Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

I don't temp either boodle. I just think that makes it all a bit serious if you know what I mean... If you're a regular 28 day cycle, chances are you'll ovulate somewhere between CD12 and CD16. So, I'd maybe go for every other day, and every day around those days if you can.

I'm trying to be positive too. Things I have found to be positive about: 1) I'm not 20 weeks pregnant in this heat; 2) If I get pregnant in July it would mean maternity leave at a much more convenient time work-wise; 3) I get to take advantage of the free apperatif hour at our hotel in Italy in 2 weeks' time; 4) I get to eat all types of cured meat and cheeses while on holiday in Italy that would be off the agenda if I were pregnant.

So, admittedly, it's not a huge list, but I'm trying to be positive

Can I join? I've popped up on other threads before as had mmc and erpc two weeks ago am now in the ironic position keeping my fingers crossed for my pt to turn negative so that I can think about ttc again. Doc keeps saying to wait a cycle but I'm undecided. Is there any reason I can't try before next cycle once I know hcg is out of my system?

It's a long, frustrating wait so any hand-holding would be much appreciated!

Morning everyone. Tbh I am feeling in a bit of a state today. I am so tearful! Dh worked all weekend and I just felt sad and lonely. He has so much work on at the mo and its becoming v common for him to be at work late (10pm) and he leaves at 8am. I really don't think I will manage 3 children on my own. I live far away from any family and I just got completely overwhelmed by it all. I wish he could change jobs but now is such a bad time (he's in finance) and I should be grateful he still has a job but it is encroaching so much into our lives I am beginning to get really down by it and tbh so is he. I would like to move near my family (about 2 hours outside London) but his work is so London based that he would have to stay here and we would only see him at weekends. That is even more rubbish.

Ok, tearful rant over. My beautiful dc are both at nursery and I am really missing them. I really am all over the place today, and I think it might be partly down to being a bit hormonal. Have been feeling sick on and off which I think is a good sign. My mum is coming to stay tomorrow for a couple of days which should make things a bit better.

Amy and Boodle I am really sorry to hear af arrived. I was so hoping you would both get your bfps this month. I know you are both anti-temping but I did it for a bit and I found it really helpful just to find out when I was ovulating as my cycles were a bit unpredictable.

And Boodle you can definitely have an honourary mumsnet-godmother role!

Welcome Stressy, I don't think there is any reason to wait if you feel ready. I think sometimes they recommend it more for your emotional wellbeing rather than physical. If you feel ready to go for it then I don't think there is any reason not to, but I'm no doctor! I didn't wait a cycle and so far everything is ok, but it is a bit stressful, although I think I would have felt like this 1 month or 6 months on. You're right it is so frustrating. I hate the feeling of having absolutely no control over the situation. We'll def hold your hand for you.

I've just realised how insensitive that last post was. It sounded like I don't want to be pregnant, which is not what others want to hear after mc. I do I am just having a wobble about logistics and support, or lack of!

Sorry if I upset anyone.

lucky I didn't think it sounded insensitive. You're clearly just having a bit of an emotional time at the moment - understandable really what with the panic of being pregnant after a mc, dealing with 2 kids already and a husband working long hours. Hope things get better soon.

Hello to stressy - sorry to hear about your mc and ERPC. I was told to wait a cycle before ttc again after my ERPC, but I was quite far along (baby died at 12 weeks), so maybe that was why? Anyway, I waited 1 cycle and am now ttc again. I think my body's still recovering tbh, as this af is really heavy and painful Personally, I wanted everything to be back to normal before I ttc again anyway - it was quite a relief getting af back last month, as it made the mc "real" - I'd kinda been in denial a bit till then.

So, I think it's up to you what you do - you need to feel ready emotionally and physically to ttc again I'd say.

lucku I think I'll give it a couple more cycles and then maybe start temping. This was only my first ttc cycle post-mc, so I think getting a bfp was just wishful thinking anyway!

sorry went away to have a little meltdown after 3 mcs I am now utterly convinced we can't have kids. Completely irrational I know but still can't persuade myself that there is a possibilty. Which I guess is an improvement on last month when I decided that babies must be fictional creatures so at least I'm back with reality now. ok closer to reality at least.

Really glad to see all the sticky beans on here! I'm going to lurk for a bit if that's ok, if we do have some good news will come join you

this is a TTC conceive thread hoping so definitely a good place to come and have a go with us so to speak....sorry to hear about the three MC's. Only had one so far and hoping thats the only one cos it is truly heart rending stuff. We have some beans already and hoping for more...welcome

Hi all.

Had a huge outburst on the phone to o2 today. Some poor person got the wrath of my hormones lol. I've calmed down now though.. I think. I'm poorly today which I'm pleased about but I've struggled in work with the heat. I've now been given my early scan appointment AND my 12 week scan appointment so feeling quite real now.

Hope you ladies feel better now AF has arrived and you can start planning for next month. Italy sounds wonderful.

Is it ok for me to stay on here or would you rather not have the pregnant-talk?

Welcome to more new ladies!! It's lovely that there's getting to be so many on this thread

Hi all, can I join too. I had natural mc on 5th June at 9 weeks when ttc #1 and have been following this thread since. Got pg first month trying so was a bit of shock as was really excited. It has been really reassuring seeing that so many other people are in the same boat, but sad at the same time.

stressy I am in the same boat as you but decided to wait for af before ttc again so for first time in my life am looking forward to it arriving and getting v.impatient!

amy and boodle best of luck this month, like the positive list amy, I am currently getting my fill of pate, soft cheese and Pimms in the sunshine before we start ttc and I have to be good again.

boodle, that shag plan sounds exhausting!! would you fancy the clear blue fertility monitor instead of temping? it's £65 on amazon at the mo (with 2mths of wee sticks for £13). i'm on my first mth with it so who knows how good it is, but it's sort of taking the guess work out of it which i'm quite enjoying. it's stopped me walking round muttering things like "right it's day 11 now, so if i......., then it'll be day......." blah blah blah, like a total nutter!
amy - loving the positive list! it will happen soon, so enjoy it while you can.
lucky & totally - you HAVE to stay on here!! it's brilliant to have you. we're all rooting for you, and know you are for us, so it's grand!
it sounds really difficult for you at the mo lucky - it's tough at the mo to think about changing jobs, but hopefully things will turn around slowly and you can think about a new job for him and moving out to be nearer your family. if you know that that might be your ultimate goal, then maybe it'll be easier to sit tight for a little bit.
hi stressy - welcome. sorry to hear about your news. i think that it's a chance for your body to recover, but i've also been told it's fine to carry on by other medical professionals. mind you, i think we were urged to wait after our mmc, like yours amy at 12wks, whereas with the one at 5.5wks that wasnt emphasised.
great news about your scans totally - when are they? how lovely!! can you attach pics on here?? it'd be nice if we could see yours and lucky's lil beans!
hi hoping - lurk away, but feel free to cosy up on the sofa too. i'm sad for you. you sound like you feel a bit hopeless, but i'm sure there really is hope. one of our customers told me today that she is 20 weeks pregnant, and had had 3 miscarriages beforehand. they'd done blood tests etc and had found no reason whatsoever, but this little bean decided to stick. sending sticky stuff your way - and a virtual cupcake.
hey becky welcome to the thread! sorry to hear your news too. they could have made this procreating malarkey a bit easier couldnt they?!?!
we'll have to start doing a roll call, so we know where everyone's at! whaddyareckon?
xxx

Hi becky - I'd completely forgotton about Pimms! That can be number 5 on my positive list!

Hi becky - I'd completely forgotton about Pimms! That can be number 5 on my positive list!

Oh Pimms I am so jealous. I always seem to really need a drink when I am pregnant and I hardly drink at all when I am not!

I was just thinking how lovely this thread was and how supportive everyone is to each other. Hurray for us! Boodle that shag plan does sound v exhausting!! At least you won't have to go to the gym. Just think of all the calories you will be burning.

Trixel thanks for you lovely words. I feel a bit better today. The sun is shining, I know dh's job won't be like this forever, and I am going to make a long term plan.

Hi Becky glad you have found our lovely thread. It is nice to know we are not on our own, especially at our most irrational moments.

Totally you must not go anywhere. When everyone else gets their bfp they will be in that v stressful position we are in now and we will have to gee them up! So don't go!

Boodle it seems there is some merit in your plan

i knew it. as soon as AF is off i am going to get on to the programme...

totally i feel no need for you to leave the thread in the slightest.

hi there becky, shall we do a bit of a stats round up so we can see where we all are

boodleboot - ttc#3- 2nd Cycle - CD3

Hi ladies, was going to add my stats to boodle's list but have a quick question being a bit of a novice at all this ttc lark. If I had a natural mc rather than an erpc when do I start counting my cycle days from - is it from the first day I started bleeding as I bled for 10 days (sorry tmi ).
I used to have a really regular 28 day cycle but now don't know where I am !!

Anyway to add to boodles list:

boodleboot - ttc#3- 2nd Cycle - CD3
becky - ttc#1- 1st cycle - CD who knows?!!

just putting in my stats. had to put of bold in there too - not that i'm OCD or anything.....!!!

boodleboot - ttc#3- 2nd Cycle - CD3
becky - ttc#1- 1st cycle - CD who knows?!!
trixel - ttc#3 - 6th cycle - CD22

best way i reckon becks is to start counting your cycle day on the first day of your next period which if i read correctly will be your first since your MC. if you are anything like i was the thought of not knowing your cycle day will be driving you a bit bonkers and you will feel pretty impatient but it shouldn't be long should it?

Hi all,

I've got an infection, can't breathe properly, got a temperature, and got to go for a scan tomorrow. Might have to go in hospital tonight if I get worse

Just gave in and did a clearblue against all your good advice. But it did come up 'pregnant 3+' straight away and it's night time so I feel so much better just for that. Please cross your fingers for me. xx

Oh Totally you poor thing. It sounds horrid. I hope you don't have to go to hospital. Will def have my fingers crossed for you.

I caved in much worse and spent ££ on an early scan as I just couldn't bear the lacking in symptoms and the pressure I was feeling. I saw a heartbeat but she said I can't be more than 6 weeks so I suppose that explains the limited symptoms.

I am really glad you got pregnant 3+. Let us know how you get on with scan and how your feeling tomorrow. Will be thinking of you.

oh girls, it's a trying time isnt it - altho you've got that bfp it's hard to believe it isnt it. i'm glad you've both had reassurances that everything's okay. amazing that you saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks lucky! hope you feel better soon totally, that sounds awful. i really hope you dont have to go into hospital tonight. how are you feeling now?

Just had my scan- got a 6 week babba with a heartbeat thank God and my temperature has come down now. Lucky- glad you had yours too. We are back in the same boat again. I'm going to stop worrying now.

I managed to stay out of hospital through the night phew. Anyone up to the BDing days yet? I've been told to take a week off work (yeah right, too much to do!) and to not do any BDing for at least a week!!!!

Glad to hear your scans were good luck and totally - it must be such a relief for you both. I'm starting bd-ing plan as from Monday (CD10) and onwards into my holiday in Florence (Thursday-Tuesday). Fingers crossed this month is my month....

xx

Trixel I know I couldn't believe it! It was pretty cool.

Amy just think of all the italian names conceiving in Italy could justify!

Totally so pleased you saw a heartbeat. it makes it a little less worrying.

Am off to see Take That now so will reply again soon.