Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ more adventures of TTC

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Actually now I feel guilty using up the last post of the thread - hope this will do as a continuation

ILGH - glad to hear you got the OPK to work. I've been trying twice daily (but with cheapies this time) and still no go ahead but had the familiar pains today (day 16) so recon that was prob Ov. I start putting the progesterone gel up 'you know where' in 2 days time to try to extend the luteal Phase - fingers crossed.

Still grinning about Fifi.

Congratulations fifi buckets of babyglue coming your way .... have a really good feeling about this one - just take good care of yourself xx You've inspired me to keep the faith ;) xx

WOW!! How exciting Fifi - congratulations & sticky sticky vibes of the nicest kind being sent your way!
I am so full of cold have completely forgotten to do OPK, day 10 today, prob wouldn't be able to breathe if BDing anyway (!) so off to bed on own!

Thanks ladies for your lovely messages.

I won't be putting myself at graduation for some time. I am a naturally cautious soul but am trying to be philosophical about this. Am only 3 and a bit weeks pg so there is alot to face but one step at a time I guess.

Will be hanging around here for some time to come I think.

Actually did a 'due date calculation' and the given date is the exact date of my DD's birth! Bizarre.

Congrats fifi - wow things are going well here - there's got to be something about letting go in order for things to happen.
Lots of babydust to everyone!!!

Not sure what day cd i am now - must have missed ov somehow as no AF and no BFP either - my body is sure trying to mess me around - never had this before. Still may as well BD and have fun anyway - you never know!!!

Whoo-hoo! Well done and congratulations Fifi!!!!

Reading about your bfp and everyone's happiness for you has really made me smile. It's great news!

It is completely understandable to be apprehensive - I would be too - but I hope you are able to enjoy it at the same time. Keep focused on the positives and we'll all have our fingers crossed for you.

A friend came over tonight and told me that another friend of hers is 47 and 6 months pg - completely natural and unassisted!

Fifi Oh that's so lovely. Sticky, sticky, sticky vibes to your new LO.
You lovely thing, you are so clever.
Huuuge hug.

I like your only one BD approach, suits me exactly and a BFP to boot, perfect!

We managed a bd last night which was day 14 with preseed. It was not very comfortable, don't think my cycle is back to normal because had ewcm on day 7 and 8. [frowns]
Must stop taking herbal rememdies, just confusing myself. [very confused face]

Congratulations Fifi!!!What fabulous news. I had that feeling that AF was coming too - it is your little baby burrowing in!So pleased for you.

Fifi huge congratulations! So delighted for you! Have been reading your posts and what you've gone through recently. Really hope you can relax a bit and enjoy the fantastic news. Useless to say don't worry but i hope you can. You're a massive inspiration1 Loads of best wishes for the coming weeks.

Interesting article on the Guardian website today about 47 year old woman who found herself pregnant by accident. sorry am rubbish at figuring out how to post link...but it's on front page of site

Fifi, that's absolutely fantastic - I'm so pleased for you!

They say good things come in threes, so with Tetley being #1, Fifi being # 2 - who's next??!

Apologies for introducing a blue note, but I've had a rather rough day today. I'm feeling that PMT irritability that I get 10 days before AF arrives, bang on schedule, so that seems pretty clear that we haven't been successful this time. IVF is looming ever closer ...

But what really has me feeling down, is seeing all the info in the media about how drinking reduces conception chances so significantly. I haven't drunk alcohol for months, and dh has knocked it on the head for about 10 days - 2 weeks, and has been bitching and moaning about it all the way - he thinks I'm 'going overboard' and that I believe everything I read in the media, and he doesn't think it's true, anyway. He's been moaning that I'm just as guilty of sabotaging our chances by not having sex enough, and perhaps that's true. Sex isn't really about fun much anymore, that's for sure.

So last night I went out, and he had a friend around for a jam, and said that he might have one drink, which didn't thrill me. This morning I found 2 empty bottles, hidden in the wine rack. The selfish fcker! I'm furious that he drank so much, jeopardising this precious chance we have for something as stupid as wine, and very angry that he tried to hide it from me. And so, so sad* that this may have scuppered our chance.

The whole episode has made me question his respect for me, his honesty, and how this impacts on our relationship. Upon reflection, pretty damn badly.

Check out this link about the impact of alcohol on conception chances: news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/8315724.stm

When I say 2 empty bottles, that's wine, not beer.

Awww Kiwi, I'm sending hugs as you're feeling down. As an aside I have to say that when DH and I got pg the first time around the BD was quite alcohol fuelled as it was just before Xmas and he had some time off!! Relaxation is even more important that some of the other stuff so hang in there girl!

Hi Tetley! Love the inspirational 47 yr old - hoping at 46 I shall emulate same. More G&Ts all round then??

Yes I saw the article Tetley - a really timely article at that.

Kiwi, i am sorry you are having a rough time. I remember when ttc ds I felt resentful that my DH wouldn't give up his daily glass of wine. I couldn't understand why he couldn't just give it up until I got pregnant. In the end I just had to compromise because i didn't want tension between us.It is such a stressful time.It's so hard to get down to business(sex) when there's tension. Who feels amorous when they feel annoyed?
I hope you can feel better soon. The desire for a baby is just so strong isn't it?

I went to a baby shower yesterday, which was fine.She looked so cute with her little baby belly (she is tiny and her little bump is perfect).I'd love to have one of those!

Other women there joked about me having another, and some were actually quite rude :"what?You aren't having another one are you?"Shock, horror! I felt like telling her to mind her F---ing business, but just smiled and said, not at the moment.However one of my friends, who has chosen not to have children, was much nicer about it - she said she could see me with another.So not everyone is opinionated and stupid!

Fifi

Congrats...... Not been on for a while and it's great to see good news when i logged in.

Hope everyone else is OK.
Things here much the same, DH still not back to work or 100% think he will have to go bak to docs again.
Agree with gumblossom other people should mind their own business..it's between you and your other half what you do and if they can't be happy for you their not worth it. (gets off soap box)
x

Kiwi sorry to hear you're having probs. It's difficult for the man to take it as seriously as we do. Even if they want another child I don't think the desire is ever as strong. My DBIL is into running and my sis asked him to stop when they were ttc cos it can impact on sperm count but he wouldn't give it up even for something that precious - which I found v. bizarre - any excuse not to run is a good one for me .

Try not to fall out with your DH about the wine. I do agree with the person who said it's also important to feel relaxed and maybe he just needed it. It does make me mad when I think of all the people i know who smoke and drink and then whoops - Look at me I appear to have gotten pregnant by a near stranger who was also p*ssed at the time - arrghh. Life is quite unfair isnt it. Try to remember that you're a team and that you love each other - I'm guessing that you must love him loads if you want him to be the father of your child - you seem a sensible lass.

Lots of sticky thoughts going out to Tetley and Fifi - whose next???????

Hi everyone,
Kiwi I just wanted to sympathise, the pressure of TTC can make you feel so lousy and you must feel unsupported by your DH.
It is a hard lifestyle to adopt, constantly watching your diet and so on, perhaps he cracked. I definitely think you should let him know how you feel, but the bottle hiding sounds as if he knows he was in the wrong and is a bit scared of your reaction.
Hope you feel more positive soon.
{{{big hug}}}}

Thanks all for being so nice about this drinking thing. I realise it's probably a storm in a teacup compared to all the very real issues most of you are going through, so I appreciate your kind comments, rather than saying FFS! Get over it.

Come on number 3!!

Fifi Just touching base after a few days and saw your wonderful news. I'm so happy for you after all your despair about conceiving. I felt AF was about to arrive throughout my pregnancy with DD so hopefully this is a good sign. Anyway huge hugs and congratulations.

Kiwi I'm with Hippy and Woodelf on the relaxation being more important than anything else although I'd more hacked off about the hiding it than the actual drinking. Hope you and DH have cleared the air a bit.

Tetley interesting article wasn't it. The bit about drawing a pension at the same time as getting child benefit was entertaining.

Fifi congratulations! I've got everything (well, almost everything ) crossed for you.

Kiwi how upsetting. Hopefully it was a one-off and he'll knuckle down now. I'd still leave the two bottles standing prominently on the drainer, though, so he knows I know!

spiral I think loads of people are going to be doing the pension/child benefit thing! Hopefully including us!

I've got that vague midriff-nagging feeling I had last month at a week past O. Presumably not implantation then. Or maybe it is? Hmmph. Why are the symptoms of being pg so similar to the symptoms of not being pg ?

CDs on Monday 26th Oct

Rockdoctor - 43 TTC#2 CD34
Woodelf - 46 TTC#2 CD 34???
10krunner - 43 TTC#4 CD32
Fruitbowl - 41 TTC#2 CD 32
modernart - 43 TTC#6 CD26
Kiwikat - 43 TTC#2 CD25
vonsudenfed - 43 TTC#2 CD 24?? lost track
earoma - 38 TTC#3 CD 24
TheFatLadyScreams - 40 TTC#1 CD24
gonepearshaped - 41 TTC#2, CD23
pat42- 42 TTC#2, CD23
Luckywebby - 40 TTC#3 CD22 (I think)
mabh - 42 TTC#1 CD21
Rowingboat - 43 TTC#2 CD 14
Bluebell6 - 42 TTC#2 CD13
Hippychick - 43 TTC#3 CD13
Ghenghis - 46 TTC#2 CD12
Dixie64 - 45 TTC#5 CD12
Spiralqueen - 46 TTC#2 CD7
Angifi - 42 TTC#8 cd???

Fifitot BFP

CDs on Monday 26th Oct

Rockdoctor - 43 TTC#2 CD34
Woodelf - 46 TTC#2 CD 34???
10krunner - 43 TTC#4 CD32
Fruitbowl - 41 TTC#2 CD 32
modernart - 43 TTC#6 CD26
Kiwikat - 43 TTC#2 CD25
vonsudenfed - 43 TTC#2 CD 24?? lost track
earoma - 38 TTC#3 CD 24
TheFatLadyScreams - 40 TTC#1 CD24
gonepearshaped - 41 TTC#2, CD23
pat42- 42 TTC#2, CD23
Luckywebby - 40 TTC#3 CD22 (I think)
mabh - 42 TTC#1 CD21
Rowingboat - 43 TTC#2 CD 14
Bluebell6 - 42 TTC#2 CD13
Hippychick - 43 TTC#3 CD13
Ghenghis - 46 TTC#2 CD12
Dixie64 - 45 TTC#5 CD12
Spiralqueen - 46 TTC#2 CD7
Gumblossom - 42 TTC#6 cd???

Fifitot BFP

Oh Fifi - whooopeeee. What fantastic news. So pleased for you. Perfect timing!

Mabh - the time I got pregnant we'd only done it once that month. Now after months of trying religiously, nothing. Isn't it always the way!

rowing sorry you're still not 100%. You've had this for ages, you poor thing.

Kiwi hope things are OK between your DH and you now. I completely understand your reaction. I guess a kick back every now and then is inevitable though.

I'm still laughing at mabh's washing machine analogy. Preseed is the new WD40!

Not impressed by the booking system at your clinic spiral - sounds like a hurdle in itself. But good news you've got a date and your consultant was nice.

Welcome bluebell6 and modernart

I'm not sure what is going on with me. I've got very very faint spotting and think AF is arriving. I'm on day 29 but had 24 day cycles since my miscarriage. Also had no temp drop but I'm coming down with another virus so could that mask it? God I get fed up with this guessing game! Why can't someone give us the rule book and play by it! [TFLS stomps her foot and wanders off to finally do some work]

hi all! i am 43 and have DS1 who is 5 yrs old and DS2 who is 9 months old. DH wants number 3, but i am not so sure. this thread got me through when ttc DS2. so just wondered where everyone has got to.

fifi CONGRATS!!!! it never is a perfect time to be pregnant!

rowing how are you? remember me? how is your LO? ttc #2 now i see