TTC for the cautious!!!

[Bonkerz]

OK well not sure my title is good enough really and feel honoured you let me start the thread. So heres to a new month and new start on my cycle! TTC is going to be a very nervous and aprehensive time for me but i know oyu are all in the same boat and with your support im sure i can do it. So im on day 1 of my cycle. Should ov on day 10 although am not certain if D&C has mucked up my ovulation but will guess that. Am almost thinking that im ttc just to lose another baby and i know thats wrong but cant help it. With 2 mc already its hard to believe it will ever happen for me and DH and im almost convinced i will never see a healthy happy 12 week bean. Ok enough doom and gloom.

HERES TO ALL OF US WHO ARE NERVOUSLY TTC AND MAY LUCK AND FAIRY DUST SHOWER OVER US IN THESE COMING MONTHS!

cadmum - where are you - am thinking of hol in canada and advice would be welcom. a lot of my friends and family think im mad and i should just get on with what ive got but luckily im from 5 so I think my mum understands. couldnt send dh for snip thou from this so have to try again i thnik
wendy - do I spot an irish woman - the wheatens and sod farls remind me of home
bella good luck with persona - ive just got one but havent unwrapped it yet

Hereshoping: I am in Ottawa. Would have a hard time recommending it but I have only lived here for a few months and I am sure that things will look much prettier come spring.
I grew up in Victoria, B.C and it is beautiful there but rather like a mini-England so hardly a vacation-must for anyone from the UK. The Rocky Mountains are spectacular but depending on the time of year can be quite touristy (is this even a word?). When are you thinking of coming out? Why? Would you bring the whole family?

Oh yeah! I meant to add that my mother had one girl and one boy. She refers to this as a 'millionaire's family' or a 'gentleman's family'. She actually believes that having more than two (particularly once both genders are represented) is asking for trouble/tempting fate... It would not be easy to tell her that I was expecting again!

Thanks cadmum, I'm probably being a bit thick and I would probably understand if I read a bit more but what is CD. Think I'm okay with OPK. There are so many abbrevaitions!

Hereshoping - you certainly do although I think I may be the only one from this side of the Irish Sea on here. Where is home?
Cadmum - really hope your mum is OK. I know the responsibility I feel towards my mum especially since my dad died and the fact that I am an only child does't help. Thankfully I live about 5 mins from my mum and she is in good health and very independant - too independant sometimes!
Bella - DH is a star and I probably should tell him more often. We grew up together, my bf was his sister so we have know each other all our lives and have been together since we were at school - with a few blips along the way of course. I guess I never wanted to be with anyone else. I will stop before you all throw up. Sorry
Going to relax in the bath with a glass of wine. Only positive thoughts from now on. Please remind me of that the next time I am a jibbering wreck. Night everyone

Yellowbear - welcome. CD is cycle day. You will find a list of all the acronyms at the top of the page under useful stuff. I am still getting the hang of some of them. Good luck.

evening all! fairly ncie meal out with dh tonnight, spoilt slightly by him saying stupid things (like men tend to do) that i cant just forget about (like women dont!) i said 'i wonder if i'll be pg for our holiday in august (-i bloody hope so ladies!-) and he said 'oh i had forgotten all about that' i was like what? forgotten we're ttc? ALREADY!? and he said 'well i wont think about you being pg til youre pg will i?' god what a tactless man he can be. sigh. okay its not a major crime but you know, i'm sensitive soul whilst waiting on tenterhooks. dont they know that? SIGH.
aside from that good evening had by all. hope you are all doing okay tonight?
cadmum, sounds good where you are, even if alittle cold and remote. makes a change from here anyhow!
yellowbear, sorry about the 'slang' we use -and us ttcers are far worse than anyothers! shout out if you dont know anything, its okay to ask!
aw wendy your dh sounds lovely. bet hes not tactless!!!
Yingers where are yoooooooooooou. and Girl too, miss hearing from you, and bonkerz too.....

hi all, sorry havent been around but have been having a tuff time dealing with mc. Ok am on day 11 of cycle and think i ov yesterday or today. have had cramps today and have bd 2 days in a row so could well get pregnant this month but as some of you will know im not sure i want to or if its such a great idea but im planning that this pregnancy will end the same way as the last 2 (sorry of that sounds awful but its hard to be positive at the moment!) So just to let you know im here and will have some news in about 10 days i spose!

bonkerz sound like you share both my fears and hopes it is ahard place to be in, fingers crossed for both of us and baby dust to all

bonkerz (((hugs))) it's natural for u to feel this way hon, hopefully things will work out for you thou, come close and i'll whisper a secret in ur ear.......

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bonkerz - sorry u r feeling down. i hope munnzie's very generous sprinkle of babydust does the trick for you next time round. you deserve some luck.

dqueen - that comment would have pissed me off too! i'm sure they don't mean it, venus and mars again...
get this one - romilly COOKED dinner for d/h last night - Yes, i said cooked, not just re-heated. you guys have inspired (or guilted me out!) so much he ate every last scrap even though i'd done enough to feed an army. but he did say "practise makes perfect" this morning - cheeky bugger !

Cadmum - am thinking of rockies like rest of tourists, wed all go but dh is worried about bears!
wendy I was brought up in newtownards but family now mainly in kerry. my dad hails from ballymoney area. just getting to last wheaten i have in freezer from my last trip
bonkerz - know how you feel - im only halfheartedly bding as dont feel up to the anxiety that will set in after BFP - really putting it off till nxt mth - so have my spare babydust anyone whos going for it!

Thanks for that Wendy11. Is CD1 the first day of AF (see I've picked one up) if so today is only day 8 & already ov! Looks like I will be busy tonight.

Dramaqueen your dh sounds a bit like my dp, most of the time graet but can be so tactless with ttc.

Bonkerz it sounds like I have gone through the same thing as you, I had 2 m/c last year, but I do have a ds of 2 1/2 so I am lucky. Do you have any children?

Evening everyone,
Spent a very enjoyable day of retail therapy - well mostly window reatil therapy but enjoyable none the less.
Hereshoping I worked in and around Newtownards for a little while a couple of years ago. Pretty nice area.
DQ - don't be fooled. DH can be as tactless as the rest of the male population. His big thing is to push all problems under the mat and hope they don't come out the other side, although he has had to face up to alot of things since we lost ds so not as bad as he used to be.
Feeling really lazy tonight so no cooking - ordered chinese, bottle of wine and feet up in front of the TV - hope there is something good on.
Have a lovely evening ladies whatever you are doing

Bonkerz
Chin up girl. I know it can be really difficult but better times are around the corner for all of us. Hope the corner isn't too far away for you.(((((((((Hugs))))))))

yes i have a ds who is 5 so feel lucky in that respect but desparately want my dh baby!(ds not his)

quiet on here today. yellowbear, yes CD8 would be correct - doesnt take long on these threads before you are speaking in ttc-speak! think you are the same age as mizzan and i from spotting you on another thread - 38, is that right?

wendy - hope you enjoyed your lazy evening - sounded perfect to me. i find i really need to recharge my batteries on weekends these days.

bonkerz - totally understandable that you want a child with your d/h and a very valid reason in my book.

happy sunday evening all

quiet today on here
spent all day at rugby club freezing watching ds 1 and 2 play in tournament
think my body is up the creek, had AF 2 weeks ago 4weeks after ERPC now feel like about to come on again
feeling much more chirpy with light nights coming
hope everyones had a good we

ttc ladies i have just bought........20 ultra early pg tests! so am all ready for weekend of testing (got them at medisave.co.uk) do you think 20 is enough?????? not that i'm going to make it til the weekend, thats six days away!!!!!! PLEASE wish me luck. I just know i'm going to be stupidly upset if they are bfn..... even tho its still early days (first whole cycle) after m/c and my chances arent high.
bonkerz, my dd2 is my dhs, whilst the other older two arent. so know where youre coming from!
yellowbear, gosh you o'ed early! i'm impressed!
Bella, hope alls well with you???? youre tooo quiet!
wendy, your night in sounded great. may have to try it myself soon!
DQ..x

Morning all ladies,
Well had a bit of a self pity weekend. Have had a bit of a cry and think I have managed to give myself a bit of a kick up the arse. I just got very depressed as seem to have just let things go in my quest to get pregnant. I have now started on a diet (I have put on a lot of weight in comfort eating) and also finally going to put on my excerise dvd. Long story but really need to get another job but can't due to ttc so feeling a bit trapped by that but am going to give myself 2 more months and if nothing has happened then I have decided I shall look for a new one anyway.
Sorry to ramble on, just in a funny place right now, feeling really unhappy with where my life is at the moment and feeling that I can't keep it all on hold as this is making me feel more depressed about ttc.
Anyway - enough of me already !!!!
DQ - 20 tets, mmmm not sure that is enough for you.....only kidding. Keeping everything crossed, about time we needed another graduate.
Hereshopping - glad you are feeling more perky.
I hope you all have a great week, so testers at the end of this week are DQ and who else?

Hi All
Bella I'm sorry you had such a tough weekend I'm sure things will start looking up. We are here if you need to talk.

I unfortunately had that rotten bug from Thursday night until yesterday so have had a crap time myself and missed the opportunity for BD while ovulating.

Its my IVF meeting tonight the one with 80 couples am really nervous which surprises DP.

I just keep wondering what they are going to say. I have been really irrational and got dressed with extra special care and told DP to wear a shirt he was laughing and saying if I wear a Tshirt will they refuse us IVF and then I saw how stupid i was being.

God I wish life were easier.

Dyzz - good luck with the meeting. I think women tend to dress for the occasion so wear something that makes you feel confident.

I think it will be in the lecture theatre so probably in the dark so I can see DP's point but it does ease your nerves if you are dressed well.

I hope to god it isn't one of those things where you have to stand up and introduce yourself as I will be embarrassed but my DP hate public speaking and would probably die with shame.

I am creeping back in here again......
Sorry you have been so down Bella. I hope that this week is better for you. You too Dyzzi & good luck tonight.
My AF has unexpectedly arrived so no testing for me this month. Looks like my cycle is now 30 days long rather than 42 (I think that can be classed as good news) but still confused about the ov bit. Bella, as its CD1 today, shall I go mad & buy a Persona?

aw bella, sorry its been a crap weekend for you. its this 'in limbo' life we are all leading right now, really gets to you. hang in there, you'll be okay, and pg very very soon. whatcycle day are you on?
dyzzidi- hope the meeting goes okay. i stress over that kind of thing too.
I think 20 early tests will be enough.......at least i cant test til they get here......which should be tomorrow!!!
have booked haircut and highlights for wed morning. expensive and takes ages, but worth it. dh is still being sulky so i needed cheering up.
I HATE THE 2WW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!