Mid Thirties First time TCC

[donttrythisathome]

Anyone feel like joining this bus??

I'm 36, TCC 1, never wanted children and now have done a complete u-turn!

TCC 1, Cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD12

Hi All,

I haven't actually come to join your thread necessarily as I'd feel a bit of an imposter, but just laughed my way through all your posts - what an amazing group of ladies you are!!

Currently 32 weeks PG with my first child and I'll be 35 in June. The pendulum swinging thoughts don't change unfortunately, even as you go through your PG. I love our little Jelly very much already, but still worry about missing my lie-ins, good sex and nights out with the girls!!

On a positive note, fell PG first month of trying (although suffered an MC at 5 weeks), and fell again 6 weeks later. As unusual as that might be, just goes to show that age doesn't have the massive impact that the statistics report as I know that I'm by far the only one that this has happened to.

So sending all you gorgeous and hilarious ladies, loads of baby-dust to help you with the temping, knicker-checking and BDing that comes with this rollercoaster.

8 weeks and counting for me, to experience the big thrill at the end of the ride!!

xxxx

Ah more gin lovers!! Hurrah

Julia1969 congratulations!!!!

Laurielou, hope you don't need the gin, fingers crossed.

Liskey sorry about your period, onwards and upwards to the next cycle though!

Welcome to Geekylass and Wildfig

i had my acupuncture last night - it was very relaxing actually, I ended up feeling quite spaced out! the needles were mostly around my lower legs and feet, which I wasn't expecting. Any way, next session on Tuesday next week.

Sounds promising Laurielou - fingers crossed.

Dawn Thank you and good luck! I'm strangely comforted that the pedulumming doesn't stop. Reassures me that hormones don't turn everyone into Stepford Mother types.

Thank you to everyone for being so nice without being freaks. I think I'll have a lunchtime glass of rose to celebrate . ....oh, forgot.

Oh and I can totally agree with the pendulum thing! As soon as I came off the pill I changed my mind and nearly went back on it!

I am SO happy to have found a bunch of women who feel the same way I do. I was lying in bed last night thinking about how weird it all feels. Nappies, puke, screaming, poverty, stress - and I'm signing up to all this?? WTF?

And I look at people who are already parents - why are their tired and stressed-out faces not causing the warning bells to go off in my head?

It must be hormones

Welcome to all the newbies and big congrats to julia1969 who has chosen a convertible so that she can just hang the littlun over the edge when it pukes, now that's SMART thinking!

OP
I ttc at 24 and had mc

i started again at 35 and had a dd at 36 and 38 and a ds at 40

good luck

Oh please can I join this thread... you are all fantastic!

I completely get the shock of reaching 33 in my case and realising that I was horrendously broody having never thought I would...have loved the whole career/being free etc....but now i seem to have settled with partner , dogs, cats, rural idyll...just need baby!

Slight complication is that I am in a same sex relationship so going via a clinic....and bizarely, having had a completely regular cycle for 15 years it has gone hawire...first i was three weeks late and now i've been bleeding for 3 weeks. So i've stopped folic acid (just in case) and awaiting my next appointment.

Anyway please all keep me posted, hope you didn't mind me joining.

LOL Skihorse Hadn't thought of that but just knew that somehow I'd find a damned good reason not to sell the convertible and go for practicality only.

'Dramatically puts soft wrist up to forehead and feigns tired, sad eyes'
Pure practicality is such a bore . ..

Actually packing now as am going to US tomorrow to see my best friend, it's her 40th birthday party on Saturday.
She has three kids and has been egging me on to do it so am having mixed emotions about telling her that I'm finally pregnant. Excited and scared. Scared because it makes it real.

Things I have done today that maybe I shouldn't have:

1. Had an antihistimine. Had to as I suffer from chronic urticaria and it won't go down without.

2. Had two swigs of beer.

4 1/2 weeks and I'm already a Britney-mama . . .Jeremy Kyle, here I come!

PMSL at skihorse

Julia -next you'll be whipping off yer knickers (and hair) and beating up the convertible with a brolly (a la Britney). OOh, this thread is taking off in very interesting directions!!

Peanut and dawn- ta for the encouragement.

Welcome everyone, and yep, I'm penduluming wildly too. Sometimes I think I'd be very contented without kids. Aren't toddlers a bit...ahem...BORRRRING......

Oh yeah, Liskey commiserations on the witch getting you...onwards girl!....

Hello ladies

Can I jump on the bandwagon too? pretty-please?

Here's my story, sorry it got a bit long - needed to vent I think - skip to end if you like for pertinent info

I recently turned 34 and have been wanting to get things started in the TTC department for a few years but have had a reluctant spouse

We gave it a go for one cycle two years ago, but he got cold feet about the whole thing and announced it had been a "lapse in judgment" and was mighty relieved that we had no success that month. I really gave him what for for messing me around and after much soul-searching (he) decided this year was going to be the year. Fine.

Now we are here the timing could not be any worst - the house we bought has tonnes of expensive problems to fix and I've been laid off from my job, with little luck at finding anything else and DH's job not looking so safe either.

In the meantime FIVE sets of our friends have become first time parents, and one couple have their second on the way. Now he's filled with regret that we didn't do this sooner and can't wait to get started.

Sooooooo, we won't be trying for a couple of months yet, but am charting in preparation to try to maximize our chances (plus I'm a geek at heart anyway and love any opportunity to graph ) and am hoping to join y'all soon.

Good luck to everyone on this rollercoaster ride, it's great to have found some kindred spirits!

Morning ladies.

Welcome to all the newbies, good to have you on board.

Still no AF for me at day 33. WILL wait until Sat to test...........

My God, its killing me.

Had to feign a chest infection last night as I went out for drinks with friends & stuck to soft drinks, just in case.

Note to self - do not bother going to pub if am PG as drinking juice in a pub in uber depressing!

You lot gave me a laugh this morning !!

I'm in my 30's (just - 40 in Nov) and have 2 very spoilt Siamese cats so thought I'd pop in and say hi

I was on a TTC 35+ thread last year but it seemed to die a death - BFP in Sept, sudden and traumatic natural MC in Nov at 11+5, hours before my dating scan.

Now PG again (just) and am 4+4 today with absolutely no symptoms and trying to resist the temptation to go out and test again.

I have a career and like my lifestyle but always had a nagging feeling that life somehow wasn't complete. DP wasn't child-minded and had serious health issues for a few years, but my broodiness persuaded him last year and we started trying - fell on cycle 3, but this was really the first cycle where I understood when I ovulated etc. This time round, DP had a few issues, so we hadn't been TTC and I wasn't intending to till after Easter as I've been on a strict diet and wanted to lose more than the 16lbs I achieved.

So, am almost 40 and fell this time after one BD that just happened to be on the night before ov

Very good luck to all - we are not old - surely 30 is the new 20

ps - downstairs in my house is cream, but the furniture is pretty much wrecked by my cats, so I think I've been well prepared for the destructive force of a toddler !!

donttrythisathome, in my experience from neice and nephews, babies are boring, toddlers are much more interesting. You can do things like make them cry by asking them to count their (redheaded) uncle's freckles

Welcome to all the newbies to the thread, and good luck to you all.

lots33 typical of your cycle to go haywire now! How far down the line are you with appointments etc?

aerie I too had a reluctant spouse. When we got married (nearly 8 years ago) we were going to try 4 years later - somehow it kept getting put back! In a way it's good as we are in a much better financial position, but it's been a hard few years of me trying to be patient! Especially as we have friends who haven't even met their partners when we got married, who have now got kids!

cosmosis I agree! Toddlers are hilarious! The latest installment from my friend's little girl - she was sitting on DP's lap looking at his hands when she turned to her mum & asked if DP was a monkey because he was so hairy!

I do worry though that so-called friends may get their own back on all the, OK maybe slightly cruel, but v funny things - we have done / said to their kids.

Still no AF, & also managed to avoid testing. Will be buying one on way home this evening. Along with my bottle of gin. And an easter egg. A girl needs a bit of comfort whatever the result.

Wish me luck!!!!

good luck laurielou!

I like your thinking re the gin and the egg! (if you don't need the gin, feel free to send it on to me )

Hey again all,

Sorry to post again (yes, I'm the imposter that's already PG...) but wanted to mention my MAJOR PENDULUM moment yesterday.

Was at the hospital for the Gestational Diabetes clinic yesterday - - only three hours this week though, when the pendulum started going into overdrive!!

Other than having to inject myself with insulin 4 times a day and test my blood, (I wouldn't mind but I've always watched my bloody weight and am only a size 10-12 - that's what being PG does to you!!), a woman came in for one of her PG checks, with a toddler in tow. OMG!!! He screamed the place down for TWO HOURS!!! I was so close to snapping... I couldn't stand the noise!

See, I'm not sure this is such a good idea after all... take heed ladies!!

I did proudly rub my bump though, quite smug that my little one was being totally silent - the fact that she's not born yet helps though!!

xxx

don't worry dawn, other people's children are always awful, ones related to you are perfect!

I'm wobbling ladies - wondering what on earth I'm doing.

Still goffing but having serious doubts. I trust it's just hormones.

it's perfectly natural to be scared though if you think about it! It's the biggest change to your life you will ever make.

Hey skihorse, I'm terrified too, and keep thinking I'm completely mad. I keep worrying about what I'm going to do if I actually get pregnant and a baby appears (I'm trying desperately to ignore the whole business of being preggo and having to give birth!) and how I'm going to manage to work and look after a child and still be a good mother. I know loads of people do it but still, the whole thing is frankly scary and has me running for the hills at least once a week, and frequently more often.

Fortunately (or unfortunately depending on my frame of mind at the time) insane jealously and fascination with other people's children keeps me going. Plus DH, after years of definitely not wanting any, is suddenly very keen! And I think that if I don't at least try I will be sorry later on.

skihorse I'd be more concerned if you didn't wobble occasionally!

Now that I may finally be PG (4 days late, testing tomorrow) DP has admitted he's nervous as well as excited. We'd previously always left the excitement to him and nerves to me!! Now I'm UBER nervous.

Anyway keep going, & we can worry about it when it happens (that's my philisophy).

I've already warned DP that I'm likely to cry & be sick when test completed, whatever the result is.

I'm such a drama queen, like you pistachio cannot bring myself to think about being pregnant or giving birth.

Oh, just thought, meeting heavily pregnant pal for lunch tomorrow - what an emotional day I have in store!

Oh I love you lot! I'm on CD 16 (I think) so should be humping away, but any time I think I might be fertile I get all scared and my libido flees! It's all too too terrifying.

Having said that, Joolsiam many congrats! - do keep us posted so we know what to expect!

DawnAS - I'm so glad that swinging is normal, I can't imagine not feeling like it and was seriously worrying that perhaps I'm simply not "motherly".