MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

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I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

quarkee - that sounds entirely reasonable, do they know at work what happened? If so then you def could do main course and then go. people would understand im sure. and if they dont know, then you still shouldn't feel bad about leaving a bit early if you get upset, it is really hard to sit through baby talk...

It's the "everybody in the world is pregnant except me" thing for me at the moment. I'm sure they are all following me around! It's a conspiracy to make me cry in public!

Mistle
Have decided to try something similar to you. Kind of a detox is probably a good idea. Feel so bloated all the time and my tummy is never happy! (sorry TMI!)

Would also really like to try reflexology, as have been wanting to for ages! Does anybody have any opinions/ideas/experience either way about reflexology and fertility?

NSNA at your brother! Mine did not know what to say but gave me a hug and said sorry, and that meant a lot to me. It's just the acknowledgment isn't it.

clare - my EDD wasn't as bad as i thought either. we decided to go away for a few days over that date and it was good because although we thought about the babe, we were just enjoying some alone time together away from the 'normal' routines of life. I just didnt want it to be just another day for me. Also good that DH has understanding boss!

EDD's aren't great are they. I was luckily enough to find out we were pregnant the week I should have been due, but that 2nd pregnancy was my latest m/c so that didn't work out either. But at least for that week I
was happy
Internet connection was playing up for the last 2 days so can't remember all the conversations, but hello anyway
Good luck with the weight loss, I need to join you to lose about 5kg, but to be honest, can't be arsed right now
Probably shouldn't stop at the shop on the way home from the vet to pick up a bottle of wine, but I will be

lou that is just what we did, go away for a few days and like you say it was nice and meant we could actually spend the day together.

Quarkee - its a difficult position isn't it. Does the person going on maternity leave know that you've had a mc. If so, the easiest way on you might be to see her before and wish her well and explain that you're not very comfortable with baby talk at the moment and that you don't want to end up in tears at her lunch and throw a bucket of cold water on the whole proceedings. Otherwise, make an early exit and hope that the conversations are not too hard. Good luck.

This feels as though we're all in a room and we're all having conversations with different people and chipping in and talking over people. Very noisy isn't it!

Hi guys, sorry I haven't been on in a while, not been feeling too good. Went to the GP yesterday, she was very supportive and diagnosed reactive depression, she's sending me for some counselling and we discussed medication, but she feels that the less medication I'm on when ttc the better and I don't want to go down that route just yet. Taking a couple of months off MN and active TTC but I will probably lurk for a bit as it's kinda addictive. Thanks for all the yummy food, support, advice and big ears to listen and shoulders to cry on it's been much appreciated. Good luck to you all and lots of baby dust to those ttc now and in the future, hope to see you all again soon
x x x x

MollieMooma sorry you're feeling . Its very difficult isn't is.

All I can say is that the Chineese Herbalist/accupuncture person that I go to helped me hugely. Yes, the herbs were really :P and stewing them up made the whole house smell horrid, but they helped me to get back onto a more even keel iykwim. I also feel that she might have helped on the ttc route too. Might be worth a try.

Hope that you feel better soon.

This thread is moving so fast!

quarkee it is a tough decision on the lunch, I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to be the party pooper and really liking the person going on Maternity leave. Could you explain to her that you are really not comfortable with the group lunch (and explain why?) but could perhaps do a nice cup of coffee or smaller lunch with just the two of you? Where the pressure of being in the group (And the subsequent insensitive or un-informed comments might be less?

lou I have just had my second reflexology session and cannot recommend it highly enough. It is too early to tell if it has done anything for ttc just yet - but it has definitely improved my general health and at my session last night she said I was about to ovulate...good news! I also find it really relaxing and good for lowering those ever present stress levels.

mollie sorry you are feeling so down but good for you on seeking out medical advise. Take the time you need to deal with the emotions and hopefully the rest will follow. I hope you have a good break from MN and look forward to hearing from you again soon.

Mollie sorry you are so down. Hope things get better soon, take it easy and will miss you.

Mollie sorry that you are feeling down. Take care of your self and hope to hear from you soon.

prepg AF hormones can get you down at the best of times. IMO AF is a physical reminder of what you've just been through every time you go to the loo. Makes sense that it could trigger painful memories.

Claire glad you got through the edd ok.

Daisy mistle and quarkee good luck on your 2ww

Thanks ellie

Mollie so sorry to see you go, but hope to see you back very soon! (or maybe you'll have to come find us all on another thread having to do with pregnancy )

scully Think it's going to be a wine night for me too! DH is out tonight, and I'd love to spend a quiet one on the sofa with a nice bottle of red!

Gosh, I thought the torture of having to wait one cycle since the mc was going to do me in! Now it's the waiting the next 10-12 days before I ovulate again so taht we can actually TRY that is killing me slowly. Excuse me, I'm a slightly impatient person...oh and a tad bit melodramatic too

Afternoon,

chocolate muffin anyone?

mollie sorry to see you go and that you are feeling so low. I hope to see you back here in a while when you are feeling better. DH had depression a while back and I know how low he got. Thank fully he is so much better now after going to the docotr and getting help. You have taken the first step to your recovery.

Well no af here yet. Not even any spotting. Did another test this morning - another BFN. Resisted the urge to pull it apart but did the squinting at it from all angles.

Thanks Cece (KD takes a choc muffin)

How are you? I haven't been on for a while but strangely I thought about you today .

Laughed at the squinting business - been there/done that. I wouldn't worry - well only when you take it out to check with the neighbours for them to squint!

Keep faith - I have my fingers crossed for you

LOL at getting the neighbours to check!!!

Congratulations kazbeth. Thinking sticky thoughts.

I think you're in good company PrePG. Hands up anyone out there who's NOT impatient and melodramatic right now! Although that is my normal state too, I must confess. Mmm, nice chocolate muffins.

Ooh, kazbeth, just posted at the same time as you, so didn't see your message. YAY to you - that's wonderful!

Congratulations Kazbeth, and lots and lots of best wishes and sticky thoughts.

Thanks everyone - i was so bombed at work today i didnt get chance to answer - lunch was ok - i steered chat away from 'future plans' adn just kept it on the mother to be so got thru it ok - thanks for all the suggestions it really helped.

Mollie good luck adn take care

Kaz WELL DONE!!!!! Fab news - good to have good news

kaz does that mean you have had a BFP without AF? Gives us hope!!!

Glad it went OK quarkee

HI Girls! trying to do catch up here - this thread moves fast when you leave it for a few days!
With reagards to brothers and sisters - both of mine were told I was preg at the early stage, and both were informed (by text) about the ERPC due to an anembryonic prge. Both contacted me - my brother 2 days later and he was chocked up because he only just got my message - he was devistated for me - he's lovely like that xx bless him. I can't recall when i spoke to my sis - but everyone who knew about it (apart from my F**king Step Father) has said how sorry they are. SOme people just don't know what to say -even family - they jsut don't know what's best to do.

The other thing I wanted to rant and rave about is this business of people asking 'isn't it time you thought of having another one', 'would you like another one' etc etc!! I got this all the freeking time after DS was born and I returned to work a year later after being off with PND. I continued to have PND and on anti Deps and at councelling for nearly 3 years. I recall as if it were yesterday a female boss asking me about having more babies, and I really had had enough.... so I put her straight. I told her that she was 'being totally insensitive about any problems we may be having regarding haveing more kids, that YES I'd love a football team of them BUT that my DH was terrified of me becoming Psychio again, and because You are upsetting me so much every time you ask, PLEASE STOP ASKING!' Needless to say she never asked again. Try that approach - burst into tears, rant and rave! Why do we try to protect the feelings of those people who continuosly (sorry can't get that word to spell properly!!) ask - all it does is makes them feel 'interested' - well if they are truly interested - tell tehm how it really is! Then think how much better you feel!!!

Congrats Kaz - fab news. Wish DH was back from Bulgaria - but suppose it's been only 2 weeks since ERPC. Well he's home tomorrow night {wink] so I'll not be here as I plan to be otherwise engaged!! LOL!!