The Hopeful Hearts Circle 1 - December 2025🎄💖

[Iris2024]

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Welcome to a wishful December 🎄🤍💞

@Taysonic sounds like we're both in the waiting for nature to take its course stage 😔

I had my HCG checked 48hrs apart and while the 1st was reassuring the second had dropped significantly (70% less than 2 days before) which confirmed that while it's unlikely to be an ectopic, it shows the pregnancy is not progressing and I am miscarrying. And now I wait 💔

@Taysonic @SausageRoll90 so sorry you're both having such a rubbish time of it! Sending you all the love x

Hope you're not having to wait too long @SausageRoll90. Being in the limbo stage is hard, knowing it's coming at some point but not sure when.

For me, limbo ended yesterday. Started bleeding around 4pm and had a pretty rough evening. Weirdly, I had an odd feeling it would be yesterday. When I spoke to my boss on Wednesday, I even said to her 'I'm pretty sure it'll happen tomorrow.'

But I guess that comes from experience and riding this rollercoaster a few times now.

I still don't know what my plan is - I know I'm not willing to continue TTC unless I have information or assurance that our chances are improved, through whatever means. But also unsure if that means I'm done completely or I'm willing to take the steps to have further investigations and explore other options.

I’m so sorry Darling 😢❤️

I hope everyone has been ok today xx

Hi Ladies,

Just wanted to check in and see how you're all doing?

Sending love to those of you who need it right now ❤

Ahhhh @LuckyDuck93 - the important question is how are YOU doing?! How many weeks are you now? Hopefully everything is going really swimmingly and you're feeling alright.

I've now been referred to the recurrent loss clinic. They've given me a new set of bloods they want to do 6 weeks after a negative, so should be able to get that done end of April. And then it's just a case of waiting for the clinic appointment. Depending on what they say, will depend on whether we continue to TTC or not. Certainly not trying beforehand.

I'm having a bit of a mental freak out around it all... It makes me feel like this future I had been working towards is now no longer the goal... but then, in it's place, I'm not sure what the goal is? I'm not sure how I see my future now and what I want it to look like. If that makes sense. And then I feel frustrated that I don't know the answer to that question... Just makes me question everything and it's a very unsettling place to be.

I'm starting to feel much better thanks @Taysonic I'm 13 weeks now! The first 10 were the slowest of my life and now I feel like they're flying.
I'm glad they've referred you and you might finally get those much needed answers, I'm sure everything will feel more settled when you've got a plan or at least some more solid answers. I can imagine it's tough, TTC takes over your whole life and it's so hard to see a future past that.
Maybe the goal is to just get through the next few months of tests & go from there? It's hard not to look further ahead though x

@Taysonic i understand your words so much ❤️ you got this hunni! Keep pushing… 🥹❤️

Looks like AF has arrived for me today 😞 rolling onto cycle 17 I think it is now. It's hard when there's nothing you can really do to help.

Hi everyone, hope everyone’s doing okay.

We’ve taken a break ttc the last two cycles whilst waiting for DH’s urology appointment. We had this on Friday just gone and got the news that he’s got a grade 3 varicocele and will need to have a procedure. Mixed emotions as ever. Even though it’s another step forward, there’s no guarantee this will get us to the end result and for the procedure they apparently have to go through his neck and heart which is scary..

18 months since we first started ttc and like many we just want this more than anything in the world ❤️‍🩹

Finally gave in and had an appointment with a fertility clinic. I was a bit against the idea because I thought they would just push us towards IVF, but it was a very measured conversation. She said we have 3 possible issues, scaring in the tubes from the infection I got whilst in labour with my 2 year old (which lead to the emergency c section), there’s a problem with my c section scar, which is collecting secretions. If this feeds up to my uterus, it doesn’t make a welcoming environment to for an egg to settle. And the final one is egg quality, as I’m 42. She recommended IVF with genetic testing, plus to try and get my uterus and tubes checked via my GP. I can then have the embryo (assuming we get one) put in if nothing happens naturally in the meantime. Oh and to lose weight and take co-enzyme Q10. I like having a plan, though suspect getting anything out of my GP will be an impossible battle

Hi ladies I’ve been a bit quiet, took a step back from social media and mumsnet as I don’t think I was feeling in a very good place after my last loss. I’m currently having counselling sessions still and I think they’re helping.

How is everyone doing?

I am currently Cd23. Had some EWCM on Cd21 and a slightly raised LH test strip but not convincingly high. Yesterday’s strip was low again and today back to higher but not that high so don’t think I’ve ovulated just yet. I’m usually around Cd21 but due to the miscarriage 2 months ago I think it’s probably messed my cycles up. I’ll keep testing for a few more days and we’re DTD anyway just in case.

I have a recurrent loss appointment in June which when we got it seemed a million years away and now seems actually quite close. I think once we’ve had that we may need to make some decisions on whether we keep trying as it’s just so exhausting. All the not knowing and getting your hopes up. I’m still hopeful for now though…trying to keep the hope going

Ah, it's lovely to see your name pop up @Fullofconfusion - I hope you're doing alright.

I feel like I'm in a similar boat to you. I've been referred to recurrent loss clinic. They want to do an extra round of blood tests six weeks after my first 'negative' test after latest loss. That will be around end of April. I'm presuming those tests will continue to show I'm testing positive for thyroid antibodies and I'm going to try and push for something to address that.

Depending on when the appointment comes through, and what the blood test results say and what's offered, we'll need to think about whether we continue to try. I'm in two minds. We're not actively trying at the moment (well, we're actively avoiding!) until after the blood tests for sure.

Hopefully you figure out what's going on with your cycle this time round - I'm sure all will become clear at some point and that you get some positive news before the June appointment. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@Taysonicyes I believe we are in a similar leaky boat! I did the standard bloods after this loss. Full blood count, thyroid, pre diabetes etc. and all came back fine. So I’m hopeful that the recurrent loss clinic can do something else or investigate further.

I can’t remember if you have any living children? I have a little boy with my previous partner who is 7. No losses prior to him. Then a 22 week TFMR and since then 3 further early losses. I just didn’t expect it at all after having zero problems the first time around.

I’ve tested again today and now have a proper positive LH test, yay! So we’ll try again and see where we get to.

everything crossed that you get some answers too. Do you have an appointment or just been referred? I was referred in September so 9 month wait which has seemed like an age but now seems fairly close!

Oooh get cracking! At least you're not in ovulation limbo and know that even if your cycle hasn't settled as normal completely, that you are still ovulating.

Thankfully, yes - I have a living child. Mine's also a son, and he'll be 10 in June. And similarly, I'm no longer with his Dad and trying for a second with a new partner. My partner doesn't have any children (he's quite a bit younger than me!) and I think if it weren't for that factor, I probably wouldn't feel as much pressure to have a second... not that he's pressuring me in any way at all - he's been wonderfully forthcoming in that he's with me for me. If a child comes along, then great, but it wouldn't change anything for him if it didn't happen. I still feel quite a lot of guilt around that though. He's been THE BEST stepdad to my son and I don't want to feel responsible for him not having any bio children of his own.

I was only referred to recurrent loss clinic this month. They said it could be a 4-6month wait, but they wanted to do an extra round of blood tests in the interim despite having already done bloods after the second loss. They did say they'd test for a couple more things but I haven't thoroughly checked the paperwork yet to see if that's true.

I've convinced myself it's an auto-immune issue. I previously tested positive for thyroid antibodies which can be indicative of auto-immune issues, and I've also had some crazy rashes over the past year that have affected different parts of my body and lasted a really long time - I've currently got a huge patch covering almost all of my shin. Who knows though!?

All I know if that I don't want to go through another loss. So we're both not prepared to try again unless there's some kind of new protocol they put me on to try and resolve any issues.

@Fullofconfusion @Taysonic nice to see you both back on here, I hope you both get some answers in the next few months, you both deserve that at least! ❤

Hey @Fullofconfusion and @Taysonic - same as the above, hopefully you both are on the way to get some answers. Hope you are holding up and feeling positive (know it’s not easy!) 💕

@Taysonicyour situation sounds very similar to mine. I feel awful guilt that my partner doesn’t have his own child. He loves my son and they have a great bond but I know he’d love to have a baby together too. I sometimes think that if we had tried and nothing had happened it might feel different to us having the losses but we know we came so close that it’s hard to give up. But also incredibly hard to keep going when it seems to be heartbreak after heartbreak.

@LuckyDuck93@Blondepeachhow are you both doing? Well I hope!

I feel like we’ve managed to DTD a good few times at the right time so fingers crossed. Officially in the 2 week wait now…the torture!

@Fullofconfusion Im doing well thank you, had my 12 week scan this week which went well and was a bit surreal - still feels like some sort of out of body experience if I’m honest 🥲

Hoping you hit those days and that this is your month 💕

@Fullofconfusion I'm doing well thank you, same as @Blondepeach though, feels like an out of body experience and i'm not sure i'll even believe it until baby is here!

@LuckyDuck93 and @Blondepeachwishing you both the best of pregnancies. I’m genuinely so happy for you both.

I’m 8DPO and resisting testing. We’re going on holiday next week and I highly suspect that AF will arrive just before we go. I’ve got my usual cramps so she’s probably on her way already. For the last few months I’ve also been getting a really weird pain in my groin when AF is due and during my period. It’s not something I’ve had before but definitely seems to be linked to my cycle and is very uncomfortable. I hate the TWW. At least I have plenty of Easter chocolate to get me through!

@Fullofconfusion thank you ❤
Hope the rest of the 2ww goes quickly for you and you can enjoy your holiday regardless of the outcome x

I’m 9DPO and I caved and tested.

There’s the faintest of lines 🥹
I’m not sure how I feel right now

@Fullofconfusion 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 have you tested again today?