Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

Is dead easy honest once you get hang of it.

Taking charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler is a great place to start to help you figure it out.

Enjoy all the shagging anyhow!

Let's start a new list.

TotallyandUtterlyPaninied- MC April 15th- CD 14

Luckywinner - MC 1st May - Haven't even ovulated yet since mc.

Man

Boodleboot - ERPC-30/4 -CD6
TotallyandUtterlyPaninied- MC April 15th- CD 14
Luckywinner - MC 1st May - Haven't even ovulated yet since mc.

Boodleboot - ERPC-30/4 -CD6
TotallyandUtterlyPaninied- MC April 15th- CD 14
Luckywinner - MC 1st May - Haven't even ovulated yet since mc
MaisieBoo - CD 30

Luckywinner, hope it happens for you soon

Hope all are well and having a good weekend. I've just finished my nights and so back to the decorating!

hi guys,

am back from my hols in egypt had a lovely time and am now very depressed about being back and not being pg.

its been 3 weeks since my erpc and i think i have just ov i had ewcm on thurs so at least i know to expect af in about 2 weeks hopefully. we havent not been trung but we havent been trying either Ifswim. as with everyone else this mmc has realy got me tthinking about if i realy want another or not. dd is 7 now and do i realy want to go back to all the nappies and bottles etc. we saw lots of people on hol with babies and they struggled loads not sure i want to do it however after 5 yrs and 4 mcs not sure thazt i know how to stop ttc. does that make sense?

Hi Ray - so sorry for your news. Come back and join us on the old thread too?

hey yellow were is the old thread ? cant remember exactky what it was called. memory is crap he he

ray81 we have all been feeling a bit like that the last week or so....you are not alone...its all very confusing sometimes isn't it. my DC's are 10 and 5 so also wonder if nappies etc are what i want now but then again this has been only my first failed pregnancy....i admire you for having tried four times already, this first time has really affected me, let alone trying again another three times....i hope you come to a conclusion that you feel peaceful with.

Boodle and Ray, hope you decide to stay on the thread and go through it all again. It will be worth it in the end!

I've got to wait until the 19th to test. Urgh. ages away.

i will not be leaving the thread. its actually really helpful to me to know that there is somewhere i can come and say all the things that sound a bit mental to people in RL. i should be OV around this weekend so will be def BD everyother day for next week. i will begin to POAS as from tom and will be over the moon when one of those little sticks actually confirms i am OV for first time since my ERPC. I do want a baby. i'm just frightened that i won't get one....

Hey mumofbaby can I join too...had a mc three weeks ago. af would have been due this week if I hadnt been pg (mc'd at 7weeks) so not sure if it will slip back into routine like it does with some people. Me and dp have been having fun "trying but not trying" anyway and just not thinking about it too much.

I think after af does arrive I'll prob go into full baby making mode, which I dont want to do becasue I found that the minute I stopped focusing on getting pg and being pg when we ttc, it just happend.

So good luck ladies, I will be keeping my fingers crossed

RL1 Xx

Ruby- I'm mum of baby, I changed my name. Sending lots of babydust your way!!

Boodle- I have the same fear, that it won't happen I worry that two years down the line everyone will be babying all over the place and I'll still be in this state of mind.

Hey girls, how is everyone today?
Ruby, Hi and sorry you are having to go through this. This is a great thread to vent all the bizarre obsessing that goes with ttc after a mc.

Hey Boodle, you know that I'm feeling exactly like you! So you are not allowed to go anyway . We will all walk away with bfps eventually, I have every faith.

Hang on in there Totally, I am thinking of you.

I have horrible cramps today so please let it be af. I am starting to feel a little bit bored waiting for it to make an appearance.

thanks for your kind words girls...i need them today. i have a really lovely job and work in a great office with great people and we have a greaat girl joining our team from another department....what's the prob i hear you say....she is PG....and has the same due date that i had.....literally i will watch this girl walk through the pregnancy that i will not be having....hers is third child too but she was very shocked and unhappy when she found out she was PG to begin with. She told work on the same day i had my fateful scan...she feels very anxious about seeing me and i really really don't want to be like a bit white elephant to her as she is new to the team and such a lovely girl. You couldn't make this up if you tried....

Part of me is so pleased that a baby is being born (or due at least) on that day but i ache in my heart that i won't be the one holding it.

i really hope i get a BFP soon....and a sticky bean....x

luckywinner - any sign of auntie flo yet?

Really feel for you Boodle, have been in same position and it is hard. I want to ask my friend how she is but it's just too raw. I talk to her about anything but instead, and ask other people how her pregnancy is going. Not sure if this is the right thing to do but it works for me. Luckily her mat leave starts soon but I am invited to her baby shower, if I don't go it will look obvious and if I do go I'll feel everyone is looking at me and feeling sorry for me, can't win.
Totally, after MMC I worried that AF would never arrive, when it did I started worrying that I'd never conceive again. I hope and pray we all do and have happy healthy pregnancies the next time round.
At the moment I'm worrying myself silly that I'm entering the menopause (I'm 35), I know this is stupid but am having such an odd start to my AF, have been pink spotting for 10 days now and AF due this Friday. I think next month I'll have to try to forget all about TTC as thinking about it is clearly screwing up my body. AF since ERCP in Feb have all been different cycle lenghts but I think it's just my body trying to get back to normal.
This all makes me sound a bit mad (only a bit?) but this is such a good place to vent your emotions. Thanks for listening!

Maisie- does sound like your body trying to get back on track, I wouldn't worry about the menopause yet if I were you, you've plenty of time to get baby making.

Boodle- how awful for you. Really nasty twist to it all isn't it. Hope you manage ok- i don't know what to say other than soon it will be you. You will get a sticky bean soon and you can come here and vent to us when she's annoying you by being all fat and full of piles and acne!

Maisie, I worry about exactly the same thing! Especially when my cycle can be quite erratic. I even went as far as googling early menopause symptoms, which was a bit dangerous.

Boodle, that really sucks, especially with the same due date.
And no, no sign of af.

I have been temp charting and they have been a little bit mad as I have been a bit unwell so have no idea if I have even ovulated, so these pains might even be ovulation pains but I don't think so. I just can't stand the not knowing where the hell I am in my cycle. Do you even ovulate after a mc? You must, surely. Have I had a bit of a stealth ovulation this time round?

Hello ladies can I join you? Just had my 3rd MC in 6 months, but not going to give up yet. I've got my first blood tests for causes of RMC in an hour, and I think this is just the start of a few really rocky years. It's impossible to find understanding people outside of cyberspace when nobody ever talks about it, so would really like to bag a place on the sofa and have some cyberfriends to turn to.

sorry if that makes me sound slightly weird in the "please like me!" kind of way :s

Hi Hoping, lots of luck with the blood tests. I have to dash to sainsburys now, lucky me, but just wanted to say hello. Sorry that you are in such a horrible situation but this is a really lovely thread for venting all sorts of random thoughts, none too ridiculous.

I think the internet gives us a better chance to be completely honest about how we are feeling in perhaps a way we wouldn't be with our friends and family. I hope we can all be of some help and comfort to you.

i have spoken to the lovely lady in question via email today and she is a knickerchecker!! turns out she had to have erpc after MMC for her last preg so she totally knows ow shit i am feeling and i don't feel any resentment towards her at all now - she is so grateful that her preg is progressing and still so worried it night happen again - clearly it is sooo common what we are/have been going through....that lack of resentment might change when as you say totally she is covered in preg symptoms but today its all good...
i am on CD11 so will be deffo babydancing CD11 13 15 17 19 21....phew,i am exhausted jsut thinking about it....ha. sex drive is still pretty nil...at least i can justifiably have good old missionary position citing 'best for conception' excuses....no lampshade swinging and nipple tassled bonkathons for me thank you very much....

welcome to you hoping....don't hold back, nowt too bonkers to discuss on this sofa...good luck with bloods.

I'm glad you sorted things out with her boodle. I find it hard not to look at other pregnant women without jealousy, but I always try and tell myself that I don't know what they've been to in order to get there.... It's amazing how many people have been through the crapness we're all going through.

I'm on CD13. Managed to bd every day this week, but have my parents coming for the weekend sigh tomorrow. Am hoping we can still get a little bd in a couple of times, as I don't want to let this month go by....

Oh, sorry forgot to say hello to hoping how rude of me!

Girls, I have to dash out but I just peed on a stick and I have a BFP!!!!

Have no idea when or how, but its very definite. I need to go get a digital one to find out when it all happened. I am but also absolutely terrified.

Hope everyone is out enjoying the sun
xxx