Thanks cece and rowingboat.
We are staying out at a hotel at the airport tomorrow night before we fly out. That's one opportunity to tell him. The next is the evening we arrive in Spain after a long tiring trip. Somehow I think tomorrow night is best (I won't see him tonight).
If I tell him tomorrow night, I thought of ordering a non alcoholic cocktail and taking out my clearblue digital stick to use as a swizzle stick - and then go 'oh, silly me!!!'
But seriously, perhaps I should start a conversation about pregnancy and say 'I get the feeling that you have concerns about me getting pregnant again, because (a,b,c etc)...... So i've thought about it and decided that if I do get pregnant again I am going to do (a,b,c etc)......which should make it easier on you and more enjoyable all round. And when he cheers up and thinks it's a good idea, I will tell him I am pregnant.
The problem is that if I tell him I am pregnant straight away, he doesn't hear anything I say after that, so I figure I need to say it beforehand. Well - that's my idea no. 1.
I would actually prefer not to tell him for a couple of weeks, as who knows what will happen, but unfortunately, although we don't drink much normally, we do tend to chat happily in the evening over a bottle of wine when on holiday, which obviously I can't do now.
I know he will resent that it has happened just before our holiday on the first day in six months that he has had an opportunity to relex but que sera sera and all that!!! He doesn't much like sitting down to drink that bottle by himself, and all that stuff people see in the movies where unwanted drinks are poured into conveniently placed pot plants, doesn't quite work in real life.
All suggestions welcome how to break the news to someone who seems less than enthusiastic about pregnancy at the moment, or 'tired and on verge of total collapse from exhaustion' as he puts it.