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Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

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MumOfBaby · 01/05/2009 19:11

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

OP posts:
stressyheady · 23/08/2009 15:55

Congrats boodle that's fantastic news. Somehow we all knew you'd fall this month please hang around and sprinkle some baby dust our way.

Still F.A. for me - haven't got a scooby what's going on. Other than between ERPC and first AF I've never been this long. Am getting v frustrated as just want AF over and done with now (as she should have been if the bitch had been on time) so I can get back to bding.

Can't believe that there's any way I'm pg as have no symptoms and last day I tested (something like CD32) on a digital clearblue was negative and surely a sensitive test would show something by then if there was anything there.

ARRRRGGGGGHHH.

Still, on the plus side - it's a gorgeous day and DS is finally getting the hang of the potty (well, not poos but still...)

LeeWT · 23/08/2009 16:55

Hi all got my bfp on 3rd august which feels like a lifetime ago but funny I was more excited telling u guys than the April 2010 bus because I think we've been thru more and needed more hope.. The bfp I got on aug 3rd would have been cd31 and was v v faint..

Therefore stressy I maintain that til af shows her witchy face it ain't over.. After getting such faint +ve I scoured Internet pages and found out that it's rare to ov late.. On 32 day cycle shud be cd18 but can take upto 11 days to implant which took me up to cd29 and from that point takes few days for hcg levels to rise hence why the sensitive, tells u six days before test gave me a bfn!

Boodle (every time I type that my phone changes it to noodle!) I too had mmc which stopped progressing at 6 wks but had bad feeling so asked for scan at 8 wks they sent me away for a week and finally confirmed the worst at 9 wks so I can understand you wanting a scan. Can I suggest waiting til 7 wks tho? U won't know when u implanted so could be few days off either way and when u go there might not be heartbeat coz it's early whereas if u leave it to 7 you'll be sure?
I'm 7+1 by standard dates or 6+4 by my longer cycle dates so will try get a scan early next week..

Wow I've written a load of crap.. Am tired but too sick to sleep so am keeping u gals company instead!!

stressyheady · 23/08/2009 18:46

Hmmm...needing lots of advice, support, good vibes. As I was posting earlier I asked dh to go and get me some supermarket cheapies. Have just taken one - BFP. How is that possible? was -tive on CD 32 and just now is v v v feint but defo a line. Will take the other one in a.m just to be sure.

Not excited tho as a convinced it's all going same way as last time - have no symptoms at all - even less than last time yet am, theoretically, 5 weeks (by lmp. Time will tell I guess but feeling V . I could cope with the v late bfp if I had a shred of symptoms but nowt.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

LeeWT · 23/08/2009 19:26

STRESSY!! you are repeating EXACTLY what I said if you look back on this thread and YOU said to be positive!!! have you had a period since mc? you mustve had one coz we mc at the same time.. the other thing that would explain it would be stress making you ov late and given your name thats entirely possible.

Take a digital, no other, tomorrow..

All the millions of good luck and vibes in the world and hopefully you'll be on the graduates list asap!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Am here anytime, hope you're ok coz i know i was a complete basketcase when i got my bfp, it wasnt the excitement it had been before

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

stressyheady · 23/08/2009 20:14

Thanks lee (sorry, does that make me a hypocrite) just goes to show it's easier said than done . How long before you started feeling pg?

Just like (was it you?) said having mc'd before takes all the innocence away from it. Am just a stresshead now!! Even dh not acting excited. Just that awful waiting now. Won't be convinced until have decent scan and doc says it's ok (well as much as they can)

Don't feel like I belong on graduates yet.

Still..even bigger news - DS pooed in the right place tonight!!!!!

LeeWT · 23/08/2009 20:49

hon im just reminding you what the rational stressy would have said and that is to be positive because i have now learned that a line is a line is a line!!

but we were in (weirdly) the exact same position. i mustve done a million tests but the ones that made my heart soar were the clearblue digital because it said outright - Pregnant. i did one of those a few days after my first faint bfp but in the meantime did first response, boots, internet cheapies etc.

Also depending on the supermarket, some of the cheapies can have a threshold of 50miu of hcg where others can be 20miu so you can imagine you'll get differing lines.

it must have been really end of week 5, 6 and now that ive been sick. only nauseous and tired.. boobs became sore only a week after bfp..

Here's my advice/what I learned for what its worth and this is eerie having been through such a similar thing with mmc, one AF, frantic 2ww, faint bfp, disbelief, utter panic and mixed feelings :

Right now you are pregnant and whatever will happen for better or worse, that's your little bean in there. I tried to deny it to myself and not be happy in a vain attempt to protect myself in case things go wrong but at the end of the day you cant protect yourself and even though the innocence of jumping up and down over bfps is gone, you owe it to this bean to be happy it's here and adjust your lifestyle accordingly and hope for the best.

I came to that conclusion after crying and feeling panicked and depressed after getting my bfp which i didnt expect.. and now ive said fcuk it, ive lucked up due dates, been to the dr and while ive been more restrained and not told many people and while of course i worry more, I'm trying to hope for the best..

hope you are ok xxx

stressyheady · 23/08/2009 21:08

Thanks hon. At the moment I'm just trying to be v normal about it and trying to think that if it's meant to be it will.

Not realising, I've been lugging a v heavy ds around, stressing at work (usual for me - v stressful and busy job), drinking wine (not loads) and diet coke and tons of choc (my usual vices before af) so if bean is going to stick it will despite all that

The way I figure it is if you get a bfp or lsp (little skinny postive!) on a cheapie it's bound to be true as they detect lower levels on the whole.

LeeWT · 23/08/2009 21:18

you're right! and sure i was proper p*ssed twice, in a hot tub, ate soft cheese and did several other things i shouldnt have..

also if my poor dd survived body combat classes and my hen weekend then it means some babies are just stickers and here's hoping yours and mine are!

x

boodleboot · 23/08/2009 21:55

yay stressy....thats great news....we get to graduate together....totally understand how you are feeling....i was there last night in the denial phase but seeing the digital reading has given me the confidence to say that yes actually i am pregnant, f*cking terrified, but yes pregnant.

lee - what you said about we should be excited for this bean made me very tearful and i agree, we really need to be optimistic and grateful for everyday we get to carry it {hopefully ALL THE WAY....}

God willing all our beans stay where they should....

i'd like to suggest a thread to run alongside this thread named 'totally's graduates...'.....to reflect where we are at in our journey and so that people TTC are not put off by our knicker checking...what do you think? An 'aswell as' thread not 'instead of'....what do you reckon?

LeeWT · 23/08/2009 22:16

Boodle that's a great idea we can put our +ve vibes into this one and have a secret knicker check panic in the other..

And you've made me teary now! That's how I do feel though like this bean deserves us to be glad to have them and excited for it's future but it took me a week to get there so hope you two recent grads can take some strength from it..

Love and hormones to the grads and love and babydust to everyone else!

applesaretheonlyfruit · 23/08/2009 22:33

Congrats to the new graduates.. wow, there seem to be so many over the last couple of days. This is good. For everyone. Positive outcomes, etc, imagining it being us and empathising with the shock and wonder of pos test, and the fear after mc.

However, the 2-year-old in me (yeah, I'm now 40), is having a different head conversation something along the lines of : Another one!! Oh my God. It will now NEVER be me, because they have TAKEN all the pregnancies away!!!

Sorry, bad night. Forgot to cancel a couple of pregnancy email subscriptions, so I just got a helpful one from ivillage, contratulating me on being 14 weeks pregnant! (their exclamation mark).. cancelled the bugger now though.

boodleboot · 23/08/2009 23:09

oh apples thats shite. i had one last week from the DWP reminding me it was time to send of for my maternity grant for lost bean...it was gutting.

this is a lucky thread tho.....really it is....stick with us...all the pregnancies are NOT GONE but i totally identify with that way of thinking....irrationality is just that IRRATIONAL.....

boodleboot · 23/08/2009 23:17

Totally's GRADS...lets handhold thru this.... - new thread started in preg....not deserting you tho everybody else - of that i promise.....

Meita · 23/08/2009 23:20

Wow boodle and stressy! I'm so excited for you!!!

Not much news from me - still in Switzerland, still no AF (though temp has dropped, so expecting her any day now).

(IF temp goes up again tomorrow AND AF still doesn't arrive (which is very unlikely) THEN I will go to pharmacy first thing, buy HPT, POAS and let you all know what happened...)

apples I wrote something regarding your question on the other thread!

I hope everyone is well - thanks cheepz for that summary, very useful!

Cheepz · 23/08/2009 23:34

boodle and stressy fantastic news - boodle i knew it, i knew you would be ... massive massive rah to you

no news here either way, have not tested, but no af, but then it is my first cycle post mc so could just be a long one, feel not pregnant at all, although stressys posts are making me think maybe i should consider doing a test at some point next week if nothing further - maybe late in the week, but I am abit reluctant as unless I start to get some symptoms, even though I don't think I am, I will be sad and frustrated.

The few symptoms I have - headaches and cramps normally indicate AF is on her way.

Great that you are starting a grads thread, means we can follow your progress there and know there is a destination other than the monthly bus which is full of people who are rightly happy but not at all worried (like me last time) who are in a different mind place than grads from here!

Just had a lovely weekend in the garden with the my dh and ds weeding and planting and paddling pooling. Love these sunny weekends.

Hope all others are hanging in there, extra hug for apples - flipped my calender at the beginning of the month and saw I had scribbled 12 weeks at the end of August - I think its one of those things that gets us all at some point.

Loving this thread at the moment!

applesaretheonlyfruit · 23/08/2009 23:45

Hi, just had a bath, but had to come back because now I feel a bit bad. As if there are only sooo many pregnancies handed out per thread (yeah, sounds a bit mad when you say it out loud). And obviously none of you lovely ladies are preggers with my baby... and you have been down the same mc path, and you deserve these beans!!

Boodle, you have just reminded me that being irrational is usually (but not exclusively) at its peak just before AF or OV. > sniffs air

LeeWT · 23/08/2009 23:48

apples have a look at the April 2010 bus there were so many grads I thought I'd jinxed myself by being on the list but here I am as well as a couple after me.. There's always a chance. .

cheepz the other good thing about the new thread is that anyone can join at any time instead of being restricted to the month you are due .. Tho since totally didn't start this thread I hope people will know who we are IYKWIM..

X

amyboo · 24/08/2009 08:53

Just back from my holidays in the sunny South of France and I've seen boodle's and stressy's great news! Congratulations to you both!

I've got another gynae appointment today. I should be 8+3, so I'm stressing that it's going to be OK... Might go and check out the new thread, as I'm no way joining a bus until I'm about 20 weeks this time!

Cheepz · 24/08/2009 09:28

Morning all
AF arrived - as anticipated and I am relieved that its not been a super long post mc cycle and that I haven't had to start wondering - I was pretty sure I was not pg this time around so not feeling bad about it. Now I am in cycle 1 and my cycle 'wtf is going on' is over.

I almost feel like I have had a month off from the stress of being on top of counting days and monitoring cm and so on because I had no idea when was good and when was not. Now though I don't think I will be so complacent - Persona started again this morning so will be back into the daily check red day / green day looking for ovulation days and a nerve wracking 2ww. Ah well post mc ttc holiday over - I do feel like I am in an emotionally better place and I was worried that if I ttc too quickly my body wouldn't be ready and I might mc again right away and then I would have to wait even longer - i know this isn't what happens but in my head it would have set me way back emotionally if this had happened!!

Anyway I have revised the list - moved myself and added Stressy to the grads - our list of grads is getting ever longer so feeling like thats got to be a good thing.

Hows everyone else today? waiting, chamois any news from you?

meita looks like you have reached day 44 finally - any sign of AF?

tfls have you been 'getting jiggy with it?!' likewise mrsR trixel where are you?!!!

Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle ? CD44
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 0 CD32
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD27
becky78 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD20
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD20
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD20
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD15
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD?+13
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD12
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD10
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD1

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August

stressyheady · 24/08/2009 09:46

Thanks for your congrats guys though I really don't feel like I deserve them yet and, although trying to be positive, am now in the "this is just the first step" frame of mind. We shall see...

Feel guilty for all my whining and complaining now but I really don't feel pg so she could still come...!

oh apples am sorry you're feeling shite. I really do know how you feel having been there many times myself, even with friends who mc'd before I did and then they got pg and I still had that feeling of and "when the hell is it going to be my turn?"

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 24/08/2009 12:17

Stressy and Boodle, you did it!! Yay. I knew it'd be this month for you guys! I know the nest few weeks will be fairly crappy for you both- I couldn't chill until my 12 week scan. I'm getting on for 14 weeks now. It's crazy. Still haven't told work. Hope all goes well for you both xxx

thefatladyscreams · 24/08/2009 15:49

Yiperdeedee - I'm so pleased for you boodle and stressy! That's absolutely fantastic news. What a double whammy. Lots of positive vibes to you and lots of sticky glue to your little beans. Hope you can both stay relatively chilled - things are largely out of your control now so go with the flow and enjoy each day. Hope that wasn't the wrong thing to say, but it's so easy to get worried and preoccupied trying to control and influence things when it reality we'd be better off relaxing.

Sorry about AF cheepz but glad you sound OK about it. Hopefully your body is now back in synch and you're in good shape for this month.

Welcome back amyboo - hope you had a good holiday.

And lovely to hear from you meita. You sound relaxed - hope you're having a great time despite the award-puzzling cycle.

apples - sorry you've hit a low patch. But please remember it is just that. This is a real rollercoaster. Hoping you're back on an up soon xxx (blimey will get banned for the xxx )

waiting - my AF was actually a couple of days early. I've been told that the first AF after m/c is a real mystery and will be whatever it wants to be!

[TFLS puts out her hands to bask in reflective glow of BFPs!]

waitingisntfun · 24/08/2009 19:19

Stressy! That's so exciting. I guess BFPs are like buses!

I've had a tiny bit of spotting today - not like usual period which is super heavy from the word go. So far it's just like it was last month but trying not to think about it / compare too much. Will just wait and see if AF shows up properly... Think I'm going to have to give clear blues to DH to hide

stressyheady · 24/08/2009 20:01

Thanks waiting, TFLS, Cheepz and Meita I couldn' have made it through the last couple of months without all of you (and there's still a LOOOONG way to go yet).

Sorry to hear AF got you cheepz but pleased you can be a bit relaxed about it - at least knowing where yhuo will be in yuor cycle will be one less thing to worry about.

Enjoy the rest of your time in Switzerland meita

You never know waiting spotting could be a V good sign.

Lot of hugs to all. Will keep checking in if I may (really don't feel like a grad yet)

stressyheady · 24/08/2009 20:02

and by all of you I mean everyone on this thread not just those I mentioned!

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