TTC for the cautious!!!

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OK well not sure my title is good enough really and feel honoured you let me start the thread. So heres to a new month and new start on my cycle! TTC is going to be a very nervous and aprehensive time for me but i know oyu are all in the same boat and with your support im sure i can do it. So im on day 1 of my cycle. Should ov on day 10 although am not certain if D&C has mucked up my ovulation but will guess that. Am almost thinking that im ttc just to lose another baby and i know thats wrong but cant help it. With 2 mc already its hard to believe it will ever happen for me and DH and im almost convinced i will never see a healthy happy 12 week bean. Ok enough doom and gloom.

HERES TO ALL OF US WHO ARE NERVOUSLY TTC AND MAY LUCK AND FAIRY DUST SHOWER OVER US IN THESE COMING MONTHS!

dq: I posted on your other thread about helping you through the 2 ww in the hopes that it would also help me to pass the time... Sadly, my mum is only on her way to the OR and I am already in tears because I am such an impatient person. I had a long chat with my brother (who lives in the same city as our mum) and that helped a little.
My children don't really know what to think as I sedom worry and pace as I have today. ds2 has just drifted off to sleep in my lap so I am stuck in front of the computer for a bit--oh well!

even I thought about testing this morning...

awww cadmum - DON"T test!!!

must be v. difficult time for you. have to say i agree with wendy that you are doing the best thing going when your mother will need you the most. i have accompanied someone very close to me through a serious op. and frankly there is nothing you can do during the op (except fret) so the recovery period is the most important part for you to be there. hugs to you.

I really only thought about it! You are so right; all I need is a Bfn to add to my list of woes!

Aww Cadmum, glad you managed to speak to your brother.
DQ - sometimes things just seem more real when you say them out loud. I also think like some of you mentioned earlier today that sometimes just out of the blue a sadness descends.
Would just like to say a big thank you for all your kind words today after my weekend wallow, am feeling more positive now and feel maybe I just needed to get it off my chest as my DH doesn't understand that it takes a lot of effort to remain positive all the time but you ladies really get it and that's an enourmous help.

I really need to drag myself away from this computer or I will never get anything done today. It is only 4pm here and I wish I could just crawl into bed and wake-up with this day behind me. Thank you so much for all of your words of encouragement. This will all be a fading memory by this time next week and I am sure that my mum will be much healthier for having had the op.

Eveningall
Bella - not like you -youve been a positive sunbeam on these threads, I guess the feeling of your life being on hold workwise doesnt help .Could you just get on with looking for new job - then youd def get pg .My ds1 was utterly unplanned and at a really bad time workwise but it all worked out fine
dq - sorry about BFN - how early have you got BFP in cycle before? how did your ds's ski trip go?
cadmum - thinking of you and your poor mum, hope youve had good news abou her
dizz - hope ivf meeting went well. sounds scary- guess if I was dressing for it id want to look like a rsponsible parent type!

woah this is a long thread!!
hershoping, long time no chat!
of course i got a bfn,-i'm so silly ot even think it, never mind do it. its only 7 days after my opk+ !!! its just i read that these test can tell 7-10 days post ovulation.....so i sort of figured i'd start now and keep going!!!
10dpo is very early to get a bfp, mostly its 12dpo, and i think its usually longer than that.... i cant remember when i got a bfp exactly before. when i first started out ttc i thought it had to be after your period was due..i was SO naive and young then!!! i wasnt gutted this morning, it didnt feel like a bfn really, i knew it would show neg even if i'm pg, now if i get one sunday/monday, THEN i'll be gutted!
thanks for asking about ds trip, he hasnt gone yet, its sunday (at 4am!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) he leaves. everyones excited. (maybe i could test whilst dh is driving him to coach?) (or maybe i could just go back to sleep!!)
bella hun, dont thank us, thank yourself, youre such the ray of sunshine, i thank you for dragging me out of the misery pit i tend to fall in. (BTW- bella is the name of my best friends daughter i suspect its not your real name but i do love it!)
dizz hope meeting was good?
cadmum, any news yet? hopes alls well. what a time to be 2ww-ing too!! ((Hugs)) for you.
STOP yellowbear!!! dont give boots anymore money!! firstly you really mustnt test yet, as i've proved, and secondly there are LOADS of places cheaper than boots! ebay, medisave, ..LOADS!
so, really slowly for my blonde head, ANYONE TESTING THIS SUNDAY with me? rom is that too early for you? we could syncronised watches and do it together! (but apart....iyswim!!) yellowbear, mizzan? i'm sure someone else said this weekend/following week...
i really need hand holding thro this bit. i have absolutely no idea what i'll do if its bfp, never mind bfn.
bella, sorry we cant test together, if its any help i'll test when you do anyhow, whatever cycle day i'm on then! ! LOL

DQ - you have just made me realy laugh re the testing with me! Ok plan is that you get a BFP this month and then can test with me so that you can show off again....sound a plan?
I think there are quite a few testers coming up this week, come on ladies WE NEED ANOTHER GRADUATE. Yingers and Mishi need you !
Well am driving up to Birminhgam today for work so better get mysefl in the shower. Hereshopping, yes have thought about sodding it and just looking for another job anyway but just not in the right frame of mind to be all proactive and worse still a "go getter" for a knew job. If nothing in a few months then i shall reconsider. In the mean time i have laid my cards on the table at work and we are working on changing my job spec to give me a new challenge etc so hopefully things will look up.
Cadmum - let us know asap about your mum.
Right off for a shower, have a good day ladies

Plus ...wouldn't be offered a NEW job due to embarrassing spelling

Thanks for the tip re boots, I really must look on the internet more! I don't know when I should test, I ov on day 8 (v early I know but it's been day 8-10 since my m/c), think I might wait till at least 2 weeks after, unless anyone knows better. I'm so crap at this - i got pregnant straight away the last 3 times & now I feel like I don't know what i am doing.

oh good, not just me who checks in before showering!!! i really MUST get up properly.... i am on an american board as well, and so they all post while i'm sleeping! so lots to read first thing.
bella, excellent plan, love it. we'll do that then.

yellowbear, forgive me if i'm not making any sense.............okay, you actually O 24hrs (to 48hrs) after it shows on opk (of any kind) so, add a day to whatever youre thinking. early + result have been 10dpo (days past ovulation) but starting at 12 is prob better. any help? is this youre first cycle after m/c? or second. i'm so slow at keeping up. maybe i should print out everyones sats......
cadmum hope alls well.
omg Bella i just realised you said mishi graduated. i missed that! i read she got a bfp and then nothing....so what happened? how very exciting. how far down do i need to scroll?
so the odds on this thread are fabulous for us then! woohoo!!

I don't think Mishi graduated this month. Sure AF arrived and went back to CD1 but could be terrible memory problems!!
Mishi / Nemo, where are you - are you OK?

HI All

Well my meeting was much better than expected. It was really informative and I feel much better now I am armed with some facts about IVF. The consultant who led the meeting is the consultant who is going to operate on me soon so I have actually seen her. God I'm only 27 and she looked young to me (about 18) Ok so thats going a bit too far but she was really young and pretty she was also confident and compassionate.

Ther was also an embriologist who explained the nitty gritty of what happens, a nursing sister and a counseller.

Dp was impressed and we both learned about the cycles. We thought that as we are allowed two cycles that that would be them putting the eggs back once and that would be it. In fact the cycle doesn't end untill all the eggs collected have been put back including all the ones they have frozen. So if you have lots of eggs they can theoretically put them back six or seven times which is six or seven chances of pregnancy. Of course this depends how many eggs were viable.

God I am rambling one lecture and I think I know everything.

it was just so informative We were both really pleased!

Cadmum I hope all is well today with your mum?

no a/f yet so could be on 33 day cycle this month Dq maybe testing with you at the week end hope everyone else is ok

I'm so glad it went well Dyz. My b/f brother & his wife have just completed their 1st cycle of IVF (After 5 years of trying naturally). Got the news through yesterday that it has worked & she is 2 weeks p/g!!
Hi Sistermoon, hope you are feeling OK now. Fingers crossed for your testing. So is that just 2 of you testing, Sistermoon & DQ? I bet there will be some sneaky early testers too!!
CD 2 - too early to test do you think???

Afternoon ladies

Cadmum - hope you have had some good news about your mum. Keeping you both in my thoughts today.

Dyzzidi - really glad your meeting went well last night. We don't have access to anything like that but feel it would be beneficial. Also lets you know how many other couples are in the same position as you.

Bella - glad to see you are feeling better today. Lots of positive vibes heading your way.

I have just popped home for some lunch with DH. One of the advantages of working close to home. Typically he is late so just catching up on all the days happenings on MN.

Until later have a good day everyone.

hi all
not been well so not been posting...cant remember who said but no i didnt graduate
I am on cd6 of a 36 day cycle..sigh..
will catch up and post again, but my glorius clearblue opks came yesterday..yayy although it says to start testing for ov on cd19 which is ages and what if this month it changes again..sigh soo much to think of

I should have posted info about my mum before I went to bed since it is 5 hours later in the UK. I was just shattered as I did not hear myself until after 9pm. My mum was expected to remain on the life support machine for six hours following her op and this is considered good. The cardiologist was not able to repair her valve so it needed to be replaced with an artificial one. She will be sad upon hearing this as it means that she will be on blood thinners for the rest of her life. Given that she was unable to make it through a morning at work (let alone golf which is her real passion), I am sure that she will enjoy the improvement in the quality of her life. Apparently they will not know if the procedure to help her heart return to its normal rhythm (she was in atrial fibrilation) was successful for up to two months...
I still wish that I was there because it is hard to understand all that is being filtered down to me through my brother. He and my dad did see her one hour after her op and she recognised them and seemed relatively comfortable. Can't wait to hear this morning that she is off the life support machine as this is the part of which she was most afraid.
Thank you all very much for letting me talk about this here. Not exactly the right venue but I didn't feel up to starting a seperate thread and talking with 'virtual strangers'. Hope this makes sense. (Am too tired to think properly let alone type...)

Good afternoon ladies, I am still lurking on threads rather than participating as still don't feel ready to throw myself into any of the antenatal threads, have my GP's appt on friday and feel really really nervous about it, not sure why! Anyway, am sending you guys more babydust for this month. Wish me luck and hope to see you on Nov/Dec thread soon.

Cad - hope all goes well with your mum.

afternoon ladies!

Cadmum, glad things are so far so good with your mum. Hope you will continue to get more news as the day goes on.

Dyzzi - happy to hear meeting went well. quite an adventure, all this IVF. think I will watch that programme tonight too as who knows, this may be in our future as well.

romilly and yellowbear tx for additional encouraging words re hideously long cycle length. hopefully things will get a little more normal next month. yes Rom we did BD at the "right" time but just the once (I know, theoretically that's all it takes, but still) as DH then had to leave on bus trip. not feeling hopeful.

am thinking I need to try yoga or something to help me relax a bit more, though not sure how much difference it will make as it may be more stressful trying to organize additional childcare to cover yoga time which would probably counteract the benefits! any yoga devotees on here? DS about to go on 4 week Easter break ?! lordy - I will be trying to fit in normal work hours with insufficient childcare cover, looks like a lot of evening slogging for me in the next month...

now - testers! DQ (and maybe sistermoon?), I am with you on Sunday if no AF by then! I may sneak one in on Sat. though if AF has still not visited. Sun will be 14 dpo, approximately. still not feeling the least bit pg (had definite symptoms by this point in previous pgs) so that is helping me hold off for the moment.

Cadmum - of course we don't mind you talking about your mothers op. here - it would be awful if we were chatting away about tests not knowing what you are going through frankly. i really hope she is doing well and you can get past this stressful time as soon as possible.

Bella sweetie - pay attention! mishi is not up the duff just yet

Dqueen - you are a bad influence! i have just purchased a pack of early sensitive tests, having just preached to you to lay off them. i am very tempted to say i will hold your hand and be your test buddy on sunday, but fertility friend is telling me not to test until the 28th march! yeah, right. that is not going to happen - i will test around 13 dpo which is next Tues (yiiiikes)

ooooooh my tests arrived, very swish looking ones, with a dropper and an instruction BOOKLET!! i kid you not! so i'm excited now. BURNING large hole in my dressing table already.......
sorry i am bad influence Rom, at least its not drugs or dink tho eh? just flapjack and pg tests! the 28th?????,woah, LONG time to hang on to those tests. you brave lady you.
cadmum, what youre going thro in rl affects who you are and how it goes on here, we can talk about anything, all this thread connects us with is the fact we're ttc (and cautious!!) i hope your Mum keeps getting better. when do you go see her?
so this weekend is yellowbear, mizzan, ME, and sistermoon? how exciting. and yes i am vague about this weekend, as i will prob tet saturday too..............
aw Yingers i feel for you. like i said last night, heaven only kows what i'll do if i get a bfp. freak abit i suspect. soon you'll be posting on november like nobodys business. when are you due?
Mshi, there you are! i was getting worried. hang in there hun. hope the opks work really clearly for you.
george no point in asking me if cycle day 2 is too early to test.........
mizzan, understand your yoga verses childcare dilema. same here!

ah oops, crap spelling as per usual, sorry,