Friendly/supportive/sensitive thread 🌱

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi everyone, I was hoping to start a nice friendly supportive and sensitive thread. Maybe for those ttc for a while or after losses or just finding things difficult with ttc in general. I love to read others have had bfp's as it gives me hope, but have been finding some threads with alot of positive test pictures posted quite difficult.
Hoping to find others looking for the same as it's lovely to have a place to rant, feel sad, feel happy, get advice, or just obsess without judgement 🙂

I am 36, started ttc 2 years ago, had 2 mmc, and have now been ttc for 14 months since the last one without success. Currently on cd14 on a "not tracking"cycle. x

@Vanilla90 thanks, I have no opks in the house so was unable to confirm, so just hoping for the best! I know I’ll be sad if AF makes an appearance, but I’m also intrigued to see how the Metformin will affect the next cycle & if I’ll get a more normal length

I love that you answered back with the truth about miscarriages. I’m so tempted to do that too if anyone asks me. No one asked me, but someone did ask DP when I wasn’t with him if he wants kids. He said he just answered back & said yeah hopefully one day. I do find the questions odd, I wouldn’t think to ask someone. But maybe that’s because I’m sensitive to it now.

@BGxxx That's a really good attitude to have. I understand not wanting to stop, maybe you can see how you feel about continuing to feed in a few months if no success but hoping you get success soon and it doesn't come to that.
I am good thank you, I feel good that it's a new cycle, i decided to start the impryl today with dh so going to bite the bullet and buy some more and see how it goes. I gave dh his this morning and said this one Tablet is worth £1.60 🤯 we have also had to stop all other supplements with them except omega which makes me nervous but then also when I add up all the individual vitamins I suppose it probably isnt much more. x

@Figtree11 Sorry it made you sick, that's a definite way to make you eat healthy. Are you getting bouts of nausea throughout the day with it now or is it just when eating some things?
I feel very invested in your journey and am really curious to see how the medication works for your cycles too so please keep updating us 🙂
I am ok now thank you. Sorry this is deep for a morning chat Fig but Dh and I were chatting and I think 3 months more then we will call it quits on ttc (so the end of March) which works out at 4 more cycles of ttc.
It will be very hard selling all the baby stuff etc but it's been more than 2 years total now and I feel like my real life has been on hold for this for too long, so I'm going to try hard to change my mindset and think of life not having another dc. (Ask me again in March I will prob be trying to extend it another month 😂) x

@Vanilla90 sounds like you could still be in with a chance, especially with the timing of your symptoms and if you feel that is out of the ordinary for you... keep us updated 🙂

Good for you, I have answered similar before too, then felt bad as the person starts apologising lol but it's true ppl really don't know what someone else is going through. I have been guilty of saying the wrong thing in the past too, but definitely would think twice about it now that I have more understanding.
Yes I knew I was out at 9dpo due to no symptoms, (last pregnancy had so many symptoms) so I tested a few days later to confirm and tbh I was ok with testing, I felt better knowing this time that it was a negative x

@Figtree11 even if AF does arrive for you, at least you have ovulation signs this cycle, which is a positive. Assume you haven't had any for a while since you haven't had a period since October?

I think people who haven't had issues TTC just don't realise how triggering it is asking questions. They're not trying to be insensitive, but it doesn't make it any easier. It's also quite private, so I don't understand why they feel the need to ask!

@Ladyinpink1 it's not as bad when you test knowing it will be negative. I try and tell myself it will be so I can't be as disappointed.
What symptoms do you usually get when pregnant?
I don't really get many, if any, but usually lack of AF symptoms is an indicator for me. If I get near my period and I haven't got any spots or hot flushes, I allow myself to get a little excited 😂

@Ladyinpink1 some people find not actively trying actually helps them to conceive. The stress of it each month probably doesn't help.
Will you back onto contraception, or just not actively try and if it happens, it happens?
Hopefully it doesn't come to that and you conceive soon!
I totally understand though, sometimes I wish we weren't trying because it takes over your life. I am fed up thinking about it all of the time.
I have a great partner, a lovely toddler, a great job. I should be enjoying my life, but I can't with this constant stress!

@Ladyinpink1 i seem to get the nausea a couple of hours after taking it. Then it subsides, then it’s time to take the next one so then I feel sick again lol. Also getting headaches.

Aw thank you, you have been such a support on the different threads we have been on together, it really helps having someone to chat to.

I’m glad you are ok. And you are very brave to have had that chat about when to stop TTC. I completely get the feeling of life being on hold. You just don’t fully enjoy like like you should, and time just goes by so quickly. I know it must be so difficult to come to that decision. I really hope it doesn’t come to that though, and you have some happy news soon. I hope your hycosy appt comes through soon, I’ve heard so many good things about those

@Vanilla90 yeah im really pleased I’ve had some ovulation signs. I had some random spotting in December so I definitely don’t think I ovulated since before AF in October.
I’m feeling quite positive at the moment, but I’m scared I’m going to feel bitterly disappointed in a few months if my cycles don’t regulate. But trying to not get ahead of myself.
How are you doing?

@Vanilla90 so lack of symptoms is your symptom :) It's fully how we all just have our own wee ways of knowing isn't it and I think the more time you ttc, the more you get in tune with every twinge.

Well when we were pregnant last time, I was keeping a cycle diary along with all my other obsessing 🤣I had cramps from early on, strange dreams, distrurbed sleep and way less cm all as early signs.
But saying that, I had a cycle in the past year and I had all if these symptoms and it was negative and I have also been pregnant before that and not noticed much so it doesn't always work that way. You are right, it is a constant stress and I am the same, I have a happy life and I worry it's passing me by at times. I'm not sure the exact method but yes contraception I think
How are you today? x

@Figtree11 aw, I'm sorry that sounds not very pleasant at all having another bout of nausea just as you get over the first. Have you had any advice if these effects will fade as your body gets used to it? I know that soon it will all be worth it for you 🥰
Thank you for your kind words, I was thinking the same thing, we have graduated a few threads at the same time and I appreciate all of your and the other ladies on here s support. I feel it really is a friendly supportive thread 🙃
I hope so much that it will happen before then but I think after this long, it really might not... I will still hope though. I think after March dh will have had enough as well and he has said age wise for us and the age gap for dc too x

@Ladyinpink1 I’ve pretty much just been left to it. Had a letter through after the phone call and it just says- take Metformin while trying to have a baby, and continue Metformin in pregnancy. So I don’t even know what I’m meant to do it the Metformin doesn’t work, how long I should expect for it to work etc. Felt sick all day today. Just got to hope it works as I feel lousy 😩

It has been really nice to have you to share all my worries & just generally chat about things, so thank you. I do hope we both get some good news soon though, and can share the worries that they come with a BFP!

Hope everyone else is going ok

@Ladyinpink1 yes, you're right, lack of symptoms are my symptoms 😂
The less cm is an odd one! I have had that each time I have been pregnant too. I used to check cm each cycle because I thought increased cm indicated pregnancy... but it turns out, it's not the case for me.
Are you going to track your next cycle do you think?

@Figtree11 sorry to hear you're feeling lousy.
That letter sounds very helpful! Are you able to ask your GP if you have any questions?
Nausea is the worst. I really hope it settles down so you can feel a bit better.
Are you able to eat and drink okay?

I'm okay. AF hasn't arrived yet, but still have AF symptoms. If it's a no show tomorrow, I'll test Sunday (even though I am pretty sure it's a BFN, but we just have to do it to ourselves and pointlessly test!)

I was just thinking the other day how much I hate other people when they announce pregnancies, but I would genuinely be so happy if one of us on this thread had a BFP. I feel like we deserve it.
TTC has turned me a little bitter and psychotic along the way 🤣

@Vanilla90 im not really sure about the GP to be honest. I do have an email address for the consultants secretary & she emailed me back very quickly when i sent her some test results. So might use her as a first point of call. Have been eating & drinking ok, but learnt the hard way that greasy food does not mix well! So a reason to be eating healthy I guess!

How are you doing? Has AF arrived, or have you tested?

I can totally relate to what you say - I find it really difficult in real life when someone announces a pregnancy. And then I feel like a bad person. But I would be so happy for you girls to get a BFP. We all deserve it, and we know how hard & difficult the journey is.
TTC has def turned me bitter & psychotic too 😂

@Figtree11 well January is a good time to be eating healthy. At least you weren't feeling sick over Xmas and could enjoy the food.
Do you have a follow up appointment to see how you are getting on?

I ended up doing a test last night. I got thrush (very rare for me) and bought oral tablets since AF was due, but instructions said you can't take if pregnant, so I did a test to rule it out... but it actually came back positive.
To say I was shocked is an understatement, especially since I have AF like symptoms, which I've never had with a BFP.
Though I am happy, I keep worrying that the worst will happen again, so I am finding it quite hard to stay positive. When I got pregnant after my 1st mc, I naively thought lightning wouldn’t strike twice. I can't shake this sense of dread. Not what I expected to be feeling!!

Here to just vent a little. I had a chemical pregnancy in july and have been ttc again ever since. But my cycle's still all weird. After the loss it has usually been 33-35 days. However the longest was 37 days between october and november, and the shortest was 28 days between november and december (last period was 4.-17.12). Currently on cycle day 33 and had spotting through days 16-18, but very little fertile mucus before, during or after.
I've been spotting around my estimated ovulation dates every single cycle, which I have never experienced before. On the 37 day cycle it was more like a light period and I even had to wear a panty liner. On that cycle I did use ovulation strips, because I was thinking there's no way I'm ovulating because of the bleeding. I did get positive tests on two days. Otherwise I just track the cervical mucus for an estimated fertile window.
I know this is nothing compared to what other families are going through, but I feel so frustrated that suddenly there are all these changes in my body and I don't know what's going on. I've been wondering of the mid-cycle spotting is contributing to not conveiving yet. I'd go to a doctor, but we can't afford a private one and in the public clinic they don't take you unless you've been ttc for a year 🤷‍♀️ Our first baby took about six months, but I'd just quit hormonal birth control. Our second baby was conceived literally on the first cycle even though I was still breastfeeding. The chemical pregnancy was a whoopsie, but still took just that one time. I'm trying not to feel hopeful this cycle.

@Vanilla90 oh wow congratulations! That’s great news. I understand the worry though - I also thought the same after my first loss & then had another. But hopefully third times a charm 🤞🏻 I have everything crossed for you

No don’t have a follow up appointment - giving it til March, and will then look at private fertility investigations. That will be a year after I got pregnant for the second time. 18 months TTC for me so far 😢

@CabbageFan I’m sorry about your chemical. Sorry I don’t have any advice, but maybe make a GP appointment to see if they can help with the mid cycle spotting, as they might be able to help without even waiting a year to TTC

@Figtree11 thank you. Really hoping it is a case of 3rd time lucky. I'm just going to try and carry on as normal and not think about it, as silly as that sounds.

It's really frustrating that they didn't give you detailed information or at least a time line, just giving you the medication and leaving you to it seems a bit slap dash.
Any amount of time feels like a lifetime when you're TTC. You just have to hold onto the fact that you have conceived before, so you can do it again. And you've already seen a difference this month with the fertile cm, so it's all going in the right direction so far 🤞
Did they say if it doesn't work in say X amount of months that they'll review the medication or anything?

@CabbageFan sorry for your loss. It can affect your cycles, it made mine longer too.
Sounds like it might be ovulation bleeding?
I have had it some months, sometimes mixed in with ewcm.

@Vanilla90 i think that’s the only thing you can do, try & keep busy so hopefully the days go by quicker. Are your EPU able to offer early reassurance scans? I was told at mine before I could have one from 7 weeks i think.
Have you done anything different this cycle do you think, or is it just chance like TTC sometimes can be?

No they didn’t say anything about timelines for being on Metformin. I guess because it’s a recurrent miscarriage clinic & not just about fertility they think I will get pregnant again quickly. But have been actively trying since end of July now, but then I haven’t had as many chances as most because of the irregular periods.

@Figtree11 I really hope that your body gets used to it in time to the point where you don't even notice you are taking it. Hope you had a nice weekend. I think it's back to reality for most people tomorrow with work and school... and the start of healthy eating of course 😇 How has your nausea been today? x

@Vanilla90 Aw congratulations! 🎊 I think it's normal to feel that way. I felt that way last time too, a loss sort of taints things a bit.
I was thinking the same as fig, an early scan would be good. My early pregnancy clinic said I could have one at 7 weeks because of the losses too If i fell preg again. Could you give them a ring and see? x

I'm sorry for your loss@CabbageFan and I'm sorry for the time it is taking, and I understand the frustration, I have fallen pregnant easily each time but have now been ttc a long time without success, it isnt nice. I know you said your doctor won't refer you without it being a year, but if you go and ask for general bloodsand any hormonal ones, they should do that for you.
I did that while waiting for my epu blood test appointment and I felt a bit better to know the general things were OK. x

Hi Ladies! Sorry I dropped out of the group for a bit was struggling over Christmas time and felt worse when it came to new years! Just kept thinking we should have been having a baby this year! But took a couple of days and feel more positive about it now, had my procedure done as well so I've recovered from that too and we are all good to start trying again, thought we'd have to miss out this month but glad we don't ☺️

@Vanilla90 congratulations on your BFP, it's nice to arrive back to the group with some news like that! Helps me feel positive about the future! I understand your concerns though I have really worried since the miscarriage about whether I could be as attached to any future pregnancy almost to protect myself. Hopefully you could arrange an early pregnancy scan though which might offer you some reassurance!

Thanks Ladies. I think my EPU can offer an early reassurance scan, I vaguely remember them mentioning it last time. However, I don't have great memories of that place and some of the staff weren't very empathetic, so I was considering going for a private scan if I manage to make 6 weeks.

@Ladyinpink1 how are you doing?

@Figtree11 no I didn't do anything differently. I thought I was out this month as only managed DTD CD9 and 10 and didn't get ewcm until a few days later. I was away for a few days and had wine, maybe that was it? Lol

@Jess1066 welcome back to the group! No need to apologise, I think the festive period was a tough time for all of us. Glad you are feeling more positive and didn't have to miss out on TTC this month. What CD are you now?

@Vanilla90 yeah I just didn't see it coming as I was looking forward to starting the new year with a fresh start but definitely didn't feel that way come new years eve! Currently CD 16 was meant to ovulate tomorrow but still haven't got peak on lh so thinking that might come tomorrow with ovulation on CD 18.

Hi @Jess1066 nice to see you back and I'm glad your procedure is over and you don't have to wait until next month now 🙂. I think we are all glad December is over. Will you try anything new this year? x

@Vanilla90 I'm sorry you didn't have a good experience there last time, that's really rubbish in a place where you expect extra compassion and kindness.
I'm ok, really hoping this impryl does something, and starting eating better tomorrow helps too but at the same time i'm trying to be realistic after so long it would be unusual for it to happen. x

Nice to see you back @Jess1066 and that’s great that you don’t have to skip a month of TTC ☺️ and glad the procedure went well

@Vanilla90 i’m sorry the EPU hasn’t been great. Got to say I am pretty traumatised by that place, lost count the amount of times I’ve visited. But they were always so kind to me which helped, so I’m sorry you didn’t have that. Just shows that TTC can be such a roll of the dice with no rhyme or reason to why we conceive when we do!

@Ladyinpink1 I had a nice chilled weekend thanks, hope you did too. I eased into work on Thursday/Friday working at home, but back to the commute tomorrow! Today is the first day I’ve not felt sick all day which has been good. Just in time to up the dose from 2 tablets to 3 tomorrow 😆

@Vanilla90 ahh that’s great news, so pleased for you!

Hope everyone else is doing okay. I feel like I’ve fell off from ttc a bit. I’m not tracking so it has been easier to forget about

Hi everyone. I know this is kinda highjacking so fee free to delete but there’s so many of you on here that know so much and i’m completely rubbish at learning all this it feels like. I suffer with anxiety and have very little faith in myself. I did a post introducing myself a few days ago when i joined but i’m still unsure how to navigate the forum. I’m 38 (i know i’m probably pushing it). So, i posted the other day asking for help with ovulation ect and it was helpful as i’m clueless about this whole process. Ovulated 01/01/25- 02/01/25 and have been active with my partner on the 1st, 2nd, 3rd & 4th (dont know if you need to know that lol sorry if tmi). I woke up in the middle of the night last night like i needed the loo like wee electric shock pain in my sides and when i went to the bathroom there was pink on the toilet paper after i pee’d like the full width of the toilet paper not just a few wee spots. It was like dusty pastel baby pink colour. That’s been 5 days since we started sleeping together specially trying, surely that’s too early for any kinda progress, it’s not a great sign sure it’s not i bet 😔? I googled myself into confusion so thought i’d ask here because you are a wealth of knowledge. Again sorry if this isn’t allowed honestly just delete me. Thanks for reading x

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