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Over here ladies! Will try and link to here.

HC
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Right ladies...I have'nt really read todays thread because ive been on this bloody computer for hours !!!!!!! I have added about 15/17 photos for you to laugh look at, hope you not queasy because ive added some of Jon when on a job with amputees in action....hope you enjoy !!!!

Ray will read when i have time, but just scanning hun, my temp is well high waiting for AF, the book will come in the post. wish i had'nt got it via ebay as i could have went today and bought one, but never mind eh !!

Back later, my arse is numb !!!!!

D xx

Hey,

Back from Ice skating and i am now shattered , seriously you wouldnt think skating in circles could make you that tired.
My moods are awful everyone that came near me or DD i wanted to scream at the to get lost and then the next minute i would feel fine. God am now Psycho mum and wife. he he.
I realy hope this passes soon.

Have just ordered Pizza from pizza hut Yay no cooking what a terrible mother i am ay.

Jaun, starting to get alittle worried about you, you seem to be likeing this detective business afar to much.
Perhaps you set up your own business.!!!!

Dawni we must have been posting at the same time !!!

I'm very impatient too and would want the book now it is very good i think you'll enjoy it.

Well ive joined FF i take it you can look and others cycles ? Are you on there Dawni?
Whens AF due?

Aw, am loving your pics Dawni. Must have taken you ages.

ray-to do a link to your FF chart you have to set up your homepage and take the URL/http link from there.

HC
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HC my eyes are googled !!! DH showed me what to do and left me to it, also put them on FB...Im shattered !!!!

Ray AF due 8th-11th march, never quite sure when it will appear !!!

D xx

Oh yes Ray Im on FF too.....HC stalks watches mine, but i dont know how to see others ??? Im a bit of a novice with computers im afraid

D xx

HC.............WHAT????????????????? I did not understanmd i word of what you said. I realy am not very good with computers at all they realy dont like me.Pretty please can you tell me in english!!!!

Dawni, does FF tell you when to expect Af or not. I will keep all my fingers crossed for you. Is there any chance this month?
Are you a VIP memeber on FF or do you just do the basic i was wondering whether to join VIP or not any advise ?

Had Pizza Yummy yummy now must have a cream cake how naughty !!!

Hi All,

Ray, scarily, your family sounds just like mine.... I've got three sisters and a brother. My elder sister, I am closest to. She can be a little selfish but only because she's so busy. She owns a pub/restaurant with her DH. But my two younger sisters are very very selfish and are real drama queens. One of them had two affairs before finally leaving her DH, they've got a 4 year old daughter. The other one, I'm sorry to say, is the one that's currently PG. She's the youngest one and we don't get on at all. The dramas just continue with her and she continues to cause a lot of problems for us as a family, due to her marrying a guy who already has two children with his own cousin!! I often think that pettiness is often based around jealousy and envy. It's upsetting though when you are always the one that seems to make the effort to keep the peace and you end up being penalised for it... I hope that things sort themselves out for you...

CE, how lovely that you get this time off before your little DC is born.

Dawni, once I've finished this, I'm going to have a browse through your photos!! Hope you're Ok today hun.

Juanitad, so have you tracked down MJIM yet? Hopefully she'll be back on later!!

Ceebee, bless little Josh!! How sweet!! Let's hope he doesn't come in at 4am when it gets towards the Summer!!

Big waves to everyone else!!

So, I need to ask, has anyone worked pretty much up to their due date? Unfortunately, my company only pays basic SMP so I get 6 weeks at 90% and then just the standard after that and as we've just bought our first house and I'm the main breadwinner, I can't finish any earlier than 10 days before my due date and I can only take 3 months off (although I may need to extend it to 4 if Jelly is late...). I'm getting a bit worried. BUT, I do work from home and sit down all day, so I only need to go down a flight of stairs to my office... Do you ladies think I'll be Ok with that? Not having done this before, I'm starting to get a bit worried that I may not cope. Not that I have a choice, financially we can't afford to save any more money to cover our mortgage.... eek...

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Dawnas, Your family sounds just like mine (almost) i am the oldest girl and i have 4 sisters and the one brother who is the oldest of us all. he is nearly 30 and still into all sorts of crap, getting drunk into fights basically acting like a 17yr old and very very selfish. He takes great pleaseure in telling me how great his life is and how boring mine is. Yeah like Whatever you say.
My sis that is next down from me is 22 and has just had a baby boy called Jack, she is incedibly selfish and wont do anything for anyone. my other sis is 20 and has the 3 Dcs and is also very selfish and only wants me when she needs something which ostly includes giving her lifts and looking after her kids and guess what i do it !!!
My others sisters are 16 and 8 so not too much trouble at the moment !!!

How are things with you sis at the moment ? anymore news?

When i had my DD i had 10days off before she arrived and felt that that was more than enough time infact i probably would have been alright with a week but that all depends how you feel.
I also got into contact with the Tax office and had tax credits, they were very good and actually made up my wages practicaly until i returned to work so thats worth a try.
What will you do with jelly when you work? word of warning my friend tried to work from home when her baby was 4 months and had the baby stay with he and it didnt qork at all she had to quit as she just couldnt do both at the same time. What does your DH do is there any chance he can get something better for the time that you are off or even get a second job. The problem is once Jelly is here you will not want to go back to worka nd i'm not kidding you realy wont so you may be abit resentful if you have to go back when the baby is so young.

God i'm sorry i do go on dont i i realy hope this helps.

Calling Willmouse-yoohoo, are you there and OK?

Also puree and LaDiDaDi and felinor1-where art thou?

We will not have people go missing!

ray-have you set your homepage up by clicking on Home Page Setup at the top of the page that your chart is on. On this page there are various boxes to tick and in the big blank box under Intro Message type ray's chart or similar. I put 'Dawni's chart' when I set her page up. When you have finished an http address will appear at the very top of the page under the heading Your Charting Homepage Web Address. This is what you use to create a link on here. Down the left hand side there is a purple menu and you can set info up here under settings. You get a trial VIP membership when you join and I paid to continue it as it gives you so much more than the standard. Sod's law occurred as I had just paid £30 something to renew it and got a BFP. Shout if you get stuck.

HC
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DawnAS-some people can work up to the birth and I knew someone who went back after 2 weeks. I worked 4 days in a Bank and it was on your feet and rushing about type of work in the hottest summer for years and my feet and ankles swelled up so I was glad to leave 4 weeks before. Infact, was signed off for a month before I went back again to leave properly as had terrible sciatica. Before DD1 was born I was convinced I would be back when she was 5 months old but I ended up taking a year off and that was too soon. I never did go back after DD2. When you claim tax credits they don't take SMP into the calculation of your earnings so you should get quite a bit if DH's earnings are lower. You also get double for the 1st year of Jelly's life. I hope you can take more than 3 months off though.

HC
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HC Willouse was going away for the weekend hun xx

RAY FF doesnt tell you when your AF is due, but after the first month it will put a marker at the estimation...Ive no chance this month, i just know from my bodily signs

Friends on way to have a Wii night, catch you all tomorrow, hope you enjoyed my pics

Fondest love

D xx

HC how do i set up a link? have done he rest but having probs now

Have fun with the Wii Dawni !! its quite funny as me a BF do Wii noghts too it brilliant LOL.

Well I'm still going to keep my fingers crossed for you as i hope you are.

HC HELP ME !!!!

Evening all

Dawni I love your photos - what a good looking family you are. Can I just ask (and you don't have to answer) but what does your hubby do? Does he work for an emergency service by any chance? I think I might know him - or if not, there is someone who looks very similar, also called Jon, who is an amputee and does extra work for films who lives where you do!!

ray-type the http address off your homepage in your message and I will do the link.

HC
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Hi all,

Thanks for all your advice. I will certainly look into the tax credits thing... But I'm starting to really worry about this now...

As none of us really know each other in RL, I hope you won't mind me going into a bit of detail about our situation. Because DH and I have only just bought our first house, with the way mortgages are, our mortgage and bills alone come to £2200 a month... Our joint income is too high at £53k to receive many tax credits (although I will give them a call ray and see what they can offer during my ML).

Either of us giving up work to care for our little Jelly is not feasible unfortunately, otherwise we would have to sell our house and go back into rented, not great at the age of 34 (that's the trouble with trying to get on the housing-ladder these days)... Luckily our childcare arrangements are sorted satisfactorily, my SIL is having our baby for 2 days a week and one of our best-friends is a registered childminder so is having her for two other days a week and my company is allowing me to work my full-time hours over four days. It helps having our little one securely with friends and family, who will happily take my sobbing phone-calls and assure me that she is fine. It is heart-breaking that I have to go back to work so soon but I think the decision is made slightly easier by the fact that I have no choice.

And believe me, it's nothing to do with my career because the sad thing is that I don't even LIKE my job. But down in the South-West, salaries are so low and mortgages so high, that I'm lucky to earn the money I do so I can't even change my job.

Anyway, I think I've waffled enough, but I hear about all the people who are lucky to be at home with their babies and I wonder whether all this will make me a bad Mum. I'm really worried about what people will think of me. DH and I have already agreed that our DD is going to have our attention for every minute that we're not at work because we already love her so much. I just wish life was different... I feel really sad now and DH is going to start asking what's wrong in a minute so I'd better go...

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DawnAS-going to work will not affect your little girl at all. Please don't worry as you have exellent childcare sorted. We are very fortunate to have bought a plot of land when prices were low in 1998 and did a self build with DH and his dad doing lots himself to keep costs down. During building we had a bad motorbike crash which wasn't our fault so we both got compensation which helped. I detested my job in the Bank and couldn't face going back on AD's again because of it so we spend all DH's monthly salary on bills and shopping-£1300. I live off the tax credits and DH's £20 a month allowance. One day I will have to return to work if we ever want to have a decent holiday but for now I'm happy to do without. There is no way we could afford to buy a house now so well done you two getting on that illusive property ladder. It will all work out fine.

HC
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DawnAS, I completely sympathise - I have to go back to work too, can't afford not to as I am the higher earner. I'd like to do part time, but as I have some responsibility at school (head of department) this isn't possible - they would have to accomodate my request for part time hours, but as a classroom teacher, not with the extra responsibility and that would mean a significant cut in wages which we just can't afford. So back to work full time it'll be. I've got childcare sorted as well - 3 days a week childminder and 2 days nursery. I'd like friends or family to help but my parents still work and DH's parents are too far away. I think any mum will agonise over going back to work, you're always going to feel as though your child is going to be affected in some way, but the reality of the world today is that lots of mums have to work, no choice in the matter. I really don't think you should beat yourself up over this (I'm trying not to beat myself up anyway), because I'm sure you and DH are going to be fantastic parents and your baby will know he/she (can't remember if you've found out sex or not, sorry!) is very loved and as you said, you will spend every non-working moment enjoying him/her and giving him/her your undivided attention. I'm sure it'll be hard at first, but once you've got into the new routine everyone will be happy - I hope the same is true for me!! By the way, our combined income is similar to yours and we are getting £50 a month in child tax credits, so you should definitely check it out. You can apply for it once baby is born and you have received a child benefit number.

AAAhhhhh CeeBee nim as fissed as aprt at the mo!!!!!!! Yeah he workd for a ambulande servix

dawni's DH here....dawni is alcoholically dislexic at the moment...
What she meant to say is "yes, he works for NWAS". CeeBee send me a PM with your name etc and how you know him...my email is:-
[email protected]

dawni - lol at you being alcoholically dyslexic! Bet your head hurts now mind!

MJIM - glad N has slept better. Has your high chair arrived yet?

Ray - I'll give you a proper welcome! Sorry to hear your ttc story - sadly you are not alone. Hope this thread is the lucky kick start you need.

Dawn - you must stop beating your self up over your childcare arrangements. You do the best you can given your situation and circumstances. You get this idea in your mind that everyone is at home with their bab ies but in reality people do what works for them. You are right in trying to provide a secure home for you dd and getting on the property ladder.

I will tell you what we are doing as well. Like Juanitad I have to go back to work as I am the main earner. It has to be full time aswell for financial reasons. DP had the opportunity to change jobs last Novemeber and has taken on a 20 hours a week evenings only low wage stewards job. So he will become a house-husband during the day lookng after pip while I am at work full time. I am only taking 18 weeks ML as after that my OML drops significantly. We will be poorer than we would like but will manage I think (no swanky holidays for us for a while!). The downside is that I get home at 4pm and he goes to work at 5.30pm so we will be like passing ships! but he does have the weekends off! HTH x

ceebee - great weight loss. Sounds like you have 'plateaued' - should pick up again in a few weeks.

Big wave to bellie and HM2J - hope you guys are OK and just mega busy! Where has willmouse gone away for the weekend????

Last night was fun - film was good and Nandos yummy. I did have plenty of hot sauce and pip was going beserk in there! I might try and put a 36 week pic on profile later - you will laugh!