TTC #4 - the noisy slightly unhinged section!

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Guys we need a new group! Wouldn't let me post in old one.

MrsDis I recognise him but can't for the life of me think of his name.

Someone spill!

Thanks for all the good luck wishes. I've got 10 days to go. Have to confess to getting VERY nervous now. Not so much about the labour and birth but post natal depression. Some of you may remember me mentioning it before. I'm doing everything I can to lessen it this time, all I can do is keep my fingers crossed and hope for the best. I'll keep in touch xx

Heinz - don't let it become a self fulfilling prophecy. You can (i did) take anti-d's from the dau of birth to stop the crash. its totally fine to BF with them too. I posted on your thread btw keep talking to someone.

Its my 20 week scan tomorrow

My bastard (wish i could say the C word you know) of a 'husband', 5 weeks ago, met up with a 19 yr old girl he had been phoning for a while, and snogged her. He told me he was fishing at the time, i packed him off with flask and coat [stupid me]. I hate him. This is not the first time he has cheated, but the first physical time. He maintains no sexual contact, but i am off for screening next week as i bet he can't keep his dick in his pants.

Oh scorps. that is the last thing you need at the minute. I saw your FB status and guessed it was something like this.

Do you think you can trust him again? I'm by NO means defending him but if my DH snogged someone I'd be hurt, angry and would probably kick him out for a bit but it would be s out of character for him I think I'd end up forgiving him... If he has cheated before though then I guess trust is a bit of a nono.

Have you decided what to do?

I know I don't really 'know' you but have been thinking of you and hoping you have lots of friends around you.

CD21 today, expecting AF this week, last cycle was only 26 days and I know I OV'd on CD12 so hoping it's the same again so we can crack on

xxx

I did kick him out, he returned last night on my asking. He is a knob.

Oh and heinz.. I didn't suffer PND but during my last 2 pregnancies developed severe anxiety to the point where I found it difficult to leave the house so I worry too. Especially as I'm currently on some prozac type equivalent and it works pretty well. I'd have to cut down a lot or stop taking it when pregnant.

I really hope everything is ok, I'll end up looking for symptoms from day 1!

Understandable scorps, you need him right now and maybe he'll be doing some major sucking up to you that you can use to your benefit....

he had better, but it had better be genuine.

Scorps, so sorry and you are right some men are total bastards! I hope he's sorry and I hope he's grovelling. He has a lot of making up to do! A 19 year old girl can't offer him anything emotionally, he's a fool if he continues!!!! Thinking of you.xxxx

Heinz, huge hugs, I'm sure you will be fine, I'd probably take tablets asap after the birth too. I get anxiety after each baby, I never get it seen to but I hermit myself away for the first 6 months. It takes me at least 18 months to let each baby out of my sight, even dh isn't allowed out with them alone. I just can't help it, I go into overprotective mode. I know that's not normal when I look at how my friends are with littlies but I just can't let go when they are tiny. I'm a worrier and I know I was ill after ds1, I should have got it seen to but I was worried and needed to put on the whole 'I'm coping' front because he was ill. Sorry waffling now.

Well cd 28/29 and I feel a bit sick but I always do before af. I know I'm not but that glimmer always sits in the back of my mind....maybe just maybe (and as soon as I say that the damn heavens will open lol). We all live in hope lol. Had a BFN two days ago, lol, which is silly as I never get a bfp until cd 32+, I should know better lol!!!!

A GIRL !!!

Scorps - so sorry for the mess you are having to deal with... espoecially now at a time when hormones are raging and you need all the support you can get. Don't make it too easy on him... let him grovel for a bit. We are here for you to vent with. On a happier note... Congrats on another girl!

Heinz... never had PND, but I wouldn't chance it if I were you. Get yourself started on the meds as soon as you can, and avoid having to go through any unnecessary worrying. You will do wonderfully I am sure. Keep us posted. Not much longer now!

Kat - feeling lucky this month???

As for me, the lack of sleep is starting to get to me now! LOL. Adjusting to a newborn is the easy part... the hard part is adjusting to having 2 under 2 again! Its been a while for me! DD2 is good with the baby, but is starting her terrible twos with the tantrums and screaming. Today, I had the baby screaming upstairs while DH was changing his nappy, and DD2 screaming downstairs because she wanted DH to tend to her! I stood there, halfway up the stairs, wondering which direction to go... which was the lesser of the 2 evils!!! LOL.. good thing they are so cute, or you would toss em out on their ear!

Evening all just popping in. first my news well no news really, think I had a chemical pregnancy this month, period was 8 days late (it never is late) and was as heavy as hell. Back to CD7 here action sation next week

scorps - first congrats on a girl how wonderful get on the names board now we can all help you chose. Sorry to hear about you not so DH, you poor thing that's all you need. Men eh, they just never grow up. A wee floosy shows an interest in them and they are 16 again.

babyblue - huge congratulations on the birth of your boy, wonderful story about your older 2 witnessing it all too, lovely names are you Italian?

Heinz - best of luck hope it all goes well for you, I have PND as well, am currently on ADs as well, I totally relate to whoever said about anxiety and being a hermit after birth

Kat - fingers crossed, I have heard a lot about an anti-d called Sertraline which is safe when pregnant and BFing

meanbean - fingers crossed for you too

Sweetkitty - yes, both hubby and I are Italian, so our kids all have Italian names. Its nice to keep some heritage/culture (we are both first generation in Canada) in our family.

Well... got some pretty good sleep last night... thank goodness! Marco gave us a run for our money in the grocery store this morning to make up for it tho!! LOL... I could hear him screaming all across the shop! Not sure what the problem was, since he was dry and fed. Boys!! Then DD2 decided to chime in, so we had an symphony of screaming going on. I have never gotten through a shop that fast!!! LOL. The 2 LOs are asleep right now, and DH is working on taking my motorcycle out of storage so I can go for my first ride! Very excited! MEEEEE time!!!

babyblue - I want to know what your other DCs names are now, Marco is a lovely name. He will just be settling in, as you know first 3 months can be rough until they get a bit bigger and into more of a pattern. Good luck on the ME time I am much too of a scaredy cat to even think about going on a motorbike

'scuse me ladies - temporary hijack Hi sweetkitty - thanks for the congratulationary message. Didn't realise you were going for a No.4 too!Fab! Will CAT you re fb.

Sweetkitty - My other DCs names are: Angelina, Matteo, and Sofia. We didn't name them after anyone even though it is customary(too much family politics there). Though, both boys have their middle names after their grandfathers.

Went for my ride and it was great! The rain held out just long enough for me! Was a good sanity break! Baby been well behaved and sleeping lots this afternoon, so hopefully I am not in for a rough night.

Gorgeous names BB, Sophia was my gt grandmother's name, if I ever have another DD I would love to call her Anna Sophia

Still waiting for AF, no chance this month on CD26 today and cycle can be 26-29 so anytime.

DH considering working abroad so not sure where that will leave us TTC.....

xx

things still shitty here. So upset. It won't hurt dd if i cry and am sad, will it?

Thikning of naming her Lacey Amber. comments?

Exciting for heinz

Poor you scorps, I think a lot of pregnant women cry excessively so not gonna harm baby, I'm sure she's nice and snug in there

Lacey is a lovely name, not sure about Amber, maybe because my DD is doing 'hairspray' at the minute and Amber is not a nice character!

Remind me of your other DC names?

CD1 today finally so pleased

I don't know any Ambers...associations are funny arent they!

Reilly Scott, Jamie Levi and Millie Grace Jessamy.

4th miscarriage now.

Rainbow, what has happened? Was it CP or more? So sorry for you, will you continue ttc?

scorps - I am currently 6weeks and 1day, but my hcg levels are now falling and I expect to start bleeding in a few more days. As for if it is a chemical pregnancy or more - I believe that they stop calling a chemical pregnancy once the sac is seen (I could be wrong on this though). This time, I refused to be scanned as I have seen enough pregnancy sacs shrinking to last me a lifetime. I have miscarried at 5 or 6 weeks, Four times since last november (nine months ago), the last one took over a month for my hcg levels to reach zero, as the levels were failing to reduce as they should. This time I just have the "happy" situation that the levels are halving every 48 hours as they should, so it will be all over quickly. , i.e. in the next week or so.

Rainbow I'm so so so sorry. A loss at any stage is heartbreaking. I hope you are ok.

Babyblue, gorgeous names. Sophia is my next name if we have a girl, love love love that name. I nearly changed my mind to call Isabella Sophia but dh wouldn't let me as I'd spent all pg calling her Bella lol.

Well AF found me (damn her). But we are just kind of rolling with it. Still not expecting it for 6 months ish anyway because of the bfing. My af is very shoirt, probably not a thick enough lining to support implantation. It will happen when the time is right. Probably next spring.

Hi to everyone else.

Rainbow - so very sorry for your loss. I lost my peanut at 6.5 weeks along last October, and it was very hard on me. Hang in there, cry, and dont forget to lean on us whenever you need to. Hopefully, your body will take care of itself quickly, and not put you through any added issues.

Kat and meanbean - sorry to hear AF found you again this month. Dont give up... when the time is right, it will happen for you.

Meanbean - I LOVE the name Isabella. That was the name we chose for this last pregnancy had it been a girl.

Scorps - Lacey is a beautiful name! Very girly!! I wouldn't worry too much about your lil DD. She is happy and snug in there, and totally oblivious to you crying, so do what you need to do to make yourself feel better. I had my share of stress and tears while I was preg because of my FIL's health problems... but Marco came out just fine. Hoping things get better for you.

Heinz - way to go girlfriend!!! Cant wait to read your birthstory!!!

As for me... I am sooooo sleep deprived its not funny! Does anyone have any experience with colic?? This child will not stop crying!! He screams bloody murder whenever he is awake. At night, he sleeps for 4 hours, then wakes up, eats, and screams for 2 hours, before falling asleep again. My nerves are completely shot! I have never experienced anything like this or even close with the other DCs. Let me tell you... this is the BEST BIRTH CONTROL you could ask for!! LOL. No question about whether there will be a #5 in my household!!!! Anyway... I am cutting milk out of my diet for now, in case he is lactose sensitive/intolerant. Next, I will try switching his formula (I have low milk supply so I BF and supplement until the meds I am taking boost my milk enough to satisfy him). We have tried Colic drops with no luck. Any other suggestions??? He is gassy, which I am sure is the whole problem, but what can I do about it??? Sigh...

Rainbow Im so sorry you are going through this again... As you know I had 2 mc's in 2 months and it really does get you down. If there are any positives to this situation try and think of it that at peast you are falling pregnant and you are bound to get a sticky one soon. Sendng you my hugs (())

Well I've been trying for about 6 months now, last month was a right off as we didnt try but this month I'm mega going for it!

Congrats to heinz too :p Hopefully she'll pop on here when she gets a minute.

We need a new thread soon as this one is so long it keeps crashing my computer