LST I'm looking for pictures on your profile, but can't find any. I think we've figured out that you have to make at least one picture visable to all mumsnetetters for the picture link to appear. So the best strategy is to have one picture that doesn't give you away one general release and all the rest for your mates only.
I think the most important thing about a wedding is that you have a good day, are serious about the promises you make and have the people you love there to share it with you. Doing it all in a great dress is an added bonus and I was very fortunate to have the means to do it at the time.
I think it is perfectly ok to be going into IVF still apprehensive about what you'll do if it works! The older you get, the more your life gets settled and you realise the disruption that children will be. An old colleague of mine (who's just had her second child) told me that when she discovered she was expecting her first (after over a year of trying and getting quite wound up about it) she burst into tears and thought "oh goodness, my life is over" (or words to that effect - i may have cleaned it up a bit ). She loves her daughter (and went on to have another one), but had to have a period of mourning for her old life.
Life goes in phases and we move through them at different speeds. I'm hoping that if I do move into the child rearing phase that I will be able to accept and adjust to the phase, and not regret having moved on and want to go back to where I was previously.
To return the subject to where we were before the piccy sharing frenzy, HP asked, "Does anyone remember being 24 and care free", well it was good (although I'd knock it back to 22, my dad died when I was 23 and I aquired a few extra cares as a consequence ), I lived on a pittance, had no responsibilities and did a lot of going out.
But I wouldn't want to be still there. I've done some serious growing up and much prefer the 30-something YTD to the 20-something version. I love having a DH and cat and a home. I have achieved enough at work to know that I am capable of achieving more, but right now, I don't think what I do for a living is as important as the living I do outside of work. And having experienced a little bit of life and handled one or two small knocks, I think I might be shaping up to someone who could handle being a Mum.
Ok, I really must stop there. I didn't mean to set off on a "I want to conceive and i want it now rant"! I've got greenness seeping from every pore! Best go and put some washing in a reflect on how much more there would beif we had kids... .