Ignoring the LIES, DAMNED LIES, and STATISTICS: Fiesty & Fabulous 40+ers TTC

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Open to all 40+ers TTC.

We're friendly - not cliquey (sp?) and would love to know you{smile]

Glad to feel you are feeling better Nan. Takes a while to feel a 100% though.

I used the miscarriage boards when feeling really down and it helped.

I am on day 29 (usually 28-30 day cycle) and pretty sure AF on her way. Ugh!

Hi all

Well my cycle still odd, had the spotting since tuesday with the occasional wipe of bright red but still no proper af - although she not due "officially" until Monday and my cycle does this to me these days - always seem to have to spotting a week before af!

Hope everyone else is ok and looking forward to a lovely weekend - I'm working on my assignment for uni - must get it done before next Friday or no Easter hols for me

Take care y'all

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Morning All !

nan - good to hear from you and very pleased you are feeling so positive, but still very sad I am sure. Best wishes for tomorrow. I reckon if 60 is the new 40, then 45 must be the new 25 so you are a mere spring chicken !

sussex - Congratulations to you. Sending sticky vibes !

Welcome MumofAdela - good to have you on the thread.

My discovery this week - a decaf latte tastes exactly the same as the real thing ! Great for cutting out caffeine, but less helpful for reducing dairy. Wonder if Starbucks have a rice milk option ? I suspect not !

Hi all, just popping in. Sussex, yay, that's great news, and lovely to hear from you.
Rainbow that is interesting about the marvelon, I haven't had a lot of trouble with AF until I started to take supplements, but some of my friends had very bad pain and bleeding, so perhaps the hormone differences in individuals account for the differing responses. I've started to take the marvelon at night, so at least being tired is of some use, so far so good.
Oh and can I not recommend a horrible Hungarian liqueur. I bought the yuckiest alcohol imaginable from the duty free in Budapest, it's called Unicum Zwack - sounds nice doesn't it!
WelcomeMumofAdela
Nan, I'm glad you are sounding so positive. I think it's great news that you can get pg, just have to keep going until you get a sticky one. Fingers crossed for you!

Hi AF due but only brown spotting today. Not getting carried away but not had this before. Usually full on red wipe of doom.

Is implantation bleeding usually brown or ed? Anyone know?

congratulations sussex...great news and fingers crossed.

good to hear from you Nan...I'm glad it's all over and like beam said, you can get pregnant which is a V good sign....take it easy and hopefully you will get another crack at it really soon....and a big Happy Birthday for today, hope you had a nice glass of bubbly...here take one of the lovely bottles of billecart i have wasting away in the wine rack

i told you the decaf was the same beam what a revelation heh!

welcome mumofadela and good luck

if you are still lurking spiral - really sorry you are feeling so low, 'taking a break' and selling your baby clothes might be just the thing to shake things up...either way good luck and i hope your spirits lift soon....enjoy your lovely dd and the contents of your wine rack....a couple of bottles of billecart for you as well

thanks for the heads-up on the Unicum Zwack rowing...something to avoid when the witch inevitably turns up

btw beam did you get your results back from your blood tests?

i'm coming to the end of my cycle and am so irritable and emotional again this month (just yelled at DH again as he was rude enough to ask me what I wanted for dinner when I was busy typing this message...the cheek of it), that I think i'm going to have another weird early/spotting AF....boring

You know what lates - I am absolutely convinced that our bodies do weird stuff when they are under scrutiny. Call me cynical if you like but in 30 years I have never had AF symptoms 5 days before she shows up and I have never spotted, until I am trying to schedule my day 3 tests.
The tests by the way were OK thanks for asking. Probably reasonably good for an old bird. FSH was 9.5, LH and oestrogen normal. One ovary a bit small, one normal size and follicles in both. HSG next cycle then back for the 'what do we do next' chat ! Probably keep going as we are to be honest.
rowing - will avoid unicum zwack (LOL !) at all costs next time I fall off the wagon and nip up the road ! (Its tough living just round the corner from a cocktail bar !)
fifi - hope the witch doesn't appear !

Hi Ladies

I'm up very late. Moody coz AF not arrived and arguement with my partner. I hate how I feel, and my partner doesn't understand. Just had big arguement about my mood swings. for god sakes. I'm only 2 months after MC and he can't understand why I burst into tears tonight, and he won't talk to me. Thank you all for being here so i can have some where to talk.

I know they try but men just don't always get it. Plus they don't suffer with hormones the way we do. My PMS gets worse as I get older. I put the tv remote control in the wash yesterday and lit the gas under an empty pan! I'm a health and safety hazard!

Hope you feel better soon MumofAdela.

As for me - spotting stopped......still like AF is due but am 2 days late. Still I can't see it, managed only 1 BD about 4 days before AF. I know it's possible but unlikely.

May test to be sure.

Hi MumofAdela - men can be pretty stupid and/or insensitive sometimes. Then other times they can surprise you with their kindness/thoughtfulness. Odd creatures ...

Sussex, I remember you! Congrats, hope things work out.

Hope you're feeling better Nan, and that you're happier today, Spiral.

Was at lunch with friends yesterday - one of them is 20 weeks pg with her second - who of course wanted to know why I wasn't drinking, their eyes alight with excitement. I couldn't be bothered beating about the bush so I just told them that we were trying, and wanted to get my body into the best shape it could be. Cue my pg friend's partner to say "I drink and I smoke, and it still works - I must be a machine!" I didn't kick him, although I was tempted. As I said earlier, men can be idiots.

AF due tomorrow or Wednesday, so am trying not to think about it. Hope you're all enjoying the mild spring weather.

Quick update: Sank 3 glasses of wine Friday night and fell asleep - definitely can't take the alcohol like I could pre-DD. Kept myself very busy over the weekend but still keep getting tearful if I think about it all for too long.

DH is pretty convinced that ttc is pointless and we should be grateful for our wonderful DD and leave it at that.

Got to wait til next week for an internal examination to see if they can find out why AF is resolutely failing to appear.

Glad to hear Nan that you're sounding so positive, hope you had a lovely birthday and FX for the future.

Kat and lates thanks for your good wishes - I do appreciate it.

Took test but BFN. No more spotting but AF still not here. Really odd.

Just letting you know I'm still alive. Feel rubbish, but very grateful to still be pg. Have another scan in 2 weeks, so will post again after that. Off to Cyprus (inlaw visit, so can't count as holiday - trust me) until then.

Congrats Sussex - sending you sticky vibes.

Sorry about your bad news spiral. Maybe selling the baby gear is a good idea. Leave the rest to the gods as they say. This is much easier said than done though isn't it. I don't know if I could ever really give up hope.

Good luck and baby dust to all. Hope I return to more BFP's

Off to vom.

Morning all, have been away - so great to come back to a BFP - brilliant news sussexoldspot (I have always loved your name!) And welcome MumofAdela, too.

Nan, I know it's not much of a consolation, but when I had a miscarriage when I first ttc, I was told by the EPU that being able to conceive was the biggest step, and the chances were good for a second pregnancy, as it's failing to catch at all that is the biggest hurdle.

Spiral, sorry you're so down; but it is hard, isn't it. I've been having counselling - for other reasons mainly - but have found it fantastically useful to be able to talk about the whole ttc thing with someone else who isn't judgemental (or pregnant, or ttc, or who has five children already, etc etc).

I've had various other family stresses this week, and so have fallen off the alcohol wagon quite spectacularly - so pass the Unicum Zwack, rowing, I might as well try that as well. (It sounds like a cleaning fluid, does it taste like one too?) Mind you, my cycle has gone insane, ov was 10 days late, and fertility friend thinks I ovulated a day before I got the OPK+. I am losing some respect for ff as a result. As well as being confused.

More very light spotting. Just sticky cm tainted pale brown tbh. (Sorry if tmi).

WTf??????

Hi ladies, am total novice at this so still working out what all the shorthand stands for! had first baby at 45 naturally conceived & would love another bt am now 46. is it all over? Still using Persona although my period have just started going over 30-35 days apart, having been a 28 day lady for years?

CONGRATULATIONS Sussexoldspot Sending you sticky vibes

a.k.a. Xserialshopper

Can I come and lurk for a bit? Am not TTC but have been asked to consider having another one, so I am thinking about it. I am 44 with a 4-year-old DS.

Hi everyone, Unicum Zwack all round then!
Sorry to hear you are having a bad time MTAdele, it can get you like that.
VSF yay, how nice to hear from you. I did try some cleaning fluid and if you mix the Zwak with some windolene it has quite a kick.
GoldBunnies welcome, I hope you know the person who asked you to have a baby, otherwise I would consider it quite forward.
ITOFR is the Cypriot connection your's or your DH's? Just let them wait on you, I'm sure they will. Have a lovely time.
Fifi I was laughing at your remote in the washing machine, did it come up nice and clean? Might try it, ours is gruesome.
It has been so busy on here since I last posted that I will just wave at Beam, LS, Kiwi and Dixie, is that OK?
Just to say, got locked out all night last night, doh! Missed a pill and had a bit of bleeding, but the doc emailed to say it was alright.
We have so much still to do, but hopefully will get flights, hotels, passports, money, blood tests, scans etc, etc... organised over the holidays. Nothing like a bit of pressure.

AF here. Sigh.............serious consideration to giving up today. Just getting too old I think. Will contemplate some more while AF takes hold.

Yes rowing it was nice and clean afterwards!!!!

Oh Fifi, you are having a real up and down time. Have you considered IVF or anything else to complete your family? I'm not saying you won't get pg naturally, but it's nice have other 'irons in the fire' so to speak. I feel the IVF makes me feel a bit more in control.
There was a time when I thought 'adoption!', but at the moment the process seems too intense, and DP has reservations about taking on possibly quite disturbed child, plus I have a horrible suspicion the social worker would reject us.
I hope I am not putting you on a downer, it's just there are other ways as 'back ups'.
I'm just off to pop the remote into the washer.

Oh boo to AF fifi - sorry she turned up !

Busy weekend for you then rowing - but hopefully will all be worth it in the end. Just out of interest, does your clinic have an upper age limit at all ?

Hi to VSF - good to hear from you !

Welcome to solidgold and emster - great to have you on the (sometimes a little bizarre) thread !

Think I OV'd today. Have a line of clearblue monitor sticks and another line of OPKs lying on my desk here and it all adds up. Fortunately remembered to stuff them in a drawer today when the cleaner came in case she realises the full extend of my obsessive compulsiveness and has me banged up. DH fortunately is used to it !!
Just need that temp rise now !

No can't afford IVF. Thanks for suggestions though.

Still thinking everything over.

Have a great easter everyone!

Hi all

fifitot I know how you feel I was gutted when af finally arrived after a week of is it isn't it spotting - she really is an old cow! I must admit we've been trying a year now and I'm becoming so age aware - really feel like I may be headed for a mid-life crisis - perhaps an affair would be easier that ttc

I love to read all the chat on here it keeps me spirits up!

Really do think this is my last month of trying and then will have to consider going back on the pill - although in view of failed ttc for a year - perhaps I don't need to lol

anyway love and hugs to all
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AF is here, so am trying very hard to pretend I don't care. Just popped in for a quick wave. Have a lovely Easter, everyone.