Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

[Hobnob76]

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

hermya - ooo is there such a thing? I'm off to try and find it!

Hi spilt the tea again. I'm in a very similar situation to u for same reason. My dh's review should be in April/may time so hoping he gets a rise and then we can start ttc. I am so impatient waiting though.

Went to MIL on thursday night and I said no to a glass of wine (I was driving and still lots of snow around so wanted a clear head) I normally have one so she suddenly had a spring in her step. Sat down for dinner and she just said I assume as ur not drinking you must be pregnant with a big grin on her face. Felt quite guilty saying I wasn't! Did admit the reason we are putting it off is we just can't afford to at the moment.

Florin - gah, that's the sort of situation I dread. Enough pals know I'd like to have a baby to be on the alaert, you know? I wish I hadn't said anything to anyone.

Good luck with it, though! My husband has just finished the long 2 year probationary period of his job, which means a pay rise, and we're about to pay off a massive bank loan, so I know just what you mean about wanting to hang on until there's a wee bit more money coming in...

Hi again everyone.

Me and DH had the age old TTC conversation again. I tried my best to try to persuade him to bring our JULY date further forward. I think I was almost getting there but then we both realised that if we leave it until then, I would hopefully be on MAT leave when DS goes to pre school. So would be there to take him everyday until he gets settled.

So yes July still does make so much sense and theres no changing there!

So Im currently holiday shopping at the moment to try to keep myself occupied. As well as going to B & Q to pick paint colours for the extension. Somehow cant see it working though ...

Please can I join? We have gorgeous 14mo DS, always thought we'd aim for #2 to be born by the time DS was 2 but a colicky baby then a giggly happy crawler now a funnny brilliant toddler has been putting it off! Also I work in theatre and got my 1st decent job when DS was 9months, now directing with my company so waiting until at least March to see if the momentum results in any more work before ttc #2.

Seriously worried about finances because any salary I earn just about covers childcare but never thought we'd cope on DH's wage and just about managing it so putting it to the back of my mind!

Oh Florin how embarrassing!

We hosted Christmas this year for all 4 of our parents and because I was quite stressed about it all I woke up on christmas morning feeling very sick and spent about 15 mins sat by the loo.
Cue my mum running back into her room and excitedly whispering to my dad "Do you think it's morning sickness??" Thank God he just laughed at her and it went no further.

I made sure I glugged back the wine, just to clear up any misunderstandings

Welcome GirlWiththeMouseyHair and congrats your DS - gorgeous pic on your profile! Fingers crossed work etc works out for you.

Morning,

AF is due tomorrow so that means I can start tracking my cycles for the next 6 months. It will soon be August (well I keep telling myself that) and we can start ttc.

Kayzr - check out fertilityfriend.com if you haven't already, it's really good for tips etc & also a good way to keep track of everything!

This broodiness of mine is turning to jealousy!! I can't see or hear about pregnant friends without feeling quite upset. Been to the hospital this morning & saw a couple coming out after a scan with their pictures & it was all I could do to stop myself bursting into tears! What the hell is wrong with me? This cannot be normal? I will start pregnacare in March & then at least I will feel like I am 'doing' something.

Yes I already use it. Going to start properly tomorrow so I will be taking my temp and checking CM. I'm going to start taking pregnacare in May I think as it will be about 3 months before we start ttc.

great to feel like you're doing something though ladies, trying to take the positive.

Thankyou splitthetea, I adore him!

AF finally arrived yesterday after not having it for over 2 years and starting to get a bit worried. Applied for a bursary today too which would push back ttc but hopefully only by a few months, am worried we won't be able to ttc for ages then there will end up being a massive age gap between DS and #2

bebejones I know what you mean about feeling like you are 'doing' something. I was browsing the pre-natal aisle whilst out shopping the other week, desperate to turn my planning into some sort of action!

I have pretty taken over my sister's pregnancy by proxy, using her as a 'valid' excuse for browsing the internet for hours on end for anything baby related.... I haven't gone as far as the crying bit, and hope I don't get to feeling that way....I feel for you! It does seem like all of a sudden everyone is either pregnant or has a newborn and I so badly want that!

Is there anything you could be doing physically to prepare? I used to love running and pilates, so am going to get back into a gentle routine to prepare my body for another pregnancy and birth. This means I can focus on my nutrition and fitness whilst I am waiting....

I am doing my best to lose as much weight as possible before TTC, have been doing exercise too. You would think I should be happy with my DD, I am so lucky to have her. Trouble is when she is being cute it just makes me want another one!

Seeing the couple with the scan pics was made worse by DH saying 'Aaah, do you remember that... it was so exciting!' Made me want it even more. AF due soon, so am just going to chalk the whole thing up to hormones & give myself a slap!

Big hug for you bebejones, I had a similar baby scan experience last week. A proud dad was showing off 20 wk scan picture to some children in our school - and I so remembered the feeling of being proud and protective of my little 'alien' picture too.

On a plus point though - I think it is fab that so many of us are in the same situation, and many of us will be TTC around the same time too- July/Aug - which is something to look forward to.

I think it's because I have so much riding on my MRI results from today on whether we can TTC or not. So that is playing on my mind, combine that with the hormones & I'm a bit OTT & emotional about the whole thing!

Sorry for bringing you all down! I will remain positive and for me TTC is 'planned' for May/June all being well. Something to focus on & get excited about! (Repeat over x20!!)

I just wrote out a big post and it vanished!!

I have started temping today. TTC is a long way of yet but it brings me a bit closer.

Bebe, I know how you feel. I find myself getting quite jealous of people I see with bumps.

Kayzr - are you using a special thermometer or are you just using a digital one? Wasn't sure if I needed a basal one?

I got a basal one from the Internet but to be honest it is exactly the same as the one we have in the first aid box.

I was just kinda hoping to 'do the deed' often and around the middle of my cycle and then hope for the best! Do I actually need to start buying thermometers and charts and stuff??!!!

Tanmu82 - you don't have to chart, just IMO gives you something to 'do'!! Plus it does help you understand when you are most fertile & stand the best chance of conceiving! Check out fertilityfriend.com the basic charting stuff is free on there & they send you lessons to ur email when you join which explain the charting methods & information etc that you can use! I'm finding it quite a useful distraction!

Kayzr - think I will stick with the digital one for now then!

I didn't chart with either of the boys. I'm only doing it as we are having a go at having a girl.

what is this....your temp can help you conceive one sex over the other??!! Tell me more! I so want another girl lol

It's the Shettles method here. It is all to do with when you ovulate. If you want a girl then you should have sex 2-3 days before you ovulate and the stop having sex. But if you want a boy you should only have sex the day before you ovulate and the day you ovulate.

We would like a 3rd boy but we also want a girl so we thought we would give it a try.

We are going to give it a go for a boy! Although lately I'm thinking I'd quite like another girl! I didn't chart with DD at all, just roughly aimed at middle of cycle & didn't think it would happen straight away! Ooops! Prob means will take ages 2nd time around! DH will be pleased!

I like the idea of it, but I don't want to get my hopes up on a girl....I also don't want to get so caught up in having a girl, that i stand a chance of being 'disappointed' if it's a boy iyswim.....

Besides, I decided that when I get pregnant this next time, I am going to go against all my previous arguments and convictions and wait until the birth to find out the sex ()....I've always maintained that knowing the sex enabled me to bond better (with a he/she instead of 'it') and prepare better, but I'm warming to the idea of being surprised.....