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donttrythisathome · 2009-04-05T13:06:49+00:00

Anyone feel like joining this bus?? I'm 36, TCC 1, never wanted children and now have done a complete u-turn! TCC 1, Cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD12

kidowner · 10/04/2009 10:40

No pigs but plenty of compost
Feel a bit foolish but what does UCL mean?
Have wild cats living in barn next door!

I should mention enjoy all the rumpy pumpy you can get as when the dcs arrive it does take a bit of a back seat.

My dh thinks I was only interested when I wanted a baby (ahem could be true)

Happy Easter

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donttrythisathome · 10/04/2009 11:28

Morning all,
Added Liskey's cream house, deleted kidowner's pig

Skihorse cycle 6, UCL26, CD6 (no cats, but two dogs and a horse)
VeryAnnieMary cycle 2, UCL(appears to be)49 (this month), CD10 (no cats, cream house)
donttrythisathome cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD17 (no cats, no cream house)
laurilou CD25, UCL 32 (cream house)
Pistachio Lemon cycle 4 UCL28 CD29 (two cats)
Cosmosis cycles 1, CD109, UCL ?? (two cats)
Liskey CD 22 UCL 27-32 (one cat, cream house)
kidowner (mentor of our thread) 5 actual children, ducks and geese and a surrey with a fringe on top (probably), and a donkey and a white house (respect!)
mylovelymonster (co-mentor of thread) number two on way, no mention of interior decoration preferences or pets

mylovelymonster Thanks for the words of wisdom.

DP says I'm treating him like a sex machine/sperm and/or performing monkey.....
What the feck does he want me to do, I have to tell him when I'm ov'ing?!! Jeez.....

Anyway fertilised eggs indeed to everyone (except kidowner) for easter!

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donttrythisathome · 10/04/2009 11:28

UCL=Usual Cycle Length

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kidowner · 10/04/2009 13:00

I got hold of a child's microscope set (car boot sale)and analysed dh's sperm.

You could just see them wriggling about, so possibly DIY method to check on quality?

His were trying to bore through the petry dish.

First feelings of pg interesting. Felt I had eaten too many pork chops.

PistachioLemon · 10/04/2009 17:57

Oh my God, I have a stitch from laughing so much.

How is everyone this lovely Easter weekend?

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donttrythisathome · 10/04/2009 18:18

kidowner - Was that before you agreed to a first date?

Easter weekend - well I've been painting skirting boards...white, no cream.

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mylovelymonster · 10/04/2009 22:25

Interior design preferences????? OMG, when you have your little bundles of joy you will realise that goes RIGHT out of the window............but in my dreams it would be shabby-chic seaside cottage/country rectory
Also, we have an asthmatic cat. There is an inhaler 'device' on oredr at the vets, poor lamb.

One more thing - enjoy all that fabulous sex and lies-in while you can ladies

Happy Easter and snuggly baby wishes to you all.

your co-mentor

mylovelymonster · 10/04/2009 22:29

.....now I know what UCL means, mine was a paltry 24

kidowner · 11/04/2009 07:45

Hehe, imagine that "Sample please!" Before your first date. I think I'd had dd2 then got inquisitive to the mechanics of it all. Dh did not initially want more than 1 dc.

Don't feel so foolish now, so what does CD and a surrey mean?

I couldn't afford to live in Surrey,live in Berks but do have a bit of a fringe ha!

Marmite is good for boosting folic acid!

Cosmosis · 12/04/2009 18:14

CD is cycle day, as in where you are in your cycle.

A surrey is a type of carriage pulled by a horse, a Surrey with a fringe on top is a song from (i think) Oklahoma!

mmmm marmite! yum!

PistachioLemon · 14/04/2009 10:43

Pistachio Lemon cycle 4 UCL28 CD1 (two cats)
Skihorse cycle 6, UCL26, CD10 (no cats, but two dogs and a horse)
VeryAnnieMary cycle 2, UCL(appears to be)49 (this month), CD14 (no cats, cream house)
donttrythisathome cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD21 (no cats, no cream house)
laurilou CD29, UCL 32 (cream house)
Cosmosis cycles 1, CD113, UCL ?? (two cats)
Liskey CD 26 UCL 27-32 (one cat, cream house)
kidowner (mentor of our thread) 5 actual children, ducks and geese and a surrey with a fringe on top (probably), and a donkey and a white house (respect!)
mylovelymonster (co-mentor of thread) number two on way, no mention of interior decoration preferences or pets

Geekylass · 14/04/2009 17:50

May I join in too? I don't actually belong here yet, as we are hanging off until we buy a place to live (OH doesn't want me to get out of the packing, cleaning, unpacking or decorating!), but will be TTC in a couple of months hopefully. Just wanted to introduce myself so that someone might remember me when I come back!

For the record I am 37, have one elderly housecat and no children yet. I suppose you could call our manky flat cream, although I think it looks more nicotine-stained than anything else.

UCL is 28 days (I think). Bought myself a digital thermometer today which I will start using tomorrow morning. Is it bad that I am looking forward to drawing charts?

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donttrythisathome · 14/04/2009 19:55

Hiya Geeky!
You're more than welcome to lurk on the thread. Charting is fascinating - or else we're ole farts...

Pistachio Lemon cycle 4 UCL28 CD1 (two cats)
Skihorse cycle 6, UCL26, CD10 (no cats, but two dogs and a horse)
VeryAnnieMary cycle 2, UCL(appears to be)49 (this month), CD14 (no cats, cream house)
donttrythisathome cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD21 (no cats, no cream house)
laurilou CD29, UCL 32 (cream house)
Cosmosis cycles 1, CD113, UCL ?? (two cats)
Liskey CD 26 UCL 27-32 (one cat, cream house)
kidowner (mentor of our thread) 5 actual children, ducks and geese and a surrey with a fringe on top (probably), and a donkey and a white house (respect!)
mylovelymonster (co-mentor of thread) number two on way, no mention of interior decoration preferences or pets
Geekylass, UCL 28(?), lurking until she's ready to TCC (elderly cat, so-called manky flat)

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laurielou · 15/04/2009 08:36

Morning ladies,

I think we should congratulate ourselves on the most hilarious thread!! Good on us for keeping our spirits up.

veryannie - love the updates to our names!

mylovelymonster what a lovely story & wonderful words of encouragement.

I'm on day 32 of a fairly regular 30 day cycle (well regular of the past 3 months). Resisting the urge to test until Sat. Well, so far anyway. DP would kill me if I tested without him & he is determined to wait until Sat. So Friday night, if no AF arrived, am buying a test & a bottle of gin!!!

Now, excuse me while I pop to the ladies - AGAIN - to check no AF........

Liskey · 15/04/2009 08:53

Morning ladies

I'm out for this month I'm afraid - AF arrived at the weekend so now on CD4.

And on the surry theme - I'm originally from there!

VeryAnnieMary · 15/04/2009 09:10

Morning mad-cat-ladies! How are we all?

Welcome to Geeky - geekiness is the norm around these parts I think!

Liskey - sorry to hear of your visitation - onwards to next cycle and get that gin open! Laurilou - hope you don't need the gin - though I have to say I always need gin...am a bit worried about 9mts+ of abstention and am having trouble staying off the stuff in the 2ww. Gin loving and cat-herding seem to bme to indicate similar things though.....

Here's the update:

Pistachio Lemon cycle 4 UCL28 CD2 (two cats)
Skihorse cycle 6, UCL26, CD11 (no cats, but two dogs and a horse)
VeryAnnieMary cycle 2, UCL(appears to be)49 (this month), CD15 (no cats, cream house, lots of gin)
donttrythisathome cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD22 (no cats, no cream house)
laurilou CD29, UCL 33 (cream house)
Cosmosis cycles 1, CD114, UCL ?? (two cats)
Liskey CD 4 UCL 27-32 (one cat, cream house)
kidowner (mentor of our thread) 5 actual children, ducks and geese and a surrey with a fringe on top (probably), and a donkey and a white house (respect!)
mylovelymonster (co-mentor of thread) number two on way, no mention of interior decoration preferences or pets
Geekylass, UCL 28(?), lurking until she's ready to TCC (elderly cat, so-called manky flat)

PS Apols to kidowner for the pigs implication - I was indeed quoting a song from Oklahoma - or in fact from When Harry Met Sally. Now that's a movie that dates me to my mid thirties!.....

Julia1969 · 15/04/2009 09:40

Oh praise the Lord, I think I've found my gals . ... can I play too?

39yrs old. Never been maternal either but like others love and in fact, if I'm honest, have full-on conversations with cats, dogs horses, squirrels, birds, rabbits and foxes that are around where I live.
Had a cat who I loved as much as any person in my life, ever, but he died and broke my heart.

Hey ho.

Got married last year after 17 yrs together and like others we have a nice life - food, drink, covertible car (stoopid I know!), holidays, theatre-going, galleries and all that.
Figured that we'd never feel ready (I think 'im indoors is more ready than me) but at the same time don't want to be 60yrs and think 'oh, where are the kids I assumed would be here?'. Started trying in Jan 09.

Other thoughts: I know I am supposed to be a growed up at this age but I am not.
I don't care how 'crunchy' some of my girlfriends get, I won't accept that pushing a person out of my noonie is a beautiful idea.
There are a lot of horrid young children around with awful, obnoxious parents and this alone can be a form of contraception.

Anyway, you lot sound fab and right up my boulevard. So what says you, am I in?

BTW should add that I took test on Sat at home as no period and it was positive. I freaked out, I confess but my head is slowly coming to accept the idea. Went to GP yesterday who confirmed 4-5weeks.

VeryAnnieMary · 15/04/2009 09:56

Julia1969 - Congrats!! How exciting! Do keep us updated of your progress, mentally and physically. I def feel that I'd like kids when I'm grown up, at a time in the indistinct future, but that I've run out of reasons not to do it now, so I'd be really interested to hear a blow-by-blow account of how you get your head round this! - I'm really hoping hormones kick in or something!

Can we claim you as our first success story?

Julia1969 · 15/04/2009 10:09

Thank you . . .I think.

I'll be honest with you, I've been waiting for the hormones to kick in but they just didn't so I decided to try and imagine my future life without kids and I figured that I didn't want that either. This is a head decision more than a heart decision in my case. Does that make me sound hard? I don't mean it too. What I mean is I still don't have that overwhelming desire and I don't think I should wait for it any longer.
I have always been a carer and a nurturer - just never connected that with babies.

I guess I figured, I'm 39 so if I'm gonna do it I should do it (I have commitment issues!) and jump in with both feet. It will work out OK.
And anyway, I'll keep the receipt so I can take it back if I change my mind or it doesn't fit . ...

So, please claim me! It will be the first time in my life that I'm a 'first' or a success. Ha! Ha!

VeryAnnieMary · 15/04/2009 10:19

The way I'm trying to think of it is an exciting adventure to embark on, and an experience I don't want to miss. I'm quite scaredy when it comes to change - I don't know when I became so risk-averse - but a school-friend died recently (we were no longer close, I heard via the facebook network, but it was a shock) and it made me want to experience as much as possible in my allotted time.

But since it hasn't happened for me yet I can pontificate to my heart's content. I'll be terrified if I do get a BFP.

But I do hear that you can't return them even when you do keep the receipt - sorry about that! (Should have stuck to Marks and Spencers...)

Julia1969 · 15/04/2009 10:37

I hear you.

Isn't funny how our perspective changes so much?
I find mine changes quite regularly depending on what's going on in my head and my current influences. Husband and I are going to US tomorrow for a week and I think to myself 'well I never want that to stop - not for children or anything!'. And then I'll spend time with family or friends who have small children and have a ball and then go away thinking about how/where I've 'journeyed' in my life so far and contemplate if I'm missing something (and it's not organised religion!).
It's like I pendulum between seeing life through a wide-angled lense and telescope. Depending on which vision influences my urge to, or fear of, having children.

I can't return them? Well there are some 'high-end' car boot sales nearby!

VeryAnnieMary · 15/04/2009 10:50

I hear Madonna is looking.....

Heh - my moods change weekly - somedays I am desparate for a baby, other days the thought fills me with horror. But it is lovely to find that this is "normal" for us cream-housed, cat-having folks!

Julia1969 · 15/04/2009 10:54

Exactly. Thank goodness we've found a group of PLU!

wildfig · 15/04/2009 10:57

Hello! Can I join in too, please? Have just read through this v funny thread, and am awash with relief that there are other people out there in the same sort of 'quite broody, but a bit hmm about getting rid of the sports car, and lie-ins' frame of mind. (Also am liking relative lack of cute acronyms, gin consumption, etc)

I'm 35, been with yer man for 13 years, have recently adopted dog (who is pregnant - thanks for the dramatic irony, dog), in the process of buying lovely but ridiculous house that we probably can't afford as we're both freelancers living in fear of Robert Peston's next appearance on the news. By the Theory of Maximum Inconvenience, now should be a great time for me to get pregnant after trying for a year with no luck.

I totally agree that things feel different in your 30s. Am of the same opinion that I don't want to get to 60 and think, oh nuts, I knew we should have had kids, but on the other hand, I know several older couples who don't have children and seem pretty serene (and well-dressed), which gives me hope that if we're not lucky enough, there is life without a bugaboo. I would love to have a family - I just don't want it to obsess me more than it already does, and for it to turn into a 'failure' in my head. It's already quite hard to accept that for once, trying really hard and doing your homework is no guarantee of success!

On the bright side, my boyfriend loves the idea of Fertility Friend. Forget hiding it from your man - he LOVES the plotting and the tweaking and the fiddling around with thermometers, and is always moaning that there should be one for men too, to detect optimum sperm levels.

laurielou · 15/04/2009 11:36

I'm currently crying with laughter & getting some strange looks from colleagues. Yep, I'm shirking off work - they're wondering what is so hilarious about my finance report.....

Congrats to julia.

I'm still constantly checking my gusset as on day 32 of a fairly regular 30 day cycle. TBH I'm terrified of testing - equal measures terrified of BFP & BFN. I'm firmly of the camp of sticking my head in the sand..

I swing between desperately wanting a baby & thinking its a no-no. But then worry about who I'd annoy when I'm old & insane (cue my own parents & grandparents).

Anyway, if AF doesn't arrive any time soon, decision may be taken off me.

Off for another gusset inspection...