tummy, constipation, frequent urination, a sore back - all of which I get when my time of the month rolls around) but its way to early for my period to start! Is it possible these are the early symptoms of pregnancy or am I just about to get a nasty suprise 2 weeks to soon?

[sevans]

I may be joining you all again. I had a bleeding scare over the weekend. I had been spotting brown last week and wasn't too concerned about it since it was very light and I had no cramps. Saturday night when I went pee, the bleeding came out a bit heavier and more red in color. I also had some cramps. Sunday morning when I woke up I had a little bit more bleeding and a clot. No cramps or bleeding for the rest of the day, just some brown when I wiped. No bleeding again today. I went to the doctor this morning to do blood work to test my HCG levels and I am going tomorrow morning for my scheduled first appointment however it doesn't look like it is going to be a joyous visit anymore. I should hear back with the blood test results today in the next few hours.

[aly323]

Oh Sevans, I truly hope this is just a scare. Please try to take care of yourself today and keep us updated. I'm sending you loads of online hugs.((((()))))

[sevans]

Thanks aly. I really have no clue what is going on. I talked to the nurse this morning and she said really it can go either way and couldn't give me a definite answer.

I am still temping and my temps are still up. I don't know if that means anything but it makes me just a little hopeful.

[claireinthecommunity]

Oh sevans, I'm so sorry if it turns out to be what it sounds like . But, bleeding in the first few weeks pf PG is quite common, so I really hope it is nothing too serious (will be thinking of you).

Welcome to Eleanora and HypotheticalMummy

Lovely to hear from you Yorkshire, can't believe you're almost 20 weeks gone, time really has flown by. Take care of yourself and I (we) look forward to hearing your next update.

Kkas - hope you enjoyed your day skiving off

Kaloki - hope things start to settle down for you soon.

Calyx - I would say sex other than TTC sex would be a gooood thing

Pixie - keep us up to date with the monitor, I haven't gone down that route yet and it's always interesting to hear how other people get on with things first.

Hello to everyone else AF coming to an end for me, so now the real fun begins...

[claireinthecommunity]

(I hope that didn't sound insensitive sevans, it wasn't meant to) [worried emoticon]

[YorkshireTeaDrinker]

Sevans, really sorry to hear about the bleed, am keeping everything crossed that its just a 'normal' bleed and everything remains ok.

Hello HypotheticalMummy and Eleanora, welcome aboard. HypotheticalMummy your symptoms sounds almost exactly the same as mine. I've had funny cramps for almost a week now and AF is still a couple of days away. I believe they can be symptoms of pregnancy, but I tested yesterday and got a BFN, so I'm assuming its long range PMT. Hope yours is an indication of better things.

[Calyx]

Just peeping in before bed... sevans big cuddle and good vibes for you, it's good the temps are high, keeping everything crossed for you. Best luck at the doctors xxx