Mid Thirties First time TCC

[donttrythisathome]

Anyone feel like joining this bus??

I'm 36, TCC 1, never wanted children and now have done a complete u-turn!

TCC 1, Cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD12

lol @ dusters!

Salt n vinegar crisps in a bowl with lots of extra vinegar. Swimming like. Then tip left- over vinegar back one's throat afterwards. Not in public.

Seems like I am on track to ovulate over the weekend, when I won't be with DP. Arghhhhhhh!

GAME PLAN: Get spunked up to the max with early morning jiggy before he goes to work and then clennnnnnch

Also I seriously considered taking manjuice sample and turkey baster to Ireland...but then remembered you can't take liquids through customs

Sarah I'm liking the positive attitude to the redundancy. Why stay with something you don't like if you don't have to?

Liking the idea of screaming along to Robert Plant when in labour. Wonder what the neighbours would think.

How many of us would go for a home birth?

Oh and skaterrrrr I worked at home yesterday so avoided commuter madness. Today seemed fine - no raging hordes in Waterloo or anything. Well, no more than normal.

Guilty food pleasures.............there are probably quite a few. Butter on weetabix is a fave, as is eating Cheerios from the box.

No, no and no to a home birth, donttry I have visions of birthing being like a scene from a horror movie (sorry geeky) & do not want flashbacks every time I go into the room. Also couldn't rest until I'd washed everything after (slight OCD). Nope, I intend to leave the carnage behind at hospital & walk out a yummy mummy with a beautiful, sleeping baby.............

"spunked up to the max"
"fear of dusters/other cleaning objects"

You're my kind of gals - although I'm unable to endorse butter on weetabix. WTFF? There are some things you don't need to share laurielou

My vile food truths: I really like a good salad.

donttry I'm up for a home birth - they're very normal here in NL and when the time comes I want to be surrounded by MY stuff... sit in MY bath... poke around the fridge and yell at OH because there are no mint aeros in there type thing.

laurielou and donttry, I am with you on the home birth thing (sorry skihorse), although my big fear is feeling like I have to clean BEFORE the birth. I'm not very domestic.

My mother-in-law, before she was my MIL once announced over dinner in a very posh country inn: "[Her step-niece] Jane had a home birth. You should have a home birth." This is well before we were ready to start TTC and I tell you, I should be commended for even getting my jaw off the floor. The moral of the story is the homebirth thing is MY decision. (Sorry to get all self-righteous....)

donttry--don't forget to clench. (I like your style.)

I would go for a home birth, but no way would my DH.

I've worked out that if my cycle has returned to normal this month, I'll be oving the weekend of my 24hr bike race, next weekend. So please all pray my cycle is another long one to give us a chance of hitting it this month.

Sounds like you've got a long cycle ahead of you anyway - unless you are talking motorbikes.... in which case sit down here next to me

In reference to guilty food - we've been buying chocolate fingers, nibbling the ends off and drinking our tea through them. (Mental age of 5, obv).

Home birth - I love the idea of being able to have a wash afterwards in my own bathroom, not being in a scary stressful environment, and being able to watch TV to distract myself (deluded, of course) but I'm also a big scaredycat and would not be able to relax without a doctor/complete medical back-up in the building. Also, I know more emergency cs cases among acquaintances than vbs so I don't see why I should be the one to buck the trend.

lol trigger very good! not motorbikes, mountain bikes.

I don't think a home birth is for me - I love the idea of it, but I know that it's going to be messy and scary and painful, plus I'm older than most first-timers, so I think I might need monitored more closely. And I would need to have the place spotless, which is extremely unlikely given that I'm a right lazy cow. I have already given up any romantic notions I might have had about the whole thing - my main pregnancy symptom seems to be huge bouts of wind (sorry) Besides which, a home birth would completely traumatise my cat - can't have that guilt hanging over me while I'm trying to cope with being a new mum (if it gets that far).

Am quite annoyed I haven't had any crazy cravings yet. I was quite looking forward to sending OH out at 3 in the morning for pickles and ice-cream but it's early days yet I suppose! I bought up half of M&S food hall the other day before I even knew about the sproglet so I'm eating quite healthy just now, amazingly.

donttry - clenching is good! I think sperm can survive a couple of days up there, so you never know. Worth a try I think!

Oh! Forgot to say, told OH last night. Don't know which of us is more scared now although he did have a hilarious moment of chest-puffing about his supersperm that almost had me crying with laughter! I'm going to buy another test today and do it tomorrow when he's in - if that one is +ve then I'm going to have to believe it and start taking all this a bit more seriously.

So, folic acid, ginger biscuits and a trip to my GP awaits (although I'm going to hold off on that appointment for a couple more weeks). Suppose I should do a bit of research and find out if there's anything else I should be doing. Anybody got any ideas?

P.S. Sorry this is all a bit me me me at the moment. Normal service will resume shortly - I hope.

geeky bouts of wind? Blimey, DP has been preggers for 12 years!

I've always been too much of a lady (!) to fart in front of him, maybe this could be my chance to get even.

We always said the day we felt comfortable enough to fart in front of each other is the day we get married. Ahhhhh, how romantic!

geeky I forgive you for being all about you - its refreshing to find someone who is PG that hasn't changed into a complete earth mother just yet, & fear & disbelief still reign.

Geeky - glad you told your DP, and that he's ok! Every time he wobbles simply mention his impressive virility again! Don't worry about me-me-me-ing - we are all living vicariously through you at the moment.

Am having a mad-symptom moment - pretty sure BF is about to hit (expected Sunday but randomness of cycles could mean anytime) but feel puffed-of-boob and and wooly of head. (Even more so than normal, some might say). Geeky & Trig* did you actually feel any different before BFP or is it all a silly nonsense? (if I'm allowed to ask without sounding a bit "babydust")

Well only that I had v bad trumps, a headache every day and slept a lot. Oh, and my gums spontaneously bled apropos of absolutely nothing

Blast. That's what I always have.

laurielou I am not entirely comfortable trumping away in front of him or anyone else as I feel like a windy old lady, but I think my guts might burst if I didn't! Is far too uncomfortable to keep it in No chance of me turning into an earth mothery-type, I am far too practical (please forgive me if I have PFB moments in the future).

VAM (hey, you sound like a super-hero with those initials!) I will try to remember that! It's v funny watching my wee nerdy guy suddenly feeling like an alpha male for once - I am expecting him to start going all caveman on me

Hmmm... yes, I did have a few symptoms, but they were so vague I was actually wondering if I was menopausal. However: boobs are pretty sore and a bit swollen, although they don't feel as solid as I'd thought they would; I have cramp-like pains a bit like period pain, but not quite, and a feeling that's difficult to describe - kinda like bubbles? and feel like my stomach is really huge and bloated; sore back; dizzy; slight headache (think that's dehydration tho); farting, obviously!; really tired, feel like I could sleep all day; perfume and cooking smells make me feel queasy; heartburn with some foods; gums bleeding every so often; nose bleed (that might just be from blowing nose too hard tho!); skin is bit dry and flaky; slight breathlessness when I exert myself even a little bit (when I would ordinarily be fine); and my ankles are a bit swollen today too.

Hells bells that's quite a lot now I've written it all down! VAM I did feel that I was pregnant, but can't describe it, I just knew something was up. So much so that straight after depleting M&S of their stock I marched straight over to Superdrug and bought a test without really thinking about what I was doing. When I got home I put off using if for about 3 hours, before finally deciding that it was the only way to end the madness! And when those 2 lines came up within about 20 seconds I almost collapsed, even though it was exactly what I was expecting (pardon the pun). It's weird - like my body was saying 'wake up stupid, it's happened and you're missing it all!'. But my brain needed some time to catch up (no surprise there).

Hope that is of some help to you lass - keeping my fingers crossed for you [blokelikepunchontheshoulderemoticonaswe'renotallowedahug]

I got breathless everytime I went to the fridge to refill my wine glass - I'd forgotten about that one. And nosebleeds. And the trots. And the dizziness.

All in isolation could have been a product of my lifestyle, but all at once made me a little suspicious

I'm currently househunting and thought I'd share this with you:

www.funda.nl/koop/heerlen/huis-74742981-palenbergstraat-41/fotos/

booful! My OH's eyes are bleeding haha!

It's like someone with a Barbie fetish AND a B&Q card went mad!

what's the deal in your abroadland about renting?

sorry was pissed again last night. ignore last garbled message.

had another meeting with ivf folk yesterday who told us we have as much chance of conceiving naturally as winning the sodding Euromillions.

that kind of thing does not help my sobriety

love the house d'you want us all to come round and attack it with the magnolia?

(you will have to supply the gin of course )

cheggers I'm very sorry to hear that. Were they able to give a reason as to why natural conception is a no go? Have you tried having vaginal sex?

Well I sold my house last year and found it all so horribly stressful that I vowed never to buy again. However, a year on and prices have dropped - I'm paying over a grand a month in rent and I could buy for ¬300 - which is a LOT of breastpumps/maternity smocks/plasticine. So I've just been browsing really but I couldn't believe my fucking eyes when I saw that house - I saw it yesterday morning - forgot to bookmark it and then spent ages trying to find it again. I'd told OH about the pink vs. red and I don't think he believed me... what I find bizarre is that the kid's bedrooms are more subdued than the living room!

damn my preference for bum sex. will have to have another go

no, boy had to have that op as a kid on his balls that hadn't dropped. only they did it when he was 9 rather than when he was 2 which is far too late. so anyway - now we only have 2 million sperm to play with rather than the minimum 20 needed.

anyhow as i'm all working fine (yay me) we have a pretty good chance of ivf working.

my only prob now is whether we get cracking straight away or wait another cycle so we can go on a holiday we planned in august and a mates wedding. i feel bad about being selfish and as our insurance will only pay for treatment up to the age of 39, we're on a bit of a tight schedule to get 2 of the little blighters out. dunno what to doooo .....

thoughts girls?

I don't mind pink, but that's such a teeth-grindingly awful shade of it - reminds me of chewy sweeties I used to eat when I was a kid. Glad they have some outdoor space to get away from it!

cheggers raising my glass mug of tea to you - that's the spirit! Having hastily scanned the thread to find out your age (only mid-thirties? pah!) I think you've got plenty of time to squeeze out 2 - and doesn't IVF often result in gulp twins - or more??? OTOH, there's nothing like tempting fate by going on holiday and attending weddings!

Aussieng you're absolutely right - I'm not the first BFP What happened to Liskey?