TTC #4 - the noisy slightly unhinged section!

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Guys we need a new group! Wouldn't let me post in old one.

MrsDis I recognise him but can't for the life of me think of his name.

Someone spill!

Babyblue - I am not sure if this will help or not, as it is my personal opinion, so please feel free to tell me that I am totally off the wall here.
I have experience of working with adults with down's and other learning disabilities, and know what it entails caring for someone with disabilities, and I know the huge variation in abilities in people with downs. I know for sure that I personally could never abort due to having a disabled child (I also understand why other people would choose this), but I definitely would want to know what to be prepared for before the birth. Therefore during all my pregnancies I have opted for not having the blood tests or nuchal tests as it would only worry me if they came back high.
But I have each time insisted on a full and detailed 20 week scan. As cleft lip and palete runs in my family, I specifically ask that they look for that too, so that I can be prepared. I feel that for me it is important that I know whether there will be heart / stomach / kidney / mouth (feeding) problems that I will have to deal with from birth. Also because they are looking for the lip defects I get a good look at the facial features to know if there are any glaringly obvious signs of downs etc at that time. Most babies with downs do not look very different, only a trained medical eye would spot the difference in many cases (obviously there are some exceptions, but this would be seen on the scan). For me any intellectual disability is not an issue to start with, I would take it at a step at a time approach.

I am not sure whether this helps in anyway, as you are in a different position from me being in the situation of actually having tests that suggest the possibility of a problem. The reason I offer it is because if you have the amnio and it comes back positive, and you decide not to abort (none of which I am suggesting will happen) I just wanted to offer it as a next step thought. You would be offered it naturally anyway, and just to reassure you that you will have some ways of knowing a bit about what to be prepared for in advance.
Sorry this has been long-winded and I am not sure it will be of much help, but I wanted to offer you something, even if it is for yell back at me that I really don't understand where you are at!

MrsD - did you catch the escaping guinea-pigs? Are you enjoying time with the children being off school.

Scorpio - how are you?

Kat - thinking of you with blood tests today.

Twigs - are you back in the 2ww?

Sandy - hope you are busy enjoying time with dh now he has seen the positive side of ttc?

Big wave hello to everyone else.

Pissed off. DH keeps saying sorry to people about not fightiing today and keeps saying he wishes he was there.

Babyblue - how are you today? This baby business is hard.

Morning
Hi SCORPIO - can see how hard hearing dh talk say that might feel. I suppose he's saying he wishes he could be there is circumstances were different, but can see how you might feel hearing him.
RAINBOW, great post. I have been left in limbo-land after an amnio, and have only ever had false positives from screening, so this time has avoided them. Easy to say after the event though! Thinking of you BABYBLUE - do you know yet if you can get fast track results??
Hello to everyone else - hope you have happy valentines days. We don't bother, although dh did bring me breakfast in bed which was sweet

Hiya girls!
Went for my blood test, was in and out and they're going ot ring me later today with results. Cross fingers it's gone down. Started bleeding again but stopped again, am sick to death of it!!
SCORPIO - ((hugs)) I'm pleased you're feeling ready to try again but sorry you're feeling down about DH, I'm sure he'll get over it... after this weekend hopefully he won't bring it up again.

BB - I think what everyone else has said basically! Remember you have a 35/36 chance of everything being fine which is HUGE, also the fact the nuchal fold was ok is great news too. I'm very hopeful for you.

Mrs D LOL about the guinea pigs, I have 2 rabbits and we let them run around the garden all day but very occasionally the gate is left open by someone and they escape into the street, we've had neighbours chasing after them, knocks at the door from random strangers who have seen them. They are well known in our neighbourhood and always get caught They are my surrogate babies lol.

Had a lovely night last night. We never normally bother with Val's day either but DH is cooking me a 3 course meal tonight because he thinks I've been through a lot recently No cards though. Jessica (10) has gone on a date with her 'boyfriend' and his Mam today, he bought her a lovely necklace and he's taking her for a meal and bowling! LOL He's lovely... I've told her she has to go out with him forever

OMG Kat 10 years old with a boyfriend...now I'm worried ! Yes caught the GPigs, hiding behind the piano... Don't blame you for being a bit fed-up with your body, hopefully it's nearly back to normal.x

Scorpio....(((hugs))) Hope your DH can cheer up a bit.

Babyblue I hope you're ok, have been thinking of you. x

Hi Rainbow, yes love having the girls home, although have my sis's two today as well so complete chaos and the builder is due in an hours time to dicuss starting our extension...so excited...will have to banish dc's outside I think

Hello to Twigs, Diege and Sandy !!!

Well as far as valentines goes we both forgot , DH is out so I've made hime a card......hope you all have a good day. x

Kat i hope the levels have gone down for you and that your bleeding will either stop or happen, iyswim.

I do feel like i want to ttc again. Also when can i have sex please? (cos i want to not for ttc iyswim)

DH forgot me for valentines. unimpressed.

Just checking up with you all on the new thread

Scorpio - I think they say wait until all the bleeding is gone before you get the gree light for having sex. I know exactly what you mean about needing to be pregnant again, i felt the exact same after my mc I was obsessed with being pregnant but again felt guilty for the one I lost, I think I will always shed a tear on what would have been my due date. I was pregnant 6 weeks after my mc, in fact, I must have ov'ed whilst still bleeding from it. Goes to show how quickly your body springs back.

babyblue - ((((hugs))) to you and thinking of you, as others have said the odds are in your favour and I agree that I would want to know in advance as well.

kat - fingers crossed your blood results are good, oh don't even mention boyfriends to my DH, I think it keeps him up at night being a Dad of 3 girls

Mimi is not having boyfriends until she is 30 - we thought that was fair.

LOL
They only really see each other at dancing and only hug. He's really quiet and sweet and I know his Mum quite well, they're just good friends really (at 10 they're not even doing pecks on the cheek) but he absolutely adores her and it makes her feel grown-up to say she has a boyfriend lol

Ahh, i used to have a friend like that in primary school too

Ok....so DH didn't forget Valentines, just came in with a wrapped up parcel containing a lovely Long tall Sally dressing gown (been wanting one...), oh well least I made him a card ......

Hello Ladies

Thanks to all of you for your wonderful thoughts and support. I am so glad to have all of you, since I really haven't been able to talk about this to anyone in RL. Just talking to my doc I was crying like a baby (I am sure the prego hormones aren't helping much here!). I am feeling a little better, even though I will be in limbo for quite some time. On Tuesday when I see the genetics counsellor, I will find out if I can fast track my results. DH and I discussed it, and think it would be money well spent to know as early as possible.

Kat - hope your blood tests come back lower. I had a good giggle about the idea of your 10 yr old with a BF! LOL.. my DH says he has had the convent chosen for his girls since birth... and at the least, also thinks 30 is a fair age!! LOL

DH surprised me with some beautiful pink tulips (since I promised him a swift death if he wasted money on very overpriced roses) and my own copy of Twilight (which I have been dying to read). We are also taking the bunch out for a Valentine's dinner at my fave seafood restaurant. Gone are the days of romantic meals for 2... now we must find family friendly restaurants! LOL

Hope you all have a very Happy Valentine's Day... and a nice weekend. For us, its a long weekend due to the newly instated "Family Day" holiday on Monday. I am looking forward to the extra day off. Will give me time to work on my little beans' scrapbook!

Hi again,

Results have gone down to 107 (yawn) so have to go back AGAIN on Monday - they seem to be going down by 20 every couple of days. They keep saying it's probably a failing pregnancy but have to be sure it's not an ectopic or anything that needs management.

It's obvioulsy weird for them to be dropping so slowly. Am still confused as to how pregnant I was... whether it is still from the last pregnancy (8 weeks) I guess I'll never know. Am thinking I must have still been pregnant after the initial bleed but that things weren't right and it never really properly developed.

Whatever, it's weird that I know exactly how pregnant the certain level of hormones make me feel! My boobs are gradually getting less sore but I'm still having nausea and everything I drink goes right through me. From a scientific point of view it's so interesting but I'm a bit sad like that

Enjoy your Valentine's evenings

xxx
(sigh)

Morning . KAT, good news about falling levelos, although agree it must be frustrating having to go back on Monday. You seem to be taking it all really well, though I know it must be hard xx

BABYBLUE, sounds like a wonderful valentine's day there! How was your dinner?
Good luck with your appointment on TUES - would you be having your amnio next week? Don't forget, we're all here for you xx

Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend. dh out with friend on a walk all day, but I have next week away with friend in spa so can't complain!

Kat - that does seem slow, as apparently hcg doubles in a healthy pg every 48 hours, but it doesn't seem to be doing that in reverse does it?? I wonder too, wether you had a pregnancy like mine, or wether a twin first then a singleton iyswim, or what. At least it is going down. I too am quite biological baout stuff like this so forgive me if i have upset you.

My bleeding has stopped. Bit weirded out by what that means - ie i can get pg (hopefully) if i want to, which i do but its scary now. I guess my body is quite good at losing them too

You know how i said dh seemed emotionally lacking with all this? Well he got me 2 cards yesterday - one a valentines, the other a print of monet's waterlillies, full of his feelings about me, his sadness and everything. I feel better about him now iyswim.

Trying to think what to do today - our new sofa delivery has been put back AGAIN os might go and bollock the shop, and have a starbucks.

hi diege

babyblue - keep talking to us

Hi SCORPIO . Sounds like your body is getting back to normal pretty quickly. My bleeding only lasted for 3-4 days, and I ovulated about a week after. I did have an ERPC though, so not sure if this makes a difference.
Starbucks and a bollocking sounds good!

Mmmmm.. Starbucks!

Dinner was nice, although DD2 was not too happy sitting for so long. I made a complete pig of myself! But considering what my appetites been like... I deserve it! The restaurant was set up really nicely, and they even had a barbershop quartet walking around and serenading everyone. Very romantic!

Scorpio - sounds like me. I only bled for few days and ovulated a week later and pg 2 weeks after that. Have fun

Kat - limbo keeps getting longer for you. Hopefully things sort themselves out soon so at least you have a clean slate to start with.

How is everyone else??

Things have settled down with me. Takes too much energy to stay so upset when I know I still have 2 mare days til my appointment. I am sure I will fall apart again at the counsellors office Tuesday morning. I will worry about it then.

We are going cinema tonight i just want DH to myself at the moment, will be nice

Hya Girls,

Still keeping up with all thats going on in 'TTC#4 land'!

Scorpio...sorry to read your sad news, and glad to read that it seems like things have settled down .

Babyblue...poor you! You must be having such a hard time just now. Sending you lots of hugs!

I am going to try and track some of you down on FaceBook...I am a bit of an addict to be honest!!

All take care, bye for now x

Hello All, how're you all doing today. Still thinking of you Babyblue, am very impressed at how calm you sound. Hi Scorpio, hope cinema was fun.

ps, does anyone else's husbands think they are barking because they spend so much time on mn. He constantly teases me and I have to pretend i'm tidying the kitchen, when i'm really on mn?

babyblue - my thoughts are with you, I know it's not the same, but I had lots of tests & scans that indicated DS3 had edwards syndrome (I was told he would die shortly after birth if not before). I considered having an amnio but decided against because of the (small risk) of miscarriage. [He's now a very lively, healthy 5 year old!!]

What you are going through brings back those memories (especially the woman at work who said at the time - dam you & your baby for having all these tests & time off work!!). Anyway - chin up & best wishes!

Soooooo how was everyone's Valentines weekend???? I'm very tired, all this baby making malarky!
I feel the need to start a list:

Sandy4, DS1(19),DS2(14),DS3(5),CD12

Here's to lots of valentines babies!!!

Hi girls.

If anybody wants to look me up on FB, I am Jane Gravenor, profile pic has my 3 with snowballs !

Has anyone got any good plans for the half-term?
Hoping it is going to be a bit drier/warmer so at least we can go out!

Have a good one...wot ever you are all doing!!