Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

becky78 - what a scary thought. The amount of collective worrying/obsessing/thinking we must be doing would be enough to power the national grid!

LeeWT - welcome to the natural home for calendar wielding maniacs! You're in good company here .

cheepz - sorry about your friend's comment. Clearly a case of more mouth than brain.... Hope you're having a great weekend. I did misread your post that you were getting spicy with your hairdresser!

stressy - I'm not letting DH read your post about exciting and spontaneous BD being more effective. I hate to think what he would come up with! But when I conceived, it was on holiday with lots of long slow starts to the morning..... maybe we need to go away again .

boodle - hope your optimism revisits you quickly. I hate having my mood being held hostage to fortune - well, that's what it feels like sometimes. I've got my fingers crossed for your preseed.

amyboo - I don't think morning sickness usually starts until about 6 weeks so I'd enjoy the wait! Your boobs sound great though (if you know what I mean)!

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

Hello there, please may I join you on this thread? m/cd 2 days ago at 11 weeks and need to think about TTCing again if only to channel my thoughts into something positive! Sorry to see you're all in the same boat but glad to have found you.

i'm back!! and i have stopped bleeding, hurrah,

amyboo I didn't have many symptoms at all with ds, no sickness just tiredness, not even sore boobs so I wouldn't fret

lee hello - fingers crossed for your 2ww, thats my least favourite part!!

Bath was just what I needed. Major retail therapy. Bought some lovely new clothes that will hopefully not fit me for very long although did go for things with give, or classic things including lovely new lbd which will wear out next week in support of dh seduction excercise!

ds wants breakfast - back later

Hi everyone thanks for the welcomes.. Due af tomor and got bfn from first response test yesterday :-( was heading out on the tear so wanted to be sure first so now just waiting for af so I can start whole thing again..

Question tho - had two days really bad cramping .. One a few days after ov and one the day before yesterday but no af. Anyone know if this is because of recent mc?

All answers to wandering thoughts gratefully received x

Ah, bliss, the kids have gone for week to isle of wight with my XH and his lovely girlfriend so DH and i are contemplating decorating the lounge.....have bought paint and off to choose new blinds for lounge...definitely feeling back to normal mental level wise.....only slightly mental now

welcome lee, cheepz and any of you i haven't welcomed yet. prob time for a stats update for the new month....i'll start..

boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD7

lee have no idea what that cramping means but could be MC related. i didn't feel 'normal' to after my 1st propoer AF.....heres hoping for good news,

becky - preseed apparently just provides a really good 'swimming ground' for the sperm. i don't want to have to worry about being dry at all this month....stress does seem to make me dry up a bit by the third/fourth day in a row...

my bd hotspots this month 7th 8th 9th 10th 11th 12th. i will be using this stuff and lets just wait and see....trying to keep having it more often ingeneral tho.

glad you're just slightly mental now boodle!
welcome to lee and cheepz!

boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD7
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD23

amy, i didnt have any symptoms to speak of with my two boys, so it's really not a problem

got the inlaws arriving in about an hour for 5 nights - yes, 5 nights. have booked myself into rehab for next thursday to recover from the stress

might not get much chance to get on here, what with making endless cups of tea (then again, may need to take myself off for sanity's sake!)

love to you all in the meantime
x

not done this list before but i think i',m

boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD7
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD23
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27 - 28 cycle 0? CD7

have put 0 as no af since mc and cd 7 as 7 days since started bleeding so will treat this one like a longer than normal cycle - i am assuming cycle 1 is first cycle post 1st af post mc?

still nice to be able to log progress (or not!!)

Hope you're all having a good w/e. I have to go out tonite so no bd for me unless dh fancies staying up late (which I doubt!!)

Welcome Chamoi sorry to hear about your m/c. Turning your mind to ttc is a good way to try to be positive fingers crossed for you.

boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD7
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD23
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27 - 28 cycle 0? CD7
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD 14

Good luck with the in-laws trixel feel free to pop in and vent!

have already sneaked off - DH has taken them into town for something. realised i meant to welcome chamoi not cheepz, obviously the insanity's set in already!
thanks stressy, think i'm gonna need it!

am doing this on the April 2010 bus and actually if youre looking for some encouragement have a look at the number of BFPs - two just today!

leewt TTC#3 UCL 29 cycle 1 CD28
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD7
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD23
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27 - 28 cycle 0? CD7
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD 14

already had BFN last two days so will be at bottom of list soon :-(

Thanks for the welcomes!

leewt TTC#3 UCL 29 cycle 1 CD28
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD7
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD23
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27 - 28 cycle 0? CD7
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD 14
Chamois TTC#1 UCL a mystery! cycle 0? CD4

oh how funny...amazon delivered my preseed and applicators to my ma and pa's address and poor old daddio is now perplexed and a bit grossed out at what his 'little girl' is up to.....hilarious....

i have acupuncture session tomorr and apparently that is really good for people who are trying to conceive - heres hoping...i don't fee stressed at all this weekend. Just been to beautiful christening of my new God daughter Courtney Faith...lovely little chunky 6 month old with tons of black hair and big blue eyes....loads of babies there and i didn't feel a slight bit envious. Our time will come...all of our times will come.

totally wherefore art thou??

lucky how are you bearing up?

list for today!

leewt TTC#3 UCL29 cycle 1 CD29
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD8
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD24
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 0? CD8
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD15
Chamois TTC#1 UCL a mystery! cycle 0? CD4

just had great weekend with my mum and ds as dh was away doing various activities and a bunch of gardening - very cathartic and feel very relaxed what with that and the time away last week

needed to do work in the garden today on account of huge curry we had last night!

boodle great that being at the christening didn't make you maudlin - in fact seems quite the other, and hilarious about your dad and preseed - my dad would think it was something my mum needed for the garden most likely

feeling much better about work this week - especially with new killer outfits to wear to the office, ttc really kills your motivation at work, bit of a preoccupation unless you are super busy - anyone got any tips for swithching off the ttc obsession while at work? doesnt help i can do mn from my desk....

Hello everyone,

Can I join? I'm not a very regular poster, but do like to read what's up with everyone. I MCd at about 5 weeks, three weeks ago, was originally shattered (you know, like, when you freeze into a block of ice and then someone knocks on you with a hammer, and you break into thousands of little cold hard sharp shards ...) but after some time I've somehow managed to pick myself up again, and so here I am.

I've posted a little on the "MC and TTC immediately" thread but would like to join you here too, if I may?

We're TTC for the first DC, and I was quite laid back and relaxed about it all, but since the MC I've turned a lot more obsessed about it. I'm now at CD 23, my cycle is usually 30-35 days, so I'm in the 2ww and hating every moment. Because somehow I just know that this time I won't get a BFP, so it all feels like a terrible waste of time.

Looking forward to reading many success stories on here!

Meita

waves at chaomois - so glad to see you here . I had thought about mentioning this on the m/c thread - but was worried it might be too early. Good to see you are feeling positive enought ttc again.

boodle - I take it your lounge is a scene of domestic bliss now! (not 52 paint samples on every wall like me...) Enjoy the week of peace. Did chortle at the idea of the preseed going to your parents - at least they haven't planted it

I work from home cheepz so the amount of time I spend obsessing on TTC is truly shocking. I'm hoping this is the peak and I'll calm down soon - here's hoping.

waves at meita from other mc/TTC thread. Hope your 2ww flies by for you. If it isn't a BFP you'll at least have plenty of support here, but fingers crossed.

How's the in-laws visit going trixel? You haven't checked into rehab yet have you?

leewt TTC#3 UCL29 cycle 1 CD29
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD8
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD24
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 0? CD8
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD15
Chamois TTC#1 UCL a mystery! cycle 0? CD4
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 0? CD19

Welcome meita. It does get easier - just give it time. I still have wobbles every now and then but as the days go by it's less raw.

with apols for tmi - I don't usually bleed mid cycle but did on cd14 this month and had lots of lower ab pain which went as quickly as it came. I also bled mid cycle last time but we all know how that ended . Is it just normal ov? Should I be excited (I've heard it's s'posed to be a good sign to have ov pains / spotting). Or am I stressing over nothing?

'course didn't manage to BD on CD14 as you've all heard me whine about before! But did manage it day before and isn't it s'posed to be better if you have mini-men in there waiting for when ov happens?

(does this all count as obsessing - have I broken my "I'm going to stay relaxed about it all" promise )

Hope you're enjoying you're break boodle. TFLS and Cheepz - wish I could advise on how not to obsess. I'm just trying to keep myself really busy at work and home but I do find my mind wandering....

I have a headache - this for once is good news as it is an indication my hormones are acting as normal - CD9 I think and thats when I would expect some hormone induced headaches to kick in - although it could be the result of my reduced caffeine intake - did carry on drinking coffee before mc (not like 1st pregnancy where did everything to the letter) and figure will be easier to stop now than in early pregnancy should we get there anytime soon

stressy sorry to hear you missed your bang on bd day but i thought it was good to have the little guys waiting for ovulation too so may not be a bad thing and 13 is lucky for some - generally has been lucky for me, although not sure there is anything to any of that..

although I was thinking that on the saturday morning before I had my mc I saw one magpie..

I also had a paracetomol that morning and am wondering whether that might have been a bad call, I guess you can wonder about so many things and probably it was nothing anyone could have done anything about..

cheepz I had a paracetamol at the time of MCing, too. I had spotted on Saturday night and then the headache kicked in, took the tablet, next morning the bleeding was heavy. So I have some hesitations about paracetamol for next time, too, and like you decided to go off coffee now rather than then...
But in hindsight I suppose the headache was probably an effect of the unhinged hormones, which again were an effect of the beginning/ongoing MC - rather than the other way round.

Still, next time I might try baby-aspirin - could be good against headaches AND against MCing...

eewt TTC#3 UCL29 cycle 1 CD29
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD8
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD24
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 0? CD8
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD15
Chamois TTC#1 UCL a mystery! cycle 0? CD4
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 0? CD19
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 0? CD 23

[meita] so so sorry to hear about your mc and unlike well meaning mil's and DH's and DP's, people here really know the meaning of it..

Like you i was totally relaxed about trying before. didnt even occur to me to do a test until CD32 whereas this time ive been an absolute psycho.

I wrote on another thread but will reiterate here that ive truly learned my lesson about obsessing on the 2ww. ive been obsessively taking tests for the last 8 days and symptom spotting to beat the band. Today i got a very faint positive on a clear blue but instead of being happy i'm an emotional mess. Why? Because the thoughts that run through my mind are:

-why is it only faint when i am either overdue or due tomorrow. is it a chemical pregnancy, is there a problem, am i imagining it altogether.

-what if i am pregnant, i thought it was all i wanted but now i have to consider that i have to undergo the risk of mc again.

The crux of the story is - if i'd waited until the day after my longest cycle and AF hadnt come, i'd get a proper BFP and be jumping around the place like a madwoman but instead i'm putting myself and DH through hell..

stressy not sure about your mid cycle spotting. any implantation bleeding/cramping should be 6-12 days after conception. Its more likely ovulation symptoms so go jump on DH!!!!

boodle can i ask a silly question - what is preseed?!

Hello everyone, and wow this is a busy thread now! I hope it is a fabulously lucky one for you all. I think it deserves to be after all we have been through.

I'm ok. V tearful, emotional, angry, sad. All the usual. I can't believe it happened twice in a row. I am so much sadder this time than when I joined this thread. I saw a heartbeat, and very much a baby a bit later on, despite the weak heartbeat. So I am struggling a lot with the sense of loss.

But I haven't abandoned this thread. I keep checking up on you all in secret! Boodle, I am sad for you this month. But don't give up.

I think one thing I've learnt through all of this is we absolutely have no control over what is going to happen. I'm going to leave it a while before trying but will continue to lurk, especially to whoop at all the bfps there are going to be.

Lots of luck

From not so luckywinner

leewt TTC#3 UCL29 cycle 1 CD30
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 4 CD9
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 6 CD25
cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 0? CD9
Stressy TTC#2 ULC 28-34 cycle 1 CD16
Chamois TTC#1 UCL a mystery! cycle 0? CD5
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 0? CD19
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 0? CD 23

updated list - moved everyone on a day except TFLS and Meita who added today - am assuming thats how its done, new to this list milarky

lee try and be calm - a positive is a positive and I have always found all early tests to be weak including the 4 i did with ds, and even 2 days after when i did another test because i couldn't quite believe it it was not a big bold stripe so don't fret ... i know 6 tests abit of an indulgence but he was my first and I got such a buzz seeing the positive - suspect that will be a different feeling next time around ....

cheepz thank you.. needed a bit of positivity there..

up to chocolate for the rest!

lucky - glad to hear from you....been thinking of you chicken. you will be lucky again. just gotta keep on keeping on for now....

preseed is a lubricant for 'down there' that is supposed to replicate lots of stringy CM that is good for them to swim through with ease...TMI coming up i'm sure but sometimes i have found that i have become a bit dryer than i would have liked due to the added pressure of what i am hoping to achieve....i try to relax but thinking about relaxing is stressful IYSWIM .....anyway this preseed is supposed to provide an optimum swimming environment and i ordered it from amazon as figured it couldn't hurt...will let you know how it goes....friday will be the beginning of my five day bonkathon {jeez....what a tiring word 'bonkathon' is....}so will be using it for this cycle to see if the hype is true and i get a BFP...

back from my acupuncture and the stats on it helping with conception are pretty impressive...all to day with subverting the bodys chi through the proper meridians or something.....bloody relaxing if not a little weird....me like

lee crossing all my fingers for a strong BFP for you.....start of a lucky streak for us.....woop woop.

hey girls,
well. i've not gone mad yet TFLS thanks for asking - but it may still happen! just three more sleeps and our house is our own again! it doesnt help that af is due either thurs or fri, or actually any time between then and next thurs now that i've become mrs-erratic-cycle all of a sudden... i tested this morning (stooopid) and it was bfn, but i guess it's still vaguely a possiblity.
lucky, it's good to hear from you. glad that you're sort of okay, and able to talk about it a bit. we'll all be thinking of you so keep lurkin and pop in for decaf coffee(!) whenever you fancy. x
boodle we're off camping this weekend with some good friends of ours and their kids. the chap is an acupuncturist, so i'm thinking i might get him to bring his needles. i've never had him do it before - i've had the massages and all that (don't worry, it's not that sort of friendship, all clothed of course), but never the needles. might be a bit odd in a tent, but we'll see!
lee that is sounding pretty good to me - a positive is a positive is a positive! i think we're all downplaying our reaction because you are at the moment, but as soon as you feel okay with trumpeting it through a bugle, we'll get the virtual party poppers out!!
meita - welcome to the thread, altho i'm very sorry to hear about the miscarriage. glad that you feel a little like you're coming out the other side of it now. you'll get lots of support on here.
cheepz, well done on updated list, glad you had a good weekend. hope work is better this week, especially with all the new outfits. it can make all the difference to how you feel! i also work from home, so have no pearls of wisdom to offer i'm afraid on keeping it separate!
stressy, there are degrees of "being relaxed about it", and i think you can forgive yourself a little bit of obsessing from time to time.
is everyone else okay?
best go anyway, need my sleep!
x