Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

Boodleboot, I've put myself on the list, though not I'm not entirely sure I've done it right

Hopefully you'll have that much of a good time on holiday that you'll forget all about TTC. I have to say though I'm feeling very positive for you.

I'm glad you like having sex with your dh. Wish I could - enjoy having sex with my dh that is . It's not his fault, no man has been able to do it for me, I've just never liked sex, I fail to see the point of it - well aside from getting pregnant and I'm starting to think that's no great thing anymore.

Sorry, don't mind me - 9 month old ds is getting to me today . He's being VERY distructive, cry's all the sodding time (must stop hitting him with the fire poker) and will not let himself (or us) sleep.

Explain to me the point of TTC ???

And I'll bet I've bugged the list up.

And I have a headache. I've had it since I got up this morning.

Sorry, I'm going to go away and drown my sorrows with a 1.5l bottle of water and the omnibus edition of The Bold and the Beautiful and then come back more positive.

boodle - I have had various symptoms of ovulation and been busy with the bd, although not yet had af but early mc so maybe that cycle will be similar to normal in which case we are on a similar track - smae cycle length, same cycle day - so more than happy to do some hand holding especially since have very low expectations for self this month so not too focussed on own 2ww

hope all ok

hello mrs r welcome, looking forward to hearing all about your unhealthy obsession with ttc along with the rest of us

cheepz....its you and me kid....hold on... - you MUST detail all symptoms IMMEDIATELY of poss preg IMMEDIATELY so we can obsess over them together....those are the terms ha ha.... i am going to try not to test until i return from holiday on the 21st but given my pst form regarding folding on my word after about three mins i hope i can hold out until thurs next week...have just realised AF is due 23rd not 21st...my maths is clearly shite...be lovely if you were to fall straight away....i really wanted that to happen to me but now in a funny way i am glad because i have really had a chance to grieve for the babe lost and start to move on from it rather than it just be an extension of the previous lost pregnancy IYSWIM?

this month it must be said has been the nicest TTC so far, whether or not that is bcos of the acupuncture or not i have NO idea but given how anxious i was and utterly obsessed last month this has been a welcome break from being a mental nutcase....

Hi Ladies,

Hope all is well. I've been off the radar for a while as up to my neck in trying to clean hell-hole of a house (why do I let it get into such a state? and embarking on potty training (lost-the-will to-live-emoticon)!!

lee hope you continue to feel crappy - IYSWIM - it's a good sign!! and glad to hear you're not stressing.

great to hear from you totally glad all is going well.

Hope the rest of you are coping with BD, TWW etc - there's quite a few of us to keep track of now.

Welcome MrsR and LOL to your not seeing the point of BD - totally sympathise sometimes as, TBH, if they could invent some injection or something to save the hassle I wouldn't say no! I do like BD but not every other bloody night!! Wish I was an 18 yr old nympho again (TMI )

Just another week or so of waiting to go but really feel like AF is on way, boobs slightly uncomfy and in a foul mood plus feeling that usual crampy feeling so apologies in advance for the four letter rant I'll subject you all to in a week or so

Evening all, hope everyone is doing well. boodle you sound so chilled out and positive this month - acupuncture definitely seems to agree with you!

Friend at work had her 12wk scan today - all is well and I'm really pleased for her but still makes me feel a bit sad as it should have been me

Still, have two nights in a hotel this weekend as going to a friends wedding so our bonkathon starts then - no idea when I ovulate so just going to go for it this month before getting any more technical about working it out (I have preseed on order from Amazon though, thought it was worth a try )

From the list it looks like there should be lots of testing in the next few days - keep us informed ladies

Good to have you back totally - did you have an amazing wedding?

Hi

I'm brand new here and just posted a similar thread to this... It took me 7 months to get pregnant and I miscarried at 5 weeks. Decided not to wait before TTC again - doctors said it was fine - so don't know when I'm due.

Just wanted to know we weren't the only ones going through it all

An official hello to you waiting (having just recruited you from different thread ! wish you weren't here iyswim but there are a lovely but lovel bunch of hand-holders here so you're in good company.

It's so sad to see how many of us have experienced mcs. I never realised it affected so many women. A symptom of modern life or are we just better at spotting it early nowadays?

good to hear from you becky hope you had great time in Isle of Wight.

Night, night all - am sprinkling some virtual baby dust on your pillows!!

Thanks stressy, Isle of Wight was lovely (despite af!), beautiful weather and properly relaxing - all sun, sea and sailing boats

I know what you mean about how common mc was, I spent years terrified of accidently getting pregnant and when the time is right it is a lot tricky than people tell you.

Hi waiting, sorry to hear your news but welcome to the thread

Hello waiting we're in a very similar boat - it took us 6 months TTC and then I too MCd at 5 weeks. And we're straight back to TTC. Sorry that you had to find your way here too.

Stressy I think that yes, it is in part due to us being able to test earlier - many MCs would earlier just have been experienced as late AF. But in part I think it's also due to most people not telling anyone that they're pg until the end of the first trimester, and so they don't get to tell people when they MC either. Which makes lots of MCing happen behind closed doors, IYSWIM?

becky I succumbed and tested this morning, but unfortunately I got a BFN. Still, I'm not letting go of hope until AF arrives. My temp chart is not looking bad at all, so who knows? Although could be way off due to post-MC hormonal havoc.

Good night... Or rather good morning, as most of you will be reading this tomorrow I suppose!

Morning everyone

I've now come to the realisation that I either have cancer of the womb or I'm pregnant .

Last night I actually managed to convince myself for about 40 minutes that I was neither, though I still sat on the couch with DH with my hands on my tummy.

I'm enjoying the quiet at the moment, DS has finally decided he wants to sleep, probably only got 40 minutes, but that's better than nothing. At least I can now grab 1/2 cup of very weak coffee (have stopped all caffine aside from this and as soon as I am proved right in my diagnosis of pregnancy then I will stop all together) and some toast.

Last night DH and I were supposed to be having sex, but he said he was too tired - even though he got an erection (sorry TMI). So we never did it. I mean SERIOUSLY how the hell does he think babies are conceived . All I got out of him last night and this morning was apology after apology and "my fishies stay around for 5 days don't they".

I couldn't sleep last night, well I did but it took me a good 2 hours to get to that point. Thinking over and over, what if I have already ovulated and we've missed another chance, what if tomorrow is too late. We're trying for a baby, but we've only had sex twice since starting last Saturday.

Anyway...

Morning Boodleboot your maths can't be as bad as mine - I failed GCSE 5 times (you'd think after the third fail I'd give up).

Stressyheady I'm already having nightmares about potty training. We were at our friends house (she's currently 14 weeks pregnant with no.2) and they were boasting how they had already trained their 2 year old DS out of nappies and on to the potty. Cue DS coming into the living room, taking out his penis (they called it a winkie) and weeing on the floor. This was followed by DS lying on the couch and playing with himself

Waitingisntfun welcome. I'm so sorry to hear about the MC. Good luck to you.

Good morning,

leewt TTC#3 graduated
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 3 CD26
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 0? CD 32
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 0? CD28
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD25
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 0? CD18
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD18
Chamois TTC#1 UCL a mystery! cycle 0? CD14
becky78 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD8
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD8
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? CYCLE 1 CD ?+1

TFLS... any news? I'm bursting of curiosity! (Just call me nosy if you prefer )

How is everyone today?

No news here... Temp still looking good, AF not arrived - but didn't test this morning so nothing new since yesterday's BFN.

DS is sucking on the packet of Pregnacare tablets , I won't take them away from him as he'll scream the house down and I have a headache - besides he's now accepting mashed food with lumps in and the vitamins can only do him good.

Oh wait no, he's now fiddling about with DH new blu-ray DVD player. We got the black one (I'm not being racist, I just wanted it to match the TV which is black and also a Samsung). It's the one that has the flip down thing that covers the buttons. We thought brilliant, this is for us, this will stop DS playing with the buttons. Only DS isn't bothered about the buttons, DS loves the flap and the flap on the Sky+ box covering the card.

Can we all please take a minute of silence for the DVD player and the Sky+ box.

Okay, he's now on to the metformin tablets (for any PCOS women, I'm on 850mg bd). On a happy note he's now relinqished the pregnacare tablets. Just goes to show that DS didn't inherit my genes and that men are inept at doing 2 things at once.

Afternoon all

boodle so far have felt hormonal, sick and boobs seem to be growing, oh and gained 3 pounds but pretty sure thats from eating too many bbq bangers on the weekend. Had ewcm day 9 - cue shag and day 14 cue shag and haven't since. Have not had cramps which normally get with OV but did have around day 9 but am thinking thats too soon after mc. I see exactly what you mean about not feeling so bad about it being a few months. When my mc forst happened I just wanted to be pg again right away - but now if it takes a little time so be it.

waiting sorry to hear your bad news but welcome to the club and you are in good company here

mrs R LOL my ds crapped on someone elses lawn at the weekend right after I had a lecture from another Mum about how I really should start to think about potty training - he has only just identified that he has a pee pee let alone figured out what to do with it, hate those early potty sucess stories just compounds my feelings of failure on that front but life is hectic enough without scooping poop off the floor on a daily basis and ds is only 26 months

meita and tfls hoping for some good news from you ladies ..... xxxxx

Cheepz that's funny.

There do seem to be some very competitive mothers out there. I have to say even though the thought of potty training brings me out in a cold sweat, I'm happy for him to wear a nappy as long as he want's to

I'm of the reverse psychology camp ie. tell DS to do something or agree to it and he won't, tell him not to do something and he will .

as long as they don't poo in their pants when they go to big school who really cares?? i very cleverly went to New York when my son was 2 and 1/2 leaving kids with mother for wk and when i came back he was done....magic.....ditto daughter, after a nasty relationship breakdown i moved back to parents for some solace and to save some cash and whilst i went to work mum got her clean and dry - and she was only 15 months.....magic......this potty training lark is EAAAASSSSYYYYY.....

cheepz - well i deffo have had some strong crampy feelings last night and did at the weekend too so i am really hoping that they are implantation pains, or at least one set of them were...am certain that am done ovulating, lots of creamy discharge today. FEel very aware of boobs IYSWIM with fluttery feeling in the nipples....still feeling really chilled and get butterflies when i think about testing next weekend opposed to feelings of manic dread....that is my status update...(not really for FB that one tho eh!!?? )

TFLS - what news what news??

boodle please may I borrow your mother for a week? If I have to deal with one more piece of poo I think I'll cry. In the three minutes DS wasn't in pants this morning as I was getting him dressed he managed to do a poo on the bedroom carpet. DH says only solution is not to feed or water him.

mrs r totally with you on the reverse psychology thing. Anything that I utter is met with an instant "no" from DS at the moment - ARGHHHHHHHHH...

Feeling realy premenstrual now so don't think I'll be graduating this month. Had a little cry about it on way to work in car with DH and he just said "don't be so silly, we'll just try again next month, crying won't solve anything" which of course is true but didn't stop me feeling with him for not being a little more supportive/

Stressyheady men just don't understand, how hard it is to actually get pregnant and then maintain a pregnancy until birth. They don't have to go through it and they're pretty much uneducated about the whole process.

You might not be premenstrual, some women who are in the early stages of pregnancy suffer from premenstrual like symptoms...

When does AF visit?

Thanks MrsR I know it's hard for him too as it's an awful lot of pressure on him but a hug and a "it'll be ok" every now and again wouldn't go amiss .

With DS my boobs started killing on about CD 17 then from about CD 23 onwards I felt sick, knackered and starving so I can't help comparing my lack of symptoms this month with what I know I can feel when I am pg.

Having said that with bean that didn't stick in June I felt sweet FA apart from the odd cramp so i knew something wasn't right.

In theory AF could arrive as early as 16th or as late as 22nd. Have confession to make though I bought a double pack of first response the other day thinking "for when I need them" but of course caved and tested yesterday and today CD 24 and 25 and BFN. Last pg test +tive on CD 25 so really not holding out much hope.

So much for my being chilled about it all!!

Do you think my local chemist would agree to only sell me one pt per month - I need my poster up around town with a sign that says "DO NOT SELL FIRST RESPONSE TO THIS WOMAN"

Hi everyone,

Lots to catch up on and this thread has had me in stiches! Reading about the joys of competitive parenting and toilet training reminds me that there is some upside in not being pregnant . And a medal to boddle for her brilliant toilet training method! Must tuck that one away for future reference.

AF came early on Monday for me. Came as a surprise as I don't think I've ovulated since the m/c and I'd been so hooked onto charting and waiting for o/v, that it completely threw me. But I've churned it through and decided that it's good news as my body seems to be trying to right itself (she says through still slightly gritted teeth!)

Did love the quote "TTC is fun, but TWW is hell!"

Good luck to those coming up to test.

Welcome to MrsR and waitingisntfun. You will have realised by now that you've have joined some very obsessive insane well balanced ladies

stressy - I bet the testing industry is one part of the economy that is still holding up well.

Oh well, good to know that our landfill of peed on sticks serves a valuable purpose

Thanks for the welcome!

stressyheady - I keep comparing my body this month to how it felt last month pre-MC too:

'Ooo my boobs feel a bit weird... but are they as weird as before when it was painful to sleep on my front... but I think I was further on...' etc etc

You get the drift. It's tiring just typing it!

I think it's impossible to be chilled about it

Happy (not too early) testing

x

Hi ladies

Was wondering if I could please join this thread?

Had an MMC last month with my first (and unplanned!) pregnancy. DP and I are getting married in November and our original plan was to start TTC on honeymoon. However, fate got in the way a bit and I fell pg in early May.

Since we lost the baby, we've realised that we don't want to wait until after the wedding - so now I've got my first AF post-miscarriage, we're jumping on the TTC wagon. Eek.

So AF arrived this morning and strangely, it was quite a wrench, emotionally-speaking. Yet another reminder of what we've lost, if that makes sense. But am trying to be positive, and very much hoping that next time will be our time, so fingers crossed...

hi girls,
back from camping, catching up on you all, lovely to hear we're all in high spirits!
viv, welcome to the thread, sorry to hear about the mmc and the mixed emotions with your first af. it's tough, but we'll all help you through.
should be working, best get on, just wanted to pop in and clink glasses with you all

xx

oh dear. am very growly today....have woken up with a faceful of spots too...DH says this is no different to how i have been normally before period, BUT i feel diff. boobs hurting and just feel bit crappy. Mouth like Ghandi's flip flop.... boo..i couldn't get to my acupuncture this morning as realised i don't get paid til monday and am off in the morning to the new forest for a weeks camping so will need extra cash for weekend ice creams etc... At least the next week of the dreaded 2WW will be on hols. back late fri so will prob not be loggin on again til then....but should have a BFN or hopefully a BFP.....how cool would that be

can someone hold on to cheepz hand for me please?

will prob check in before i go in morning but may not have time.....have great week y'all....

i feel rubbish - if i had a fever i would suspect i had 'wine flu as we refer to is in this house, sore throat, achy joints, starting to get a runny nose. part of me is thinking come on then lets get it out of the way, but on the flip side i am thinking what if i am pg and it makes some harm for the bean..... booo

if not 'wine flu then almost certainly the coughing and spluttering bug ds has had all week no doubt a gift from nursery which has made him feel marginally unwell but will make me feel horrendous - why is it kid bugs barely touch their sides and then knock the parent for six?? seems like a bum deal to me

viv hello there sorry to see you and welcom

tfls at least you can graduate to being in cycle 1 as oppose to cycle 'who knows wtf is going on'

boodle spots is good for me - means hormones are crashing around doing stuff have fun in the new forest and will look forward to a full debrief of all sym,ptoms when you get back ... mouth like ghandis flip flop - priceless

right chicken soup and a night in front of the telly for me - the other thread i was tracking and posting on appears to have disappeared tfls you're on it to.. has it dropped off your list too??