Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul, vol 2

[thefatladyscreams]

Hardly the most original title but I didn't want to loose anyone (well that's my excuse for the lack of originality!)

hello Hopefully sorry for what you're going though. It's horrible isn't it? Please stay on this thread - you will get lots of support. We all know what it's like.

Cheepz - I'm on CD 21 or 23 (not sure, as last time AF was here in Dec, it started early, then went away for a day or two, then came back). According to my amazing period tracker application on the i-phone, AF is due on Sunday.

I'm going out soon to get the test! What does everyone else recommend, to pick up an early +? Last time I used Clearblue Digital, as I loved actually seeing it in words, rather than looking at 2 lines!

Hiya ladies

I'm with MrsR - I reckon Cheepz is going to have some good news for us tomorrow...

As for twins - my DH is an identical twin, while my paternal grandmother was a non-identical twin, so I hear jokes constantly about how it will be me next. DH would definitely love us to have twins, whereas I'm not so sure...

D11 here and for the first time, I'm using an OPK (Clearblue Digital). No smiley face so far - my guess is it should be tomorrow if I'm on a 27 day cycle, so fingers crossed...

Thanks for the welcome everyone. I feel like a bit of a fraud as we only found out I was PG a couple of days before I started to miscarry, but it's amazing how much you can pin on a positive pregnancy test, even if you know all the risks of it going wrong. DP has been fab, lots of TLC, and my sister's been making me lots of cups of tea. DS is a total distraction too - he's just learned to pull up (at 16 months. He's pretty laid back)...

Tigerbear I have only ever trusted the digital tests, as for some reason I am paranoid I'll start imagining lines on a normal test, much harder to fool myself about a digital test!

I've counted my first 'proper' day of bleeding as CD1. I know I prob won't ovulate on my normal clockwork day 14, but I know I'll lose track of how long it's been since MC if I don't have it as a starting point.

Tuesday's list:

Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD31
LeeWT TTC#2 UCL 30-32 cycle -2 CD29
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD28
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD27
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD25
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD23
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 9 CD23
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD19
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD17
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD14
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD11
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 13 CD10
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD8
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL 27 cycle 2 CD4
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD3
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD1
PoppyisaPain TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD?
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
hopefully TTC? UCL? cycle WTF CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 3 CD61
trixel TTC#3 UCL28-35 cycle 7 CD61

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009 - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010

Am crossing fingers for super duper post MC fertility...

hopefully don't feel a fraud... know exactly what you mean. I only got my BFP on Sunday and my daydream side is already thinking baby names and working out logisitics around planned events etc... it's natural, even if you've got at least a foot on reality and the things that can go wrong. Glad you've got such good RL support, and the best distraction there is!! My DS was 15 months when I had my MMC and he didn't allow me any wallowing time!!!

the CBD debate...? The absolute best when it's a BFP, but the most horrible sight when it's a BFN ..... I would probably choose the non digi ones again... if there's a next time... (who am I kidding I'm such a sucker, I'll buy whatever's on offer....)

Pretty fed up, a family member who got pregnant roughly the same time, who also had a scan when I did due to a bleed, when I found out i'd lost the baby, and hers was ok, which I was glad about, because this shit is just the worst and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, has now been announcing her dating scan news on facebook, which has just brought it all back home to me. We were gonna be making the announcements over xmas, as my scan was due a few days before, but then it all went wrong, and I know that everytime she reaches any milestones or makes announcements, its going to remind me of the fact that i should have been doing something similar, IYSWIM.

That's such unfortunate timing Effilump, poor you. I guess at least knowing you can sort of prepare yourself, but it's inevitably going to be a bit shitty.

effilump thats crap.

I can relate, my friend is due next month and my sister in March. I'm happy for them, but it just reminds me that I should be pregnant.

I would have been 4 months now, had a scan and felt the baby move.

Instead, I'm not even sodding ovulating.

Hello everyone, welcome Hopefully,

Having a miserable kind of day here. I woke up in the night with a stabbing sharp pain on my left side just under my ribs. Did a test this morning which was negative. (I promised myself I'd wait, why, why, why did I do it to myself??? . I know that if the spotting I have had is implantation bleeding it will be days before I could get a bfp, why did I test? I am so annoyed with myself). I am currently feeling as sick as a person can without throwing up and have all mannner of unusual tummy pain. I am really achy just below my ribs and it is painful to touch each side. I also have a fearsome backache and just feel...well bloated. This isn't what pmt is usually like for me at all, perhaps as this will be my first period since mc it will be different. I have had another tiny amount of spotting again, but really tiny - it was like 'dirty' ewcm (sorry if tmi!). In between that I have had ewcm type cm.

I am feeling really low - I'm tired of feeling so unwell all the time. AF is due tomorrow so perhaps that will be the end of it and I can feel 'normal' again. I do feel terribly disappointed... SB

effi i echo everyone elses sentiments.....that is crapola. I am feeling the same kinda thing as my exH announced his GF was preg about 3 weeks after my EP when he was drunk, telling me that its really good tho as she is due the same week i would have been so at least the children will have a new bro or sis that wk...... Wanker.

i have badgered my extremely nice GP today for another blood test AND a progesterone test on friday to which he aquiesced so will hopefully see some more rising. I have boobs like rocks....really hurting and can't believe that i am feeling nauseous already but am....and dont get me started on the tiredness.....isn't it all wonderful....i am very emotional today and can't stop crying. We finally got this ASBO on this man today after 6 months hard work and now i can't stop crying for him.....ridiculous.....i hgave turned into an utter twat, god help us all.....

hopefully welcome - and no way feel a fraud - I had mc only a week after I had found out but after waiting to get a BFP and trying and being so elated it is a crapola thing to deal with whenever it happens. I counted CD1 of bleeding as first day of WTF cycle and actually it was pretty similar in length to a normal cycle. I think thats one 'advantage' of ahaving it happen early is your system takes less time to get back to normal.

effi horrid horrid, I would have been due March 25th so would have been big and fat and round and well into 3rd trimester and have friend due in feb who is big and fat and round and its gutting, but it gets easier.

soo .... still no AF ...... eeek, am beginning to get abit freaked out and am now thinking its too daunting to go and get a test, and maybe i just won't, and then I won't have to know either way. I am scared now of BFN as have tried hard not to get hopes up but we are getting in to realms of pretty late for me, even with long cycle expected this month this is pretty long, butthen I think what if I get a BFP then all I can think about is the million things that might go wrong. So maybe best not to know and be in denial for as long as possible. Or of course maybe I am not pregnant and AF will arrive tomorrow. Gahhhhh

also have stomach cramps still and backache but no pg symptoms like nausea, boob action or fatigue. [triestoheadinchargeofheart]

Cheepz can you promise yourself a test on Friday or something if no AF? By then you'll virtually a week late, so a reasonable time to test. Or just give and buy a test as soon as boots opens tomorrow, which is what I would end up doing . In a way I think denial is good, but I know I would end up convincing myself I was pregnant, so would be just as heartbroken by a BFN in a few days as tomorrow.

Sorry for those with similar due date friends/family - luckily (as far as I know) I don't know anyone with similar due date. Boodle your ex sounds like a particularly special example.

Am absolutely pooped today - I think emotional exhaustion of it all being 'over' (i.e. having confirmation from scan) and physical exhaustion of struggling through slushy melty snow for 30 mins each way for drop off and pick up from childminder and 20 mins each way to hospital. Early bed for me tonight!

Hi everyone,

SamanthaB123 - I've just done the same - caved in early, and what do you know - BFN.
The stupid First Response is right in front of me - I've been willing it to magic 2 pink lines, but no, there's just the one.

Hugs to everyone else who is feeling down today.
This is soooo frustrating!
WHY, hasn't it worked, when we've had sex at the right time????? Aggghhhhh!

Cheepz - our hopes our pinned on you this month!
And Zayja - are you testing tomorrow?

I've updated myself on the list:

Tuesday's list:

Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD31
LeeWT TTC#2 UCL 30-32 cycle -2 CD29
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD28
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD27
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD25
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD23
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 9 CD23
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD23
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD19
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD17
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD14
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 2 CD11
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 13 CD10
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 1 CD8
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL 27 cycle 2 CD4
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD3
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD1
PoppyisaPain TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
hopefully TTC? UCL? cycle WTF CD?

WTTC
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 3 CD61
trixel TTC#3 UCL28-35 cycle 7 CD61

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009 - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010

samb sorry we crossed posts or I would have comiserated, its why i cant bring myself to do it! and tiger you are both and you especially are on early testing so that might be the issue...

i am nuts

I am thinking maybe I should wait until after CD36 - that was when I had mc last time .... eegit, about to go to the loo again and check liner, paper and with a mirror to see if AF is anywhere in there (tmi i know!!)

boodle cant believe you are crying for asbo man - you are officially basket of the day

Perhaps, Cheepz, but the FR said it could detect it 6 days early. (Hoping it might be wrong!).

FR are shite.....didn't give me a +ve when i clearly was......waste of money i reckon.....don't lose heart tiger.....

you are nuts cheepz but i know how awful it is when you build yourself up to be and then aren't.....the other month is still fresh in my mind you know...we both got burnt then didn't we....you test when you are ready hun.....altho you know what they say about pulling off sticking plasters.....nice and quick, not draggin it out a corner at a time.....

Tiger - Some tests can be correct early but it depends on your cycle and when you ovulate. FR says it can predict 6 days early, but not with massive accuracy if you read the instructions. However, that will only be true if you have a 28 day cycle and ovulate on day 14. I ovulated on either day 16 or 17 with a 28 day cycle which means that it would be 3 or 4 days prior to AF that I could test (but with the same poor level of accuracy). On top of that, I may have had implatation pain and bleeding on dpo 10, 11 and 12. It takes some days after this for there to be enough hormone to show a positive result. For the 99% accuracy I would need to test 2 or 3 days after my period was due.

I knew all this and I still tested on day 28. How stupid am I???

I know it's a bit taboo, but what we all need on this thread is a glass of something red, French and alcoholic. Those that are pregnant will have to make do with Ribena but they can join in with the snacks. Who is bringing the crisps? I love crisps. With chocolate. Can someone bring some chocolate to eat with the crisps and wine please !

We all need to cheer up and be postive (she says, as the one who posted depressed earlier). We are all relatively healthy, many of us have fabulous children already (because they take after us) and we are all going to be brilliant parents to our new babies when we have them because they are so wanted, and loved and they will be celebrated in every way.

Is everyone smiling ? We might not be pregnant this month (apologies to those that are, but I felt a pep talk was needed), but we will be. And it will be so wonderful when we get our two pink lines...SB

one of two glasses of red wine a week even when preganat is not bad for the baby. I'm all for chips and dips.....

But are you smiling??! It all feels less bleak when you make yourself smile, even if you have to force yourself to! We might be pregnant now, we might not be, but we are going to be soon. And really, that's good enough. SB

PS Cheepz - you should do a test. Apart from the fact you're probably pregnant, if you have another early mc, isn't it better to know? If that is a recurrent thing for you it could be something that could be sorted out. If you hide from it you won't know. Hope you don't mind me saying.

PS, What a disaster. There's no bloody wine in the house anyway. We've all given up drinking to make babies. There's some left-over sherry. Is that any good for babies do you think?! SB

samb dont mind at all, but would still rather wait and see! BFNs really crush me and after 6 months it sometimes doesn't feel like I will be pregnant soon - although of course I might be pregnant now, but its been a long time coming if I am. As boodle said it was crushing the last time I tested, I so had hopes up, felt so pregnant and then bam, it was devastating, didn't really post much for 6 weeks and stopped trying for a month, so I think I would rather spare myself.

I am pretty sure there is no medical reason for my mc, just one of those things, so no reason to think its a recurring problem, besides, if it gets to be late and I start bleeding I can still do a test and if I was pg it would show because of the time HCG takes to disappear.

We have loads of wine, happy to share!

Think boodle has hit the hay - her FB status says she is wiped out! EArly preganacy fatigue - good symptom - good excuse for early night

I have some creme de menthe from a student cocktail party circa 2002.

No one? Frankly, I'm worried about a bottle of alcohol that is so unappetising that following that cocktail party it has survived two more years of studenthood, three years of london life and the early days with a newborn. Yet I keep taking it with on my umpteen house moves...

Cheepz I also don't particularly worry that there's a proper reason for my MC - knowing that I can carry a baby to term (albeit one of those faulty, non sleeping babies ) makes me much more confident that it will happen again without major medical drama.

hopefully - I got a faulty one like that - didn't sleep through until about 18 months and then only 4 of 7 nights a week and still does broken night at least once a week at two and a half, and gets up improbably early most of the time unless he goes to bed at 9 - whats the deal!

One of the reasons it took us so long to try again was because I was so knackered I didn't want another one.

Creme de methe ..... shame on you

Oh, I missed the party
I've just been on the other thread about getting a free box of Graze goodies, so I'll bring that to the next one