Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

Hello all,
Cor Teachers and MC's hey. I'm no scientist but I swear the stress can't help us either concieve or hold onto a bub. Personally when I was pregnant I was flipping terrified of all the great lumps larking about in the corridoors and bashing my then non visible bump. (I work in a secondary school!) but then it seems my emby stopped growing when I flew to Thailand for 3 weeks on honeymoon and that was hardly stressful so I shall ignore my scientist brain trying to make links for us!

I have to hand my notice in on 31st to go freelance teacher trainer in my specialist subject but AF is probably due on 28th. Hmmm if I do get a BFP it would be so wrong not to quit just so I can get mat benefits wouldn't it? Ack I think I would quit anyway- the terror of being knocked in the corridoor is too great! (Luckywinner- I teach child dev as one of my things- so I completely understand where you are coming from- unfortunately my other specialism involves a lot of discussion about pregnancy, childbirth and abortion. Bah!)

By the way does anyone else find themselves secretly looking forward to AF post MC or is it just me? We didn't even have a month off before trying again but I figure this month is the only month I won't mind too much getting AF and not a BFP as it is a sign my body is kicking back into "normal". Although interestingly for me one of my wierd yet destinctive post ov symptoms has gone (period pain after orgasm- how weird is that!) to be replaced by worsening morning nausea (I used to get very mild morning nausea post ov previously which always throws you as you think yippee morning sickness- but now it is worse- is fine as soon as I eat something though- progesterone causes the nausea and maybe my body is more sensitive to it following the MMC- joy of joys!

Anyhow have to go to a meeting but hope all is well, and that womb linings are thickening, eggs are ovulating, beans are sticking and hormone levels are normal and all is right as can be under the circumstances with the TTC post MC world.
xxx

Yes Thandeka I was VERY pleased to see my AF 42 days after my miscarriage...such a relief to know your body just kicks back into its normal mode

i tested myself today with a HPG not to try and get a positive result but actually hoping for a negative...i got a negative and was very pleased as now the next time i see a positive i will know it is because i am actually pregnant again instead of worrying that its just hormones hanging over from before my MC.....hopefully that doesn't sound crazy to you lot....DH thinks i am bit nuts today....and has a cold so has asked to be excused from our 'wax on' tonight.....is it rational to stab him in the leg with a fork til he cries i wonder.....

Completely rational and I used at least 10 hpts doing the same thing! (Never bulk buying again!)

Boodleboot- entirely justified. No excuses from the male species about "waxing on" (love the term by the way!) just tell him that if he doesn't wax on you will be coming after his testicles with a big needle to extract what you need. His choice- the easy way or the hard way.

Okay this is going to sound derranged but last night I had "fizzy nipples" which is a bizarre fizzy sensation in my nips which I have only ever got when pregnant for the only time. So I suspect it may be the bizarrest symptom ever. This morning my temp had shot up again making my chart tripahsic (good sign) and I nearly threw up when putting the thermometer in my mouth. Also last night I could feel the same "burrowing" sensation in my womb area I did last time. Oh and I am weeing all the time but that is more likely because I have a UTI which I am shifting by drinking pints and pints of water. Final thing is my Early pregnancy signs analyzer is on 54 points (out of 100) and I am only 6DPO which is the highest it has ever been this early post ov. (Pregnant month it racked up to 88points before I got my BFP but think it wasn't in the 50's this early). So erm not over analyzing or anything but quietly hopeful. I tested negative after about 2 weeks and tested this morning OBVIOUSLY way to early and it was negative but in my imagination there was a line (but it really was my imagination so we are ignoring that!)

My miscarriage was 32 days ago and my period is due on day 38. So keeping fingers crossed. Although of course if i am I will be in a total panic it was too soon after the MMC and into constant knicker checking mode. DH has a degree in engineering so will get him to whip me up an ultrasound machine for home use.

Sounds very promising Thandeka keep us updated!
Boodleboot not crazy at all- at my final check-up appointment at the hospital after mc they did a pregnancy test to make sure of the same thing. It is a relief to know next time, a positive will be a real positive

Thanks for dragging me back Lucky, I couldn't find the thread it went off my threads.

Feel like a fraud though- can't try with no AF.

Totally put it in Threads I'm Watching otherwise it falls off the radar.

Have you had af since mc? And have you gone straight on with trying since mc? And one last question, do you know when you ovulated? Sorry if you'll be repeating yourself.

No AF since MC, I have started trying straight away, and I don't know when I ovulated, I have a digital test but can't find any sticks for it in the shops or online. It's the digital clearblue with the smiley face. I think I might have ovulated about a week and a half ago because my hip was twinging, but then I might just be kidding myself IYKWIM.

Totally I don't really know whether I am being of any help but I just wanted to let you know I know how you feel. Doesn't it feel like you have no control over something so huge?

What is it that makes you feel the worst about it?
When I had my first mc all I could think about and obsess about was that I wasn't ever going to get pregnant. I had had a termination when I was 21 and all I could think about was I had blown my chance to have a baby.

I feel for you that you are feeling so fed up.

Totally - I know exactly how you feel. I had to wait 9 weeks after my MMC for my AF to arrive and they were the longest months ever.

I was prescribed some medication to kick start everything again and the same day AF arrived.

So hang in there, everything will sort its self eventually for you.

hello everyone....just having a slight panic as the other day when i did that HPT it showed neg line straight away so i didn't bother waiting any longer and just put it straight into my handbag (i was at work) to dispose of later. well just got around to throwing it away (such a scuzzer....forgot it was there....)looked at it again and there is a less bright but definite other line, so one bright and one faint....its days later obviously now but what does this mean that there is still a line?

sure 3wks after a MMC ( i assume that means medical miscarriage) surely i shouldn't have hormones still floating around that would be showing up as still preg?
should i get one of those digital tests that say pregnant, not pregnant?
its surely to early to have fallen again isn't it? oh when will my body be my own again???!!!

thoughts girls?

Hi Boodle If I were you I'd buy another test, doesn't have to be digital, and try again. The BFN you got before putting the test in your bag is most likely the right one. If left for hours/days, another line can apparently appear but that isn't a real positive. If you get a BFP on this one, maybe speak to a doctor, I would think it's not a new pregnancy.

Sorry about your miscarriage and it is frustrating waiting on your body but it'll get there

MMC means missed miscarriage by the way; as in, the type when you find out baby has died but you've had no bleeding etc yet.

thanks cupcake - i went and got another test a digital one and it came up NOT PREGNANT....thank goodness (IYSWIM) that way i will def know the next time will be a good old straightforward positive....

hello everyone.
I just tested and it's a BFP! I am so excited. There is only a feint positive line ... but that still means it's positive doesn't it? I dragged my DH out of bed at 6am to check and he agrees it is a positive line...although I think I am going to pop to the shops to get another test.
It's so exciting but so scarey too. It will be okay this time won't it? I've got to think it will be.

Happy- congratulations!! So chuffed for you. This is deffo a lucky thread A positive is a positive. It'll all be ok, I'm sure. Xx

Wow this is a great thread! Congratulations Happybump. Erm I think I may just have got a very very faint BFP too- started another thread on that dilemma! (Naughty me early testing as AF due Tuesday) so lets all keep fingers, legs, brains crossed for us all to work out this time!

Wow. 2 bfps! Congratulations happybump and Thandeka* !

okay my BFP may have gone away again when testing with FMU so holding off on the champagne just yet (What do you mean champagne isnt advisable right now!? )

Should know definitively (well as definitively as you can) by Wednesday.

Fingers crossed.

Hi- Thanks all. I posted on the Feb Bus thread too. We did a CB digital test and it was positive! yey!
This is indeed a lucky thread!
Thandeka - congrats! - we can go through the joy of knicker checking together!

Totally - thanks for your words of encouragement.
I am looking forward to hearing some more good news from all of you soon.
xx

Fingers crossed for you Thandeka.

I got my AF friday thank God- it's taken a weight off as I was worried my body was all messed up. Can start trying again in 10 days. Woohoo. DP is desperate to have a baby and refers to the MC as 'her' which I actually like because it feels more real then IYSWIM.

Lucky- I've been having the same thoughts, worrying that I won't be able to have a baby. I'm convinced it'll never happen. I had womb infections and stuff after DS and it worries me. Thanks for being so lovely.

i can't believe nearly a month has passed since i had my scan and saw that the baby i thought was coming isn't coming...i went through a phase this week of thinking now i feel physically normal and mentally not as anguished as i was perhaps i don't really want to try again and have another baby....i have two healthy amazing kids and a step daughter whom i love so perhaps i am just being greedy? i finally said it out loud to my DH and he just looked at me and said 'have you considered the possibility that your head is telling you that you don't want another baby because it is trying to protect you from the possibility of another loss, i think you are just scared and that is ok cos i'm scared too....we want a child and we will have one ok?'

he was totally right of course and knows me so well it is scary and it really helps to know that i am not doing this alone....it is our loss together and it will be our 'victory' together when we get a sticky bean....can't wait for AF to show up now...

good luck to everyone, congrats to the lucky few we have so far and lets bring on the BFP's....

boodlebot - I'm in the same boat. It'll be a month this week, so I'm patiently waiting and hoping that af comes.... I'm very much up and down emotionally at the moment. Some days I feel fine and positive and ready to ttc again, other days I just feel so depressed and blue I'm desperate to start ttc again, so pray that af arrives on time (ish).

Reading about all the bfps on here does make me positive though. Congrats to everyone!

amyboo I felt the same way when I was waiting for AF after my mmc.. so frustrating having to just sit tight and read about everyone else ttc! Don't worry, she'll come soon and then you have the excitement of starting all over again (tinged with fear of course, but we are all here for those moments!)

It is exactly 2 months today since I found out baby cupcake had died it feels like so much longer.

How's everyone feeling today? I'm really excited as AF is nearly over and I'm looking forward to trying.

I have a question. I'm due my AF in July when I'm on my wedding holiday and obviously I don't want it then. If I'm not pregnant by then, will I be able to get those tablets to stop AF or will that affect if I already am pregnant by then but don't know IYSWIM? And will they affect the TTC?

If that made any sense at all?

Boodleboot- had a very similar talk with my DP last week some time. I think it's a normal thing to go through. Glad you've decided to stay with us!