trying for a September baby, anyone want to join?

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Hi All, have been on a couple of ttc hreads but due to sad arrival of af yesterday and x2 negative pg testa thought I'd start a September one.

We are ttc#2 we already have dd(2) and had a mc in September this will be cycle 3 since mc.

Mc hit me hard, more so than other adverse life events for some reason also head full of other stuff such as trying to complete a Post grad Diploma in Cognitive Therapy!!

Anyway want to try to be optimistic and hopeful and not (too!) obsessive this month!

Anyone else fancy joining?? xx

No, D! Just go down a road with the initial BMR and cross over the parkway but I have many happy memories of your neck of the woods as we used to live in Hulme and lots of our friends live in C!

Oh, D, yes- I know it well.
I live just off BMR as it happens...
God, we probably know each other. It's very incestuous round here!
How nice to think that someone is having new pg happiness so close by! While I sit here being a grumpy cow just down the road, ha ha.
Congrats.

Morning all, no AF yet but feeling crampy and spotty! So sorry joy, hope you're getting your fix of wine, blue cheese, scalding hot baths etc. You could go on both boards if you want. Don't think anyone will mind.

Am going to stay at a friends tonight, I'm pretty sure they're trying too, so worse case scenario they announce pregnancy and my AF starts. I hope I can keep it together. It will be hard with her coz we were pg together with dc1's. (due dates 5 days apart)So I know they're going to say "you're not pg too are you?"

Well smallone, as long as you're spotty rather than spotting, I guess there is still hope... Keep us posted.

Hope you enjoy your time with your friend and worst case scenario doesn't happen. We are first among our friends to even think about babies- but I do have this (irrational, selfish) fear that someone will decide to start ttc now and "overtake" us. I would feel jealous and "but we were there first- WAH!"-ish. Though of course in my rational mind I would be happy for my friends. Jesus, am I pushing 30 or 13?

Am less melancholy today. Stocked up on folic acid, grapefruit juice and positive mental attitude. Mental being the key word there.

I do have a question though- is CD the first day of any bleeding, or the first full day? I started spotting at around 7.30pm last night and now have full-on af. So is yest or today my CD1?

Hi joy ta for kind thoughts, I know what you mean, about friends overtaking you, but speaking from experience, if your baby is the youngest, yours is the one that will get the most attention! Not a bad consolation prize.

I always count CD1 as soon as I get anything, but then once I start it gets going pretty quickly. However, on the persona you count CD1 as the first morning,so if you start in the afternoon you go over to the next day, so in my head I'm a day ahead of what my monitor says (if that makes any sense?) Don't think it really matters all that much as long as you always do the same.

Hello all. Joy, so sorry your AF arrived. Know completely what you mean about paying your dues. It's so hard, isn't it. Try to be happy you're 28 - loads of fertile years ahead, although I know it might not feel that way now. But it's true! And you know you can get PG, so no worries there. I'm 10 years older than you and panicking, big time! Have loads of wine, blue cheese, pate, sushi, the lot. Smallone,I sympathise about friends announcing pregnancies - you're happy for them but you can't help feeling sorry for yourself and like it'll never happen. What does my head in is all the advice saying "not to stress" and "not to think about it too much" - implying that we sabotage our own chances by wanting it so much. I try not to believe that, but it's hard.

Okay, so pretty sure am not PG this cycle. All PG symptoms have vanished - not surprising as they were prob only in my imagination anyway. Please can someone recommend a good fertility monitor, as I didn't check when I OV'd at all this month (in a bid not to "think about it too much") but it didn't work so next month I want all the help I can get. Are pee sticks or thermometers best? What is Fertility Friend? Is it good? Sorry, am a bit clueless as didn't need all this the last times. Thanks v much and babydust to all xx

oooh it's quiet on here at the moment!

Hope those of you on the 2ww are surviving with your sanity just about intact! And good luck for the Monday testers!

Well sadly I'm out this month, so going to hop over to Oct thread. AF arrived first thing, in full flow. At least it seems I'm not spotting so much beforehand, which I think is good as was beginning to worry my luteal phase might be a bit short (as spotting started as early as CD22 in a few cycles- I never used to get any spotting pre-DD and was bang on 28-day cycles). I guess the advantage of having fairly short cycles is more opportunities each year..
Still I have to say Joy I know how you feel, felt really miserable this morn when AF appeared as secretly had my hopes up, and this was our 7th cycle of TTC so it's beginning to drag a bit But my oh-so-rational DH told me that he reckons while he was away (CD12-CD15) was probably when I could have ovulated so there's an explanation for why no luck this month...

Right, must do some work..

Good luck all of you remaining on the list- I will keep popping on to read your news and really hope some more BFPs are on their way!

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been on for ages, I've been lurking but avoiding posting as I'm a bit wary of the whole "Oh I'm sure I'm pg, got sore boobs, we've painted the spare room pink" only to have to post a day later that af came. So I was avoiding jinxing myself!!!

Sorry to hear about af joy... It's so frustrating and I can totally understand how upset you are. I tried for 18 months to conceive ds and each month was like a punch in the stomach. I hope you have better luck next month, your time will come!

Minx, LOL at all those tests!! You'll be broke before the baby's even born! I think the first trimester is the hardest, all that fretting.

Jumping, sorry to hear about your af too, but glad your LP seems to be lengthening.

Well, I'm afraid having read that everyone else was testing tomorrow, I really was going to wait, but cd 32 is my lucky day, tested positive twice before on cd 32, and I guess it's still my lucky day cos I got a BFP this morning!! The wierd thing was that I got up at 7 to get ds and I did one then and it said not-preg (splashed out on the digi ones!) and I thought Oh blimey, what on earth is going on here, so I left it a couple of hours. I was going to leave it a couple of days but I'm pathetic at waiting, so I used the second test in the box and got the bfp. I think the first test was faulty because it came up not pg almost straight away, and I know those digi ones take an age.

To say I'm blown away is an understatement, because I had the cold of a lifetime this month, and normally we bd 4 or 5 days over my fertile period and this time we managed one half hearted bd on cd 15, when there was a break in my coughing and spluttering.

So I've worked out that going my by LMP, I'm due 17th Sept, four days after ds' 2nd birthday. If I end up having a cs (did last time, funny uterus, long story) then I might even try and wangle it so they have the same birthday, but that might be too cheesy even for me!

Good luck for those still on the wait, hope to see you on the ante natal boards soon! x

head congratulations! im so pleased for you hopefully see you soon xxxx

Congratulations Headfairy - that's brilliant news .

Maybe there's hope for me yet with one bd then - tho I have another week to go before testing if I wait until 14 dpo.

Haven't been on for ages so congrats to any other BFPs too and commiserations to those with AF.

I have my appointment through for first consultation to start IVF on 26th. Very scared and excited at same time. Still hoping for a BFP next weekend so don't have to go through with it though .

Sunnydale - there are several fertility friend websites. Fertilityfriend.com is the charting one. Fertilityfriends.co.uk is the one for people having fertility treatment and there is fertilityfriend.co.uk which I've stumbled on accidently but not taken much notice of. Temping tells you when you have probably already ovulated, so a combination of temping, CM observing and OPKs is probably best. Good luck.

Congratulations HeadFairy!!! So so pleased for you, you have made me feel all positive again! My 2 DCs are 2yrs 2months apart and get on so well (biologically in terms of when they were conceived they'd actually be almost bang on 2yrs apart, but both were prem by different amounts). This morning they were pretending to be birds in a nest (in our bed) and giggling hysterically at each other which cheered me up so much after AF's arrival. Sometimes I realise I just need to be grateful for what I'm so lucky to already have.

Keeping everything crossed for you Issy, really hope you do get your BFP but glad the "plan B" is on the horizon should you need it. Keep strong and keep talking to all of us! x

Hello, I'm back from holiday, had a great time, and got a BFP!!!Feeling very lucky, as it was our first month ttc, so can't quite belive it. Congrats to others

Brilliant, now it will let me write properly so I can write a long message - does anyone else fine that they only get the thread split into pages once they've written a message, and up until that point it runs really slowely!

So I got a BFP on the 8th, and have done 2 more tests since both of which are also BFPs - Yipeee! Now getting very excited although we're not telling anyone.

HeadFairy congratulations! I think my due date is the 17th of September as well. How exciting. As a pro you're going to have to guide me through.

Yipee yipee yipeee.

So sorry to those from whom AF has come.

xx

Congrats Snowfalls .

Congrats snowfalls! I'm no pro, only done it once before, but anything you need to know, feel free to ask and I'll attempt to answer Last time I worked out my due date according to LMP the sonographer at my first scan changed it by two days, they're such sticklers! We'll definitely be due the same week though.

thanks for congrats everyone, Issy it just goes to show if it's your time then it's your time. I hope it's your time this month!

Jumping - that's dead cute about your dcs, I do hope these two are the same. If they had the same birthday they could almost be twins, with two years between them

Thanks HeadFairy and thanks JumpingJellyFish - sorry very rude of me not to acknowledge your post - was so excited for Snowfalls just rushed out a quick congratulations without reading up. FF says I ov'd on Sat 3rd, but I think 4th so am going to really try not to test until Wednesday at earliest and even then only with internet cheapies - my only CB digital is being kept for next weekend. No point pretending I won't test at all until Sunday because I don't have that much restraint. Would be so nice to be pg at my grandma's funeral on 22nd - cycle of life and all that.

Yee-haa! Two more BFPs - lucky thread or what? Huge fat congrats to Headfairy and Snowfalls - and Head, you've reminded us all that "once is all it takes", which is good news for anyone who didn't manage a BD marathon this month. Issy, good luck with the IVF and even more luck for testing - so you won't even need it!
Have updated the list like a crazy list-lover, even though I don't like lists. Couldn't resist the joy of adding two new names to the graduates list! Feel free to amemd if inaccurate, anyone xx

Sans04 ttc#2 cycle 19? CD40
WarmSeaBreeze ttc#2 CD41
Pinkie08 ttc#2 cycle 4 of clomid CD39
Shoptilidrop ttc#2 cycle? CD?
littlewifey ttc#? cycle? CD 33
MissieMoosMummy ttc#2 cycle 2 CD29
irishmumwannabe ttc#1 cycle 4 CD27
JumpingJellyfish ttc#3 cycle 7 CD26
morethanchocolate ttc#1 cycle2 after mc cd25
Sunnydale ttc#3 cycle 2 CD25
katster37 ttc#1 cycle 2 CD24
gateau ttc#2 cycle 2 after mc CD22
gettingstarted ttc#1 cycle 2 CD22
KatB ttc#4 cycle 1 CD22
idreamofbeanie ttc#1 cycle 2 CD18
twoplease ttc#2 cycle 11 CD 18
forcessweetheart ttc#2 cycle 4 CD12
Bubblebell1 ttc#3 cycle 2 cd8
Mosschops ttc#3 cycle2 cd5

BFPs
Olivo
2manychips
LittleRascal
Bexaa
Evie2000
TrixieBelden
Minxofmancunia
Headfai ry
Snowfalls

Woop Woop Head and snow!! So happy for you both!
Issy I'm exactly the same, AF due on Friday but I know I'll POAS before then esp as I have a few ebay cheapies in the cupboard ;)

Boobs are sore but not sure about any other symptoms. Probably a bit early yet as only CD23.

xx

Issy, I hope you do get your bfp, think of all that money you'll save Sorry that's awfully facetious of me, it would be wonderful to be able to avoid the IVF rollercoaster. FWIW I got my first ever bfp a week before my great aunt's funeral, she died very suddenly and everyone was very shocked, my grandmother was totally devastated, and despite all my fears about telling anyone before the first scan it was really wonderful to tell her then, and she was totally convinced it was the circle of life.

Hi all, well, AF arrived for me bang on midnight last night. Its a really nasty one too, been doubled up not knowing if I'm going to throw up or faint. I think some of the pain might be psychological tho coz I'm really disappointed. Talked to my friend (who I thought might be pg) and it turns out that shes had an abnormal smear test and has been told she can't even try for 4 months til after she gets the all clear. Its horrid for her obviously but I think we both feel a bit better knowing we're both having problems and we're going through it together.

Congratulations headfairy so chuffed for you, but I'll miss my cycle buddy! Congrats snowfalls too and good luck Irishmum for monday.

I'm off to mooch around the october thread, smallone xxx

Sorry to hear about that smallone, I'll miss my cycle buddy! I hope your friend fully recovers.

Sorry Smallone, about AF. Sure I'm right behind you .

Thanks for the congratulations. This is a lucky thread! Lots of BFP's.
Good luck to all ttc and lots of stickiness to those who have had BFP's.

Congratulations sunnydale and headfairy that's brilliant news!!

have worked out my potential due date if this works (CANNOT tempt fate) as 17th sept too! 3 days after dds 3rd birthday. prob got it wrong though as cycle all over the place if nothing happens in the next 3 weeks, I'm going to get a dating scan to see exactly.