Cho you weren't being mean, it was a valid comment. That's the point of here, right? You can say what you really want to say, especially shouting/crying/stomping your feet and wailing at the window about your lost babies.
Seems there's a culture here of taking a miscarriage on the chin, yet losing a term baby, say a stillborn as opposed to a cot death is seen as much worse. Neither baby has been out long enough to develop an actual (as opposed to mental) relationship with its parents, yet as you say, you lose the hopes and dreams - as well as the physical loss.
extreme you haven't asked (well you sort of did about the temps) but here's how I work.
Firstly - am I ovulating. I check with FF then temps. I've never used sticks. Temps - you need to get the info of fertility friend or similar but you basically take the temp with a basal thermometer each morning just as you wake up (before getting up, or even yawning :-) and record it on a special chart (mine is printed by the bed). You should see a jump in temp just as you ov. You could get FF but not ov, and vice versa, and of course you need both.
In theory, if you OV and you're getting FF then you at least are prob ok. You should only need preseed if you ov but don't get FF.
So, that's what I'm doing and if it doesn't work pretty darned quick (assuming I am ok on both above fronts) I will be requesting that DH pops over to the clinic and has his sample checked. I'm proven, he isn't.
If I'm not working (per above) then I have good evidence to take to docs to start looking into why.