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BuckyAndCocktails · 02/07/2009 16:54

New thread girlies....running out of credit on the stupid hotel internet connection...so can't say anything..duh..

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JollyBear · 25/08/2009 14:03

Blimey poor GG . That's just terrible. Do give her my love bucky.

How much waiting around can you stand bucky before you storm the PCT headquarters with Finn and Molly by your side demanding answers? How are the hounds? Done anything amusingly naughty recently?

Our cats are loving DD's self feeding. The big old tabby jumped up and removed a tuna laden rice cake out of her hand the other day. DD thinks it is most amusing.

P&M Can you just not see your sister without moving? Unless you are keen to make a new start it seems a lot of trouble to go to. Is your sister not able to understand why her pregnancy is difficult for you and tone it down a bit? Big

MrsHappy · 25/08/2009 16:37

Oh crapity crap crap. Poor GG. Ectopics really are utter bastards. If you look in, GG, I hope you get it sorted soon. If you want a rant, I think you have my number and also I found the ectopic pregnancy trust pretty helpful with my pointless questions, moaning etc. They might be worth looking up.

Bucky how irksome that you are still waiting for your letter. I agree with JB that you should set the dogs on them!

JB We have most of the stuff, but there are somethings I wanted to get. We need a new cot mattress (because you are only supposed to use them for 1 child) and I am scared this baby will be cold (DD was born in a very hot summer) so she needs blankets and things like that. Also DD has kept all of her baby blankets and won't let them go! So I am still buying odd bits.

Ei - it's nice to see you. I hope you are keeping well.

Not much news here either. I am feeling like shit and am not sure whether I have a bug or some sort of pregnancy-related aches. I shouldn't moan because obviously am very glad to be pregnant, but my goodness I am sick of belching and being uncomfortable. I have even come home early because I feel like pants. Boo hooo hooo.

readyfornumber2and3 · 26/08/2009 08:27

GG Thinking of you and hope things get sorted quickly for you x

Bucky Hope your letter comes soon and things can get moving for you

EI How are you doing? (love the new name)

PnM So sorry to hear how insensitive your sister has been ltely nd hope you can resolve it somehow x

MrsHappy Hope you feel better soon, nothing worse than being ill when pregnant, How long has little courgette got left to bake now?

MOB How re things with your little boys? Would love to see pics if you have time

Digi Any news?

JB Keeping my fingers crossed for your lottery win lol

Waves to everyone else x

Well Adam and Sophie are 3 weeks old today and I love them to bits I cant believe how chilled out they are, its actually easier this time than with DS1 lol

I have put a few pics on my profile if any of you fancy a peek

Caitni · 26/08/2009 11:36

Ah Readyfor totally gorgeous pictures . They are so cute! I'm glad to hear that all is well with you and that the babies are so chilled (lucky you ).

I'm so to hear about GG though...what a complete nightmare for her. I really hope the medical intervention gets it sorted soon. GG if you look in sending you lots of hugs at this awful time.

MrsH sorry to hear you're feeling blue. I imagine it's not too uncommon in these late stages (I'm thinking you're 32/33 weeks ish no?). I hope you start to feel a bit better soon - the end is in sight!

JB I was at your cats - what new heaven they have discovered with your DD's weaning!

Bucky sorry to hear that the PCT are still mucking you around - you're probably sick of chasing by now! - but yay for Miami. At least you'll get a lot of much needed R&R and come back all tanned and gorgeous

PnM so sorry to hear how insensitive your sister's been . Really hope it doesn't come to moving away, as you and your DH sound so happy in your current place...apart from this of course. And you sound perfectly sane to me!

Lizbaz hope the 40th party was fun!

Waves to MOB Ei Okiwi Digitalgirl and anyone I've missed.

I had my 13 week scan yesterday, and apart from a baby who wouldn't start posing properly for a while, it went very well. I'm planning to put up scan pix at some point.
The sonographer did a lot of pressing on my belly, which helped get the baba to move but my god, I thought I'd wee on her! The nuchal scan was fine and the baby is bang on for dates.

I now have my 16 week check up early - next Wed at 14 weeks - as both myself and the obstetrician are away in Sept. I was a bit annoyed about having to see an obstetrician, as my GP just put shared care automatically because it's an IVF pregnancy and I was a bit p!ssed off about it...but the midwife assured me that if all remains fine then I'll just be referred back to midwife care and all will be well. Also got to discuss wanting a homebirth - midwife seemed very pro and explained all about the how it would work from a midwifery point of view. Must say, am liking the Whittington so far .

readyfornumber2and3 · 26/08/2009 11:47

Caitni so glad everything is going well with your bean will you find out what your having?
Im sure you will get referred back after the appointment and you are very lucky having a supportive midwife x

Caitni · 26/08/2009 12:51

Thanks Readyfor . We've decided not to find out what we're having - as it's our first we're just not bothered beyond wanting a healthy baby.

MrsHappy · 26/08/2009 12:53

RF2and3 your babies are gorgeous. Lucky you getting two of them!

Caitni I am glad they are being helpful at the hospital. Who is your consultant? I am deemed "high risk" and will only have a total of 3 appointments with doctors by the time this is over (admittedly the first one was a total waste of time) but they do generally seem quite happy to let the midwives take the lead even if you are a risky one like me, which is nice!!

I don't think the way I feel is anything to do with the baby. In fact I think I have a tummy bug. Someone has suggested that I have the dreaded swine but I doubt it...

Anyway, am supposed to be working from home, so back later!

Caitni · 28/08/2009 11:45

MrsH glad to think you it's a bug (not that it's pleasant for you but it's better in that it may clear it soon). My consultant is Miss C Paul - haven't done any googling (been too busy!) but am not too bothered about seeing her now. At least it means I only have until next Wed to wait for me "16 week" appointment.

Big waves to everyone else. Hope you all enjoy the long weekend. I'm off to Ireland until late Tuesday so won't be around all weekend. I get to meet my 6 week old neice (and pick up lots of maternity clothes from my stylish sister ) and my 3 month old nephew...as well as enjoy the company of all the rest of the fam.

So bye for now xx

MrsHappy · 28/08/2009 12:23

TBH you probably won't see your consultant anyway - I reckon it'll be some minion who will look horrified when you mention the possibility of homebirth, but don't let that put you off! At clinics they seem to take the patients in rotation so you see whoever is free (unless you ask specifically to see the cons, which is what I did last time after the SHO had done my blood pressure etc).

readyfornumber2and3 · 28/08/2009 14:25

thanks MrsH I do feel very lucky Hope you are starting to feel better and what ever it is clears up asap x

Caitni It will be a lovely suprise for you then (I was too impatient to wait and see lol)Have a fab weekend and enjoy the practice with those lovely snuggly babies
I really wouldnt worry about the consultant, I saw the same one every 4 weeks for scans and checks and then when I had them she was nowhere to be seen so it was pointless!! At the end of the day they just need to tick you off their list and then they will refer you back to midwife care x

xxBuckyxx · 28/08/2009 20:55

RFN2&3 - Your babies are beautiful .

Just dropping in again to say the letter arrived! Co-ordination is on the 15 Sept with drugs in October and treatment in November!!! . Now it is here I am scared!!! And there is a million trillion forms .

Anyway, have a great weekend girls. Hope we get some sun. xx

Madoldbird · 01/09/2009 13:58

Hi ladies

RFN2&3 Your babies are beautiful!!! You put me to shame by posting pictures first - so i have just added some now. The names are lovely too.

Bucky Yay! Things are finally moving forward for you - so pleased.

GG I was devastated to hear of all you are going through. Lots of love to you.

Caitni Really glad the scan went well.

MrsH Hope you're feeling better?

Big hello to everyone else. XX

All fine here. Busy getting the big ones ready to go back to school, as well as looking after the babies! So haven't had time to post, but do try and read when i can. Hope it's worked & you can see the pics on my profile.

JollyBear · 01/09/2009 20:13

Hello everyone,

bucky It must be a bit when things actually start happening. Great news for you and Mr bucky! MOB Oooh what lovely looking boys . Thanks for posting pictures!

caitni Wow 16 weeks nearly already.

Big hugs to everyone else.

MrsHappy · 02/09/2009 08:35

Hello all

MOB your boys are gorgeous - very sweet. I did have a rather confused moment when (mis)read your post and thought they were off to school already, though! I mean, I know I have been pregnant forever but I didn't realise I had a longer gestation period than an elephant...

Bucky Yay for the paperwork. Do you think someone at the hospital realised they were at risk of a Finn-mauling?!

JB How's the wee cub?

Hope everyone is well. I am the size of a small house and spent the weekend at a wedding where every gay man in the vacinity asked me if I was going to give birth that day and looked scared. Courgette seems to be fine and I have started buying things for her and digging out the old clothes. We've managed to find a chest of drawers for her things so I have somewhere to put them now! DD keeps getting out babygros and going on about how cute they are! (which is hilarious coming from a very tiny three year old!)

PicknMix · 02/09/2009 14:23

Afternoon all,

Yay for the arrival of the paperwork Bucky!! Hope you have a fabulous time away and feel fully refreshed for drugs and subsequent treatment in October

How very funny MrsH re littlest H talking about cute baby clothes!! Sounds like she's getting excited? Remind me, how are your birth plans now? Have you been allowed to go for a HB or did you decide to go with the MWL unit?

JB how is the cub doing? Must be time for a siblingcub soon, surely???

Speaking of which, how are you doing DG?? How was A's 1st birthday?? Hope he appeciated all the effort I'm sure you went to!

Just in case you're looking in, hope you're doing ok GG and so so sorry to hear all you're going through at the moment, take care xx

Where are you Ei?? How are you doing?

And Okiwi and Lizbaz? Hope you're both doing ok?

MOB your boys are very gorgeous, are they behaving well? Good luck with the back to school madness!

R4N2+3 your two are equally gorgeous as well!!! How is DS doing with them?

Sorry I haven't been around much - have been busy with work. Am back on the clomid this month and the hot flushes are awful. The terrible mood swings aren't much fun either - so much so that I had decided not to take them but DH convinced me otherwise .

Have avoided my sister successfully and, to be fair to her, she hasn't been bad in the last few weeks. My father is over next week from the Far East and staying with us for a week (right when OV will prob happen - brilliant) so will def end up having to spend some time with my sister then but shall grin and bare it!

I truely am at the end of my tether with ttc. The only reason I'm taking the clomid is because DH wanted me to, I don't believe it will work at all.

But in other happier news, I have finally bought a car so am mobile again which is great!!

Anybody else wondering where the summer went?! Its awful out there today!!!

x

readyfornumber2and3 · 02/09/2009 17:01

MOB your little boys are gorgeous how are things for you? We are doing well at the moment but have a feeling the next 2 years will be intersting to say the least lol

Caitni Did you have a good time with your niece and nephew? Bet you got plenty of practice in

PnM DS is doing quite well, he tries very hard to help but does get a bit jealous when I am feeding them!
Glad you are mobile again and hopefully your sister will be more sensitive x

MrsH your DD sounds so cute glad little courgette is doing well

Bucky You must be excited and nervous now,so glad they finally got sorted!

Hi to everyone else x

well the twins are 4 weeks old today (not sure where the times gone lol) and I am loving being a twin mummy
We are getting a new car on saturday as ours is such a squash lol and we need to look at a new house as we are rapidly running out of space so gonna be busy lol

PicknMix · 03/09/2009 22:19

Evening all,

I feel bad - in my head I'd said hi to Caitni but reading back over my post today, it looks like I didn't!!

Sorry Caitni, hope you're doing ok? You had your '16'wk check yesterday didn't you? Hope it all went well.

R4N2+4 your son sounds very cute, he's a good boy for trying to help!

I'm off to try and seduce my DH now (tmi!?) - seem to have lost all interest at the mo so need to make a bit of an effort!!

Hope you're all ok

x

JollyBear · 04/09/2009 10:01

Hello all,

PnM Ithe mood for seduction despite hot flushes and mood swings, well done you! When does your dad arrive and enforced time with your sister begin? What car did you get? New cars are very exciting.

Re the clomid etc, when is your next check up? Did they say what the next steps were going to be? It is odd that they gave you clomid and haven't monitored you. But as we know your PCP have their own ideas about things .

MrsH Jollycub is very well thanks for asking. She is a frustrated non-crawler at the moment and spends most of the day pushing herself up onto her hands and lifts herself up slightly on her feet and then sprawls onto her tummy. I pick her up and the cycle begins again!

caitni How was the check up? I don't think I had a 16 week check, is that because you had IVF and are special?

Oh and not planning another just yet PnM. Speaking of which, did you test DG?

PandaEis · 04/09/2009 21:56

hi ladies
long time no post no tinternet as DH didnt pay the bill
AF arrived slightly late on wednesday so CD3 cycle 24 for me now it seems like yesterday i sat on the 2ww sofa for the first time i thought it would be a short wait but hey ho... im glad i have been in such good company for this 2 year wait hopefully those of us who are still waiting wont have much longer to wait
xx ei xx

digitalgirl · 05/09/2009 21:42

Sorry, been a while since I've checked in here.

Hope things are getting better GG bucky things are on the move!

MrsHappy are you at the horribly uncomfortable stage now? where even sleeping is difficult?

caitni how is bump growing, is it looking more like a pregnant bump or still just a bit like a big dinner?

RFN2&3 your twins are gorgeous!

PnM Hope the seduction is going well. I've completely forgotten how to do that sort of thing.

JB ah, frustrated crawler stage! When you could still leave them in one spot and go to the toilet....

I managed to hold off from testing till AF arrived last weekend. Was a little disappointed, but probably not as much as I would have been if I'd tested. It also coincided with DS going through yet another 'change' and deciding to wake up every night and scream for 2 hours. Which made me wonder how on earth I'd cope with another.

Mammoth 8 week cycle that was. I thought giving up the daytime BF's would shorten my cycles - but no, am back to pre-pregnancy crazy long cycles.

MrsHappy · 05/09/2009 22:34

Evening

DG that is a mammoth cycle, but don't worry about it too much. When I had DD my period took about 14 weeks to come back (in spite of me breastfeeding for months afterwards - grrr) but my periods were really irregular - 90 and 60 day cycles, for example. I had some acupuncture and probably by the time DD was 1 they had settled down to 29-35 day cycles. So it took about 9 months for things to behave more normally. Hopefully it will settle down for you too before too long.

Ei It's nice to see you and glad your internet connection is back.

How did the seduction go PnM? Like DG I have forgotten how to do that stuff now. TBH I am not convinced I ever want to do it again right now!!

Caitni Did you have your 16 week check? I hope it went ok.

News from the fatty... I am kind of big and my pelvis feels as though it is falling apart. And I have braxton hicks contractions every day. I just hope that all of this means that, unlike when I had DD, my body is actually gearing up for the big event. It would be cool if this one was early but I am not holding my breath! Mr H has not been well and so the two of us laze about on the sofa while DD does pretty much whatever she wants. But it's ok, she told me yesterday that "three year olds can take care of themselves", so that is my job done, I guess!

Anyway, back later - hope everyone is well.

Caitni · 07/09/2009 11:46

Morning ladies

Hope everyone is doing well.

MrsH your daughter sounds so cute - I had a great time with my 3 year old niece in Ireland and I've decided it's a lovely age (and how handy that you don't need to look after her now she's three ) as they're still very young and innocent but are starting to "grow up"...I can't believe that your DD2 will be here soon - am getting so excited about meeting my newest cyber niece!

Bucky glad things are now properly moving for you. Totally normal to be freaked out now it's here - I was the same when things finally started. Glad you're off on holidays, so you're nice and relaxed facing into treatment. I'd also recommend the accupuncturist I used - Ian at Balance Accupuncture. I went to him after LondonLottie recommended him and found him v experienced (he specialises in fertility so has heaps of experience of IVF and now working against the drugs etc) and down to earth...and cheaper than any other accupuncturist I went to!

DigitalGirl hope your cycles settle down soon - must be frustrating when you're trying to get a sense of what's happening. I can't believe A is one already...your birth announcement just doesn't seem like that long ago!

MOB your boys are gorgeous!! Thanks for the pics...it's lovely to see them in person . Hope your older DC are happy to be back to school and are loving their new little brothers.

PnM your dad is over this week isn't he? Hope you're having a good time and your sister is being more sensitive. And glad to hear of the new car (what type is it? I'm getting interested in cars since I've decided we need a new one...as my incentive to start taking driving lessons again ). Hope the Clomid works for you this month, though you must be sick of the mood swings etc.

RFN2&3 wow that the twins are over four weeks already! Time is flying...and it's lovely to hear that you're loving being a twin mum and things are going so well in the ReadyFor household .

Jollybear not long now before jollycub is properly mobile...and then you'll have to get the eyes in the back of your head to keep an eye on her!

PandaEis possibly my favourite name from you and your never-ending pot of great names! Must be my addiction to mascara talking . Glad your t'interweb connection is back but to hear you're onto cycle 24. You've been through so much in your 2 years...I really hope you get a sticky bean soon [fingers crossed emoticon]

Waves to Lizbaz and Okiwi - hope you're both doing OK

Things are fine with me. I had my "16 week" check last wed at 14+1 and it was fine except I had to wait nearly TWO hours to be seen! So my blood pressure was understandably a little higher than my booking in appointment (must have been caused by my numb arse from the uncomfortable chairs!). I then ended up seeing a registrar who had been drafted in from the labour ward to try and clear the antenatal clinic backlog. He was very nice and actually very relaxed about the home birth desire (he said "ah yes, I can see how you'd want that after the clinical experience of IVF" and I was like "yes, yes, that's exactly it!" and I now have "wants a home birth" scrawled across my notes ). It was very hard for him to hear the heartbeat but I was remarkably relaxed about it, since my extensive googling assures me that 14 weeks is early for a doppler to work clearly (an unintentional benefit of being a google pregnancy stalker).

We also had a super time in Ireland. We got to spend lots of time with all of my family, including all the nieces/nephews ranging in age from 7 to 7 weeks so lots of little people to practice on. The older ones are all very happy that we're having a baby - my 6 year old nephew was very "helpful" with names (Brian and Brandy are his top choices ).

And we're off to the States on Thursday night to visit the in-laws for over two weeks so just have to get through some manic days at work before it's holiday time again!

Sorry for the mammoth post

LeviStubbsTears · 08/09/2009 11:14

Hi all,

Back with a new name (no longer LizBaz) after forever - thanks for not giving up on me and sorry for not posting - have been away, up and down mood-wise with FTC, and (traitorously!) on other more specific threads a bit. Hope you're all well - great news Caitni about scan and good holiday. The names thing is funny, isn't it - my friend's nephew, of a similar age, had two suggestions for my friend on learning she was having a boy: his own name (Angus) and, when that was rejected (as "too confusing"), Seatbelt! No, no, don't thank me for those helpful suggestions!

Sorry you're feeling at the end of your tether, PicknMix. The anecdotal cases among my friends have had great luck with Clomid so fingers crossed. But I know very well that feeling that nothing will work. I seem to be cycling through being miserable about FTC, frustrated with DH for his disinclination over the whole thing (and corresponding unhelpful behaviour, like drinking with gay abandon), and some very mixed feelings on my own part about the whole idea of having a baby. My sister is having a very difficult time with her son (3 and a bit months) and the whole thing does look so very very tough. Feel guilty talking about such feelings on here, when some of you are so keen for it to happen. I am too at times - it's all very weird indeed. I think having waited so long, it feels so unreal as to become scary again.

Anyway, I'm nearing end of third month after HSG test, so will probably go on a waiting list for IVF soon if we decide that's what we'll do. So need to make a decision pronto!

Anyway, better do some work as it's mid-morning with little achieved!

Hope everyone else is doing well. xxx

Caitni · 10/09/2009 11:14

Morning ladies

LeviStubbsTears LOVE the new name (am a billy bragg fan ). And Seatbelt...er, makes Brandy look like a "good choice" . I'm sorry to hear your sister is struggling with her baby - the sleep deprivation and stress must be awful . But don't feel guilty discussing these things, as one of the things I love about this thread is that I've felt like I can pretty much say anything and not be judged (been a lifesaver at times!). I personally dread having a nightmare time (and worry about things like PND or failing to bond or just generally being a rubbish mum...), but at the same time I think infanthood is such a small part of the years and years of parenting ahead that I'm hoping to let it wash over me. I've been warned by sisters/SILs/my mother/MIL that the worst bit about the first year is the sleep deprivation induced arguments and rattiness with your partner. But it's good to worry/talk about these things, helps to stop them from growing into an unreasonably big fears...

Anyway, enough rambling from me! Just popping in to say bye for a while, as off to the US after work today. Won't be back until the 27th but will try and check in with how folks are doing. Has taken me all morning to actually post this!

xxx

LeviStubbsTears · 11/09/2009 18:04

Well, AF has arrived exactly on time , so that's it for the hopeful three-months-after-HSG-being-conducive-to-conceiving scenario.

Anyway, small pause for being a bit sad for a day or two, and then some tricky discussion with DH. Got to decide whether to put ourselves on IVF waiting list or not, now - do I push for it with all my powers of persuasion, am I sure enough? Just wish it would happen without me having to be so horribly deliberate about it...

Anyway, thanks for being there, folks, and Caitni for last kind post. It is great to have this as a forum - do appreciate you all!

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