Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

[Bella23]

For those who want to look to the future and TTC again I would really like some support, advice etc.
I thought we needed a new thread with positive energy (yes have turned into chanting hippy) so that we feel we are moving forward rather than dwelling on what has already passed.
The only thing I can concentrate on at the moment is that next Wed is the day that me and DH can start trying again (this will be 2 weeks after ERPC).
Anyone else ready to try again?

hi all

am a happy bunny as AF arrived today..only 5+1 after op...was starting to panic that something was wrong..ie they knocked my tubes etc..u know how it goes....anyways that is the only time i will be happy to see ob and it looks like im starting on day one of what could posisbly be a 36 day cycle...arghh so long to wait
oh well from here on in the TTc does officially commence

glad to hear that mishi i knew you wouldn't be far behind with the AF as our dates were just days apart.

dramaqueen and bella - i'm a london girl too (but not born and bred - just spent practically my whole adult life here. was raised in the country but would definitely say i'm more of an urban creature - like culture more than cows i guess )

yingers - whats your yogalates dvd called and where did you get it? sounds like something i'll try once and then will sit on the shelf gathering dust and cobwebs, but might check it out all the same...

Mishi - good news, am a little jealous, will be relieved then AF shows her head.
Cool - are you and Rom both full steam ahead now?

hi bella i will be once Af goes...Dh wont know what hit him..lol

wish i was bella but damned AF is outstaying her welcome. kind of annoying.

hey you lucky ladies (promise this will be only time i refer to those with af as lucky!!!) well okay so not quite rarving to go, but close!!!
bella i think you must be right about me, i think i MUST be close to O -surely- with just a few weeks between the surgery and now? except, i keep getting neg opks.....v annoying unless my body is getting wierd on me......
dh has told me he fancies a christmas baby.....what? oh wait! that means i should get pg in three mnths!! not now!!! blimey, hopes hes not 'set' on that. i kinda intend to get pg before then, fingers crossed.
hey hang on ladies.....is EVERYBODY in london but me? oh poor meeeeeeeee......

Rom - it is called yogalates energizer and has a dark haired very thin woman on the front. At first I thought she was my age but then her grown up daughter appeared on screen and I realised that she just looked great and young! I am going to try and keep up if it means one day I look that good!

There is no signs of my AF, how early is it likely to arrive? Have u found that your AF is like it was before or is it heavier?

hi
dq im not in london.. am in northwest

yingers my af turned up 5+1 but i think some people regain normal cycle so if u had say 25 day one then should turn up in 25 days but can take up to 8 wks...so far it seems to be normal although have some aching pains in stomach and back....

DQ - think body is playing tricks - typical!
well another hangove for me as seem to be stuck in a rut of anlways fancying a drink, seem to have lost all self control!
People over for sunday lunch today so am being a good wifey in the kitchen. People coming are one friend with her 2 year old and my other friend who is pregnant - YAH!! Should be nice baby talk most of the afternoon - may have to sneak off every now and then for a secret scream!!
Hope you ladies are having good weekends.
I have been having period type pains for the last few days with no sign of her - wonder what this means?

yingers - yes, didn't want to give you all the gory details of my AF, but now you've asked - it was definitely heavier - v. bad one day and went on for longer than usual too. i just put it down to everything clearing itself out. quite glad i waited for the first AF though now, because it feels like i'm giving my body time to recover a bit.

hope you guys all had a fun-packed weekend too - why do the weekends go sooooooo quickly and the weeks seem to drag at the moment. bella, like you, i had a few too many (again) on friday night - but i had to go out with a friend who announced she was pregnant - and although i was thrilled for them of course, it was just about the last thing i needed to be talking about all night - which she did.

dramaqueen - i think its only bella and me who are in london. btw, is your sis still reading your posts??! i'm not sure i'd want that! i told my sis about the site so now i am wondering if i'll be busted horror!

Hi all - have ecided to 'formally ' come over from m/c thread as although still v sad and up and down need to start looking ahead
im 12 days post op now but still bleeding so trying to be patient re AF and ttc
DH currently clearing out drains - blocked loo - lovely and yelling at me to help - not surprisingly am pretending cant hear him
Im in NorthWest too mishi - where are you?Im nr Liverpool on Wirral
Better go - 3 kids in bath sound like its getting messy!

hey ladies,,,,
hereshoping welcome welcome to the obsessive wonderful world of ttc thread! may all you opks and hpt be + !!!
okay so EVERYONE is along way from me, no chance of a meet up then...unless you all fancy a day by the seaside?
Romilly - i doubt mysister is interested now, think it was only when i was going abit 'stranger' after m/c that the entire family were muttering about me and being concerned. think if you keep reading its abit like reading someones diary..addictive but naughty!!! and shes never naughty (that was my job growing up!)and i may have bored her to death on the subject of ttc / m/c anyhow!!!
I dont really have funpacked weekends guys.I'ma stay at home mum and trust me, mondays are much more fun when you get the house back to yourself and everyone buggers off to work and school! just me and littlest DD, lovely so i'm a happy on mondays person rather than oh great joy its saturday person!!
good day today, feel GOOd (rather than cranky) and following group orders by.er...'actively' ttc LOL so happy bunny mostly.
Bella, not sure about those twinges/pains youve been getting? early af signs? implanting? everythign settling still? who knows? i have been getting twinges just to the right, so wonder if O is happening or around.? or af threatening early?? i'm so confused about it with neg opks but ewcm and twinges....if i didnt have opks i'd say i was, but they say i'm not!!!! whats the window to catch a positive opk? if it read neg one morning can it really read + at night but neg by the next morning???
one mixed up ttcer here..wish body came with instruction book....
bella -hope pg lady was okay. and lunch went smoothly
I spent afternoon at outlet mall, shopping which was nice. hope everyone is doing okay.

evening all
DQ seaside sounds good..lol sure Ds would love it as unfortumately would have to bring him so if u can put up with a 16mth old....pmsl

heres..im in liverpool although i do go to wirral every couple of weeks to visit my friend..also someone i met online..lol

not too bad a weekend here although am starting to get stomach pains and backache from af..arghh cant wait for her to go now...suppose she cant win..lol

Take care all

DQ i agree with weekends and being a SAHM although no one to go to school just DH to work...he only usually has sun off but its enough...lol and he has tues in the week

Morning all!
And HUGE WELCOME to hereshopping for officially joining this ttc thread - ye ha!
Fingers crossed that the bleeding stops soon, literally must be any day now I would think.
Well lunch went well, my best friend who usually can't stop talking about babies before she got pregnant was really great and only mentioned her pregnancy a little so it didn't dominate conversation. I think the more times I see her the easier it gets, just keep giving myself little pep talks about how my turn will come etc - well you've got to haven't you otherwise I'll go mad!!
Am off the Amsterdam on Thursday for a long weekend with DH for Valentine's so really looking forward to that! A change of scene is totally what I am craving at the moment.
Well AF should show her ugly head this week so will be trying to NOT think about that - ye right
DQ - Monday so you should be feeling happy!

hello all,

Bella - hope u have a lovely time in amsterdam, would love to get away myself but money a bit tight so will have to leave it for now. Hopefully dh will take me out for dinner although am still waiting for him to take me out for my 30th which was in december!

And it would indeed be great if our bodies had personalised manuals, ttcing would be alot easier.

I am hoping my AF will arrive soon as then I will have some idea what is going on. Like others thought I was oing but sticks said no.

happy monday ladies have been shopping today so is indeed happy monday (hmm... sounds like i spend most of my time shopping now i've mentioned it two days running.......oh wait! i do! ) tho today was shopping for new story books for dd, so not exactly glamerous....
Bella! amsterdam? how lucky are you? have a blast wont you? sigh, i think i've been married tooo long for valentines day to be a special big occassion. dh keeps telling me what a comercial rip off it is, and tho hes right (shhhhhhh! dont tell him!) i still appreciate it being marked by gifts/flowers/tokens of love.....LOL
Yingers, sorry about the neg opks too..having re-read my instructions with mine it does appear that i have already had my LH surge. tells me to start testing much earlier than i did. ah well. we either got the eggie this month or we didnt. not much i can do about it now! keeping up the bd-ing just incase of course! its a total mystery to me too when af will show. sometimes my cycles are 26 days sometimes 31, and with the surgery.well its anyones guess! will do pg test if af hasnt shown by 4 wks from surgery date i think. sound about right to everyone? like you all have said ALMOST a relief when af does show, at least i can count from then.
yes mishi, nice to have some time by ourselves isnt it? its bedlam here when everyones home at once, and tho thats nice, its very wearing! so mondays are my sundays dh has wednesdays off too.
hope your mondays are good too.

Yingers - when did you have your OP ? I just wondered when you thought AF might arrive?
On Wednesday it will be 4 weeks since OP so am going to try and forget about it until after the weekend. Am hoping being away will help me put off the urge that I want to test!
DQ - yes 4 weeks post op definately constitutes a test - I will literally will be foaming at the mouth wanting to do one this wednesday .
Just to clarify ladies, in case you are thinking that my DH is a total darling and is whisking me off to Amsterdam for the weekend - not true I am afraid!
It was my idea, I booked it in October. DH is a sweetie but not as yet known for large romantic gestures like weekends away!
I too am a synic about the 14th and have said that if he wants to buy me flowers it must be on a date after the 14th as I think it is such a rip off to buy flowers marked up by at least 50% just because everyone else is!! Oh dear someone shoot me I am turning into my Dad!

DQ i would wait till 6 wks post op personally..only cos i know my af didnt turn up until over 5wks after. I think if it hadnt come by 6wks i would have tested

Dq 6 wks sounds right
im not even going to think about ttc this cycle though dh raring to go - need a break from the obsessing
also always fancied a december baby like myself...
anyone used persona before? dh got me one though never used ov sticks etc previously instructions look complicated
had nasty shock this am, friend with flu and her dh dropped their 3 kids off at 715 on his way to work. 6 to get breakfasted and to school - do I really want another?
bella enjoy weekend - Im actually travelling overnight on boat to Ireland on Valentines night with children - taking them to stay with my friend for half term
got a great deal on the fare and then realised why!

ah yes, but six wks mean i have to WAIT and its not one of my strengths!!! still we'll see.
valentines day is quite likely to go by here without a murmur. aside from swapping of small gifts and me making something silly heart shaped for tea for entire herd. (we've had heartshaped pizza before.......)
hereshoping, fancy dec baby myself and thats cheering me on to next cycle (and the next) if this ones crap. around christmas would be icing on cake after s**t start to the eyar we've had. if I'm very honest with you guys, i would like a baby before the years out. i have set my self a 'target' (always a bad thing) of that. i know i know, doomed to fail but !!!

Bella, if op means operation, yes am being a bit stupid, then I never had one, I got a lovely internal scan and was told that there was nothing left and sent home.

Drama, I am not sure I would want a xmas baby, as am one myself and getting joint presents is a real bummer. Of course if I got one i would give them an official summer birthday!!!!! Shame my mum didn't do that for me!

ah yes, understand about the pressie thing, but it would be special for the labour part!!!LOL
i'm so bored tonight ladies, wish you guys stayed up later!!

Morning ladies !
Have been listening you all give very sensible advice about not testing until at least 5 weeks past m/c.......problem is I do not have the will power to wait that long!! I promise to really really try as I know I am just setting myself up for a fall, the thing is I feel like it has been almost 5 months and its only been 4 weeks so far.........AARRHH!!
Anyway enough obsessing so early in the morning!
Absolutely a christmas baby - please, please, please.
Yingers - I didn't realise you didn't have an ERPC, so how long has it been for you now? Be interesting to see when your AF arrives without an OP
DQ - yes also big on targets, drive myself mad with them but can't seem to stop myself.
Hereshopping - overnight on a boat to Ireland, that sounds like fun, as long as no sickness, fingers crosses
Positive energy to you all on this fine Tuesday morning

blimey Bella, sounds like you bounced out of bed this morning!!! cheery lady you. this morning i have already had fight with dh -its not good already today then. bugger men, bugger bugger,...ahem, sorry. hes just so wrapped up in work right now (git) that i cant seem to speak to him. and you know how ttc/after m/c is, you feel like youve moved so far in just a few hours thinking, that you want to share how you feel with someone. him actually. but theres no way we get round to 'deep' or 'intimate' conversations last few days, it all meaningless 'have got got.....' 'did you remember...' sort of talk. sigh. sorry...i'm being crappy and negative arent i? TOLD you had PMT. so dh sulking today and me angry........need to distract myself then. can you all post lots to fill my had with something else other than fighting with dh??? we're okay really, this happens everyso often with us. I tell dh i didnt like something he siad/did dh sulks for soo long i get mad, then we fight, then we clear the air and then its okay again........... as annoying as it is at this part of it, its got to be healthier than never saying what we think!!