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Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

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Hobnob76 · 28/02/2009 16:55

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

OP posts:
Kayzr · 14/01/2010 07:48

Garvbuck I got pregnant as soon as I stopped the pill with DS1. Also you wont be able to fudge your due date because you will have a scan that gives you your due date and everyone works from that date.

bebejones · 14/01/2010 08:14

Some places give you an early scan if you have no idea about your cycle don't they?

garvbuck · 14/01/2010 09:06

I know you can get pregnant as soon as you stop the pill - after all, you can pregnant if you miss just one pill! But I don't really get why people wait to conceive for a few months after stopping the pill. I thought it was so they could be sure of their due date because they know they've started ovulating again and their cycle is regular again. But if you can clear all that up with a scan that pinpoints the dates with that much accuracy, why wait?!

Floopy21 · 14/01/2010 09:21

Garvbuck, apparently there's often a fetility spike just after finishing the pill, & therefore a greater chance of twins - not everyone's cup of tea
You'd have a weeks break after finishing a packet usually (& still be protected), so I guess you'd be off contraception in the second week after finishing. I've also heard that it's acutually quite rare to get pregnant after missing just one pill (if you've been on it a while), it's often a few missed ones that do the job.

garvbuck · 14/01/2010 09:40

Oh, a greater chance of twins! That makes sense to me now! Thanks Floopy21.

I understand that it's rare to get pregnant after missing just one pill (I have been on the pill and with the same partner for eleven years and I've certainly missed a few, though I try to be cautious afterwards). But it can happen - my mum conceived me when my dad took her for a surprise weekend away and forgot to pack her pills. Two missed pills and here I am!

Anyway, I'll take my chances with the twins... I can't wait to ttc. It's all about waiting for the OMP qualification to kick in ....

Hermya321 · 14/01/2010 11:44

garvbuck What is a OMP qualification?? Sorry if I'm not up on the lingo.

I had a month a while ago where I missed three pills over one weekend, I had a look on the net and the advice was that I would be fine conception wise. I found it a little odd, but wasn't going to overthink it.

Does anyone know why there is a fertility spike after coming off of the pill. I would have thought it would have been the other way around?

Kayzr · 14/01/2010 13:53

I was told it is much harder to fall pg straight away after the pill. So I was quite shocked. I've never heard about the greater chance of twins though.

But I was given 5 due dates spreading over 5 weeks because they don't class the bleed you have when you come off the pill a real period.

garvbuck · 14/01/2010 20:26

Sorry - OMP is Occupational Maternity Pay, as paid over and above the ordinary Statutory pay. At my work the payments are calculated on the pay you were receiving in the eight weeks before the fifteenth week before the due date (!). Because I am currently on research leave and am being funded by a different company, I have to wait until 23 weeks before I go back on my ordinary pay roll to qualify for the extra payments. And I can't afford to live without them!

If it wasn't for that we'd be trying now. It's weird how all of a sudden you can just feel that something you always thought was for the future now feels totally right. And I hate waiting!

Hermya321 · 14/01/2010 22:23

garvbuck Oh right, my word thats a bit of pain isn't it. I am sorry that you're being forced to wait due to circumstances.

I know what you mean about something that you always thought would be in the future now feels right. I didn't think we'd be talking kids for quite a while. It kind of snuck up on us and now it's here. Well it feels like the right time.

What are you researching if you don't mind me being nosy?

garvbuck · 15/01/2010 10:32

I'm an academic and I work on nineteenth-century history and literature. That's a whole load of other complicated time frames to deal with - all unis have to submit their best research for review by 2012, which means I have a whole lot of work to do before then, too... so probably the enforced waiting is good!

garvbuck · 15/01/2010 10:35

PS Hermya321, it says on the information leaflet that comes in my packets of pill that if you miss it for more than 24 hours you need to take extra precautions for a week. It's probably just the kind of over-cautious, please-don't-sue-us information you get on all those things, but I'm pretty sure if you miss it for three days you could ovulate! Perhaps you should do a test !!!

Eadwacer · 15/01/2010 10:52

Hello there - I am new to all this and wondered if I could poke my head round the door!

I've been married nearly 10 years, and as my mother keeps pointing out am not getting any younger. We've been broody for a long time and have decided that 'The Right Time' is never going to come, so we might as well go for it. In many ways it's bonkers - I'm a final year PhD student with a part-time job, and we live in a tiny rented flat with no garden - but I feel very bonny and optimistic, and sure we can cope!

We're going to go at it hammer and tongs as soon as this period is over. I have no idea about my fertility, although since I came off the pill six months ago I've realised that our cycles are genuinely amazing, and that just at the time the calculators say I'm ovulating then, well: it's pretty damn obvious what my body is up to, that's all I shall say.

Anyway - hello everyone

Hermya321 · 15/01/2010 11:06

garvbuck So that would be the 1800's, industrial revolution and the enlightenment?? Have I got that right? Gosh, go you!

I actually couldn't find the leaflet in my pill packet so I went and googled it and well thats where I got the info. Plus at that point I was flirting with the idea of coming off of the pill so I wasn't that bothered if it did happen. It didn't cause I did a test and got a BFN and AF arrived a few days later than normal as well.

Eadwacer Welcome to the thread!!!

Floopy21 · 15/01/2010 11:17

Welcome Eadwacer! Sounds like you won't be here for long though...lucky thing!

Garvbuck, I love a bit of proto-industrialisation, me

I copied someone on here (Florin?) & just had a blood test to check my rubella immunity. It's made me all excited to talk about it in RL too!

Eadwacer · 15/01/2010 11:34

Thanks Hermya321, thanks Floopy!

Floopy, why does it sound like I won't be here long - is it a good sign that I get all that physical stuff going on at ovulation? Or d'you just mean the 'hammer and tongs' businses? (forgive massive ignorance - despite being fully thirty years old none of my friends have had children or tried to, so i've no-one to ask!)

Ps - Re. hammer and tongs, well I'll be bloody lucky. Poor chap is in the emergency services and let me tell you, 12 hour shifts with no pause for a cuppa and getting covered in blood, as per last night, doth NOT a randy husband make!!

Floopy21 · 15/01/2010 11:40

Because this is a waiting to TTC thread, & you'll be graduating once Aunty Flo has gone! Although you will always be welcome

Eadwacer · 15/01/2010 11:48

Har, thanks Floopy. Joining Mumsnet feels frighteningly like starting a good qualiy girl's grammar school and not knowing if you're wearing the right colour socks!!!!

Floopy21 · 15/01/2010 11:58

Anything goes here!

Hermya321 · 15/01/2010 12:23

This is a lovely thread and everybody is really nice.

Eadwacer I felt the same way, I kept feeling like someone would come and tell me I didn't belong here and how dare I come and join in the fun.

takethatlady · 15/01/2010 12:29

Hiya,

I've just changed my name from Garvbuck to takethatlady because let's just say the previous name might give away who I really am! Esp. now I've said my job - so shhh....

Actually it's literature and geology - new discoveries about the age of the world, how the earth works, and discoveries of dinosaurs, the gold and diamond rushes, etc, and how those discoveries changed the way people imagined themselves in the world (and sometimes how the way they imagined themselves influenced the science itself). Usually people just look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them what I write about so thanks for the response!

Eadwacer, hope the final year of your PhD is going okay! I finished mine two years ago. By the time you get pregnant and give birth you'll have submitted anyway, so don't worry! What's it on?

Hermya321 · 15/01/2010 12:50

takethatlady You're welcome, my degree was in the arts and we did a LOT of study on how art was influenced by what was present in society and how art influenced society. I really enjoyed learning about it and it gave me a bit of insight into how society and culture works.

Plus we'll keep quiet, promise.

Eadwacer · 15/01/2010 16:41

takethatlady - I'm doing English (or a branch thereof!). I have to submit in September under the terms of my studentship or I owe them my tuition fees back. Ahem! But I gather pregnancy doesn't necessarily turn your brain to cottage cheese so I hope even I do get pregnant then the submission deadline will seem all the more urgent.

Oo by the way just realised I'm on a waiting to TTC thread rather than a waiting to conceive thread - that accounts for my confusion. Obviously my brain is cottage cheese already. In that case I'll only be here another few days; how DISCONCERTING

spilttheteaagain · 15/01/2010 16:58

Hello, can I join you too?

We're hoping to start ttc #1 in July/August this year. Basically DH's job suffered a fair bit with the economic probs and they spent all of last year on 80% wages. He gets his annual review in June and wants to check that things are back on track now wrt pay and then we can go for it!

Am very excited, I've been broody for about the last 2 years and had to be very patient.

cheekster · 15/01/2010 17:00

Hi everyone, seems like an age since I was on last.

We have just had ofsted in our school so have been so busy, it did at least take my mind off tiny babies and big bellies for a while. But as you can see - only for a while.

Hope everyone is well

Hermya321 · 15/01/2010 17:51

Eadwacer come join us on the first time frolickers,it's a fab little thread. Plus i'm going to be TTC in a few days as well. Looks like we're in the same boat.