Anyone out there who's recently MCd and back to TTC without waiting?

[helpet]

Hey everyone. I have a DS (18 months) and had first MC last week at only 5 and a half weeks. Have wondered whether to wait for AF but after obsessively reading most threads on the subject in MN - have decided to take the plunge and TTC just as soon as I can ... Anyone in a similar boat wanting to join this thread and spread the baby-dust? xxxx PS Am terrified it won't happen for months / it will happen and I'll be a compulsive knicker-checker

Oh my god! Contratulations helpet. Being slightly crazed can have its advantages!

helpet that's fantastic news, very happy for you! have just found out that sil who miscarried 3 weeks before me is also pregnant again so like you say it can happen!! knowing you've tested is making me half wish i could go test right now!! was in tesco this morning and was planning on buying test just so i had it ready but they only had the expensive one so i didn't! also dh has made me promise when i do test that he's here because i've always done it on my own before!!

well i'm back down south where it's about 5 degrees warmer, thank goodness!! we did have good weekend, very relaxing despite presence of mil and dd thoroughly spoilt by her auntie as usual! dd now asleep in bed but if i don't wake her soon she'll never go to bed tonight.

tomorrow is dh's birthday. i'm working during the day but we're going out for a meal at night which i'm looking forward too. if i knew i was going to get a bfp i'd test tomorrow so we could celebrate that but if it's bfn it'll be too depressing so i shan't. will hang on to the weekend if i can!!

glad you're feelong better cheepz and have a lovely break meita.
BLP dh's family are originally from lancashire, lived abroad for about 12 years and when they came back decided to settle in yorkshire. not the done thing for a northerner as far as i'm concerned!!

can i join you?
I am currently mc (18 days of bleeding so far, but the first 12 seem to have been just the 'threat' from implantation onwards) and from what we can work out when it became obvious that it was happening i was almost 6 weeks.
Have been trying for a year and have a fertility clinic app next month so we are actually feeling very positive about mc as it proves we are still able to conceive. I am starting to try as soon as the bleeding stops.
we lost a son at 15 weeks a few years ago and the hospital told me just to go for it straight away as the scan would date the next baby. We conceived our daughter right away and she is now 3.
excited about this coming month...

hello babylily nice to meet you but sorry you're here too! really pleased you're finding the positive side of this though and it's lovely hearing about your daughter although obviously tinged with sadness too. my dd aged 2 is still refusing to stay in her bed tonight so just a quick post to say hello!! hopefully she'll give in and sleep soon.pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease!!

Hello all,

monkeymayhem I can't really make comments since having lived in Liverpool, Northumbria and Lancashire I've now defected down south! Another wedding up there at the end of the month so looking forward to going "home". Hope you had a more peaceful evening.

babylily Hello, sorry about the circumstances, but it's nice to have you here. Everyone is lovely and supportive, it's been great to get any slightly insane wonderings/ramblings off my chest here, enabling me to present a (reasonably) sane and normal face in RL!

helpet so so so very pleased for you, so soon too, how exciting. Try not to knicker check too much and stay as calm as you can and we will all be sending all the most positive vibes your way.

babylily echo blp sorry you are here but glad you are joining us too and great that you have such a positive attitude xx

Welcome babylily - so very sorry for your mc, and I imagine it's particularly tough having lost a baby later on too. Does seem terribly unfair. However, you're absolutely right - you are fertile and the mc certainly proves that... you also have a record of success in conceiving immediately post mc. GOOD LUCK! My friend who's had to have IVF and has just lost out on yet another round (more unfairness) has become something of a fertility expert. She believes that an mc can act like a kick-start to your system.

Monkeymayhem have a lovely evening with your dh this evening, and I hope your dd went to sleep eventually last night! My ds was like a duracell battery yesterday - I wondered if he had managed to get his podgy little hands on some coffee. I'm very impressed by your self-control in not testing, but totally understand why.

Hi to everyone else!

Hello all. Hope everyone's well.

DH has just left for Exeter (for the two days before and after ovulation, which is quite poor timing, but hey ho) Intending to spend the time doing productive things around the house and for work, but I suspect I'll spend most of it wasting time on the internet and reading in the sunshine!

hello ladies! we had a lovely evening last night thanks helpet . just went to local ask rstaurant but the food was really good and it was nice and relaxed. as soon as my sister left us having babysat dd woke up and that lead to yet aother unsettled night, resuting in me sleeping in her bed with her. the past 3 weeks there's only been maybe 3 or 4 nights where she's slept through on her own. need to get tough again but it's so much easier just sleeping with her.

slight downer yesterday in that i've found a small tender lump on my chest, probably nothing but you always start fearing the worst!! will book appt with doctor in next few days. will also be telling dr that i got BFP!!! couldn't stand the suspense of waiting any longer, bought a test this morning then did it when dh got home this afternoon. i really did think i was pregnant because i felt it really but wondered if it was all psychosomatic. don't feel that excited really but only because i'm scared it won't progress so i guess it's self preservation. i have 3 more tests left which will get used up fairly soon no doubt!! not been bding for past week or so because i thought i was pregnant and last time the mc bleeding started just after we'd had sex so dh is now banned from coming anywhere near me until i relax about it all, so maybe july 2010?!

anyway i'll keep you all posted and really hope everyone's ok and that my BFP doesn't make anyone else feel worse. keeping fingers crossed for you allx

Oh monkeymayhem, congratulations on the BFP (I'll get excited for you!)Fingers crossed that the lump is just hormonal. Take care of yourself.

Fabulous news monkeymayhem, maybe you and your sister-in-law will go through the journey together. I know what you mean about not being too excited though - there are so many small hurdles to cross, but still, getting preggers is the major one!!! Don't worry that other people will feel a bit sad, because it another BFP shows there is hope after miscarriage.

Me - I have NO IDEA what my body is doing. Was going to test on Friday this week as will be 14 days since I thought I ov'ed. But on Monday I had a slight, and by slight I mean a mere smear of blood. Christ, I thought, its all over. Trussed myself up in pad ( first real period after mmc, I thought I should be prepared) awaiting the onslaught.... nothing. Same Tuesday, same today. A whisper of blood in the morning, then nothing. By whisper, I mean v pale pink... What is going on???

By the way, Bestlaidplans, I think you are being very calm and mature about your dh absenting himself during crucial time..

I was thinking though, has he not heard of DHL, or similar courier service... for important deliveries.

Morning all.

apples I almost snorted tea over the ironing. Don't think I'll be getting the turkey baster out just yet, but thanks for cheering me up. Loads of explanations for slight bleed, fingers crossed it's implantation though. Take care of yourself.

Hope everyone has a good day.

monkeys helpet and apples busy busy on this thread lots of good news which is really good to see

apples am sure if it is like that it will be minor implantation and if it is not materialising into anything more serious try not to worry, fingers crossed for you

blp i am with you - dh is quietly oblivious to where i am in the cycle and i don't dare tell him as it throws him off his stride completely!

I am rpetty sure its not going to be happening here this cycle - it is the first one post mc and i have not had AF so although its day 26 and would normally be 2 days before due date I am not holding my breath that af will arrive on normal date - but am expecting her all the same as nothing about my body feels very pg right now! and I have no idea when I ov'd and whether we did the bd at the right time

anyway - am feeling fine about it actually relishing the fact there is no pressure - once am back into normal cycle am sure i will be counting and stressing and wondering and all those things

on and on

Oh wow, this thread fell off my list and I come back and find two BFPs! Maybe I should stay along longer

Huge congratulations to helpet and monkey. I know it must be scary as well as exciting but this is one big step down. What fantastic news.

I was another one thinking turkey baster at the timing of your DH's trip BLP. I do admire you for letting him go!

Welcome babylily - sorry about your m/c but glad you found here. 18 days of bleeding sounds tough.

apples and meita - your posts about focussing on TTC in the first cycle absolutely summed it up for me. I think I locked onto it as some way to cope. You have no control when you m/c and I think I wanted to lock onto something that I could try (in some small way) to influence Here's to our next more chilled cycle.

meita sorry I missed you before you went. Hope you're having a lovely trip in Switzerland and all your celebrations go well.

apples - I hope it's an implementation bleed but my first AF was really weird. It came early and was very light at first. I'd read loads about nightmare first AFs so wasn't sure what was happening at first. Sounds like another game of wait and see (we need an impatient smiley...). Hope it's an implementation though getting buried down nice and deep.

Very of your size 14 cheepz and glad it wasn't The Flu. I still love your idea of buying lots of lovely clothes to tempt fate so that you hopefully won't fit in them soon!

Roll on the weekend. Have a busy day at work tomorrow and not in the right mind set. I'm hopefully coming up to o/v soon (coming up as medium on the Clearblue monitor) so have a rather one track mind at the moment .

Hi thefatladyscreams, I really don't know what is going on.. The tinest smear of blood from Mon to Thursday this week.. AF due, I think today. Nothing today so far, shouldn't it have got heavier by now?

Cheepz, where are you now on cycle? Has AF arrived yet.

apples day 27 today but its cycle 0 post mc so no af since mc yet and am not optimistic that have ovulated as normally get cramps, have been randomly doing the do but not often enough that if I did ovulate we would definitely have hit the jackpot so to speak and although I don't have any pms symptoms i dont normally get many, and i have no pg symptoms either.

have you done any tests to see whats what. could you be pg and the bleeding is implantation, or maybe its a very light bleed when you would have had your af

so hard to know until you are at least one cycle in i think

working from home today so even less than normal getting done!

Monkeymayhem - what brilliant news about your BFP. How are you feeling - I veer from getting a little excited to terrifying myself. Went to GP and was forced into making a decision about which hosp to go to because they're SO busy (they're ALL rubbish -London) and that felt a bit like tempting fate. Have you had the lump checked out? Last thing you need.

Apples - that does sound like it might be implantation (fingers crossed) - have you tested yet?

Hi TFLS - hope ov time is going ok .... !!

BLP - I'll echo how incredibly impressed I am with your rationality with your DH having to go away during ov.

Take care everyone xx

I am feeling very chilled about it all these past few weeks, which is a welcome relief. We went out for dinner last week and were seated opposite a woman with her newborn daughter. The week previous this would have had me grimacing into my tofu and thinking uncharitable thoughts but all I could think was "Isn't she lovely, I'm really looking forward to having one of those" and generally feeling quite happy about it all.
Though I still haven't unhidden the facebook feed of my teenage cousin who got pregnant by accident and is due four days before I would have been. One step at a time!

cheepz Hope working from home goes well. DH probably knows my cycle about as well as I do to be honest, he quite enjoys looking at all the little hearts on fertility friend, makes him feel manly! Trip had been booked while I was still pregnant.

tfls lovely to see you again, here's hoping you have a very fun week

Hope everyone else is doing well and looking after themselves.

Really impressed that apples and cheepz have resisted the urge to test early. What resolve! Please post when you get some news (not that I'm impatient).

apples - I was told that all bets are off for the first AF. It doesn't matter what your AF is normally like, whether you get PMS or cramps etc, it can all be different in the first one - so don't expect it to be in your normal pattern. But hopefully AF will be absent for the next 9 months.

blp - glad you're feeling so positive. You're right, it's one step at a time. Glad you enjoyed your meal. I knew I was feeling better when I looked at a baby (albiet it was screaming) and thought "God do I really want to let myself in for all that?"

hey everyone! well have just been to GP. didn't really want to because i saw thw same one last time and on a friday and my mc started on the sunday so felt a bit superstitious but thought don't be daft! sunday will be hell for me though! although he took all my details again he dodn't actually book me in or anything and said it's such early days to pop back in a couple of weeks to do the next set of paperwork. i'm glad in a way because it feels like the pressure's off slightly but it does also bring home how often mcs occur and that it could easily happen again. anyway must keep thinking positive!! will be stocking up on more tests though, did another one today and i know i'll have done the last two by next weekend!!

it's nice to hear you all feeling positive regardless of where you're at in cycle. i think we were all in a state of shock when the mc happened but getting back to 'normal' now as it were.

hope everyone has good weekend!

Tested. BFN. Where is AF?

Apples - I'm so so sorry. It almost seems to add injury to insult that AF is playing silly devils. Is this a bit like Meita's experience recently?

Monkeym - just remember this pip stands much more of a chance of becoming a dc than not ... Do you think you might be able to get an early pregnancy scan to put your mind at rest in a couple of weeks (touch wood). Some hospitals will do that if your GP refers you because of prev. mc and anxiety etc. You're not in London are you? St George's Hosp in Tooting has a FREE walk-in EPAU clinic ... guess what I'm planning to do if I get that far ....!!! Anyway, it can't be the only hosp in the country to offer that service.

xxx

monkey must be really hard not to worry but Helpet is right - all the stats are on your side that this little one will stick. But sending loads of glue over to you anyway . Taking it chilled day by chilled day is your new moto!

apples I'm sure AF will appear when least convenient for you (don't they always). Grrrr for you.

If anyone is trying to find their nearest EPAU, I found this link useful:

EPAU finder

Hello all, booked an appointment to give blood on Tuesday after a very long conversation with one of the advisors who tried to tell me I couldn't donate til January because you have to leave it a week for every week you were pregnant. Took ages to convince him that 11 weeks from the first week in June was this week, so next Tuesday would be fine. Turns out he was only counting two weeks per month. He was very apologetic and sweet though and told me about his sister's many miscarriages which I think was meant to make me feel better!

tfls Thanks for the link, useful for reassurance if away from home too (when I have something to be reassured about, obviously!)

monkey Echo what everyone says about the stats. If the odds of winning the lottery were 75% I'd do it a lot more often! (Disclaimer: I will obviously be ignoring my own sane sensible advice should I ever get another BFP, in favour of doom, gloom, knicker-checking and general miserable pessimism. Just so you know.) Don't want to pry (yet clearly I am) any news about the lump?

apples Boo to hormones. Fingers crossed you get an answer soon.

babylily If you're still about, I hope the bleeding's stopped and you're ok. Take care of yourself.

Hope everyone else is doing well and having a lovely weekend.