The Hopeful Hearts Circle 1 - December 2025🎄💖

[Iris2024]

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@Blondepeachi am 39 in May. We have a little boy that turned 2 in Nov. Concieved him on first try. Have now been trying for number 2 for 14 months. Had an early loss 3 months in,followed by a chemical immediately after. And now 11 months without a positive test. This is our first medicated round. Trying to stay positive but its so hard. Time isn't on my side.
I dread to think how you must feel trying for your 1st. Nothing can prepare you for the heartache. Let's hope this is it for you!! You really deserve it xx
@daisy2025have just re-read your post to me earlier! What were your husbands sperm analysis results? My partner is off for his 3rd semen analysis tomorrow! I hope this might be the reason for you! Always good to know there is something you can do as unexplained just means they haven't found the issue!

How long is your luteal phase?
Im not sure if I will take the progesterone next cycle. I'll see if it does anything for my spotting. My luteal phase is anout 13 days but spot two days before. My progesterone as been checked twice at 7dpo and its been very good at 54.
I have just read about estrogen dominance, I dont think that's me. I dont have the symptoms and my estrogen has been tested a few times and been okay x

Thanks for the well wishes, feeling a little rough today so hopefully this is moving in the right direction 🤞🏻 nearly referred myself to the midwife team but am holding off. Not entirely sure why! I shouldn’t leave it too late because I can have a scan at 6 weeks thanks to my previous ectopic. I might do it tomorrow.

Just for those who have mentioned spotting. I have had spotting for 3-4 days each cycle before AF (except this cycle, where I only had 1 day at 8dpo). So maybe not too bad a symptom?

@ChaE05 he had 4 last year, all different numbers but morphology has ranged from 0.5% - 1.5%, most recent 1%. Total count and concentration have been low, but motility has been above the reference limit but not by a great deal. We’ve been eating well, don’t drink, cut out caffeine and been taking all the right supplements (he’s also been keeping cool down there). This is what makes me think it must be the veins.. sounds awful but I’m hopeful that it is just so we might have a very small light at the end of the tunnel!
Fingers crossed for your husband tomorrow🤞🏼 how have his last two been?
My luteal phase was 8 days but I managed to extend it by using soy isoflavones for a few months to 10 days, but have spotting for 2/3 days before!
Don’t blame you for not taking it next cycle, the symptoms are just the worst. That’s really good that your progesterone and estrogen levels are both ok, did the nhs do your estrogen tests or are you with a fertility clinic? I think I need mine testing

@lepoissonM that’s great progression!☺️ Sorry for your previous loss. Hopefully they will get you a scan booked in to put your mind at ease! That’s good to know about the spotting, the clinic doesn’t seem to be concerned but I’ve convinced myself it’s not right haha. Good to hear it hasn’t caused issues for you!

@lepoissonMlook at those beautiful lines!! Amazing, must feel very reassuring xx

@daisy2025his first SA all was in normal range. Morphology was 4%.
His next once 3 months later everything had shot up. Motility and sperm count excellent but morphology down to 2% but fertility clinic were not concerned at all by that. We did a DNA fragmentation test and it came back at 19%. Anything under 15% is good. When you get to 25-30% its bad! So his is in the middle and could be better. The fertility clinic wanted to do more tests on that (moreeee money) but we decided after a talk with chatgpt and endless scrolling on Google that we could improve it with frequent ejaculation (was only really happening around ovulation time!) And continuing with lots of good recommened supplements. We have already spent such alot, our gut was telling us this was just a case of doing these things. So we will see. And see how his next SA comes back.

Ive had my day 3 tests done via GP a couple of times now. They have been great. I just tell them what I want and they do it 🤣 i know some people have such struggles with their GPS but mine are great.
That's great you extended your luteal phase !

Honestly I feel so overwhelmed with TTC at the moment. It feels like my whole personality. Its draining isn't it xx

@ChaE05 Those numbers sound really good! I don’t think I’ve heard of the DNA fragmentation test, but yours seems closer to 15% than 25% which is reassuring! Fingers crossed today’s test is what you’re hoping for🤞🏼 keep us updated
It’s an expensive and time consuming process with all the researching, I hate to think how much we’ve spent on supplements… Thankfully we’ve had all of our tests so far done via the nhs, have you gone private for yours?
That’s really good that your GP offered it! Mine is very good for non fertility things, but with fertility she very much wants to follow the lead of the fertility consultant… I think they must hate me as I’m always chasing up both sides and keeping them in the loop 😅
It’s the hardest thing to go through but it’ll be so worth it in the end!
Where are you at in your cycle currently?

Morning all - please can I borrow your line eyes? 10dpo x

I can absolutely see lines on those. And especially the first image looks to have colour. Eeeeeeek.

So good to see more positive test results on here, and great progression too @lepoissonM - like others have said, that must be reassuring.

CD4 for me and can't wait to get going this cycle. Holding out a bit of hope that the promise of progesterone once I get pregnant will make a difference... But DP and I are both not sure if we'll continue to try if we have to go through another loss. We did say that last time... But... I didn't want to feel like we did exhaust our options.

@lepoissonM Look at that beautiful progression 😍

@ttcnumerodos there is definitely a line. Tentative congratulation 💐

@ChaE05 So so sorry for your losses, are your cycles/ovulation regular? How do you currently track? I’ve been using the BBT method and it’s taught me a lot about my cycles and actually that I was more irregular than I thought, so has been helpful but just adds another level of anxiety temp watching everyday. I’m sure it is not any easier even if you have your little one already, so sorry you’re finding it draining - I’m sure 11 months has felt like a lifetime especially when you had your early losses pretty early trying for baby no.2

@ttcnumerodos congratulations!! Could see your line straight away We are exact day cycle buddies, 10dpo for me and my line got a smidge darker this morning in comparison to yesterdays, but know it’s so so early so trying to protect myself x

Thank you @Taysonic@Allmywishcometrue@Blondepeach
Completely thought I was out yesterday - usual pre AF symptoms but x1000. We had DS's birthday party in the afternoon and I absolutely crashed out after it, SO grumpy, exhausted and cold so thought AF was imminent. Still feel crampy and just praying this one sticks xx

Oh and tentative congratulations to you too @Blondepeach - you've been TTC for a while too haven't you? We can be tentative together 🥰

@Taysonic it is so mentally and physically exhausting to ttc and go through loss. Maybe it would take a bit of pression of you if instead of deciding to stop ttc completely, you just took a 1, 2 or 3 months break just to enjoy life with DP then decide what to do.

I am crossing my fingers this month is your month though and progesterone helps 🤞💐

I have a follicles tracking scan today. I normally get a good-ish follicle around day 40/45 but I took Letrozole. I am on day 10 today. Let's hope I have 2 good follicles 🙏.

I have a good feeling about it (which means I am a few hours away from either be really happy or completely crushed 😀)

@ttcnumerodos 19 months. Yes let’s be tentative together 💕

@Allmywishcometrue Wishing you all the luck in the world for the outcome you hope for at your follicle scan today x

First round of superovulation....test day today. As expected, not pregnant 💔 we move on and push through because we're strong and we have to. But my god doesn't it hurt?

@Blondepeachyes have always tracked with opks. My body is also a very good indicator. Get alot of ewcm and can feel ovulation.

Just get to this point. Going into cycle 12 since my loss and just think there must be something else going on x

@ChaE05 I’m so sorry today was not the outcome you had hoped, the heartbreak does not get any easier. Looking back on your messages it looks like you’re 11dpo today, could still be just a day or two too early as always reading that late implantation can occur? If it turns out not to be the case, I hope once you’ve had a good cry, that a new month can eventually bring you a little glimmer of hope ❤️ Do you track your BBT as well as opk?

Also, with your fertility investigations did they test for Ureaplasma? I’ve been seeing a lot pop up about this and have not been tested for it, so I ordered myself an online test to send off as have read it can cause implantation and issues with conceiving generally.

If anybody on this thread knows anything more or has been tested, would be interested to know X

@Blondepeachi have also just got my period too. Same day I normally do. I do usually spot for 1 - 2 days. Will see if this is spotting or if the progesterone has helped with that.

I did the daye test! Everything came back negative apart from my lactobacilli (the good vaginal bacteria) was reduced. And told me this can be improved with probiotics so im taking optibac for women! Definitely worth doing. It really seems a process of elimination.

I dont bbt. I have considered it at times but also felt it was just another added stress and thing to obsess over!

Not sure if I mentioned i got my NK cells tested at the CRP Clinic. We spent nearly 3k on testing. To be honest I didnt go there thinking they would want to test them I just went there looking for some extra help to fall pregnant and we kind of got swept away with it.
Anyway results for natural killer cells being activated in implanting and pregnancy were completely normal. My total natural killer cells were slightly over there normal threshold- so classed them as high. But chat gpt says its within normal range but Immunology clinics usually have their own "norm"
They would want to put me on a number of medication including steroids. It seems to be the same protocol for everyone and not particularly tailored to your individual results. The steroid dosage is quite high. Im in such 2 minds. Im really not convinced this is my issue but at the same time im thinking what if it is? Should I be following through with it. Just so confusing xx

@ChaE05 Oh I’m sorry 😔 big hugs, the months feel x10 longer when ttc, so the marathon of waiting to test and then AF arrive is just horrendous.

Good that your Daye test came back overall very good. I’ve been taking the Zita West Femceive tablets in relation to the vaginal microbiome, think they are pretty much the same as the Optibac ones. I’ve suffered with frequent thrush in the past so always felt my micro biome must be not quite right.

interesting you mentioned the CRP clinic, I live around an hour from there and one of my mums friends had been there after a few chemicals and an ectopic and she now has a baby - so she actually recommended it to me. Financially at the moment it’s not something we could afford so hence why I went down the recurrent miscarriage clinic route for now.

Im 12dpo today and my tests are darkening but I just can’t shake this horrible black cloud of doubt and anxiety over me, any sensation down below I just feel sick and so on edge. I can’t imagine ever feeling ‘safe’ even with a positive test now x

I'm sorry AF has arrived @ChaE05, I hope you're ok, sending hugs. I try and allow myself a day to really feel sorry for myself then try and get a good kip and fresh start the next day.

I'm exactly the same @Blondepeachcant relax at all. I've wiped pink a few times and I'm just like 'oh well, that's it then 🙄' . Can't concentrate on work at all, I'm so on edge. x

@ttcnumerodos yep same, I must think about it every few minutes - not making work very easy. I haven’t had spotting (yet) but I am also on progesterone and read it can cause spotting, so I’m keeping an eye out for that. I’ve been having a weeeeny bit of a crampy discomfort feeling, almost like 5% of a normal period cramp. I wish I was just having no sensations down there to be honest 😅

@Blondepeachunfortunately you probably aren't going to be able to fully relax for a while yet. But its so reassuring your tests are darkening! And your chance of this baby sticking is highter than it not, just keep telling yourself that. The odds are in your favour! Xx

So lovely to hear about your friend and CRP!

My period still hasn't fully started yet. Had that spotting yesterday morning and nothing since! No cramping or anything. Seems exactly the same as previous months, so progesterone hasn't done anything for me! Think it would make more sense to take it from a positive test rather than go through the side effects each month and not get any real benefit xx

@ChaE05 Thanks for your words of reassurance, also would never want to come across as ungrateful either but need to take it a day at a time and try and not panic 😫 I’m booked for a scan at 6 weeks which would be the 19th Feb, im 4 weeks today so still ridiculously early.

Hmm it’s a shame the progesterone has not helped with your spotting, I have always spotted before mine too. I feel like the progesterone is such a big commitment early on too, only been doing mine 4 days and I don’t like it already. Not quite sure how you’re meant to time sex around it, I feel so irritated in that region already. Hopefully your period arrives soon (if it is on its way) and you can start a fresh. I’m sure it’s been extra heavy with you having the letrozole and trigger shot this cycle, so be kind to yourself xx

Progesterone is so uncomfortable. I am about to start mine tonight.

I did my IUI yesterday so I have started my 2 WW.

Hello ladies! Sorry I’ve been so quiet. I’ve been trying to not research or speak of any of it as it’s no overwhelming. Found out today that Molly bloody Mae caught the same month as me and expecting when I would of been due so that’s tipped me over the edge today and not stopped crying 😂😩 why have I left it until now to try for a second. I really worry it won’t happen for me. I’ve got my next fertility appointment on the 25th and they’re going to discuss meds but I’m sure I’m ovulating. Just need a good egg.

Hope you’re all okay 🤍

@Iris2024 Oh god yes the celebrity (and non celeb) announcements can be a killer, especially if it was the same month you conceived 😔

not sure where you are in your cycle, but hope you’re doing ok 🙏🏻