Anyone out there who's recently MCd and back to TTC without waiting?

[helpet]

Hey everyone. I have a DS (18 months) and had first MC last week at only 5 and a half weeks. Have wondered whether to wait for AF but after obsessively reading most threads on the subject in MN - have decided to take the plunge and TTC just as soon as I can ... Anyone in a similar boat wanting to join this thread and spread the baby-dust? xxxx PS Am terrified it won't happen for months / it will happen and I'll be a compulsive knicker-checker

you ladies are so wonderful, i've actually got tears running down my face having just read all your supportive posts, what a wuss! i've had a good day but i'm just waiting for something to go wrong, dreading going to the loo in case i've started bleeding etc. i know i just need to relax! bought four more tests and i'm going to restrict myself to testing once a week so that should get me to 10 weeks (still got two in drawer) hopefully and maybe by then i'll have chilled a bit!

TFLS thanks for that link, very useful. The nearest one to me is the Rosie where i could actually book in. Last time i got referred straight to Bedford at my request but if Rosie's walk-in may be better? will have proper look later.

apples i really hope AF arrives soon for you so you know where you're at with everything, must be soo frustrating for you.

BLP by the time i got to GP on friday the lump had gone and the tenderness had gone too so i'm assuming it was just a bruise or something from DD using me as climbing frame. was still going to check with GP but chickened out if it happens again i will go back i promise! you're not prying by the way and it's nice to have people caring what's going on!

helpet thanks for the positive thoughts too.

well it looks as though dd hasa actually gone straight to sleep - see miracles do happen! so i am now going to watch X Factor!!

enjoy your sundays ladies!

Monkey Good to hear about the lump. The ladies at the Rosie were absolutely lovely. They squeezed me in as soon as they could after a less than pleasant Addenbrookes A&E experience and were very sweet. They rang up a couple of weeks after to find out how I was and if I'd had a negative test and if there was anything they could do. They cancelled all my appointments for me and I also got a lovely phone call from the Addenbrookes genetics lady (I'm a cystic fibrosis carrier, luckily turns out DH is not) to say how sorry she was. My only complaint would be having to walk past lots of happy pregnant women to get to Daphne Ward (the EPU bit) but I think you may be able to avoid that if you use the Addenbrookes entrance rather than the Rosie if that makes sense.

Hello ladies!

Away for a day or two, and what happens? Another BFP! Congratulations monkey that's fab news! I so hope this little bean is a sticky bean!
And I'm glad the news is still good for you, too, helpet! apples your situation indeed sounds a bit like mine. I was so sure AF was due, overdue, but still tested negative. Was confused and it took quite some nudging for me to realise that I had probably ovulated lots later than I had thought (if at all).
Are you temping, or registering your fertility signs at all? First cycle post MC can be strange, and temps and signs are not very reliable, but they MIGHT provide an indication for a POSSIBLE explanation...

I've been having a good time. Very intense, but good. DP submitted his PhD thesis 4 days ago! That's good news because it means we are going on holiday soon :-) (Also, I'm quite proud of him.)
Have been doing lots of babysitting for SIL's 4-months-old, and enjoying it. I just get a bit sad sometimes when I'm in a "down" moment and think "will I ever have my own?" but then in the "up" moments it's more like - "yeah, it's such hard work, but all the same, knowing what it's like with a LO I'm now looking forward to having my own all the more!"

Yesterday was the wedding we were invited to. Fantastic event - I was very impressed. It was just like a fairytale wedding.

Someone here (sorry, I forgot who!), recently, told how AF caught up to her at a wedding ceremony. Well yesterday morning, my temp went way down, and I think AF might be about due, so I was thinking AF was going to get me during the wedding, too. She must like weddings. However, she didn't turn up. (Maybe Switzerland was too far for her to bother).
Today again I got a low temp - quite often AF gets me in the evening of the second day of low temps. But hasn't arrived yet. So I'm thinking it will be tomorrow AM. I'm quite relaxed about it - I just want AF to arrive so that my cycle goes back to normal and we can get back to the business of TTC!
Although, to be honest, I had lots of champagne at the wedding, trying to invoke a sort of adapted "sod's law" - if I had lots to drink and then found out I was actually, against all hope, pregnant, I would be soooo worried that the alcohol had caused something bad to happen...
I'm now on CD43, and have become quite practiced at being patient - that doesn't mean I like it one little bit!

I'm sorry for this "ego-post"; I've read all your messages but don't have time to reply to everyone and thought I'd like to let you know how I'm doing. I'll be back home next Thursday, by then I should hopefully have had AF visit!

hello ladies.

No AF for me yet - CD29 but 1st cycle post mc and i am not sure we hit our dates so to speak as not sure when our dates were!

had lovely weekend in the sun and work will be quiet next week with the bank holiday and lots of people away on hols

tis late so off to bed shortly

few more pages to browse

ok so AF arrived this morning so am back into normal cycle from now. its felt like a break not knowing whats going on but this month the serious business of ttc starts in earnest!

meita hope she arrives for you too soon hon seems like its been ages for you and you have had to be really patient

tfls have not seen much of you on this or other thread lately - hoping you are ok

work time now

Hi everyone

Was very busy last week as coming up to ovulate . Clearblue monitor has had me on high for ages (but first cycle I've used it and heard that's normal) - but still waiting for it to say Peak. Had little bit of EWCM but it's gone back to creamy (sorry TMI) so not sure what's happening and not had temp surge yet. Meanwhile DH and I were so knackered after gardening yesterday (see what happens when the sun shines!) that it was a real struggle last night. We just looked at each other and laughed! God it's sad when you have to muster the energy because the schedule demands .

monkey you're not a wuss. I hope you remember to tease us when we get a BFP and start to panic! Good news re the lump.

meita - if BFPs appear when you're on holiday, you might find certain of us arranging your travel plans . Congrats to your DP. All the more excuse for a little more champagne. Enjoy it while you can! Look forward to having you (and hopefully your ever AWOL AF) back Thursday.

Good evening!

cheepz I'm starting to feel a bit jealous that AF came for you but not for me... (not seriously, just pointing out how strange things must be when I start being desperate about hoping for AF...)
I hope you are ok with it. At the moment I think it would just be a relief for me. But for you, you did have at least some hope that it had all worked out in that ever-mysterious "cycle?" so although you were expecting AF it might still be a bit of a disappointment anyway...? In any case, take care of yourself!

tfls Hmmm has temp surge happened yet? FF says that some people have unclear CM and you can only really be sure of ovulation after having observed temp surge. But if it is in the least unclear, they recommend continuing the BD on days with good CM. They also say that in cycles where you ovulate later than normal, and in anovulatory cycles, you might have several bouts of "good" CM. But only when it is accompanied by the temp surge it's ovulation-related. As you can't know ahead of time, FF says you just need to BD every time your CM is good until the temp surge is well and truly established.
I know what you mean about it being sad with the scheduling and all. I feel quite rebellious about that, sometimes resulting in a "no I WON't do it now just because it's probably a very fertile day" attitude, which is obviously not very productive...

monkey I hope things are going well!

meita it's good to hear from you. sounds like you've been having a lovely time in switzerland. still no sign of AF?? congratulations to your DP on completing his thesis. a couple of friends have PhDs and they just seem to take over your life completely, especially that final few months before submitting it. was it in something you're interested in? if not i think it would be even harder to be tolerant of all the work that needs to go into it!!

tfls i really hope your busy week paid off and it's good you and DH can laugh about it. cheepz sorry it didn't happen this month but maybe next month? in some ways i think DH woould rather it hadn't happened so quick because he's allowed nowhere near me at moment!! from glut to famine in one fell swoop, it's a tough life for him!!

BLP i often think the way hospitals arrange waiting rooms etc can be quite insensitive. at bedford everyone waiting for scans waits in same area, so that's people mc, 12 weeks, 20 weeks, the whole shebang!! to be honest that sort of thing doesn't really get to me but thanks for warning me. one thing that has put me off the rosie though is my dad was in the treatment centre next door earlier this year so it has stressful associations for me from that respect.

apples how are things going with you? i hope you're ok?

i have decided i must not look at any more mc stories on mn because it's just making me more stressed! yesterday i decided i hadn't been feeling nauseous enough so had to do another test just to make sure. this is going to bankrupt me! all good thankfully. will go back to GP next week to do booking forms then hopefully will be able to speak to midwife and see if i can get early scan. anyway best go because supposed to be working at moment!!

take care all xx

tfls i am conserving energy for now as the bonking starts in earnest in about a weeks time!

feeling fie today as although my first 2 days AF are really heavy since ds was born the rest is quite mild and its over quite quickly. Seem to have gone from CD1 to CD3 quite quickly and am hoping that by the time I am CD7 will have more to focus on with actively trying again this month, rather than the random passive approach we took in the period post mc to first AF

monkey there is a thread that was started by some of the gals on antoher thread I am on for recent grads (post mc pregnancies) - helpet is there too so you might want to find it - think it is called totallys grads and is in the conception section. lots of support and lovely ladies

monkey yes, AF has arrived this morning, finally! I am much relieved. Though feeling sick and nauseous - usually that stops as soon as bleeding starts - but seems to be sticking around a bit this time. Hmpf.

(Sending all those nauseous feelings your way.)

Yes, well I'm sort of my DP's writing coach so I was very involved in the whole business. I'm glad it's over as it did mean working until midnight nearly every day and not much time nor energy left over for anything else - including the BD bit.
Now his is done, next for mine! I was hoping to have a LO some 6 months before submitting so that by the time I'm looking for a job I'd be out of the worst of it - but it isn't looking that way anymore. Well, I'll take what I get!

Yipppeeee an AF for meita at last! Just in time for your return trip if I remember correctly or are you already back? Thanks for the temping info. I've had no surge yet - but the Clearblue monitor has shown high for the past 11 days with no sign of a Peak reading..... so DH and I resemble a pair of rather knackered rabbits at the moment . Not sure if I could still get high readings on the monitor and not ovulate this cycle (starting to worry that this month might be in vain) but I guess I need to keep tracking my temp to be sure. Not really in any position to complain to you about impatience when I'm only on day 17 after your epic wait!

cheepz - you've been warned! This is what lies ahead if you abandon your carefree approach

Monkeys - I did chortle at your "glut to famine in one fell swoop" comment. Poor DH! I'd echo cheepz's comment about the lovely ladies on totally's grads. But KEEP AWAY from the m/c stories - the ONLY thing that will come out of reading them is stress for you. Not good. Stay on our thread and enjoy yourself laughing at all our exhausted love lives!

tfls yup I'm travelling back tomorrow, but have some work to do before that...

I think I remember that I read somewhere (I hope you're getting that this isn't very reliable information ) that on your first CB monitor cycle it will give you lots of highs, that this is perfectly normal, and that you should simply keep BDing until you get a peak... or perhaps I read that in the first monitoring cycle you often don't get a peak at all but not to worry... um, I suppose this half-remembered stuff is not very useful to you, I'm just trying to say, don't worry too much!

monkey I echo TFLS on the staying away from the MC stories. Do what's good for you, not what gets you down!

Hi everyone.

So glad AF finally arrived for you Meita that should help with the 'work' ahead! Well done for surviving thesis crunch time - I've lived through a couple of theses (not mine ) and it's an intense time. I hope you get a BIG dedication in it! I reckon the weight off your combined shoulders means the arrival of happy baby dust!

Monkeys - what's wrong with us??? I spent ALL last night reading mc stories on MN ... why oh why do we do it? Come join us on "Totally's GRADS...lets handhold thru this....". I felt like a gatecrasher at first but Cheepz is right they're all lovely and in the same boat.

xxxx

Hello All,

Is it OK if I check in again?

I've not been posting but have been doing some serious lurking for the past couple of weeks to try to keep up to date with how everyone is getting on.
Loads of congrats to the BFPs - hooray - and fingers crossed for the TTCs!

I'm desperate to join you all in NOT waiting to start TTC but unfortunately 3 weeks and 3 days on from ERPC I'm still testing bloody postitive, so remain in TTC limbo. Arggghhh! Never thought I'd be so desperate for a -ve!!
To add to it all, I have started bleeding again today after thinking it had stopped about 10 days ago. Please come and tell me it'll go away soon!

I'm feeling right sorry for myself today. Someone give me a slap.

MCAyou are right to feel right sorry for yourself thats a 'bunch or arse' as my brother would say. Waiting for stuff to progress is crapola and it is a constant reminder of what has happened.

Don't lurk - share the downers - we all do and it makes the good news really good!

I'll give you a big instead, mintchoc! That's so disheartening. I totally agree with you that waiting without being able to do anything and not knowing how much longer, is quite awful! If ever you were "allowed" to feel sorry for yourself, then now. Is there anything that you could do for yourself to pamper yourself a bit? Have your DH invite you out for dinner? Splash out on a new pair of shoes? Get a box full of books from the library and lock yourself in your room for a week? Want me to bring some Swiss chocolates home and post them to you?

For me, the day my MC was confirmed, I got a shot to avoid my body creading Anti-D antibodies, as my blood group is 0 negative. At the time I was very numb, but later it did feel like in a way, I was already doing something for my next little bean. That was a bit early - I was not ready, I still needed to grieve the lost bean. And yet, in your situation, it must be so much worse - you're ready to let go and look forward, but your body won't let you . I do hope it will all sort itself out soon! Best of luck to you.

Awww. Thank you both so much for your words of encouragement. Really glad I've come back now!

Thanks for your offer of chocolate Meita. . As you can probably tell from my nickname my cupboards are always fully stocked. I'm going out on Saturday and planning to get really drunk, have a boogie and hopefully start next week with a big hangover, feeling positive and maybe even a BFN!

Glad things are settling down for you both on the AF front and good luck for the month ahead.

Thanks again for your help and support.

Feeling much better already.

MintChoc lovely to see you (and glad to hear you've been lurking). Oh what a nightmare. Can't believe you're still going through all that. What does your doctor say? No wonder you're feeling sorry for yourself. No slaps at all - just a big hug. Keep posting. Hopefully your -ve will be along soon.

Thanks meita. I've had a quick google and seen quite a few reports where people don't get Peaks in their first month. I'm just paranoid as I don't think I ovulated last month. Need to learn to be more patient and over-analyise less

helpet you keep off those m/c threads too!!

Hey TFLS

Great to hear from you again! Been 'lurky' in the extreme of late. Just didn't feel like posting as have been feeling a bit sorry for myself. (understatement of the year)

Anyhoo, the lovely ladies on here have cheered me up, so have decided to give myself a good boot up my ample backside and stop wallowing in self pity. Guess I've just got to accept that my body will do its thing when it's ready. Haven't been to the doc but will make an appt if still +ve and bleeding by next week.

Hope you get some answers with ovulation soon. So hard to be patient. Fingers crossed that you'll get your result very soon.

mintchoc - you have every right to feel sorry for yourself. It must feel like you turn round one corner and there's another corner smack in front of you....

But I'm sure you will get your -ve soon and join us in the madness that is TTC again.

Sounds like you are stuck in a real limbo at the moment. Sending you a gust of wind to push it on a bit (and I will be nagging about that doctor's appointment - you have been warned! )

DH and I finally had a night off last night - our little form of rebellion. It shows your age when not having sex constitutes an act of rebellion!

Hellooooo! I'm back!

Not that my absence was very much felt - I find it hard staying away from here even when away. If that makes any sense at all.

Though I'm wondering... as AF has finally caught up with me, should I maybe migrate to the other MC thread? As this one is meant more for people who haven't had first AF since MC? What does everybody think?

I hope you are all doing well. I am - I'm enjoying being back home.

Welcome back meita. You were missed and it was lovely to have you pop in during your holidays .

I hadn't thought about the thread like that. I'm easy either way. Us post AF'ers could continue posting here or we could all migrate to just the one thread??

As long as we don't lose anyone.

Quick question for you - do you use a basal thermometer to temp? At the moment I'm using an ear one but heard that they're not ideal.

Glad you haven't got the post holidays blues - I always do.

Glad to have you back Meita and hurray on the AF at last!
MCA wondered where you'd got to. I only recently got BFN at 3 weeks and 2 days post mc and it seemed like I was waiting forever. Fingers crossed it will happen for you soon.
TFLS had to laugh at your idea of rebellion! Hope you and the clearblue can come to some agreement before you and your DH collapse from exhaustion!
Cheepz good luck with the trying in earnest.

I have been posting on both and hadn't thought about ot posting on this one now AF has arrived either. To be honest for me its about getting all the support I can!

If we were going to try and move it all to one thread should probably be the other one which has the list and I think more regulars ... also has its own grad thread to go to - although helpet and monkeys have been sucessfully redirected from here.

I see both as places where there are women post mc ttc - whether af has been or not, just my thoughts

for thos on this thread wondering about the other one its here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/748650-Just-MC-39-d-Starting-it-all-again-Come-and (hope i got that right - haven't done a link before!)

it worst - jsut tested it - hurrah