Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

hi can i join you i'm ttc after a mc just over 2 weeks ago. i've not had an af yet, but am peeing on a stick regularly to see if i'm ovulating. [clutching at straws] but mostly i want af to arrive so i know whatss going on and can get back in to my normal routine of poas bding and poas some more!
i hope every one else is doing well today.

amyboo - great news...still no appearance of mine yet....boo.

leonifay - welcome to the thread...what is poas?

*cupcake grapefruit juice is absolutely VILE.....eeeuuurrrggghhh. gonna have to knock that back like its medicine in one go.....yuk.

Hehe, I know it really is gross.. I've been drinking so much I've given myself stomach ache aswell so not great all round!! (and poas= p*ssing on a stick!)

amy- YAY for af! It's weird but I felt immensely relieved when mine appeared after mc too...it really does help you move on. Good luck this month

Thanks cupcake. I just feel relieved that my body's back to normal after the mmc and ERPC. Af was only one day late, so that's good. I got pregnant last time in my first cycle off the pill, so I'm hoping that means I have a good chance of conceiving quickly again.

Hi to leanifay

still nothing.....i have had some terrible PMT this last week and what i thought were pains but still nothing. you need the patience of a saint sometimes where all this stuff is concerned don't you.....and the think is, i have the patience of a four year old in a supermarket queue....

Hi everyone, how are you all?
Seems to be weird to be wishing for af and bfps in the same thread but I am keeping fingers crossed for both.

I have a bit of a dilemma if anyone's about. I am definitely ovulating right now, serious pains and ewcm. In fact I have had to take paracetamol it is aching so much. Anyway here is my stress. I have bad sinusitis at the mo and have been prescribed antibiotics (friday) but I don't want to take them as I have the fear that if I get pregnant I may have another miscarriage. Am I being irrational and should I take them?

My second stress is I am actually losing my bottle about getting pregnant. This mc has made me think about lots of things and this would be my 3rd dc. Am I only meant to have 2? Mine are 4 and 2 and are at that stage where they play together, we don't really need a buggy anymore, and are now down to nappies only at night for dc2. What the hell am I thinking having a third. I really suffer with mood swings after birth and am a bit of a control freak if I'm honest and I am getting the fear about how chaotic my life would be with 3 and that it might tip me over the edge. Life is so manageable and easy right now and I feel I would be going backwards a bit. Also I have seen a therapist since before dc1 was born as I suffered from severe anxiety and depression after my first mc and I am so worried I could go back to that dark place again. I don't know if I have it in me to recover a second time if that happened.

Basically I am terrified! But I can't get away from the idea of another baby. But should I just accept I am only meant to have 2 and start saying goodbye to all things pregnancy and baby?

Hope everyone is ok on this lovely sunny day and thanks if you got past my rant!

*lucky - perfectly natural feelings and ones definitely worth considering....i know i have been. My age gaps are more pronounced that yours 10 and 5 yr old DCs from previous marriage and 12 yr old step daughter from current marriage.....perhaps we should be 'done' and grateful for what glorious children we have already....
the thought of nappies horrifies me as does having lack of spare cash - it will be a stretch etc etc BUT we have decided to leave it to God to decide if we are done or not...sounds a bit catholic, which we are not but i think my head may be trying to protect me from anymore trauma - MMC last month was paralyzing emotionally when actually i long to hold DH child in my arms and raise OUR child alongside our mengagerie of existing kids and cats. Age isn't a factor yet as am only 31....but DH is 40 and if we haven't had one by 45 he wants to stop....i really think you need to talk to your DH and see where both of you see your family heading....you could just be frightened of being hurt again....there is NOTHING wrong with wanting another child, it is not greedy it is natural and if you are not 'done' then you are not 'done' my little sister is firmly 'done' with two...i would like a family of four i think....

OMG.....auntie flo is knock knock knocking at the door.....whoooooppeeeee.

never been so pleased to see the old gel i tell ya...

Yay boodle, let the ttc drama commence!

lucky sorry to hear you're stressing a bit I have no idea about the antibiotics, you should ask your doctor... but about the kids thing, you have to take your time deciding. Don't rush into getting pregnant but at the same time don't totally discount it because you're scared. If you feel your family isn't complete, the scariness is worth going through for another child...
It's a really hard decision to make.

My dh and I are scared about getting pg again after our mc early April and like boodle we're leaving it up to God what happens. Whatever you decide you have to be fully comfortable with it. Good luck

I agree with you cupcake, it's taken me some time but I finally feel that I believe 'if it's meant to be it'll happen'. I have no control over getting pregnant and if I do manage to get pregnant then I still have no control over what happens after that, so have started to relax a bit about it all.

That's great Maisie I agree, there is nothing any of us can change by stressing and worrying. Of course that doesn't stop us from doing it (we're women after all!!) but maybe we'll worry a little less if we start accepting it's beyond our control.. (and then hopefully when we least expect it, a BFP!)

i really hate to moan.....but AF is killing me....this is like the worst period i have had for years.....anyone else had that experience aftr their MC? its thick, red and loads and loads of it.....and terrible tummy ache....looking forward to OV in 13 days tho

I have heard of a few people saying their first AF post-mc is horrendous...
To be honest for me it was the other way around... always had horrendous af pains (once even had an ambulance called to work for me as I went into shock...) and my first one post-mc was the least painful in years!
However, it was definitely different, darker blood, and heavier. Remember your body has been through trauma and is just adjusting itself. Hope it improves soon!

Cupcake and Boodle thanks for your kind words. I have decided not to act on ovulation this time round. I haven't even had my af from my mc yet and I don't think I have given my body time to recover, or even my mind. You are right, what will be will be, and to be honest I feel a little relieved I don't have to worry about bfn/p this time round. I think I do really want another baby, was just having a freak out moment.

Boodle hurray you got af, but yuck it hurts. Mine was evil last mc and it took my cycle a little bit of time to recover too. Hope you feel a bit better soon.

Hurray for boodle - it's such a relief isn't it? I think it's the only time I've ever actually wished af to arrive. Mine hasn't been to be to be honest. Fairly light and not very painful, although I don't normally suffer much anyway. Hope you're feeling better today.

Hi all, hope you're feeling better boodle. amyboo, was just reading through the facebook thread and saw what you wrote about microgynon, if it's any consolation I came off it and waited for four months to TTC, to 'get it out of my system'. Got bfp first month of trying and then had MMC, wish now I hadn't bothered to wait, might have all been different.

Sorry to hear about your MMC maisieBoo. I figured that it was rubbish, but you can't help wondering. I really hate that people give their random thoguhts about the reasons for my MC - do they think I haven't thought of them all already?

Are you ttc again maisieboo?

hello everyone...how are you all....have internet connection and finally all into the new house, absolutely exhausted. i can't have imagined how hard it would have been doing it four months pregnant....my bones ache and i am covered in bruises from lifting things all the time.....

AF was short and sharp....pretty much the same 4 day length as normal AF. more painful definitely but livable with IYSWIM....have marked off on calendar my probable OV days. my first day of AF was sun so have marked off 13 14 15 as my keys days to TTC conceive - how many times should i aim for [baring in mind DH only like to do it once a day.....strange man....]

HELP....

We are TTC again amyboo this is kind of our 2nd month of trying but only started halfway through last cycle and then managed to get thrush halfway through this one(tmi). Just waiting for AF to arrive now, started spotting already and only CD 27, I normally have 32 day cycle. Have bought garlic capsules(odourless!), bicarb of soda (to put in bath), live yoghurt and something called Balance Activ - not planning for anything to stop me next cycle.

Have read on MN that BDing every two days is about right boodle. Guess it's worth a try, all for a good cause

Yep, if you BD every other day from about day 10 to day 21 you should catch it (I am a late ovulator, usually around day 19, which is why I'd say carry on for a few more days just in case you don't ovulate on day 14!)

Is anyone else on CD13? I want to go through it day by day with someone lol... not that I'm asking much! I have a 28-30 day cycle so I guess I should be bd'ing yesterday (done), tonight and tomorrow?

Hi boodleboot- cupcake fairy is right about aiming for every day around fertile time (but can get exhausting and sore by the 18th day in a row!) I would also say that since on both months I fell pregnant I actually ovulated on day 24 or day 26 (my average is day 19 too!) then it may be an idea just to keep going until you are definitely sure you ovulated. Are you temping? As that is the only way you can definitively tell you have ovulated (and hence can stop BDing if you have had enough!) all the other indicators only tell you ovulation is on its way but not that it has happened. Are your periods regular or irregular? If irregular it means you have irregular ovulation (as time between ov and period "the 2ww" is constant) the bit before isn't.

Most optimal time to BD for conception is actually the 3days before ovulation, ovulation day and heck the day after just to try and make sure- and if you are in tune with your body this is reasonably easy to work out (although the 3days before can sometimes turn into the week before as your body decides to play tricks on you!)- but the three days you have marked off on the calendar will only work if you definitely ovulate then.

Sorry am a reproductive physiology nut and have charted for years.
x

Hi Ladies,
How are we all? I'm actually feeling quite sick today but still got my stomach cramps i have a week before af, so not sure if i have a bug or if its a good sign things are happening. It's such a drag this last week i'm soooooo desperate to test, i have a test in the draw winking at me and calling me to use it!! Help!!!!

I hate it when the tests talk to you, I've got one in the drawer too, trying to resist, sure it will say neg but ever hopeful.

thankdeka - thanks for the info - i think if i aim to BD every other day till i get preg then that should do it. i will begin this evening - if i can muster energy, the move totally has zonked me out...

i don't temp chart and i dont think i would know where to begin to be honest!!!