TTC for fabulous 40+

[xserialshopper]

I've decided to start the new thread

Anyone coming to join me?

Thanks Guys. Don't think it's my month, but won't give up until the bitter end...will keep you posted

Hi guys,
Rhet, I knooow! It's horrible when you feel all despondent and obsessive. I feel as if I'm quite indifferent to the whole situation now, but admit to feeling pretty rubbish after AF this month. Having PMS might not be helping though you know [she adds sagely].
I think I was feeling awful when I went to the doctors and had some tests done it really helped me to know what was wrong - so that I had something to 'fix'.
I suppose there always has to be someone who struggles in every situation, and sometimes it will be you sometimes someone else. But when the going gets tough...this is when you get to fight and show your strength (and cry sometimes).
Sending you lots of hugs!
Juicy did you get the free clear blue pg test? I have had a look at mine and can't see whether it can be used again or not.
We have only managed to bd on day 12 this month, day 13 we had an argument, this is day 14 and we'll see, but I'm tiiired!
It might be nice to have the month off TBH.

xserial - I would love to name my BFP after you - however already named it Version 2.1. You see the wee one that miscarried was called Apple Mac (Gwynnie's daughter for the girls part, and our teddy bears name for the boy bit). So naturally this one is Version 2.1 - the new improved version we hope

I'm not sure about being called Serial you might end up being called shreddies or sugar puff or there's the serial killer option.
Of course X-serial sounds a lot classier, hmm might catch on!
This is a week's holiday for us, but the weather has been so random it's hard to go out much. It's been 'children blowing away' windy accompanied by driving rain and then sunny and then it starts again.
I'm one of those nutters who always tries to put washing out then spends rest the day staring out of the window wondering if it is raining/going to rain.

Hi guys. So for those of you feeling low - not much more I can say really except that I hope it all comes right for you before too long.

I have done about a million pg tests, still BFPs which i really can't believe. Still feeling doomladen and unable to believe this one will work .

Anyway, have now used all tests in the house and not buying any more!! What will be will be.

My other news is that as I said before I had a job interview today and have just heard I've got the job !! Really pleased but slightly worried too as it's only a 1 year contract and I may only be able to complete half of it. Was planning not to tell anyone till after 12 wk scan but think I will have to do so earlier now. As AF was only due today i think I can fairly say I didn't know i was pg when I applied but I'm guessing they won't be pleased...ho hum.

rfl - great news about the job! i started a new job once when pg with DD. Third week there I had to ask for some time off for a scan In my defence when I went for interview and accepted the job I wasn't pg! They weren't that pleased but they got over it!

Well I had a bit of a shock today. Went to pick DS up from his Reception class but got collared by the assistant head. He had lost his temper this morning (not getting his own way) and in the process of trying to move him away from the rest of the class he hurt the teacher. DH and I are both horrified! I knew he isn't the easiest of children but never thought he would do something like that! The worst thing was all the teachers looking at me as I spoke to her in the playground and now we have half term week to brood over it...

Thanks cece. that sounds miserable with ds - i had some thing similar happen once with ds who had flown off the handle and punched hsi best friend, again totally out of character. It was all sorted out but I felt terrible. I'm sure it's nothing the teachers haven't seen before but I agree it feels horrid at teh time. Try not to brood on it - it's a fresh start after half term and I'm sure they will see it that way too.

The trouble is I am a teacher so I know the sort of thing they will all have been talking about in the staffroom. Makes me sad that he has now got a 'name for himself'.

He has already been kept in at playtimes for throwing sand!

hello everyone! decided to stay away until mood improved - but thanks to all those who said kind things and hugs. Much appreciated. So, have to move on, and start thinking about the next cycle - DP convinced that November would be the one - this isn't new, by the way, this 'feeling' about Nov . So I'm going to have some nice wine tonight and try to stay positive - it won't do any harm, will it?

cece sorry about DS - but I'm sure it will blow over.

rfl great news about the job - even though I've worked at the same place for 14 years, maybe I should get a new job - it's a little known fertility aid, clearly!

have a good weekend all, and halloween

cece - sorry to hear about ds - they must get used to these sorts of things happening - they are just young after all. I managed to be humiliated only weeks into nursery when my cheque bounced (we had just moved house and had many big sums going out of our accounts). I paid them cash in an envelope which made me feel like 'mafia' or something as I couldn't bear for something to go wrong with a second cheque.

roque - well done. fantastic news. You must be pleased.

rhet - big hugs from me too.

Hi all,
cece that sounds a bit stressful. Don't dwell on what the teachers say, I'm pretty sure it will be forgotten in no time and they will be on to the next bit of gossip. I don't think any professional would let something like this affect the way they treat a child in their class.
I have no idea what I would do if this happened to my DS, but I was a horrible child, always biffing other kids and that kind of thing and I was blissfully unaware of any different treatment from the teachers.
How are you apart from that?
Roque, so you are turning down the job do you think. Still, it's great to have an offer isn't it.
Can we start using Halloween emoticons yet

HI all! Busy weekend so not much time to MN! rowing I have actually accepted the job already - it's a teaching job and the accepted procedure is you have to accept/reject then and there!

I am still very excited about it and am hoping that the glowing feedback they gave me will mean they don't get too cross about the truncated working period, always assuming this one is sticky of course! The history of mcs means i wouldn't want to take anything for granted as if I turned it down you can be sure I would then go on to mc again IYSWIM...

Flippin' eck! You better not turn it down then!
I'm sure everything will turn out well though.

Just to let you all know AF arrived yesterday. Boo Hiss.

Was starting to get my hopes up when it hadn't arrived by yesterday am that that test may have been too early, but sadly not to be.

Heho. Another month of trying. I think I have 3 more months of trying before my cycle goes out of whack with DH's work cycle, so alcohol is being totally knocked on head from today. (great just in time for Christmas )

Herbal tea here we come

Belated Congrats to herb and RoqueF - well done girls and on the new job RF

Wow Daisy5 -so made up for you that all is well with your little one.

Empathising with you Rhet, I'm in the "wondering if it's too late now" camp. We understand. Sending positive vibes. And to you too Juicy

Sorry you're worried about DS CeCe

We're still on our "getting fit" break from TTC which is just aswell seeing as DH and I are really not getting on at all well. The added pressure of TTC for so many years doesn't help. Hoping it's just a blip and we get through this enough to want to keep trying before we get our pensions!

x

hi roque and herb! just quickly scanned the new posts and saw your BFPs!!!
CONGRATS!!! so happy for both of you!

how are you feeling? how many weeks now?

Hi folks ? haven?t been able to get on much in the last week, RL a bit mad? but hopefully quietened down now so I can catch up, and do a bit of ttc-ing too!

Daisy ? so pleased to hear about your scan lol at 2.1?s ?becoming smile?

Rhet ? hope you?re feeling a bit better about things, it truly is an obsessional rollercoaster isn?t it? Good luck for this month, and no I don?t think a bit of wine to get you in the mood will hurt at all

Roque ? congrats on the job!! How are you feeling now?

Cece ? try not to worry about your DS, they change so fast I?m sure it will all be forgotten before long, understand it must be stressy though

Juicylucy ? sorry to hear about AF. Well, you?ll have to find a new vice now if you?re giving up alcohol for 3 months ? time for some creative thinking!

Hi Fruitbowl ? sorry to hear about your troubles with DH. Getting fit can be a bit tedious I guess (not that I?d know ) , hope you can get some good seasonal fun stuff in there somewhere too.

Well it?s Day 12 here, Ov is imminent I think, lots of cramping - though the opk?s haven?t showed up anything yet. ?Tis odd, the first month I used them I had clear positives (preceded and followed by fainter lines), but last month I just got a series of faint lines and no clear positives, though I think I did Ov as had a temp shift. Have been doing FF for 3 months now (this is month 4) and FF picked up Ov day as 14, 15 and 17 on the first 3 cycles, so hopefully I?m reasonably regular. Luteal phase 11 days so not brilliant, but not hopeless either. Luckily opportunities for BD are reasonably okay at the mo, so will try and do it every day for next few days

Will be interesting to see if the Agnus Castus makes a difference, as this is the first month I?ve taken a proper dosage (last month I didn?t realise you had to take 4 of the bloomin? tablets a day, not just one, duh...) Has anyone else tried it?

Hi Fruit and Fiend,
me me I'm taking ag castus, I was taking 4x400mg capsules, but I cut back to one capsule twice a day because it was making me feel a bit peculiar.
I have been having horrible waves of depression and then normality and I think taking random herbal remedies has made it worse.
This month we didn't get much bding done, so not holding out much hope.
Fruit I hope your rough patch ends soon, sometimes it gets worse before it gets better so hoping your worst has passed.
Hugs to you.

Hi, new to this board, and a wonderful place it looks to be :-).....just introducing myself and asking a couple of questions about older ladies and pregnancy.

I turned 40 this year and have two DDs - one is 10 and the other 2. I got pregnant both times naturally and the pregnancies were without incident.

Last year I got pregnant twice and lost one at 10 weeks with Downs and the other was a very early pregnany that didn't take at all.

I'll be turning 41 in February and I'm considering ivf next month...... Dh is 44.

I'm healthy, fit and I have been regular all my life with my cycle.

However, the reading I have done seems to have mutated me into some sort of ancient monster with little hope of becoming pregnant simply because I have turned 40. I'm beginning to feel despondent and depressed.

We have tried every month this year and no poitive tests at all. It only took us 5 months of trying with dd2.....

I guess I would like to hear some positive stories about women who have managed to become pregnant after 40.

The effect of reading all the negative media has resulted in me losing my confidence concerning falling pregnant, although I'm not sure about the link between confidence and falling pregnant....

I don't smoke, drink, I eat very healthy food, I exercise, am not overweight etc etc etc.

Any feedback will be truly appreciated.

Thanks ladies.

I've had a quick scan through this thread and seen some names I recognise, so hopefully someone may recognise me as I was on teh last TTC over 40 thread an awful lot.

I've had a positive this morning which is a bit of a shock and I feel stupid that its a shock.

Dh and I decided to 'try' until our holidays this summer which would mean that if it happened I would be 45 when the baby ws born.

I jsut couldn't get round to going having a coil fitted, it seemed very 'final' even tho I didn't wnat a baby at 46.

I'd taken up drinking again with a vengance , we have spent the money that would ahve gone on a garage conversion on a new car and i have jsut signed up for 12 months with a gym.

I am really in shock

46!

Rowing - that's interesting about AC possibly affecting your moods, haven't noticed anything yet myself but it's only been a couple of weeks at full dose, and actually I don't tend to notice my moods as much as DH does (!), I'll have to ask him How long did you take it for? Did it affect your cycle at all?

Hi Aquarius, sorry to hear about your MC's last year. Lots and lots of women get pregnant at 40 (and later) - I did for one. I think it can take longer on average though as the percentage of healthy eggs lowers past 35, and of course you only get 12-ish chances a year so it can feel like it's taking forever, grrrrr. But at 40 you're a spring chicken, don't worry! Are you charting or using opk's at all?

OMG Lillibet - that's great news!
No wonder you are in shock though, you did seem to move on with your life with all the changes.
Hi Aquarius - I don't know the figures for women over 40 conceiving because there don't seem to be many. Somebody on here said the only figures for over 40's seem to be from IVF'ers who usually have complications, which would make conceiving difficult at any age.
Like me - we are sigining up to IVF very soon because I have one blocked tube and possible damage in the other, so it's taking us ages to get pg for the second time.
Where are you thinking of going for your treatment - if you need it?

Wow Lilibet - congrats !! Sod's law strikes again eh

Yay! Halloween smilies !!

Wow CONGRATULATIONS Lilibet! What excellent news. Hope it's a sticky and turns into twins

(I was previously Blessed2 - so I remember you from the old thread)

Heron how many weeks are you now love?

Is someone going to do a BFP Graduate list - or will that be tempting fate?

Rowing your rant on the other thread (you know which one) made me laugh so much

Hi Aquarius68 WELCOME. I think Lilibet has just answered your question Plus, if you read back through the thread you will find that all our BFP lovlies are over 40 and a couple are 45/46.

Hi Juicy hope your next cycle is THE ONE