Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

[Hobnob76]

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

What worries me most about shettles 'boy' method is that because there is such a short window of oppurtunity conceiving seems like more of a long shot. I know probably not technically true but that's how I see it IYSWIM!

We initially weren't going to find out sex with DD, but I had had hyperemesis & had felt so out of control of what was happening that it made me really anxious about the whole thing! So we changed our minds so that I could prepare myself & sort of get some control back! I think if we found out next time round I wouldn't tell anyone in RL. But then again it might slip out in all the excitement!

The Shettles method has worked both times for me getting a boy. The book says it is much easier to get a boy as you are having sex at ovulation rather than hoping the sperm survives until you ovulate.

I could never wait until the birth to find out. I am far too impatient!!! Before I was pg with DS1 I never wanted to find out what sex we were having. Also I wasn't bothered what sex we got but I really really wanted a boy once I was actually pregnant. It was really weird.

Hello all, I recognise a few names from our weightloss thread too.

I currently have a 18 month old, and will be trying for another in a few months.

We also planned DD, and luckily I got pregnant the first time we had sex without contraception! I hope Im as lucky next time. I hadnt heard of the shettles method then, but I did desperately want a girl, but we did it when I ovulated (ovalation testing stick things), but I still ended up with a girl. I hope to conceive another girl this time, as id love DD to have a sister, as Im very close to mine. We'll be using the shettles method for a girl too. But wouldnt be disappointed if it was a boy.

Am currently eating well and exercising to get in the best shape possible to conceive due to suffering hyperemesis last time.
Bebejones - I too had hyperemesis with DD, in hospital and allsorts with it, its horrific. The midwife did tell me, that it is more common for girls or multiples.

When are you all planning to get the ball rolling so to speak?

Just read a few pages back! I can see when your all going to try.

Kayzr - We'll be August too.

Im not going to find out the sex this time either, I did with DD but Id love a surprise. I also wish for a natural birth this time, instead of marathon labour and emcs

Hoping to TTC number 2 this year. I have a son who will be 6 months on Thursday. We were lucky enough to conceive him our first month trying, so fingers crossed Number 2 will be as quick. I've tentatively earmarked September as TTC (assuming we either move to a bigger house or extend first, so running out of space). DH comes from a family where boys are really dominant, so I reckon #2 (pg) will also be a boy. Might have to nag him into a third.
I was debating putting it off depending on job satisfaction, but my company refused my request to reduce my hours by what was a minimal amount overall, but would have meant a 4 day week for me, so I just want to get one more ML out of them, and decide what I want to do with my life.

I'm hoping for another homebirth again. DS2 was 10lb 5oz so I am expecting a bit of resistance. But if I can have him at home then I doubt another big baby will cause much of a problem.

I must be one of those really rare people for whom the thought of a homebirth is terrifying! Don't know why exactly, just can't put my finger on it!! Was very scared with DD of anything going wrong that felt hospital best for me. I think because it was a really long & difficult labour I would be scared to stay at home for any subsequent DC.

MrsWill - I was threatened with hospital treatment twice for the hyperemesis. I resisted & sipped at lucozade for about 3 months! GP refused to give me anything for sickness saying in his opinion he wasn't sure about the safety!!! He wasn't the one being sick 24/7 & unable to move!

Lately I've been very honest with my OH about how broody I am. Perhaps a bit too honest. We were talking about getting a tumble dryer (oh, our interesting lives) and I made a throwaway comment about how useful that would be for drying reusable nappies. He freaked That may have been more to do with the idea of washable nappies than the idea of babies per se. But I think I maybe need to keep my insane thought processes to myself because if I keep it up, the whole baby thing might become a bit TOO real and then he'll change his mind about TTC...

We walked past a branch of Mamas & Papas and I nearly said "Ooh, that buggy is a lovely colour" but I kept my mouth shut that time

I've also spent way, WAY too long thinking about birth choices. My job is sort of linked to the health service and I know far too much about the sad state of NHS maternity services for someone who's never been pregnant. I am a control freak / anti-intervention yadda yadda and a homebirth really does appeal, but I know there's that tiny extra element of risk (being considerably further away from an operating theatre if a dire emergency arose) which makes me uneasy about it. I lie in bed awake thinking about it sometimes. Madness!

The risk of intervention is lower if you give birth at home. They have closed all the maternity wards round here so there is a good chance I wouldn't make it to the hospital. I don't want to give birth at the side of the road.

I think I am quite lucky where I live as I get the same MW at every ante-natal appt & she is from our local midwife unit 15mins away. If you have a low risk PG & you give birth at the unit the chances are quite high that you will have your community MW at the birth and/or post-natal in the unit. I ended up in the main hospital last time after 50 hours at home. Main hospital is only about 25mins away. I did transfer back to the local unit the following day & stayed there for 5 days & it was lovely. I will (if/when I am PG again) be planning to go there for the next birth, fingers crossed all being well next time!

kayzr I'm really hoping for a homebirth again too - I honestly can't imagine a better birthing experience than the one I had with DS. In fact I think I'm MORE terrified of going into hospital this time round than the 1st time!

Met up with my local mums today, 2 of which are already pregnant again, one is trying already and two more are likely to start when we do in the late Spring

we were also really lucky to fall first month trying, I really don't want an oct-jan baby this time because literally every member of our families have their birthdays then, it is SUCH an expensive time of year, I would love a spring baby but don't want much more than 2.5 years between kiddies (initially wanted #2 this spring) but this is far too much planning and will inevitably mean it will take us 5 years to get pregnant and will have #2 slap bang in the middle of Christmas!

any other 2nd timers worried about 2nd time infertility? Just heard of so many people who got pregnant straight away the 1st time then it took forever for the 2nd

GirlWiththeMouseyHair - I am so convinced #2 is going to take ages to conceive. I fell PG with #1 straight away too, & like you I need to avoid probably Nov-Jan due to family Birthdays/Christmas/Wedding Anniversary. Plus I don't want DC2 to have Birthday near DD (August) So need to avoid then aswell. Of course this will completely go out the window when actually TTC!

I got pg straight away with DS1 and in the second month with DS2. We are avoiding March and December as that is when the boys have their birthdays. Ideally I'd like to be due between July and September. So anytime between 1st July and 30th Septmber will do me.

This is my dilemma, do I wait until september to start TTC so that I can be due between may and aug (which is what I'd prefer) or do I stop taking the pill earlier than this in case it doesn't happen straight away? But what if I then got pregnant first time....? Am I over complicating this? Should I just go for it around spring/early summer and see what happens?

sorry, would have to start in aug to be due may

Hi everyone! Hope you're all doing ok and getting lots of practice in ;)

just a quick observation- I seem to be going a bit bonkers, just wondering if I'm the only one.....

My period is 2 days late. 48 measly hours. There is not way I can be pg, yet I found myself today thinking "Maybe I should buy a test, just to be sure" ...and promptly went off into a fantasy world. (I lost a good 20 seconds and somebody was actually talking to me at the time.)

Then I got a grip and reminded myself that my sugar cravings and spotty skin just means that AF will actually be arriving soon and is probably waiting for the most inopportune moment to make her grand entrance (!)

But still for a moment there, in my head I'd not only bought the pregnancy test but also the maternity clothes, the hypno-birth CD and the first set of babygros!!! Is anybody else this madly obsessed?!

Loopy, me me me me!!! I am like that. I have all the baby catalogues. I am honestly considering buying some of the lovely maternity clothes to save for when I pregnant.

sighs with relief Thanks kayzr- helps to know I'm not the only one and the materity clothes are lovely arent they? much nicer than just buying the next size up. Even the 'carry everything' bags in JoJoMamanBebe (sp?) are delish.

I have considered buying things now while I have the money and time, but fear is holding me back. DP and I were expecting last year- our plan was to buy our first babygro after our 12 week scan- but instead were told that we had mc'd

So now much as I want to buy things, me personally I am a bit cautious. I know though, that this will make it even sweeter when we finally DO get to the right time to buy stuff

xx

Oh, what a wonderful thread! I read the first few pages, and the last few pages, and thought 'I've finally found somewhere I can be honest about my broodiness!'

My DP and I already have one DS, he's 15 months old and a really little character - I absolutely worship him and can't remember what life was like before he arrived! But, as he's now a toddler, I've started feeling that familiar broody feeling again! We're getting married May 15th this year, and although it would be absolutely nuts to TTC now (I've only been in my current job since last August after being made redundant while on maternity leave), a tiny little part of me thinks that it wouldn't be so bad if I fell pregnant now! Unfortunately, the sensible part of me wins over and I know we can't do anything about it right now. Booo.

The main thing is money - a lot of people say that after one child they get cheaper, and that there isn't a lot of financial difference between the first and second, but it's still a concern!

x

PS - Loopylou2 and Kayzr - I totally know what you mean about maternity clothes and JojoMamanBebe!!

Hello Crochet!!

We probably spent less on DS2. We bought a Phil & Teds as we needed a double and we got a new cot bed. That is all we bought that was big I think.

I have been flicking through catalogues eyeing up cute boys clothes. Even consdered buying something the other day then realised that there was no guarantee I would be PG this year let alone have a boy!

Everyone keeps asking us when we are having 'another one', and that you don't have to buy as much 2nd time so it doesn't make that big a difference financially. But DH is sensible and says we have to wait until our finances are more stable & til we know how my health is! Getting v frustrated now with all this waiting!

Loopylou - pmsl!

If we're 'fessin up, I too am going a bit bonkers. I dont think Ive had a period in the last 6 months, that I havent bought a pregnancy test a couple of days beforehand 'just in case'. And then get all disappointed its negative - even though we're using condoms!

Ive even counted the months down to see how far apart in age DD and imaginary baby would be. Ive lurked through countless childbirth threads to get tips at getting a natural birth this time around, hynobirthing CD's featuring heavily. Also had a good look at some heavy duty breast pumps. Cant wait til Im pregnant to actually have an excuse for all this. I blame hormones, you wouldnt catch DP doing none of this.

Girlwiththemousyhair - petrified of 2nd time around TTC. Especially as Ive had a section which is supposed to cut your chances anyway. We caught so easy last time around, I reckon we'll have a nightmare this time! Most of our friends tried or a year or more, which is my excuse to get back on it straight away

Am not sure why, but I too love the thought of the summer months (may-august) being the due date. DD is in august, and it;ll mean her birthday will be mostly dry and sunny!

Bebejones - are you a bit nervous of hyperemesis this time around? Last time of course I didnt have a toddler to run round after, and mostly was either in hospital or lying on the sofa ill, with no tele allowed on incase it showed pictures of food. Obviously wont be able to do this next time, and hope they give me Cyclizine to stop being sick constantly. Im trying now to eat really healthily to see if that helps it when I conceive.

MrsWill - I am really scared of the hyperemesis next time round. I don't think I got out of bed at all for 8 weeks, except to go to the loo which meant I had to hold my breath to go through the kitchen! (Downstairs bathroom...nightmare) If I moved at all I felt sick. I didn't eat anything for 6 weeks & hardly kept down any fluids. I was signed off work until I was 20 weeks & I don't think I had a single day from about 6 weeks into PG where I wasn't sick. There is no way I could cope with that with a toddler & the thought terrifies me! Once I got to about 18weeks I could just about manage small meals but was more often than not sick straight after. I felt ok as long as I was eating after about 22weeks so just ate as often as I could! Didn't stop me being sick most mornings & most evenings! It completely takes over doesn't it? Think it's the main reason I really didn't enjoy being pregnant at all until I was ready to pop & then got quite sad about it all coming to an end!

I just know my GP wouldn't give me anything at all if it happens again!

Bebejones, Crotchet and others -
Yes I guess financially speaking 2nd and subsequent babies probably don't cost much extra for quite a while, esp if you BF cos then they eat for free! It's when they all start having hobbies, driving lessons, uni etc that they get pricy.

Though in fairness that's quite some distance away!

The waiting to start is hard though isn't it?! Have spent all day with friends with a gorgeous 10 month old girl and I want mine now, damnit!

Please tell me the rest of you get baby envy?...

Definately get baby envy! DD can also be SO cute sometimes it makes me want another one NOW!!