The WIMBEWAI(N)F Club - Only a few more to find!

[BuckyAndCocktails]

New thread girlies....running out of credit on the stupid hotel internet connection...so can't say anything..duh..

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Oh no, Bucky. I'm so sorry. It's just shitty and unfair.

Thanks for everyone's kind thoughts.

I'm officially leaving MN now, so please everyone keep in touch on FB. I probably won't be arranging a meet up pre Xmas if that's ok, but by all means go ahead without me.

JB if you are on facebook email me [email protected] so we can keep in touch.

Thank you all for all the support and for allowing me to make some amazing new friends. See you soon in RL probably.

Love Bucky xx

oh bucky so sorry to see you go i hope everything works out for you and you do get your much longed for sticky BFP and baby xx keep in touch xx you have my numbner if you need a chat/rant xx

That is sad news bucky, we'll miss you. I'm not on facebook but I'll email you so we can keep in touch.

Hello ei, how are things with you?

hey guys
just thought i would pop on to say a massive MERRY CHRISTMAS to you all just in case i dont get a chance to say it before the big day
loads of love to you all and i hope you all have a great day with the family
xx ei xx

hello ladies, I was having a nostalgic nosey around the conception threads and decided to look up my old buddy Bucky. I am so sorry to hear what has happened, sounds like you have been through the wringer and now this . My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best for your future. Maybe you will feel up to trying again one day but either way am sending big hugs xx

DG how old is your wee boy now ? He must be around 15-16 months ? The last time I popped into this thread you had decided to start trying in a relaxed fashion - as if there is such a thing ! Good to see you are back on board - you are a braver lady than me !

Hello to everyone else, am off to read back a bit more and catch up with you all, just wanted to post for Bucky when I saw her post.

Hey Mibbes, DS is coming up to 16mo now. Very cute, but also very cheeky, and permanently teething (poor little monkey).

We were casually ttc till I had an early mc, which coincided with us co-sleeping with DS. So now we're having to be a bit more calculated about it.

How are you getting on with your little one?

And MrsHappy how is your little dd?

Caitni you must be properly huge now?

ei hope you're doing well too. I had a lovely Christmas. Was much more fun with toddler, despite his impatience with opening the many presents he received.

So sorry to read that it didn't work out for Bucky.

Belated Christmas to you all ladies. I know I've not posted on here in ages (sadly, because of Bucky leaving MN I think this thread is kind of dormant now...) but I do think of you all often. I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas and here's to a wonderful 2010, with particular wishes that everyone still waiting gets their BFPs.

I'm just back from Ireland and am properly knackered and feeling very big. And know I'm just going to get bigger [sigh] but am also getting excited about meeting the baby now. I'm 31 weeks, so on the countdown to finishing work at 36 weeks.

Right, off to unpack and get to bed (have to go into work tomorrow and am two weeks into a head cold that just will not go away!).

Hi there all,

Just thought I'd wish you all a very Merry Christmas but didn't quite get online in time!

Hope you all have a Happy New Year though!!

I've been having an MN break as life has become really sh*t in the PnM household recently and its increasingly difficult to make myself think about ttc.

Its 4 years this Christmas since my first miscarriage and friends all left it until Christmas to tell us of their 'good news' - yep, about 4 couples have told us they're expecting and its made me even more depressed becuase its made me realise how bitter and twisted I've become.

We're due to start IUI this month but just not sure about it anymore....

Just ignore me - I turned 30 on Boxing Day and have been all bah humbug on the run up to and then since then...

31 weeks already Caitni?? Crikey!

H

Ooops, pressed 'post' before I finished.

Meant to put....

Hope all the thread littlies (plus their siblings) had a fab Christmas and FC was generous to you all this year.

Love to you all

PnM xx

Happy Birthday PnM - welcome to the best decade (so far!)
Sorry to hear you've been feeling down. I hope 2010 brings you more happiness. Fingers crossed for the IUI - does that mean you've got IVF next?

Caitni not long till Maternity Leave, yay! Must say, if I ever manage to get another bfp I'm definitely stopping work at 36 weeks, I woz totally robbed of lazy biscuit eating and DVD box set watching with DS coming at 36+5.

Hiya DG, did ds enjoy Christmas?? I'm guessing at 16mths he's into everything - my friends kids are still unwrapping presents now, its a bit overwhelming for them!!

So by being calculated, does that mean you're back on the ttc rollercoaster properly now? How are feeling after the mc? I'm surprised by how hard I've been hit by my latest one - was 2 months ago now but feels like yesterday...

I've been told by the hospital that I'll get 5 shots at IUI and then its on to IVF if no luck. IVF is way off in the future for me though.... Although, always thought IUI would be a step too far for us so its a bit weird having to come to terms with the fact that we're one of 'those' couples now.

Had godson to stay for the night last night which was lovely - he's 6 and a little star. His little sister wants to stay next time as well (she's only 3 so bit young for sleepovers!)

PnM happy belated birthday! Though am sorry to hear you're feeling a bit down - two months since your last m/c is no time, so you're perfectly normal to still be grieving. And having a wave of friends announce pregnancies is terrible - I once calculated that nearly 30 babies were conceived and/or born in the two years we tried and each one just reminded me (again) how much we were struggling. I also know what you mean about being one of "those" couples...I still get sad when I think about the fact that we can't just get pregnant like other couples (and when my sisters seem to get pregnant at the drop of a hat I've had to suppress a lot of at times). I know we've been really lucky, so I try not to dwell on what the future holds, but it does depress me a little to think that we'll have to factor IVF into all of our plans for our family...not sure what I'm saying but being one of those couples can still work out (as it did with us). You're lucky to have youth on your side (even if you don't feel like it right now!) and I'm really hoping the IUI works and you and your DH can celebrate a New Year BFP . Also, for some positive IUI stories, my line manager's wife conceived via IUI at 39 (their son is now a year old and v v cute). And my sister's best friend conceived naturally the month after her first round of IUI didn't work (she was 39 and had been trying unsuccessfully for 2 years).

Ei sorry to be a total stalker but I saw on another thread that you've been having some promising symptoms. Am of course keeping my fingers feverishly crossed that it's good news for you

Digital oh I can't wait for maternity leave! I'm heading off on maternity leave at 36+3 and am definitely on the count down...cannot be arsed with work! You were definitely robbed, while I don't want to go overdue (that's my big fear in fact...everyone over Christmas kept banging on about how overdue first babies are in my family...) bubs arriving at 36+5 would be way too early! I bet your DS is a total cutie now and I hope the more calculated ttc gets you good news soon.

Things are good with me, bar the head cold from hell (two weeks and counting and I'm being a total moaner about it! Man, I miss lemsip & sudafed...). But my DH has had a diastrously low testosterone blood test result recently, which has worried his oncologist (who he sees yearly now since the testicular cancer 5 years ago) so he's going for a re-test soon. I finally got to see all of his testosterone results from the last 5 years and I think it explains why his sperm count is so low as they're all on the low side of "normal" (wish someone could have told us this ages ago ). We're going to see if he can get a referral to an endocrinologist with some expertise in this area. And since it isn't fertility treatment per se, hopefully his medical insurance will cover it.

Big waves to everyone not mentioned

PnM I think DS did enjoy Christmas. Mainly because his Dad, Grandma and Aunty were around to entertain him all day when I was cooking/showering/in the loo. But somehow I don't think he understood why he suddenly had loads of new toys to play with.

I'm so sorry to hear you're still hurting after your last MC. How far along were you? For me, I'd found out on the Friday and by Saturday night was spotting. A scan on Monday showed a 5 week sac, but then I think the actual MC happened on the Tuesday. It was like a painful period, with cramps that reminded me of birthing contractions and I cried. But I think I got over it pretty quickly. I was kept myself busy with work and DS. Perhaps if it happened again I might not bounce back so easily...but I shan't dwell.

But yes, I've joined one of those ever-optimistic TTC buses, in a bid to keep track of my cycle days. Can't really chart my temps this time as DS is in bed with us. So no doubt I'll be doing lots of pointless tests thinking my period is late when I haven't actually hatched yet. But going to stay positive

caitni 36+3 was my last day at work. 36+4 had a baby shower. 36+5 DS was born. But then I kind of expected him to come early. My mum had me and my sister 3 weeks early. Both my little brothers were 3 weeks early, so early arrivals are in the family. DH's mum insists he was 3 weeks late. I think even in the 70's they might have done something about that. Anyway, take it easy...enjoy eating a hot lunch with both hands, and dinner at the same time as your DH. For soon, soon, you join the world of cold cups of tea and breastfeeding on the toilet.

Hello!

PnM I am sorry you've been doing it tough since the MC, and I hope things improve soon. I can understand you having mixed feelings about IUI/fertility treatment. When I was having all those problems last year it seemed so ridiculously unfair that every other woman in my family swears she got pregnant in the first month of trying. Really, I could slap them all. The least they could do is lie about it to me! And there I was researching IVF clinics and having cameras stuck up my hoo-haa. Anyway, happy birthday - it's not too bad being 30, honest (I saw the back of 30 some time ago and it's not been all bad!).

Caitni wow- I can't believe how far along you are now. Why are you worried about going overdue? I went 11 days over with DD1, and only (just) 2 days over with DD2. The thing I found is that, firstly, both times I had an inkling about when the baby would be born and secondly, the baby came just as I could not take being pregnant anymore. So a week before DD2 was born I was crying and saying that I could not take it if I had to put up with 5 more weeks of feeling that way. A few days later I found myself crying watching Mamma Mia (yes really) and not long after that it all kicked off. Baby will come when it is ready and you will be fine, I am sure. Oh, and when you go on leave, let's meet up, drink (decaf) coffee and act like ladies of leisure.

DG I hate to tell you this but second time around it does not matter when you go on leave - there is no boxed-set watching telly action when you have a toddler! All I did was park DD in front of Cbeebies for 20 mins while I had a snooze. The rest of the time I was dealing with her "my mummy is having a baby and I feel stroppy" tantrums. No rest for the wicked!

ei lovely to hear you are having promising symptoms. Fingers crossed!

Things at this end are pretty good. Poor DD2 just cried for 3 hours before going to sleep, but mostly she is a very happy and sweet little soul. DD1 still loves her little sister which is a great relief. I am knackered but that is par for the course and am considering setting up my own business. Can't tell you what yet until I have got it bottomed out though.

Right, off to pump and then drink some wine. Take care.

hey ladies

whaddya think??

OH. MY. GOD.

Ei I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo chuffed for you!!!!

That is fab news and you really deserve it.

Do you need to take some meds for the first few months? Have you got an appt at the drs booked? When did you find out?

Wow!

Guess that leaves me all alone on the original bench now [sniff]

PnM i did a test last night and another this morning both BFP AF is due tomorrow or monday so im not counting my chickens given my track record but a line is a line and all that

i havent called the GP yet as they wont open until monday and i am permanently on the 75mg of asprin due to the blood disorder affecting my joints but i am hopeful and i have a good feeling 2010 will be the year for the wimbewai-n-f club YOU ARE NEXT!!!

A line is most definitely a line Ei and you should definitely be celebrating!

I really am pleased for you - you get that Docs appt booked asap so you can get everything checked that needs to be checked. Pleased to hear you're already on a dose of aspirin though.

OMG Ei congratulations!!!! What utterly fantastic news! Am for you. Glad you're on the aspirin but call that consultant who you saw in 08 if you need to. Am just so for you...

PnM I'm with Ei on this one, definitely feel like you'll be next

MrsH how exciting about possible new business! Glad to hear that all's well with your two gorgeous girls. Definitely want to meet up once I go on leave (roll on 5th Feb!). And interesting about going overdue - my worry is that I'll have to sacrifice my lovely homebirth plans for an induction. Though I've decided to just go with the flow, as chances are it'll be fine.

I'm in the midst of a hypnobirthing weekend course so am feeling very positive about the birth (and life in general). Amazingly, my cynical DH is loving the hypnobirthing so far, which is great as I really had to convince him to come along (basically ended up saying he had no bloody choice but to go along with it as I'm the one that's going to have to go through birth!). Anyway, was just popping on to catch up but Ei's amazing news got me rambling.

Honestly Ei, a great way to start 2010

EI that is fantastic news really is!!!!!

caitni & mrsh can I tag along (assuming I'm not working and caitni doesn't have her baby at 36+4!)

Digi you may certainly tag along- it'll be very norf london innit

Congratulations Ei. What a fab way to start the year.

DG definitely tag along - since we all live within about 2 miles of each other it's silly that we haven't met up before.

Caitni don't worry re going overdue. You can go quite a long way over without needing induction and if it comes to it I will tell you how I got DD2 to come out at 40+2 (when literally all babies in my family come after 41 weeks)!

PnM you will be next, and anyway I am not leaving the thread ever so will be here to keep you company.

Am knackered, so off to order pizza and slink into bed. Take care!

Wow EI Congratulations!!!! Really brilliant news. What a lovely way to start 2010. Am so for you.

Caitni Am getting very excited about your impending arrival!! Sounds like you are well prepared for the birth, and very chilled.

MrsH Lovely to hear that your girls are getting on so well. Very interested to hear about your business plans - I would love to have my own business in the future, i just can't think of a good idea yet!

PnM 30??!! Don't worry - I am rapidly leaving my 30's (in a few months time) now that IS old!! Although i'm pleased to hear that you are going with the IUI, i do understand what you mean about becoming one of "those" couples. It is hard to come to terms with, and bizarrely, it is something i've struggled with since the babies have been born. I think because we had to go private, it all happened so quickly for us, that we didn't have time to process it all, and now i still find myself angry and upset when i hear of people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat, which probably sound really stupid. Crumbs, i hope it doesn't sound like i am trying to put you off!!! I'm not - i wouldn't change a thing from our point of view. I'm just trying to say that it's worth taking time to talk about it and come to terms with needing to have treatment, and just generally getting your head around it all.

DG Glad DS had a lovely Christmas. I am looking forward to lots of symptom spotting from you!! We need all the details, you know!

Big New Year hello to everyone else.

We had a nice Christmas here, although i'm secretly relieved to be taking down the decorations and getting back to normal! The boys now have masses of noisy, plastic stuff - although they are rather overwhelmed with all the new things and just want to play with all their old toys! I have got 4 weeks left, then i am back to work. It will be all change here, as DH is going to be at home full time. He's really looking forward to it. I am going to have to learn not to interfer, and let him do things his own way!

hi ladies

well things have gone pear shaped for me again bleeding ad pain monday, heavierbleeding and pain with clots yesterday and very heavy bleeding and pain today means i now have my old name back and a face. im not a happy girl at the mo as you can imagine so im back on the bench with PnM and i am considering giving up TTC altogether and being happy with just having my DD. it might take a while to come to terms with that one though she is so desperate for a brother or sister and i feel like i am failing because i cant give her the one thing she want in the world