Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

[Bella23]

For those who want to look to the future and TTC again I would really like some support, advice etc.
I thought we needed a new thread with positive energy (yes have turned into chanting hippy) so that we feel we are moving forward rather than dwelling on what has already passed.
The only thing I can concentrate on at the moment is that next Wed is the day that me and DH can start trying again (this will be 2 weeks after ERPC).
Anyone else ready to try again?

Actually without sounding like a nutter - have also bought from this site as well which was very cheap
link

I got 25 ov sticks and 10 pregnancy tests for £20

Yes - I am obsessed with buying them!!

cheers dqueen and bella

i wonder whether anyone else is using persona, AND using OV kits, AND charting, not to mention checking EWCM too???!! for the record, i didnt do anything before m/c, not even count days of cycle!
i've gone N-U-T-S

Don't even tempt me!
I only started using ov tests about 2 months before I conceived so feel they do work.
My DH thinks all is completely unnecessary but I like to cover as many bases as I can !

Bella - that is a real bargain! I will certainly take a look once I have used up my current stash!!! I sound like a druggie! And of course part of me hopes I won't need to buy anymore!

why are we soooo quiet today? i'm kinda sad without you all posting lots

Morning
Well another night on the sauce, went out for dinner with work people and the wine was flowing and before I know it I am in a cab at midnight very much the worse for wear.
Am suffering from the guilt that I have been ttc this month and I really shouldn't be drinking. I think it is because I haven't drank for a few months that I feel a bit like I have got the taste back - oops!
Right no more drinking for me!
How is everyone?

morning all
bella i wouldnt woryr about it how many people stil get pg despite being on drugs/ alcohol etc....u never know it might have made for a lucky night

Still no AF am getting fed up but i think when the tests turn up hopefully today i might test as its now 5 wks post op..i know it can take a while but i havent even got a sign...thought i did 2 weeks ago as had a little spotting but nothing since..u know what its like then part of u gets optimistic about implantaion etc i know i shouldnt and its very unlikely but....sigh i dont know
take care all i am taking DS to a indoor play thing this morning so hopefully will get really tired andbe zonked for rest of day as dh is on long day

Thanks Mishi.
I would definately do a test, you never know.
Absolutely everything crossed for you

Quick hello to all ttcers from the other side! I am still in a limbo between both sites or sort of on a bridge between them alone with my stinking cold!
DQ how are you? Hope all the kitchen action is going quickly.
Bella, I totally understand the sauce, I think we all need a bit of a break after all the pressure of m/c. My first drink was delicious.

Think I've arrived in that limbo land too so is it OK if I join you? Bit early to actively TTC but we have decided to let nature take it's own course & see what happens.

One question though (and this is pretty critical to me being on the TTC thread!!)when can we re-start our love life? Info from hospital says when bleeding stops which it did yesterday but looks like others have been told to wait longer so I wondered what the general opinion is.

Georgie - welcome
I was told not to have sex until 2 weeks after my op. I think guidance is as long as the bleeding has stopped then go for it girl!
Hope this helps

okay i'm so confused between two threads...i keep answering the wrong one on the wrong one!!!
george, well as soon as the bleeding stops your risk of infection drops dramatically, os if you feel like it, go ahead and have sex. we did, and i'm fine. one word of warning tho - any sex may well cause slight bleeding/spotting, Dont panic, its normal and not a sign you did it too early or anything, its usually only the first time afterwards. my leaflets from the hospital says sex is okay 'as soon as the bleeding stops' so there you go! i am also not taking any precautions, so we shall see, next cycle i will shift things up a gear and start opks more seriously, checking cm etc etc. infact next cycle i will begin to stress and dedicate my daily life to ttc!! so brace yourselves ladies
Girl - i answered the kitchen thing on the other thread, its mad here but apparently will be 'done' by the weekend. i seriously hope so, forgot how awful it is to have no space and everything stacked up in another room!!! eek! driving me crackers!
i ordered some 'extra early' pg tests today online. they measure HCG at 10, instead of the usual 20...so it tells you super early. apparently anyhow. will tell you when they arrive if they look any good or not. exciting tho. pg tests make me feel i'm one step closer you know? can we time it so we all 'graduate' together???

Hello all, have had a much better day today, much more cheeful. It is confusing being on two threads but it totally reflects my state of mind! I don't know about anyone else!
Nearly the week-end......

Girl -glad youre feeling some what better.
i am NOT feeling good today, i'm sorry. i am 99% sure i have PMT -usual signs of bloating, spots, always hungry but not sure for what...,and extreme grouchiness i am HORRIBLE today/last night. dh thinks i've lost the plot.
all this made much worse by the fact that i'm most likely not pg this cycle then.....of course it was incrediable long shot anyhow, but i'm disappointed. and then again (sorry f*cked up head already and its only 9am!!) we DId bd 3 times, when i didnt realise it was around O time. and you only have to do it once to get pg right???? this is a SCARY insight to how i may feel in the next few months if i am not pg each tme. and this cycle i wasnt even trying in ernest. oooh i was kidding myself with my 'i'm not really trying' attitude. i really want to get back on the pg bandwagon (dont we all). my appologies for being a downer this morning. and AF isnt even HERE yet!! lordy...
trying to force cheery thoughts for next post, honest.

DQ - hang in there lady! Days of feeling like this are bound to happen. As you will see from my post on the other thread - I ended up doing a test when my AF is not due until at least another week! Does that give you an indication that I know where you are coming from????

DQ, I hope you and all of us feel we can post happy, sad, angry, everything here and that's what's so brilliant about mn . I welcome anything you have to say about what you're going through. I hugely relate to the negative stuff and am recovering from grim midnight row with dh (not helped by his reading some of my mumsnet posts which really p**s me off) and him being fed up with me being under the weather etc. So am impressed that you have the ambition, energy and will to even have started this thread! That's why I'm sure all shall be well for you because you have the strength not to give up.
I am now married to my cold which has settled lovingly on my chest and seems to be committed to staying with me forever as is post mc loss - such joy! It's just as I think you said Bella - maybe we have to buckle up for this extreme see-saw of ttc, I think I've already forgotten how upsetting it can be. But I'm the first to be surprised when a great day turns into a bad night or vice versa!
Thinking of you all from the middle of a huge pile of kleenex under a dark cloud of a malcontent dh, .....

GFP - very bad DH for reading your posts!
I haven't told anyone about MM as I feel it helps me be sane in the RW. It means I can tell you lot the ttc stuff in my head so that others are spared!
That cold of yours sounds like it is getting you down - no bloody wonder! Have a good wallow and get it all out, holding things in just prolongs it in my book!
Hope you get better over the weekend

oh NAUGHTY Girl's dh!! actually there was a time when i thought getting an insight to mumsnet would help dh 'get' me, but hes never v interested. however i told my sister about this site, simply because its such a great place thought she would like it too.......and she searched for me (i'm often called dramaqueen ) and read what i was thinking.....that threw me abit,as like bella, i never wrote this to be read by anyone i knew in RL. still, there we go. who knows, maybe it does them all good to see inside our heads for a moment.
I'm alright, keeping busy trying not ot pause to think tooo much about my own ttc today, lets get af and get that over with, then i can obsess with the best of you. temps, charts, opks - the whole lot
without meaning to bring 'rl' into it, i was wondering where we all are based? Girl i know youre in London right? I'm in southampton, wheres everyone else? i like to place you all, if you see what i mean

I'm in London also, east dulwich if of any interest. I've lived in London for over 10 years but am a northerner at heart as am originally from Yorkshire.

just seeing if i can actually paste a link, found this site, v basic to some maybe, but very interesting, about exactly what happens when in our cycles, i'm not so sure i' right next to af now..may be squeeze a few more bd sessions in! (if dh can forgive me for being sucha cow last night.........oops.......)
here
if it doesnt work bear with me....pasting links are not my strong point! some 'wierd' links and comments towards the end, but good info at the top!

DQ - good sight
I think you should go for the bding as its only just been 2 weeks since your op so could be ov time.

which means Bella-I have no excuses for feeling this cranky!!!!!
interesting to read the part on that site about which 'wrong balance' of hormeones makes you feel a certain way with PMT. mines the 'crave carbs and feel crap' one!!
boody hormones, why dont they just behave!?
myopk for the last three days have been negative. so i'm not sure about it being O time. but....worth a try.

BLOODY hormones even.....

Good afternoon,

I am in Ealing, west london.

Today my dd is in nursery which means it is my housework/shopping/errands/exercise day but I have to admit that so far have only managed afew chores today. Have fallen into a bit of a slump, nothing is happening on the O front and feel the impatience eating me up!!!! SCREAM.....aah feel a bit better now. off to clean the toilet now, lucky me!

TTC is all about WAITING - a pet hate I think for nearly every woman on this planet! A friend of mine was saying the other day that if it was men that got pregnant there would be a product on the market that meant you could test within hours of conception!!
I have just noticed the "How soon did you notice you were pregnant" thread and have just driven myself nuts for 5 mins with looking for my own imaginary symptoms -madness!
I hope you all manage to keep yourself suitably busy this weekend and can have a break from obsessing.