Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

Congratulations luckywinner and Totally

really pleased to hear all the good news for you totally and lucky - hopefully i will have some good news fingers crossed this month.

if i am on CD 19 now and have a CL of 28-30 normally when is the earliest that i can test and see if am preg??

also have just realised that i don't understand what BFP an BFN means - i thought it was blue for positive and blue for negative but think that is wrong now....

can I come and lurk on here .... just had a mc a 15 weeks - till a bit raw but need something to aim for... going to have a rest for 2-3 months and then start trying again...but need you ladies to give me hope

cazzy - poor you sweetie, that is proper shite thing to happen...i'm so sorry. Please pull up a spot on the sofa and grab on to a hand....there is a few of us on here and when you are ready to try again or if you just want to vent then please do, this is a safe place.

Cazzy, boodle said what I wanted to say perfectly.

boodle hope it is a lucky month for you, got my fingers crossed. I'm a bit panicky at the mo as not having that many symptoms really.

Oh and Lucky, I'm in Cumbria. I was hoping that by some weird coincidence you'd live here How you feeling today? I feel terrified because of the MC last time.

Oh no soz, I am far away down the other end of the country.

I am also feeling utterly shite and terrfied tbh. All I can think of is whether I have enough symptoms and also I keep obsessing about them scanning me and saying sorry, it hasn't grown.

I think we might be feeling v similar.

Cazzy I am so sorry to hear about your mc. We will look after you until you are ready to try again.

Try to remain calm girls, you need to do lots of positive thinking and if you can, pray for some optimism, IT WILL BE OK this time.

so when can i test then please??????

Boodle if you're anything like me you'll test 3 times a day every day from day of ovulation to 12 weeks pregnant lol. I think I'm losing the plot

At least you know you're on the luckiest thread on MN!

I've never been so happy to have sore boobs and I'm craving white bread and butter like there's no tomorrow- which is exactly what I was like when pregnant with DS. I also had a full on crying fit for ten minutes today, couldn't stop, and DP tried to cuddle me but he covered my face and I cried more and said he was trying to kill me haha WTF??? When I cry DS (13 months) just looks at his hands, puts his two pointing fingers together a few times and clearly feels all uncomfortable, then eventually cuddles me. Then I feel all guilty for letting him see me cry lol. Talk about vicious cycles haha.

Hope you're ok today Lucky

well i have tested this morning and the more i stare at the test the more i am convinced there IS the faintest of faintest lines....BUT i think this is an illusory trick....its not there at a glance but when i stare and stare i think i can see it....its in my head for sure. boo.

am day 21 of cycle today. def not ovulating anymore, have had sex at required intervals {painfully for DH due to ribs ha. AF due in 1wk ish...gotta just hand it over....xxx

hope all my lovely pregnant ladies are doing good today...

hi ladies, hope you dont mind if i join you? have chatted with you totally on your other thread when you just had your first BFP.
we have two gorgeous boys already, but have had a bit of heartache on the way which makes me nervous. inbetween the two little fellas we had to have a medical termination at 22wks as there was fluid on the little chap's heart, brain, lungs etc. we then went on to have DS2 which all went well.
but then in trying for DC3 we had a missed miscarriage last march - found out at the 12 weeks scan which was a bit upsetting as that was the scan that we found out there was a problem with Pip (our middle boy that we lost) - we sort of built ourselves up for that scan and it was sad to have bad news again.
then in december we had a miscarriage at 6 weeks which was, again, sad - but comparatively didnt feel so bad.
what on earth are we doing, i wonder sometimes, trying again?!!! anyway, would be lovely to have your support through it all.
x

thanks for your welcome...today i took dh out for an expensive lunch with the girls and still can't drink because of antibiotics - ohh the irony.

But have been having a therapeutic afternoon killing some bushes in preparation for my new veg patch and damson tree.

those of you in cumbria - would love to move up there .. sigh all those hills. I have a dream that one day we will live in the national park

Boodle do another and post us a pic! Do first morning wee too. I am so impressed you got Dh to do it injured. Now that's commitment .

Totally I have started to feel sick and my boobs are a bit sore so this is all positive. However, a friend of mine had a mc yesterday and it completely unnerved me, and my cousin had one last week and it felt like things come in threes. But then perhaps I am being paranoid!! Glad to hear about your bread and butter cravings.

Trixel Welcome to the thread, sorry though that you have had such a horrible time. I know what you mean about what on earth are we doing. I feel/felt the same way. We'll look after you though.

Sorry to hear about your mc crazy. I had mine at 12 weeks, which was pretty shitty, so I can only imagine what you must be feeling like.

I'm on CD 24 and am slowly going crazy I think. Thankfully I just had a lovely weekend away in Paris with some friends, so I managed to almost completely forget about bd-ing, babies and pregnancy. Now I'm back in work I'm back to counting cycle days. Argh!

boodle - bfp is "big fat positive" and bfn is "big fat negative".

totally and lucky glad to hear you've got lots of symptoms! Hope it keeps going OK.

HI all! Glad everyone's back.

I'm having a scan at 7 weeksish- 9th July to check for heartbeat and stuff before going on holiday to get married. I've also requested a homebirth.

I'm really stressed today as DP's hours have been cut at work so I don't know how we will manage to pay the mortgage.

On top of everything I was up 4 a wee 4 times in the night, and DS was up about another 4/5 times with teething so I'm tired out today.

Worrying about my hen do as it's a wild night out and I have to travel by train 4 2 hours without being sick, I'll only be 6 weeks preg and my boss is going so no one can mention the pregnancy as she won't reemploy me in september if she finds out I'm a contractor. I'm going to say I can't drink because of antibiotics.

Cazzy- Cumbria is nice but I don't often go to the hills and lakes and stuff as it's sort of the norm here lol.

Trixel glad you've found us over here. Everyone is so supportive on this thread.

Lucky glad you're getting symptoms as horrible as they are, things must be moving in the right direction!

Boodle have you done anymore tests?

Totally I think the scan is a good idea. Is it a private one or NHS? I have one on the 10th but I just can't bear to wait that long. I am getting a bit obsessive about symptoms. Keep panicking that they are just not strong enough, that I don't feel sick enough, or tired enough, blah blah blah. I am turning into a early pregnancy/mc bore so sorry all.

And congrats about getting married. How exciting!!

It's NHS. My doc said to go between the 4th and 9th July but she'd prefer me to wait til the 9th so that I don't end up worrying if there's nothing on the screen because it's too early. So try to tell yourself you're avoiding worry by waiting until he 10th.

Don't worry about boring us, that's not the case, we are all in the same boat!

Can't wait for the wedding. It'll be hot though. Suddenly wedding abroad doesn't seem like too good an idea lol.

Wow, I am v of your wedding abroad! Where are you getting married?

How funny we have scans v similar time. Fingers crossed its good news for both of us.

hey lucky and totally - i have fingers and toes all crossed for your scans. i'm sure everything will be fine.
it's hard to keep relaxed isnt it, but at the same time we know it's for the best.
this might sound a bit mad, but you could do something like learn how to knit!
we had a pretty stressful time at one point, and i really needed not to let my brain go into overdrive and dwell on things so i bought a book called "stitches for bitches" or something like that! plus some wool and some needles and taught myself to knit!! it was absolutely brilliant for taking my mind off the situation. i didnt carry on beyond that point (the end point for me wasnt becoming a master knitter, just not becoming a master worrier!), but for the 9-10 weeks that i needed distracting it was fantastic - i really would recommend it, or something like it, for its distracting properties!! it could be cupcake baking, hair cutting, ooooh all sorts!

oh and thanks very much for the welcome!! x

hi everyone. i did do another test this morning but didn't look like a line there really...i guess i should't really even bother checking yet but thanks to my job lot of amazon cheapie preg sticks i just do it anyway....might go and do another one....

fingers crossed for your scans, not too long to wait either which is fab.

You're welcome Trixel. Funny you should say knitting. I am obsessively knitting a cushion cover from Debbie Bliss book. It's proving most therapeutic. Haven't heard of Stitches for Bitches though, sounds fab!

Hey Boodle I just put a little message on your name thread!

aaarrrrggghhhhhh. BFN with a clearblue digital.....i knew it was too early for a proper result but i still did the expensive one anyway....what was i thinking....i am cycle day 23 of a normal 28-30 cycle. now i am cross at wasting money and sad that it is a BFN boo

boodle I'll hold your hand while you wait if you want? I'm on CD 25 of a normal 28-29 day cycle, 2nd cycle post EPRC and 1st cycle of ttc again. We'd bd'd like crazy this month, so I'm praying for a bfp - I don't think I'd have the stamina to do it again next month!

Anyway, I'm forcing myself not to buy a test and will hold on till Monday morning if no af on Saturday as expected. It helps that pharmacies are the only places you can buy tests here, and they're all shut on Sundays. So, boodle you're not alone in your desperation to poas and get a bfp.

thanks amy - we are having pretty parallel experience it would seem. my erpc was on 30/4. i will also try and wait til monday then but that is really going to be hard....crkey i sound like a right addict don't i ha ha....we did some BD but not loads and loads. it was on the 'right' days tho so am mildly hopeful....[smil]