TTC and 35 +, all those who are worried their ovaries are not as sprightly as before

[DarrellRivers]

After 18m persuading DH, we are finally (v gently ) TTc no 3.
As I am now 35, am convinced my fertility days are behind me.
Anyone in a similar position and needing to share support?

How is it going today Darrell?

Darrell hope you are ok, fingers and everything else crossed for you x

Beanie sorry to hear AF arrived

Still on knicker watch here too esp as sore boobs have pretty much gone although I had a bit of queasiness when out yesterday.

Good luck to everyone else x

still vvvv dark brown spotting
no cramps
don't feel pregnant at all
but just have to wait and see what happens
spangles, i think sore boobs do come and go, and you are still v early on, so minimal preg symptoms are more normal at this early stage

hi all

Darrel I hope you are ok today

I found my pregnancy diary from dd and then nausea only really hit from 5-6 weeks onwards and I had little of that but I distinctly remember extremely sore nipples for ages

there are also notes of twinges and me getting upset and dreams of bleeding which left me in tears for the entire day

I hope this will offer me some perspective this time

woke up with thunder storm today after glorious sunny warm day yesterday, must bake cake

oh DarrelR hang in there I know it is worrying but lets keep everything crossed, spotting and bleeding is common at this stage
(and yes I know it is easy to say)

I have cystitis - AGAIN

beanie sorry that is terribly uncomfortable to say the least take it it is recurrent?
I used to have it quite regularly and am pretty strict what underwear I wear, and usually have cranberry juice at the ready.
also make sure I empty my bladder properly and regularly

I have had about 2 litres of cranberry juice since friday I could feel it coming on. Not had sex since last weekend so not sure if it's that or something else.

I might go back to the doctor as I have had it about 6 times in the last year.

oh sorry that is pretty awful
are you feeling run down? sometimes it is opportunistic secondary infection but if it is persistent it is worth going for AB's to clear it properly

I know I can't wear tights or if I don't drink enough water it seems to loom

I had never had it before TTC. got through my twenties and most of my thirties without ever having it. I had antibiotics about a year ago but usually just deal with it with those sachets from the chemist and cranberry juice.

Darrell it sounds like old blood left over from implantation but it must be so worrying. Did you feel pg so early on with your other two?

beanieb at cystitis, fortunately not had it but I have a friend who has regular bouts and I know how painful it was for her. Is it one of those things that's stress related?

Don't think so, but I can't remember
Being positive at least there are no cramps and did the sample preg test this morning which said 4-5 weeks which is right (4 w 5d) at the moment
beaine hope your cystitis settles down

Darrell, that sounds encouraging. There is someone on the May ante-natal thread who is having brown spotting too, perhaps it's not that uncommon.

thanks spangle, have popped over to have a look, don't want to join properly as am convinced all going to end in tears

hi all hope everyone is well

just checking on Darrel how are things?

Morning all! With being away I've got a bit lost as to which of us are left trying? Me, beanie, Numpty, FlowerFairy, Wondermum, Wasabipeanut, Chocciedooby and deanychip? Who have I missed (and please excuse any names I've misspelt).

BFP's from Slippers & Pipe, Darrell, SFX/miss Edith/Spanglemaker.

Morning Clairepo.
Well, I'm trying to conceive and dh is trying to avoid conception!
Had a crazy week last week so still not had a chance for us to sit down and have an honest chat about ttc No.3.I want to have the chat over a relaxing meal/drink rather than with the kids running around.Keep you posted x
How are you doing Darrel?

Fingers crossed he comes round choccie. Your idea of sitting down and talking about it away from distractions is a very good one.

Hi ClairePo

I'm still here - TTC#1, Cycle 3, CD12 and hoping for great things this time round, as I've learnt so much on here from reading about everyone's experiences.

I don't post much on this thread, as, being a real newbie, it seemed easier to get to know people by diving in on a new one - I do read though, and share in the highs and the lows

Chocciedooby - I'm not convinced my DP is really really committed to this either - we did have the big chat, and he is participating in the process, knowing that we are not using contraception, but seems very reluctant to discuss the ins and outs of conception, so I try to keep my hopes and worries to myself so I don't freak him out He did ask me on Friday what stage I was in my cycle - I was about to say -"this is my most fertile weekend", then decided to refrain and just muttered something about not really being sure It is hard to know what I should do - don't want to deceive but don't want to freak him out either

I wish men could develop the ability to open up and talk about how they feel

Jools it is difficult with men, they don't get as emotionally involved as we do I think, also they're very good at hiding their feelings. I think they're just not that interested in the mechanics of it all. I have stopped talking to DP now about my cervical mucus as his eyes just glaze over, but it doesn't mean he's not committed.

You're not deceiving him, so don't worry, you've had the chat, he knows you're trying, he just doesn't know which 'attempts' in any given cycle matter. That could well be a good thing, we've had a wasted cycle or two where the pressure gets to you both and things just don't work out. If you get what I mean.

Hello everyone, seems to have settled today , phew
Thanks for the support
Jools, I think men prefer not to know the details, and i think he is on aboard but in a very male way, men I think really only come to terms with a baby, when it is there as part of the family and is a concrete thing
Say as little as possible to him about the mechanics of the whole TTC

That'll teach me to step away from this thread for too long! Congratulations to all those BFPs, especially DarrellRivers as she got us all going here in the first place - and good to hear it has settled down too.

I'm still on the TTC trail too ClairePO, cycle 3, CD 15 but worryingly very few ovulation signs, usually have loads of mucous, side pain etc. Still we're putting in loads of bedroom action just on the offchance. This TTC malarkey has its advantages.

Fingers crossed for everyone else.

Pleased to hear you're doing ok Darrell.

Yep my DH didn't really want to know all the gory details. He did ask me every if it was a good temperature or not but I think that was to humour me, he just looked confused when I told him it was high or low, he doesn't know which is good or bad. I think they do feel more than they let on but can't/won't/don't know how to share.

Glad to know my DP's approach to life is pretty typical, so thanks for the reassurance

Glad things are looking better Darrell

I think if when I get PG, I'm going to be far, far more cautious now about telling everyone and only guardedly excited rather than shouting it from the rooftops - those first 12 weeks sound like a roller coaster of worry and emotions

Darrel that is good to know

Jools My dh is sort of similar as discussed a few posts back he believes in being spontaneous and letting nature take its course
but he is a fantastic dad and dh bless him

best of luck to those BDing