The Hopeful Hearts Circle 1 - December 2025🎄💖

[Iris2024]

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Welcome to a wishful December 🎄🤍💞

7DPO and I have back pain and feel heavy inside (best way to describe it). TMI but my nipples are so sore too 🙈 I feel like this is AF on the way but another 4/5 days before she’s due

I think I'm out. It's been a confusing couple of days. Had some very faint positives but can't be sure they're positives and not evaps. Line was more obvious once the tests had been left over the time limit but initially convincing myself I could still see something in the time window. Now I'm not sure.

CD27 today. 11dpo. Just had some spotting after sex. Partner and I both convinced AF is on its way. Just a waiting game now.

Feel very hopeless. Even if I do test positive in the next few days, spotting after sex and early pregnancy bleeding was just how my other two pregnancies went earlier this year. It feels like history repeating itself and I know how this story ends.

Sorry for the woe is me post... But I am very woeful. I don't know if I can keep putting myself through this.

I’m sorry @Taysonic I don’t have any wise words and I'm not sure anyone can say anything to make you feel better about the situation. Perhaps take some time to wallow and allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself for a moment before trying to pick yourself up again. Your feelings are valid.

Thanks @lepoissonM - having a bit of a self-indulgent pity party today, but also cooking a roast. Surely no one can be sad when eating roast potatoes?

Hands down the best thing about British cuisine @Taysonic Hope the roasties sort you out! I’m also having a roast tonight

Well I’ve just been totally blindsided. CD26 and what was 8dpo and AF has arrived. Very confused. My cycles are usually 30ish days

I am out sadly, my period started today, rlly did get my hopes up this month, need to care less next time!

Oh no, @thehumgoesonforever, @Fullofconfusion, @Taysonic , I am so sorry. Splurge on yourselves for the next few days.

@Taysonic has AF arrived? If not, without getting your hope too high, don't fully give up either. I've read about people qho had the same symptoms whether they were pms-ing, pregnant or having a MC. I can't remember, have you seen someone? Maybe to see if getting progesterone pessaries could help?

@Fullofconfusion is it as heavy as AF usually is? I know some people who get heavy implantation bleeding but msitake it for AF because it’s more then just a wipe like the majority report. Don’t want to give you false hope but thought I’d at least flag!

@Taysonic I hope plenty of roasties cheered you up a bit!
You're entitled to a pity party though, you've really been through it this year!

I'm 7dpo today, had a really weird pinching pain on my lower right hand side last night, but now im getting in my head thinking I probably had that last month too, what a minefield

@PearOpalI did wonder that yesterday as it totally caught me by surprise and it was quite brown blood but it’s definitely a proper flow now. Very odd. I’m going to contact my GP as I’ve been referred to the recurrent loss clinic but appointment not until June next year and she said I could chase it with them if anything changed in the meantime so it’s atleast worth flagging in case they can do some bloods or something before referral.

I’m feeling very low today. It’s so gloomy here, very rainy and grey so not helping the mood. Trying to look for the positives. Plenty of cheese and wine over Christmas and then fertile period probably over new year!

@LuckyDuck93the symptom spotting is so hard. You try not to but overthink everything! Everything crossed for you.

Fingers crossed for everyone still hoping for positives before Christmas.

Sorry @Fullofconfusion - weird that AF arrived so soon. I'll try and put a spin on it that perhaps it means you're not in limbo for Christmas (and can enjoy all the aforementioned wine and cheese!) but I know it's not what you would have wanted.

AF hasn't arrived yet. Got two faint positives on easy@home strips this morning but not enough to trigger a 'pregnant' on a digital yet and not strong enough for me to believe them... So still just waiting. But I'll take no further bleeding as a good sign and just try and hold out now until Wednesday morning.

Spent last night focused on sewing a cushion! Didn't know what to get my DP for Christmas, and we have colours associated with our pregnancy losses this year. First loss is orange, as we'd nicknamed it Pip and I'm sure at one point the app said it was the size of an orange pip. And then second loss is purple: birthstone colour for due date in February. I'm not sure where the idea came from, but we decided I'd make him a purple cushion and an orange cushion for Christmas.

The purple one is now made! It's not perfect, and I'm awaiting some new cushion inserts to put into it... but it was a very good distraction!

Thinking of you @LuckyDuck93 - hope the next week gives you some answers!

So... These are the tests I did this morning (second morning urine, not first). This photo was taken after a while so they've dried out. So could both be evap lines?

Objectively, I'd look at these and think positive but I'm really having a hard time believing them. Waiting 48hrs until Wednesday should hopefully give a more definitive answer? Right?

I feel like I should be excited but I can't let myself be hopeful yet.

@Taysonic Did you see the line during the recommended timeframe of the test? I don't think that those are evap lines at all. It looks like a positive. It's always good to be cautious at first but those lines are not even that faint.

The HCG doubles every 48 hours so if you can wait until Wednesday, you should be more able to see if it has darkened (although it is not a given so no panic if it is not that obvious).

I am crossing everything for you and will spend my Christmas wish on you. May that line keep on darkening.

Ah @Taysonic i'm hoping this is the christmas miracle you so desperately deserve! Everything crossed for you!

Yep, just did another one to double check... line is showing up in under a minute, well under the time frame.

Oh ladies. I'm so sorry. I feel like this is the third time I've shared positive test news and it feels a bit insensitive and greedy but at the same time.. I can't believe it yet. I don't want to. I don't want to believe it if it's not going to end happily.

Shit. I just want it to work.

@Taysonic I dont think there is anything greedy about it at all, you have every right to feel nervous & to want this time to be different!

@Taysonic don't you apologize! I love seeing positive news, it does give me hope that it does happen!

I uunderstand the fear to believe though but it seems lile you can allow yourself to believe a little bit.

I'm really happy for you, what a roller coaster it has been for you!

Oh @Taysonic tentatively keeping everything crossed for you ❤️

@Taysonicthat looks positive to me! Tentative congratulations and keeping everything crossed for you

@Taysonic Amazing news! Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

We’re all here to support through the negative times. But it’s the positive news that I love to see, because it gives me hope too!

Thank you all. It's starting to sink in a little bit more now and I'm reassured by the lack of bleeding so far... Keeping all fingers and toes crossed for a super sticky bean.

Going to try and not get obsessed with continual testing and checking progression but... That feels easier said than done. Tentatively hopeful.

Hoping for some more good news to celebrate before the month is done!

I hope you don’t mind me joining!
I’m 13 dpo today but I just can’t bring myself to test and deal with seeing a negative. I symptom spotted so much last month and convinced myself I was pregnant. This month I’ve felt really deflated and I just know it’s not our month. We’re cycle 6 TTC number 2. I suppose I’m grateful I won’t be in the 2ww at Christmas, by then I’ll know either way!

Good luck to everyone waiting and to those with tentative positives 🤞🏻

Hi ladies, I hope it’s okay for me to jump in on this thread. I’m just really needing a bit of support at the moment, as I’m feeling quite low.

I had a miscarriage in April 2024 and haven’t fallen pregnant since, apart from one chemical pregnancy. I’ve had blood tests, ultrasounds, a HyCoSy, and my husband’s sperm has been tested too, and everything has come back normal, which I know is reassuring, but emotionally it’s starting to feel like it’s taking such a long time.

I think I’ve been finding things particularly hard recently because everyone around me seems to be falling pregnant, and we’re now heading towards another Christmas, which has made everything feel a bit heavier.

I’m also feeling really confused about my cycle this month and worried that I completely missed my chance. I usually ovulate around cycle day 19, but this cycle looks much earlier. Natural Cycles is marking ovulation as cycle day 13, even though it excluded my temperature that day, which was 36.72.

What’s throwing me is that on cycle day 16 my temperature dropped to 36.44 and I also had lower back ache. Then on cycle day 17 I had a big temperature spike up to 37.15 and my temperatures have stayed higher since.

Another factor is that I’ve been sleeping with a hot water bottle. I slept with one on cycle day 13, but from cycle day 14 onwards I stopped using it to see how it affected my BBT, so I’m not sure if that’s confused the earlier readings.

If anyone is happy to share their thoughts on whether ovulation seems more likely around cycle day 16 rather than 13, I’d really appreciate it. I think I’m just feeling a bit lost and discouraged right now.

Thank you so much for reading.