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Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

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Hobnob76 · 28/02/2009 16:55

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

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CrochetGirl · 01/02/2010 20:44

GirlWithTheMouseyHair - what do you do for a living? I work in a clothes shop (designer, big name brand, large company) but have only been there for six months, so I'm not sure they'd like it if I buggered off on maternity leave quite yet! Saying that, everyone knows how broody I am, so I'm not sure they'd be surprised!

Kazyr - how exciting! Fingers crossed for that BFP!

This is going to sound a bit weird, but I also worry that I won't have enough love left for a second child! I absolutely worship my DS and just can't imagine having to share myself with another child! I'm sure it's different in reality - can anyone shed some light on how it feels to have two?!

Kayzr · 01/02/2010 21:59

2 is much nicer than one. They are so so cute together. I love watching them playing together. I couldn't imagine not having 2.

macaco · 01/02/2010 22:17

How far apart are your 2 Kazyr? Another reason for us to wait a little (although not the most important reaso...that would be financial and work based) is I'd prefer a nearer to 3 yr gap.

Just found out another 2 colleagues are pregnant. Feel like I'm surrounded by pregnancy . I currently have 3 pregnant friends and 1 with a newborn.

Definitely going to wait until At LEAST may. Anything else really isn't a good idea for so many reasons. Going to amuse myself in the mean time by losing a little more weight, eating healthily and obsessing on MN! . Haven't been keeping track of my periods at all lately so will start tracking them and CM and I might start some folic acid around Easter.

Funny how it grabs you. I have to say I really wasn't broody til a month or two ago.

Kayzr · 02/02/2010 05:23

They are 21 months apart.

We didn't do the deed last night as I was just exhausted so I think we are waiting until August still.

bebejones · 03/02/2010 20:54

Kayzr - on having to wait!

I have had a crap day & now DH & I are disagreeing even more about TTC. Now got a health v finance debate going on. Feeling pretty rubbish about it all. But basically I could possibly get ill again after having another baby & DH doesn't think he could cope with a toddler & a newborn & an invalided wife... we don't even know that's a certainty & he is taking it as red that I will relapse! Anyway, enough ranting, going to try & convince him that it will all be fine this time!

CrochetGirl · 03/02/2010 20:55

Well we've delayed our wedding for a year or so, the costs were mounting and we just couldn't afford everything, so perhaps a pregnancy would fit in nicely whilst doing the saving....!

I'm going to come off of the pill anyway, it doesn't seem to agree with me, leaves me feeling really tired all the time, so we're back to good old condoms for the time being!

Kayzr · 04/02/2010 07:17

Bebe, sorry to hear your DH is being a pain. Give him a good kick up the bum!!!

Crochet, how exciting!! Sorry you have delayed your wedding but YAY that it means that pregnancy can be brought forward.

bebejones · 04/02/2010 08:44

Kayzr - TBH he does have a point, but if I don't have more kids now I might not get the chance. So apparently this makes me selfish...he is the one who said he wanted 5!! Now I feel bad that I can't give him what he wants! Being an only child I desperately don't want that for DD. Got so much to think about, but still really hoping I can talk him round!

Kayzr · 04/02/2010 08:55

Could you go and see a doctor or a specialist together to talk through the chances of you becoming ill again?

Floopy21 · 04/02/2010 10:56

Well April's coming round quite quickly. I'm excited! Going to come off the pill in March I think & see how the ol' cycle is. Is anyone else planning TTC in April ish?

Bebe, maybe you've both just had an off day? Chat again when your DP is in a good mood?! Kayzr's advice is good, could put your mind at rest?

bebejones · 04/02/2010 12:21

It's all a bit complicated, I have MS & there are no certainties with it at all. When you are PG it reduces your risk of relapsing by 60% so when LO is born your risk goes back up to normal so you are at risk of an attack but that is no guarantee that you will. Have been told that if I want more children I need to asap & certainly within the next 4 years as I need to start medication & I can't be on it when PG or for 3 months before TTC. All a bit tricky. Wasn't the news I was expecting as I am feeling great at the moment, better than I have since DD was born, so was a bit when they said it was really active! I am really ranting, so sorry, don't want to bring you guys down just really playing on my mind. So want another baby.

Kayzr · 04/02/2010 12:28

Bebe, have you tried posting on General Health and seeing if there is anyone else that has been in your position? It might help to talk to someone who has been there and done that.

I do think you could do with having a good heart to heart with your DH. Tell him how important it is to you to have another baby.

Don't worry about bringing us down. It will do you good to get it out.

bebejones · 04/02/2010 13:23

Posted on the MS society forum but no one has said anything about being in the same situation. I'm sure it will all work out fine, just hasn't sunk in really yet. Didn't realise I was that ill IYSWIM, I feel fine atm! I will work on DH, he is coming home from work early so we can chat. Think it's mostly a shock for both of us. I just think if I don't have another baby I will regret it & be resentful towards him, as he is the one technically stopping me... I can't do it without him!

Floopy21 · 04/02/2010 14:38

Hi Bebe,

"When you are PG it reduces your risk of relapsing by 60%" Sounds like it's perfect to start TTC!

Seriously though, I think if most people waited for 'the perfect time' no-one would have children. Listen to your heart maybe? I don't know enough, but it sounds like no-one can predict what your health impliciations may be.

Never worry about voicing your worries on here, it's what the thread is for. It's what we are for. However serious, however trivial. That's the beauty of MN!

Hope the chat goes well for you both x

MACACO · 04/02/2010 16:06

Hey ladies,

Bebejones, don't worry about talking about stuff, that's what this thread is for! when were you diagnosed. I have a friend from school who I found again recently on FB who was diagnosed with MS just after hse had her little girl. Can you persuade DH to commit to TTC now so you can then ge thte medication you can't have while ttc or pregnant. What you've said about the meds sounds like a reason not to delay ttc to me?

Well, I started to wonder if after all this thinking i'd gone and got myself accidentally pregnant as period late. Even did a test but negative. I was quite pleased cos we really should wait a few more months but it really brought home the broodiness and that altho it would be better not right now IYSWIM I don't want to wait til the summer (been doing the "it might take ages" line on myself) so I told DH I thought we should stop using condoms at easter. Wooohooo! So. The countdown begins. Wish my period would hurry up and arrive this month so I could start feeling a bit more in the know as I'd like to track my cycles in these few months and I can't remember when last period was (the other reason why I tested

Oh, by the way...when should the folic acid start?

bebejones · 04/02/2010 16:49

Thanks everyone, has really helped to let it out on here!

Talk with DH didn't go well TBH. We have agreed to leave talking for now & think about things a bit more over the weekend.

Floopy - My heart says I need to have another baby, but DH is saying not right now! He just isn't seeming to 'get it'

Macaco - I was diagnosed just over a year ago about 4 months after DD was born. I had a big relapse when she was 3 months old & DH had to deal with alot which is why he is scared of having another LO coz if I relapsed it would be hard for him.

Folic Acid, start taking 3 months before you start TTC. So prob good idea to start now!

slowshow · 04/02/2010 17:22

Reaching new heights of jealousy/insanity here

Bloody Facebook. I stumbled across the profile of the crazy bitchdifficult woman who hounded me out of my last job. Generally speaking, she did me a massive favour, as I'm now in a much better job with lovely colleagues, but still - I'll never forget how thoroughly awful she was to me.

Anyway, crazy bitchdifficult woman now has a baby daughter. I want nothing more than a baby daughter. I may have been looking at photos on FB with a knot in my stomach, thinking about how undeserving she was of happinessa baby

MACACO · 04/02/2010 18:58

Hey all,

Don't know where all my question marks went in the last post.

bebejones, that sounds like my school friend, she was diagnosed just after having a baby, I suppose pregnancy hid the symptoms for a while. Sorry you're not seeing eye to eye with DH, it's a hard thing to talk about when there are so many emotions caught up with it, your need for another baby and his worry about you.

slowshow, FB is the work of the devil. she may have a baby but she's still a crazy bitch! What are your ttc plans?

slowshow · 05/02/2010 10:40

My plans? We'll start TTC after our wedding (seven months yesterday!) so I have a VERY good reason to wait. Dress was ordered last weekend and it's not the sort of dress you can hide a bump in, even a tiny one.

Facebook is pure evil, I know! I had been perfectly happy to never see her scowling face ever again...

tanmu82 · 05/02/2010 13:28

bebejones I'm sorry to hear about your health problems...I have an aunt with MS and when she found out she was pregnant (this was around 14 years ago mind), she wasn't sure if she even wanted children, but her doctor told her 'now or never'.

As for myself, DH is still keen on June as the time to start TTC, but I have now been allowed to stop taking the pill and have started taking folic acid. I need to know what my cycle is like without hormonal influence.

This is prob a really silly question, but I have never really had to track my periods for conception, so can someone tell me (sorry if TMI!), if I get a bit of pinkish show late at night and then proper flow the next day, which day would I count as day 1 of my cycle? And what is technically the last day? When there is absolutley no show, ie, no brownish show left at all?

slowshow · 05/02/2010 13:45

tanmu82 - I would count the proper flow as the start of the period. Fertility Friend lets you enter any pinkish/brownish discharge as spotting, and doesn't count it as CD1.

tanmu82 · 05/02/2010 13:53

thanks for that slowshow, I can track my CD's more accurately now....

Isis0505 · 05/02/2010 13:53

Hey ladies,

I am desperate to start ttc, but DP is needing some convincing...?! And being rather difficult about it. We both want children (I am horribly broody!) but he keeps saying 'when the time is right'

Any tips on calming my baby-wanting-hysteria or persuasive techniques...?! (besides staying off MN that is, lol)

Ta very much

tanmu82 · 05/02/2010 14:02

nope, no tips. I think I can safely say that those of us stalking this thread are perpetually broody.....

Isis0505 · 05/02/2010 14:33

Damn it I love it really. Is anyone else 'not allowed' to ttc yet?! So many of my friends and family are PG or have kids already, my two best friends are both due in the next 10 weeks ffs. Selfish I say pah!!

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