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Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul, vol 2

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thefatladyscreams · 21/09/2009 16:35

Hardly the most original title but I didn't want to loose anyone (well that's my excuse for the lack of originality!)

OP posts:
Glasgow85 · 12/12/2009 09:37

Hi everyone thanx for the welcome. Well today i feel really stupid ended up testing today with first response of course it was negative. I jus thought there might have been a chance ive had sore boobs all week and a few sharp crampy pains . I also had a metalic taste in my mouth a couple of days ago in work . Proably all in my mind. I just thought when i got a positive on my opk on the 28th nov 2 weeks after m/c my af should arrive 14 days later which is this sunday . I couldnt wait and tested early . Hopefully my af will arrive soon so i know what my body is up too. Reading through the threads i noticed a lot of you'z chart your temperture can anyone tell me more about this opk's are quite expensive. I feel so stupid and a bit down today need to tidy up the house and im sitting watching repeats of jermy kyle he's got me glued to the tv. Oh how i spend my day off .

MrsRigby · 12/12/2009 13:14

Hello

glasgow85 I'm currently watching In The Night Garden!

Symptoms of something, today include:

  • snotty/runny nose;
  • dull aching to the lower left AND right abdomen;
  • highly irritating DH and DS;
  • smelly vagina - smells like when you have a period (I've washed and I can still smell it from 3 rooms away).

Right, I'll be back later. Got the grandparents coming around (really looking forward to that), have baked the gluten free cookies ready and tidyed up (aren't I a good little daughter-in-law). Now just need to take DS for a drive (well DH is driving because I can't - haven't learnt how to and don't want to) as he's refusing to sleep and we need him to otherwise he'll be in a foul mood when they come around and I'm already going to incur the rath of the mum-in-law as we brought a real tree.

DH's nagging, gotta go.

LeeWT · 12/12/2009 21:45

Chamo great to hear you are into the second trimester congrats!!

glasgow I know nothing about temps but meita is your girl to ask about those, i never knew much about it til i heard her talking about it and it must be accurate because she knew this month way before she could test as a result of the temps!!

sunburn my heart breaks for you its so hard i cant imagine your pain. ive "only" had two mcs and that was awful enough so you must just feel like the world is against you. have you had any investigations? You are like me in that you have had a healthy child so it is eeven more confusing. the only thing i found which a lot of drs dont test for is that my B12 level is low and apparently that can cause mcs.

meita - oooh a clearblue!!! additional congrats.. i dont know what to make of all your symptoms i know that with all three of my pregnancies (including that of my little girl) i had all sorts of aches, pains, digestive discomfort etc and i also had times where i was perfectly fine. so fingers crossed this is just par for the course. will you be able to get an early scan? that would only be a couple weeks away..

mrsrigby hope you havent killed any in-laws!

And here's sunday's (right as of 13.12.09) list since theres no point in updating it this late on a saturday:

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD49
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL26-30 cycle 11 CD37
LeeWT NTTC#2blush UCL 32 cycle -1 CD28
Cheepz TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD27
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 3 CD 25
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 8 CD25
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD17
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 8 CD17
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 6 CD15
CakeandFineWine TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 2 CD15
Louisesh TTC#1 ? BFP / UCL33 cycle 3 CD11
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD5
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD4

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD60
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD60

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November
Meita BFP 10th December

louisesh · 12/12/2009 21:53

WOW congrats MEITA yeh.....fingers crossed

I m soo hungover works "do" last night was excellant but of course i had far too much to drink!!!!

Got pos on ovulation sticks today soo back to it.....

Hi to SUBURN its crap isn t it? In the last year i ve had 1 MC,1MMC and 1 chemical pregnancy and like you quite often feel like a major failure that my body is unable to perform the most simple of "womanly" roles.I hope you get the help you need wheter its counselling or some alternative....

Hi to everyone else hope all having a nice weekend just chilling now watching "x factor" go OLLY go!!!

LeeWT · 13/12/2009 18:13

helloo where are you all gone

i hear your pain louise i was at my xmas do on friday too i died a death yesterday.. was slightly in the doghouse with DH as was away last weekend and hungover this weekend!

i have stopped worrying about whether i havve conceived this month. i always get implantation cramps or bleeding and i am on cd28 of a 32 day cycle and nothing so think i'm ok for this month. to be honest im relieved as we hadnt planned to start trying again plus there's xmas and my 30th in a couple weeks so its all good. it'll be a different story in the new year when i'll be all anxious to conceive!

hope you are all well x

louisesh · 13/12/2009 20:17

Oh good iys not only me thats over indulged then LEE ha ha..

Hi to everyone else.. managed first BD since last weeks CP soo another hurdle out of the way.Got to fit another BD in tomorrow night in between getting in from work and going out for a meal!!!!!!

Should be fun.... Off back to x factor now .

Cheepz · 14/12/2009 09:43

... at least she had the decency not to keep me waiting this month, AF arrived as expected yesterday morning, can you believe i was not disappointed? I don't know what is going on with my emotions at the moment, it is almost like it has all got too much and I am switching off.... self protection perhaps

had been putting pressure on myself to be pregnant by christmas and now thats not going to happen I almost feel relief. lots of people i have been talking to said when they were trying it was only when they stopped trying so hard it all happened so i think thats what i need to do. Cycle 5 - it only took 3 to get pregnant before mc and none with ds so maybe its the pressure thats making it worse.

anyway have updated the list for Monday

hope everyone is doing well, especially meita - have everything crossed for you

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD50
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL26-30 cycle 11 CD38
LeeWT NTTC#2blush UCL 32 cycle -1 CD29
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 3 CD 26
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 8 CD26
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD18
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 8 CD18
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 6 CD17
CakeandFineWine TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 2 CD17
Louisesh TTC#1 ? BFP / UCL33 cycle 3 CD12
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD6
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD5
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD60
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD60

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November
Meita BFP 10th December

Effilump · 14/12/2009 10:32

Can I join you? started to mc last week, thought I was 10wks, scan showed baby stopped growing at around 7.Gutted. So now we want to ttc as soon as possible. Im 40 on my next birthday so dont want to hang around!

MrsRigby · 14/12/2009 11:39

Morning

Welcome effilump I'm so sorry you miscarried. I miscarried on 17th November, I should have been 10 weeks but was told the baby stopped growing at around 5-6 weeks. DH and I started TTC straight away and I'm now in the 2WW. A BFP on Christmas Day would be the best Christmas present ever.

Trying not to wind myself up, but I'm already telling myself I'm pregnant .

Got a positive ovulation test on 11th December and have since had lots of cervical mucus - mainly sticky and clear/cloudy and aching to the lower abdomen.

Anyway gotta go, DS has woken up.

RunForTheHills · 14/12/2009 12:37

Hi All

Still lurking!

Updated for me:

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD50
LeeWT NTTC#2blush UCL 32 cycle -1 CD29
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 3 CD 26
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 8 CD26
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD18
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 8 CD18
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 6 CD17
CakeandFineWine TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 2 CD17
Louisesh TTC#1 ? BFP / UCL33 cycle 3 CD12
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD6
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 12 CD6
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD5
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD60
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD60

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November
Meita BFP 10th December

My cycle finally seems to be settling to 30 days now - about time, as 12 months since MC .

Congrats to Meita and hello to others new to group, sorry to hear your news.

Am hoping for BFP soon. Have just arranged big holiday in 9 months time for DHs 40th, so tempting fate big time

tigerbear · 14/12/2009 23:20

Hello everyone!
Waves to the newbies.

Sorry not been around for ages, I've been a bit rubbish for not posting.
DH and I have been trying to do the deed at the proper times this month, but I think we've missed the most important day!
DH put the I-period app on my I-phone - it's a bit girly and coy, and pink flowers pop up on the screen when it's the best time to conceive!

Congrats to Meita - fantastic news!!!

zayja · 15/12/2009 01:55

Hi ladies, just popping in quickly to say hello. Welcome effilump, so sorry to hear about your mc Feel free to unload on us at any time, seriously! We've got a pretty good support group going here.

MrsR, good to hear such a positive outlook on ttc. (and ov straight away ! ) You too cheepz, it's nice to think of the new year as a new start.

Have to say (after reading your comments on overindulging lee and louise ) that I've been charting everthing under the sun this month, and have found that I'm drinking much more than I've let on to my doc (or even myself for that matter). I like to report a couple of drinks each night, but according to my chart, I need two hands to count my daily drinks ...so I've cut back yesterday and today. [mustlayoffthesauceemoticon]

Sooo...here's to a bit healthier 2ww

boodleboot · 15/12/2009 08:42

i have got zero enthusiasm for TTC....can't even be bothered to check CM....i feel slightly bored by it all and the thought of a 2ww again with symptom spotting just leaves me cold....can't even be bothered to muster a plan re BD times this month and that is my unusual......i think i have post-ttc depression....

Effilump · 15/12/2009 09:55

Got to go and have a re scan tomorrow, i suppose they can check nothings been left behind, although I am still bleeding, I was asked to take the 'baby' (It was around 7 wks, maybe a bit less when it stopped growing) in, for them to examine! Apart from a few big clots, (sorry if tmi) there hasnt been anything to take in, Im not going to save every bloody clot am I!

MrsRigby · 15/12/2009 12:01

boodleboot I'm right there with you.

RunForTheHills · 15/12/2009 16:53

Effilump cannot believe how insensitive some medical departments can be. Is it not your first MC?

Meita · 15/12/2009 19:13

Hi ladies!

MrsR your symptoms sure sound promising. Especially the bit where you can smell yourself from two rooms away

cheepz, sorry that AF got you. Secretly I was hoping that with you being all relaxed about it all, it was bound to happen for you. Still, keep up the cool. I'm sure it won't be long now, and one month more or less is not such a huge difference, is it. You know, your theory that it is easier to conceive when you are more relaxed, really worked for me. Hoping it will work for you too.

glasgow charting your temperature is really easy, but it does take some discipline. Basically you measure your temperature every morning BEFORE getting up and write it down. If you use a programme such as FertilityFriend.com it will do the analysis for you and explain everything. It will tell you when you ovulated (but only in hindsight) and will tell you when to expect AF or when it would make sense to test. Overall, you learn to understand your cycle a lot better. However, temp-ing cannot replace OPKs. In order to PREDICT ovulation, you have to observe your cervical mucus. FertilityFriend also explains how to do that.
Hey, and if you think that's too much trouble and want to stick with OPKs: Have you tried the cheap e-bay ones? Saves you lots of money.

lee good to hear that you are de-stressed. How are you now? Has AF already announced her arrival?
No, I won't get an early scan. I've got an appointment with the midwife on 14th January and the scan will probably only be towards week 12, i.e. in February - if I make it so far. Maybe I'll ask DP for a private scan as a Christmas present

louise Good for you, that your body is back in balance enough for you to ovulate and that you are TTC again already! My fingers are all crossed for you. I was wondering, given your "history", did you try anything like baby aspirin or progesterone cream? I started taking baby aspirin last week. GP said yesterday that she would not advise me to take them but would not tell me NOT to take them either. I'll keep going for now. Anything that might help.

Welcome effilump and sorry for your loss. It is so sad. Wishing you all the best for TTC again - you'll find lots of lovely support here. I can't believe they told you to bring the "baby" in. How do they think you should manage to do that?!

runfor, I hope you got through the anniversary of your MC all right. Have a hug. It's great that your cycle is finally sorting itself out!

Zayja, our new charting queen. It's scary sometimes, isn't it, to discover things about yourself you were pretending to yourself about... Still, take it easy dear, don't let it turn into an obsession.

boodle I think it is just natural to have times when you soooo just don't feel up to it. Take it easy on yourself.

Me: Well I'm going strong so far. All feelings of nausea have left, but I realized that this coincided with me starting to take vitamin tablets containing ginger against nausea, so not too worried. Am still charting my temps and every morning when I get a high value I am immensely relieved. I am just past the time when I MCed the last pregnancy - feels good. Was a bit surprised about the GPs attitude - she was all "well you are pregnant, so you are having a baby" while I was very "so I'm pregnant, let's see how long it lasts". I realised that perhaps I should let myself believe in it all going well. I mean, it won't really hurt less if it goes wrong if I kept worrying beforehand. If this pregnancy doesn't last long, I might as well enjoy it while it DOES last.

Wanted to say: Thanks everyone for all your support, now and in the past. I don't know what I would do without you all.

SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 19:29

Hello, can I join in too? I have two older children, 11 and 9 from a previous relationship and am recently married. We would really like to have a baby and became pregnant at the first attempt. I am miscarrying even as I write and feeling a little sad but am determined to try again...

louisesh · 15/12/2009 20:57

Hi All....Totally agree with you BOODLE it all gets soo boring and tiresome doesn t it????

Hi to EFFILUMP" soo sorry its crap isn t it? I ve had 1 MC,1MMC and 1 CP in the last 14 months..... So know what its like.Hi SAMANTHA* again , sorry its crap,crap,crap!!!!!

Hi MEITA hope you re feeling ok fingers crossed for you....Yes i ve started taking "baby" aspirin dr at the re-current miscarriage clinic said theres no concrete evidence either way for or against aspirin but i figure why not???? i ve nothing to loose.....

Hope everyone else is well...I m knackered out last night straight after work didn t get to bed until mid-night then up at 6am for work.Just in from work now after my long day!!!!! So shower then bed Managed a quick Bd yesterday before going out!!!!

Night off tonight too tired back to it tomorrow night.....

MrsRigby · 15/12/2009 21:11

Evening

Welcome samanthaB123 I'm so sorry your going through a miscarriage . Your in the right place, everyone is REALLY lovely - I've never met such a nice bunch of women.

effilump I miscarried at home and had to take the baby to the hospital also. He/she was on a piece of toilet paper (Andrex Shea Butter) that we put in a freezer bag and then in a small Boots bag. It's desperately sad . The midwifes seemed suprised that the baby was still in the sac, which was intact .

What I found insensitive was the doctor asking us if we wanted to go ahead with the pregnancy or terminate if I didn't miscarry .

That said, I didn't cry and was extremly calm throughout the whole thing so he may have thought we didn't want to be pregnant. I'll never know why I'm able to deal with death and other horrible stuff, unlike normal people it just doesn't bother me.

meita you'll be proud of me. I've been on Fertility Friend updating my details .

boodleboot by my reckoning I'm in the 2WW and can test on Christmas Day. Come on surely I'll get a BFP on Christmas Day. Just in case I ovulate late though, DH and I are going up in an hour for sex . So fed up of all this. Just want to be pregnant already. I mean sex every 2 days for a whole month almost - surely I'll get a BFP.

I'm just not going to think about it anymore .

MrsRigby · 15/12/2009 21:13

louisesh I'm proud of your dedication. Enjoy your night off .

boodleboot · 16/12/2009 15:57

hello to all newbies....i'm not normally so miserable but am very miserable this week....bear with me....its been a rough year and i really wound myself up last month thinking i was pregnant.....nice to have you with us....

mrsR - ok, fuck it, i will do it every other night starting tonight for the rest of the month or at LEAST until day 21....but i will NOT enjoy it and thats the end of it....

sunburntats · 16/12/2009 16:09

Hi, I think that i am recovering ok now. managed to go out and do a bit today, also cleaned and did some washing. Tummy is settling and im not crying every 10 minutes.

The thing i cant stop thinking about is the fact that on the gynae ward, i had a cylinder of entonox wheeled in, then i was left to it. No hand holding, not much sympathy and not even a blood pressure check.....All night.
Contractions every 5 minutes throughout the night and not even an "how are you doing?"
I was completely alone through out.
A Dr came in at the begining of the night and said that i had not yet passed any "baby bits", wtf!

This was my 4th miscarriage in hospital,(my 1st was at home)i knew what to expect but what about those poor lasses who are experiencing their firts loss?

Its awful, made worse by the neglect & insensitivity.
Cylinder ran out at 6am as the contractions were stopping.....just after that i did pass the "baby bits".

How will i ever get over this?
Will i ever have another baby?
And more importantly what the fuck is wrong with me that i cant have a normal pregnancy?

boodleboot · 16/12/2009 17:01

oh sunburn poor you hun....sounds like a truly vile experience. CAn't believe some people can be so insensitive and these are supposed to be caring professionals... When i was recovering from ectopic in sept in hideous amounts of pain from the surgery the nurses wouldn't even help me on to a bed pan and i ended up with ruptured stitches trying to do it myself....

so sorry for your pain but we will be with you every step of the way as you battle with answers to those questions of yours, get as angry as you like on here, we know how crappy you must be feeling....sending you BIG HUGE HUGS

louisesh · 16/12/2009 21:00

SUNBURN thats pants !!!! Poor you your story makes me realise how lucky i ve been on the 2 occassions i ve been an inpatient in hospital all the staff i ve encountered have been lovely and i ve recieved fab care.It s rather hard to defend the NHS sometimes which makes it even harder for me as i m a nurse!!! Take care xx

Feel a bit sad today don t like xmas and just want it out of the way as it just reminds me i ve no children and for the last 2 xmas'es should have been pg if things had gone to plan.....its sh*t.

Arh BOODLE totally with you...

SUNBURN just re-read your post and yes i feel exactly like you that my body is failing in being able to do the most basic of "womanly" functions.My mum had 4 kids, all y friends have kids ,every female i work with have kids and i see a lot of patients [some quite young] who get pg and don t MC at the drop of a hat or use termination as a form of contreception....again it stinks!!!!

Sorry whinge, whinge,whinge!!!!! You all know what its like some days are fine then it hits you like a hammer in the face !!!!!! I ve 3 failed pgs and 2 years down the line got no kids and now facing the possibility of ivf!!!!

Hi to everyone else.....hope you re all well.Must pick myself up again thanks all for your support...X

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