EMMSY1'S WAITING ROOM - WAITING FOR HER FRIENDS TO GET THEIR BFP - 3rd SERIES - COME ON GIRLS!!!

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Right, we need some luck on this thread! Come on ladies! - Lazy bum eggs too, get a move on!

I've got large soft double chocolate chip cookies here and I've had all the calories and fat taken out

GOOD LUCK EVERYONE, WE WILL NOT GET TO 1000 posts this time!

I tell you, I have a good feeling about this thread

Just gonna go and get the charts .................................

Just showed DS the pics. He said "I like mini sparkly"

BTW, Yarnie and Georgie I'd love to do a Wimbledon village coffee sometime soon!

My email: [email protected]

I'm sure sparkly might even be up for it if she fancies a trip to London and maybe Ei? Or anyone else who'd like a trip to London?
Wouldn't it be fab if we all met up!

Fruity hurray for successful scan and congrats on graduating !
Ei hope you get the job hun !
Sparkly your DD is adorable and you have very nice feet ! What are those pants all about ?

Hello ! to everyone else

Girls thank you all so much, haven't been able to stop crying since I started reading your posts, feel better that this is out in the open, I know it's not always wise to air you linen in public but have felt under a lot of pressure over the last few weeks, my family expect me to drive up to Sudbury every weekend to take or bring back brother for his community visits (mum,dad and sister don't drive)I didn't mind when I thought it was going to be twice a Month for his home stays, but its now turned out that he wants to come home every Sunday to see his children, and from August every Saturday (he only stays home for 7 hours) I'm starting to regret that he was posted to an 'open' prison, and wish he was back in Kennet where he wasn't allowed home, then I feel guilty for thinking that. I have tried to explain to my mum that the driving is starting to stress me out, but her only words are I feel sorry for poor son. I had a party for 2 of my children last Saturday, so I was very tired on Sunday when I drove him back to the prison, I started home at 8pm and because I was so tired I went the wrong way I had driven for 40 minutes before I realised I had gone wrong, I got home at 11.30pm and had to start searching the house for my daughter's birthday presents as it was her real birthday on Monday. I told mum that I wouldn't be able to do all the driving in a few months, she asked me why!! Told her I was having a baby. She said "oh yes, I had forgotten about that" but still no sympathy from her. It's getting me down, so really felt I needed to share about it, as I'm hitting my head against a brick wall with my family. Thank you all so much xx
fruity really pleased there was a sac there!xx
Ei really hope you get your job hun xx

Mibbes LOL I do not have nice feet...I hate feet. I wore those pants the other night. Fruity and Molly were dying to see them.
Fruity You know how much I luuuvvveeee my London visits.

Emmsy So glad to see you haven't left us, and so pleased that you could share with us. No wonder you are so exhausted, what is it with parents sometimes they are self centered at least you know you won't be like that with your kids! Your family should really start arranging for another driver shortly, they really cannot expect you to continue, it's so unfair on you. I also imagine that you feel that this is your "penance" as you quite obviously feel a lot of guilt about what happened. We are all here for you anytime x
Sparkly I have pants like that but mine are bigger

Mollie Show us a picture!!!

No way far too embarassing!

Sparkly - what an adorable munchy dink your DD is. How old is she?

Looks like I'll be organising a Wim Vill coffee morning then . All more than welcome. Only rule is that you don't go all yummy mummy on me and refuse to eat muffins/cakes/cookies . It's just wrong to be able to resist such delicious things.

Emmsy Sounds as if there's not a lot of love going on with you and your mum. It must be hard to be caught in the middle. But feel free to vent on here if/when it gets too much for you.

And girls, may I ask for a virtual hug. Am off to my darling Granny's funeral tomorrow. Have agreed to do a small eulogy and am feeling very very nervous/anxious about it. Her death wasn't unexpected. But I still think it's going to be hard to deliver the eulogy without breaking down. I've made the decision to take my DD's with me. Mollie is nearly 7 and has asked to go and Libby is 2.5 and is too young to understand what's going on so it shouldn't impact on her too much. DH will be on hand to help as well. Just kind of wishing that it was all over. I

Sorry, don't want to bring the thread 'down'.

xx

HTGG You poor thing . Lots of luck to you for tomorrow. It's so hard not to get choked during any funeral but I'm sure your Granny will be really proud of you. Have you written it all down? My DP suggests doing this because if you think and search your mind for words then you hit an emotional wall which prevents you from carrying on. I'm sending you lots of strength for tomorrow and plenty of hugs. DD will be 3 in October. It's very strange that your DDs are called Mollie and Libby...these are names we considered for DD but we chose Lara instead. Thinking of you. xx
Mollie I've shown you mine so you'd better show me yours .

just a flying visit, havent had time to catch up properly. using my brothers computer. forgot to temp this morning

emmsy thinking of you hun xxx hope you decid to stay with us, have sent you an email xxx

Fruity really glad the scan went well and congrats on graduating

HTGG sorry to hear about your gran. sendng lots of big hugs your way ((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

Yarnie and mollie and Sparkly and Mibbes and Ei and everyone else >

hi ladies
georgie so sorry to hear about your nan im sending loads of hugs and strength for you for tomorrow {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}
the job is for training in personal health in the community so i would basically be helping people make positive changes to their health and well being by educating/guiding them to the right services that they might need ie drug and alcohol dependent people to the correct service to help them get clean. i hope i get it
hi to everyone else
more {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}} to emmsy
xx ei xx

Emmsy I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through, and continue to go through. Thank you so much for trusting us enough to share it with us, that must have been incredibly hard.
In RL I am a criminal barrister and it's dreadful to see, so often, what far reaching effects crimes can have, because after all if your youngest brother hadn't been mugged your other brother would not now be in prison. But regardless, none of that is down to you. We make our own choices in life.
There is a reason that provocation is not a defence. Your brother's actions are not your responsibility any more than the actions of the man who attacked your youngest brother are. Please believe that - although I know it is much easier for me to say it than it is for you to believe it.
I've thought for a long time from various of your posts over the last 6 months or so that something had happened which was weighing very heavily on you, am guessing this is at least part of the explanation for the ADs? A very good friend of mine is a probation officer and she talks to offenders a lot about responsibility. All too often they (and this certainly goes for the majority of my clients) are all too ready to blame evryone else for their actions & it seems to me that you may be doing the same thing in reverse - blaming yourself for what your brother did.
I admire you enormously for telling us what happened, thank you. I'm so glad you felt you could talk to us. What sentence did your brother get? Hopefully if he's on home release he might be eligible for parole soon? When he is, tell him to make sure he gets a really good barrister to represent him for the parole board hearing. Please do let me know if you'd like any further info on this.
Please please don't disappear, you are a lovely lady who has been through so much, and who has helped us through so much - maybe it's now time for us to help you

HTGG wishing you so much strength for tomorrow. Will be thining of you xx

Sparkly think I am being very thick, where is the pants picture?!?!

HTGG please may I come for coffee as well? Only please may I have lots of notice so I can book time off work? (demanding cow!) The joys of being self employed, not working = not earning... Although having said that, the fact that I am not in court tomorrow is the reason I am still awake to be on here at this hour

Fruitloop (old skool!) MASSIVE CONGRATS on the scan (told you so told you so )

Bed now. Night ladies

Morning girls

Have we got any more testers in our midst?

I've got Mother and sis in law here again for a few days. Father in law coming over from New York tomorrow. So I might not get so much chance to post over the weekend.

Gotta go and pick up a mindee in a minute. Just checking up on your all.
Kate Lovin the old skool! Any many thanks for the congrats

Ei really hope you get the job!

Emmsy how are you today my lovely?

HTGG so about your Granny. I always think about mine. She past away a couple of years ago. But she was ready to go, poor thing had terrible alzeimers (sp?) but it's still so sad to see them go

Hows everyone else today?

HTGG I meant to say, So sorry about your Granny

HTGG I hope the funeral and your eulogy goes well today. I'll be thinking of you Very much looking forward to our coffee morning

Emmsy So glad you came back. It sounds like you are in a very difficult position. I very much hope that your family will realise the pressure they are putting you under and make life a lot easier for you. for you, too.

Kate Glad to see there's another legal eagle on the thread. I am a retired patent litigator. Very happily retired, I might add(!) I admire you for your engagement with the whole ttc thing when your job is so demanding.

My temp dropped a bit today, although not below my coverline. Can't pretend I haven't freaked out a little bit, especially as my (.)(.) are less sore this morning and there is less activity in my stomach. I made myself feel a bit better by looking at some FF pg charts and I can see temps continuing to fluctuate. Thankfully, I have a v. busy schedule today, so I won't have time to dwell on it. What will be will be, I guess. No point stressing about it until something happens - right?

Hi to Sparkly, Fruity, Mollie, Mibbes, Piper and Cricri too

Ei ??.??° CD6 cycle 9 TTC#2 (CP april 08 & june 08)
Scully CD9 Cycle 3 TTC#3 (m/c Apr08 & Aug07)
HTGG CD14 3DPO Cycle 1 TTC#3 (MMC Nov07/MC Mar08)
Sparkly ??.??° CD15 (LP14) Cycle 9 TTC#2
Piper ??.??° CD19 TTC#1
Yarnie 36.68° CD30 14-16dpo? Cycle 2 TTC#1

BFP's!!!
Emmsy1 BFP 13th Feb 08 (due 23 Oct)
Neveronamonday BFP 19th Feb 08 (Due end Oct)
Furtively BFP 24th Feb 08 (due early Nov)
Cricri BFP 1 March 08 (due end Oct/early Nov)
mibbes BFP 26th March
Disenchanted, BFP APRIL 16TH
Jollybear BFP 18th April
MollieMooma BFP 1st July
Fruity BFP 11th July (due around 24th March)

Morning ladies,
Piper [waves] How are you?
Ei That sounds like a job you'd be very good at. When will you find out? Got everything crossed for you lady.
Kate I deleted the picture of the pants..they were pretty big and very uncomfortable to wear.
Fruity Are you going to share your news with MIL yet or wait a bit longer?
Yarnie I'm sure it's normal for your temp to change during this time. Try not to worry.

I think I'm due to ovulate tomorrow. My temp has dropped today so I'm guessing that is a pre-ov dip.

Ei ??.??° CD6 cycle 9 TTC#2 (CP april 08 & june 08)
Scully CD9 Cycle 3 TTC#3 (m/c Apr08 & Aug07)
HTGG CD14 3DPO Cycle 1 TTC#3 (MMC Nov07/MC Mar08)
Sparkly 36.38° CD15 (LP14) Cycle 9 TTC#2
Piper ??.??° CD19 TTC#1
Yarnie 36.68° CD30 14-16dpo? Cycle 2 TTC#1

BFP's!!!
Emmsy1 BFP 13th Feb 08 (due 23 Oct)
Neveronamonday BFP 19th Feb 08 (Due end Oct)
Furtively BFP 24th Feb 08 (due early Nov)
Cricri BFP 1 March 08 (due end Oct/early Nov)
mibbes BFP 26th March
Disenchanted, BFP APRIL 16TH
Jollybear BFP 18th April
MollieMooma BFP 1st July
Fruity BFP 11th July (due around 24th March)

MIL knows already! DP told her on the phone the other day. Such a funny conversation;
He said "Fruity's pregnant"
She said "I went pole dancing this morning"
He said "Mum, I've just told you Fruity's pregnant!"
She said "Oh my god, I'm a pole dancing granny!"
hahahaha
She is very young btw. Don't picture a grey and aging granny shooting up a pole She's only 46 (today actually) and looks about 35!

Sparkly any sign of ov yet? I hope you're getting busy That high temp was a fluke wasn't it?

Yarnie I agree with sparkly, hard as it may sound (and I'm such a hypocrite for saying this) but try not to worry. It'll be fine

Thanks for the reassurance everyone! I have my first GP appointment today, which I am sure will be very boring.

Fruity The strange parallels in our lives get stranger! My mother (not my MIL, granted) is only 46, too. What a couple of young grannies!

How funny Yarnie This happened to me and Sparkly too in the early days

Any idea on a village meet up?

GG Definate virtual hug and a squeeze coming your way. I hope everything goes as well as can be expected. If you do break down doing the eulogy tomorrow - so what? It's going to be a very emotional day hun x
EI The job sounds really interesting and challenging. When you will hear if you've been successful?
Kate That was a lovely post for Emmsy really thoughtful.
Sparkly Do you want the pants or the corset
Yarnie Try not to worry, everyday so far has been different for me. Your right the first appt with GP is boring but it gets you in the system and it makes it sink in

Waves to everyone else

As far as a meet up is concerned, I am happy to do my best to fit in around what works for you bechildrened ladies, as I am a bit of a slacker at the moment. (Actually, that's a bit unfair on myself, but I am flexible ).

My GP appointment was super-boring, as predicted. She basically just told me which hospitals I could go to and took my bp. She was very lovely though. I will try and make sure I see her next time.

Lots of luck, Mollie!

HTGG hope all went as well as can be expected. your way xx
mollie I'm doing just fine, feel like I can share my RL with you all 'properly' now that its all out in the openx

yarnie hope your GP appt goes ok (I'm sure it will)
Kate your post had me crying again this morning, but it was a 'warm' cry not a sad one! I have suffered with Depression and anxiety attacks, on and off since I was a teenager, it justs seems to come and go, but with some families it just seems to be inevitable There's never a dull moment with my family! Brother was given 6 years, he has served 2 and will be 'up for parole' next May. He was transferred to HMP Sudbury approx 3 months ago, and although I love him to bits,I am starting to wish he had remained in a Catergory B Prison. Have to collect children, speak later xxxx

Yarnie which hospitals have you been offered?
I'm lumbered with St.George's. Had DS in Chelsea and Westminster but it was pretty grotty anyway. I don't think there's one decent maternity hospital anywhere . Luckily St.George's is only a 5 minute drive away (in no traffic!)

Fruity I was offered St Mary's, Chelsea & Westminster and Queen Charlotte's. I've been to the first two a couple of times and haven't been that impressed. Having done some research, Queen Charlotte's looks like a clear winner, so I've asked to be referred there. It's also about 5 minutes down the road from me. I really hope I manage to get in. The GP warned me they fill up fast.