Is this what I think it is? Surprise.

[Nameswanged]

I'm not trying to conceive but have been having weird long cycles which I thought was due to my age. I've been having 40, 50, 35 day cycles and thought that was it for me; menopause.

Right after my most recent period ended, I had sex with my husband and he asked if he needed to use anything. We usually are careful but this one time we weren't and I've been banging on about how I'm perimenopausal and my cycles are so long etc etc. So I said no, no need, I'm only day 5. Afterwards I realised, I was day 6, the evening of but it was far too early in my cycle to worry about anything.

The next day I saw ewcm, and it continued until cycle day 10 when I felt my usual ovulation cramps (and mine are really specific). I highly, highly suspected I was ovulating. I didn't consider emergency contraception for personal reasons.

5 days later, I had so many weird stabbing pains and twisting and turning sensations. Today, 7dpo, I bought a test as I got very early bpfs with my other kids.

After about 3 minutes or so, I started to see a realy squinter, and within ten minutes it was like this. Do you think I could be pregnant? Has anyone had a positive test come up within 10 minutes so early but so strongly and it be a negative?

Ooh I do hope you get the confirmation you want so much from the new tests OP. Please keep us updated about everything!

My cycles have been getting longer and longer. A recent one was 47 days! I'd no idea that I would start ovulating immediately after sex on cd 6! Madness!

Did a test in work but only had time to pee on it and wash my hands and shove the test in my bag as someone was outside. Too many people around but I'll be able to peek in 20 minutes which will be too late. Ahhh!

I can’t bear the suspense!!! 🤞🏻

Well this is a cliffhanger @Nameswanged , hope you've got some mores tests because that one won't be trustworthy by the time you look at it. Good luck! Hope everything works out either way. 💞

Negative! OK, interesting!

I did 2 ics and can't really see anything except for a hint of a whisper of something which I've also seen in plenty of negatives through the years!

I'm totally fine about it if it is negative. Am thinking it probably is a true negative as that positive was far too strong for 7dpo. The ics always picked up pregnancy early with my others. Luckily I bought a pack of 20 so can poas like a mad woman all weekend!

I'd just wait a few days and try with another FMU.

If you are pregnant then personally I wouldn't tell your husband for a bit. Like 12 weeks. Then present him with the scan photos in a card. Explain that you were very worried he wouldn't be supportive so you wanted to wait to confirm the pregnancy was viable. At that stage what can he do!!!!

I had false positive on those exact tests. I'll post photo later as they're on my laptop.
DH had been sterilised 10 years and I wasn't preggo.

Please do! Tell me about your experience please. Did the positive come up at once?

Would have to explain the vomiting and very early belly I tend to get haha. Looks negative anyway.

Yes it was immediate and pink. My sisters were here and we were all freaking out.
First response and clear blue taken after were negative

@Kitchenwoe must be a dud then. This morning I felt nauseous and thought oh no I've this to deal with for another 3 months but I was probably just tired and hungry!

Snuck in another test; bfn haha. I've got that unshakable tiredness that has a very specific hormonal feel to it, like my period is just about to start. There's no reason why. I go to bed early and get my quota of sleep but I've constantly felt like I'm under some kind of spell where I feel in a tired daze. Maybe it is perimenopause! Anyway, it looks negative so at least my marriage won't have the strain of a pregnancy that only one person wants. This level of exhaustion just doesn't feel normal.
Maybe I'm coming down with something.

Oh how disappointing for you! I really thought yesterday's test was a definite positive result, but obviously not. Maybe you are going down with a seasonal virus to explain the tiredness and nausea.

Tbf 'planned it' crossed my mind reading your posts. Simply because you tested as early as you could and didn't take emergency contraception as soon as you saw ovulation was happening. I wouldn't be surprised if he thinks the same.

Good luck.

Why don't you wait a while before testing again, it's still very early

If you're testing early and at work then your urine could be too diluted to show up a positive. Why don't you wait a few days and test with your first urine?

I can't control when I ovulate and would never take emergency contraception for many reasons, one of which being I am open to more children.

Sometimes I get ewcm during the month at not fertile times, so it was at the back of my mind that this was a possibility. By the time I felt the ovulation cramps it was too late to do anything, anyway. I also thought that at my age my chances would be low.

Planning a pregnancy behind your partner's back is a lot more underhand than the situation which I found myself in, where I suspected something after the fact and and was waiting watchfully.

I have a huge amount of respect for my husband and being open to more children is different to somehow tricking your reluctant partner into it.

You sound like you're really talking yourself into this - the brain is very powerful and you clearly very much want to be pregnant. I always thought that any result read after 3 or so minutes (referring to your first test) wasn't to be trusted anyway.

You have 3 young children and a husband who doesn't want any more and who's been vocal about that.

You've nicely talked your way round the fact that he asked about using contraception and you said it wasn't needed, knowing that your cycle is unreliable. And you then decided against emergency contraception.

You might not have been "planning" it but you're not being honest that you weren't actively hoping that an "accident" might happen.

I'm not having a dig. I'm just saying what it looks like reading your post.

If you are pregnant, I'd wait a while before finding out if it's going to be a tricky conversation with your husband. You told him contraception wasn't necessary. If you wave a test under his nose before you've even missed a period it might make his brain clunk a lot and make a hard conversation harder.

Get your ferritin level tested. I feel just like that and it’s because mine is so low I have ‘complete iron depletion’.

So, I wasnt well actually. Went to bed early last night with a stiff neck and head cold and now my daughter is sick. I tested this morning and it was negative, so I'm taking that bfp to have been a a
false positive, and all of the gurglings and pains to have just been the normal inner workings of the female reproductive system. I'm fine with it.

To respond to some comments, my cycles were getting much longer so I've been ovulating much later in my cycle. I didn't think I would ovulate so early in my cycle. I knew my cycle was erratic, but in the opposite way, always getting longer with ovulation getting pushed further back. Did I tell my husband to proceed while knowing there was a good chance I would ovulate early? No, I really didnt think it would happen otherwise, I honestly would have said. He knows my cycles and understands how it all works. Did I feel excited at the prospect of conception being a possibility? Yes, I can't lie about that.

In any case, I am fairly sure it hasn't happened and it's a good thing. I decided yesterday that my husband is more important than another child, and I have to lock up my broodiness and forget about it. How could I be happy about something that would make someone I love miserable? I couldn't.

Last night he was playing with our toddler and said that he went for a pint after work and came home because he missed the kids. That's the kind of dad he is and I have to be grateful for the happy, loving father he is and stop daydreaming about another baby, a baby who would be like a grenade in his life.

What a convincing test though, eh.

Aw what a conflicting bunch of emotions OP. Do you think perhaps it could have been a chemical? I had a few of them before conceiving my last baby. Broodiness is awful , hopefully it will go away. After my last I finally got the "I'm done" feeling and it's such a relief. No more holding onto things "just incase" !! All the best to you.

Sorry to hear that OP. I suppose it's good to know definitively and not be waiting and wondering, but it's natural to feel an element of disappointment or sadness about not having a baby, especially when you have that glimmer of a possibility and were beginning to process that. Sounds like you have a happy and loving family, and that you know and appreciate that. All the best xx