Mid Thirties First time TCC

[donttrythisathome]

Anyone feel like joining this bus??

I'm 36, TCC 1, never wanted children and now have done a complete u-turn!

TCC 1, Cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD12

Thanks ladies - it's good to know I'm not alone in this and VeryAnnieMary - I know what you mean about the libido - isn't that strange?

I think I've OV'd in the last couple of days and we have GOF'd but it's been quite "mean". I get stressed (i) about not getting pregnant and ii) about getting pregnant and making a huge mistake and him being the wrong man and me being a dreadful mother and us being homeless and eating grass & leaves etc., etc. )and VERY moody which turns me in to a snappy, nit-picking cow... so he lumbers up to the bedroom and says something like "I'm just not in the mood for sex!" - which makes me FURIOUS - even though I don't want a GOF either!

I can envisage being pregnant and I've read my PG books up until about month 7. I refuse to entertain the idea of actually "giving birth" until week 36!

HAHA skihorse I know I shouldn't laugh at your worries, & I'm not really, just loved the idea of eating leaves etc.

My friends keep saying that you can never afford a baby, just go for it. Strange thing is we're probably in a better financial situation than them, but like you I think its going to all come crashing in!

Every time we do something nice I keep telling DP "can't do this with a baby". Don't know if I'm winding him up, or testing his commitment to it. The only thing I manage to achieve though is wind myself up. Teaches me a lesson I suppose.

When we're OV'ing just take a deep breath & get on with it. After all, it only last seconds!!! (yes?? ladies? doesn't it?)

VAM, thinking swinging is normal could be taken totally out of context

Did I share too much?

Interesting way of getting pregnant though....

pmsl! Think I'll stick with my plan A for now!

I'm going to be off line shortly, detour via Boots ready for the big test in the morning.

Thank you for you support, sorry if I've driven you insane.

Will keep you posted, xx

Think I might stick with plan A too!

Laurie, good luck for the morning - get a double pack just in case one doesn't work!

Let us know tomorrow laurielou!

I woke up in the middle of the night in the horrors that I am pg. Tossing and turning all night...

Today I feel totally different though.

Good luck Laurie!

Good luck Laurie

Laurie, any news?

Hi ladies, sorry to keep you all in suspense, BFN for me .

No idea what's going on really, as no AF either.

Test said if no AF in next 3 days to test again, so will see what the next few days bring.

DP & I pretty gutted. Was sure this was our month. Feel bit daft & embarassed at build up now .

Hope you all have a good weekend, x

Hey Laurie, shame about the BFN - do try again in a couple of days if AF still hasn't shown up. Oh and don't be embarrassed, I was the same this month, my period was five days late (and I'm hardly ever late)but all I have is a BFN and a load of cramps to show for it. Aargghh! I've come to the conclusion that our bodies are trying to piss us off sometimes.

laurie but who knows, sometimes it takes a while for the positive to show up, especially if you have a short luteal phase?

I am out for this month too (didn't want a Christmas baby anyway, no returns policy apparently), but with fabulous timing, our dog was scanned for puppies and is having at least three. Sometimes my life feels a bit ITV Sunday drama. Have feeling I am being played by Caroline Quentin.

PS In terms of mad cat woman behaviour, how bad is it to want to send the video of the dog's scan to all the smug mummies who've made me coo at their incomprehensible scan pics over the years? There are four indecipherable blobs to go wobbly over: 'Oooh, look, you can see its teeny tail! And ears! And is that a paw or a... Oh.' etc

My other half (who actually videoed the whole thing on his phone - he is much worse than me) emailed the blurry nonsense to his mum, my mum and the next door neighbour. My mother had a GrannyFail by not responding in 48 hours with suitably excited noises, unlike the other two. Although to be fair to her, she's still in shock after an Easter weekend with my sister's children (4 and 1) - a shriek-fest so frenetic that even Angelina Jolie would have been on the phone to The Child Catcher from Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang...

Morning ladies,

Thanks for all your nice messages. I'm no longer upset, today I'm cross!!!

STILL no AF, doesn't even feel imminent. Its such a vicious circle, no AF, get wound up, possibly delays AF - WTF?

wildfig Loved your analogy of a Sun ITV drama. I like Caroline Quentin. Madly trying to think who'd play me??? My friend keeps on I look like Cameron Diaz - blimey, I wish!! This same friend is always very positive about everything & everyone, & should wear glasses but is too vain!

Supposed to be working today - slim chance of that happening.

Have a good day, x

ROFL @ "GrannyFail"

Oh I am SO glad I've found my lunatics safe and sound here - and so thrilled that you've all got wicked senses of humour and are not (yet) completely brain-dead due to baby-duties. FF to 2011! Are we all techie-internet geeks here?

We've been oohing and aahing at the new foals born last week and last night had an extremely BAD dog to deal with. She ran off about quarter of a mile over fields chasing ducks - she'd actually jumped a stream - well, not seen it until the last minute and landed in it (we laughed AT her) - anyway, got her back and she got a good telling off. We are horrible parents.

Laurielou - this is all very very odd, I take it your cycles are normally quite regular? When are you off to the docs?

Am loving the doggy tales! I'd definitely send friends pics of the "puppy scan". I did ask my boss if I could take maternity leave to have a puppy - strangely they refused.

I have had a couple of really long cycles since coming off the pill, but that was when my grandfather passed away & I fell headfirst down a flight of stairs breaking my wrist. I allowed myself to indulge in a spot of stress & upset, cue crazy cycles.

But things had settled down to a 30 / 32 day cycle for the past 5 months. Now on day 37. Who knows?

Am going to try & get docs appointment for this week. Today if poss, so I can try & regain some semblence of sanity.

Hey Laurilou - sorry about your BFN. Ever onwards. My last cycle was 49 days so I can sympathise.

wildfig - love Caroline Quentin too, though I always think of an episode of 'Have I Got News For You' when Paul Merton & Angus Deyton were talking about Paul's wife - Angus had intimed that he'd been out with her, Paul came back with "Yes, she said she had a good time, it's been a while since she last had a kebab". My Dh would probably like me to be played by the lovely Louisa from Doc Martin, though a more accurate rendotion would be Tamsin Greig at her most random and gawky, and it wouldn't be a Sunday drama but one of those introverted "comedies" that no one gets. Love her too - she should have been the new Dr Who imho.

laurielou - I asked my boss about 5 years ago if I could take a sabbatical. He said no. I threatened to get pregnant - sell it on ebay and take the maternity leave anyway.

AF just arrived. At least I know where I stand for this month. And at least I can look forward to an un-interrupted Christmas lunch & an afternoon of Quality Street. How inconvenient would a Christmas baby have been?

skihorse like your thinking!

sorry it was a BFN Laurielou, but at least AF's here now (what an odd thing to say but ykwim!).

Hope you all had good weekends? Apart from a migraine on sat night mine was good. lovely weather

wildfig I love the doggy scan idea!

laurielou sorry to hear it's not your month. However, on the plus side maybe it'll be next month and you will be able to get out of ALL cooking/driving/visiting duties around xmas time?

laurilou - just re-read my post above and realised how heartless I sounded re your long cycles - I was v sorry to hear about your Grandad, and your other woes. Stress is a funny old thing - we are told we need some, it's all imaginary etc etc but it's all rubbish when you can actually see physical results from it and can realise what a big imapact it can have. At least now AF has come you can concentrate on the coming month. And have gin. x

veryannie thank you, but I didn't think you heartless at all! Far from it, everyone has been so nice about my BFN.

I fully intend to have gin - medicinal purposes to help stomach-ache!!

skihorse YES! That is such an ace idea - think childless women should get a sabbatical voucher to cash in at 45. In much the same way, am considering it only fair to hit up my married girlfriends for £25 a head towards some nice shoes, on the grounds that since I haven't tapped them for a hen night, much less a weekend's wedding (average cost to guest, what, about £300?), and yet have shelled out on enough Emma Bridgewater teapots to go round John Lewis three times.

Since we've been trying for a year, I went to the doctor's last week, and saw an adorable wee registrar who must have been about fourteen. He obviously wasn't used to the full researching force of a 30-something women in the grip of conception madness because he started trying to tell me that I should aim to have sex in the middle of my cycle, as that's when I 'ovulated'. Then, when I gave him the look that says, 'Even my mother is telling me to drink cough medicine and my year's full subscription to Fertility Friend is ABOUT TO RUN OUT, laddy', he changed his tune to that old favourite, 'Are you remembering to have sex with your partner?'.

[fierce eye rolling emoticon]

What would have been more useful would have been a leaflet designed to explain more relevant FAQs, like 'How do I inflame my comfortable 12-years-together-sex-life back into a five-times-a-week-for-half-the-month only' pattern, without destroying my boyfriend's sanity? and 'Which of those Hollywood celebs actually had a baby through the tried and trusted methods, and which secretly had eggs shipped in?' And the moneysavingtips calculator to work out whether we'd have to give up every single precious luxury, or just half of them.

Anyway, after a short exchange in which I outlined my concerns - I had about 2kg of fibroids removed 3 years ago in a big myomectomy, which was a total headwreck - he gave me a form to get a scan, and then a form to get a blood test. The soonest scan I can get is mid-June; obv the NHS hope you'll get pregnant before they have to deal with the problem...

Gins all round. It's a lovely day.