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mistlethrush · 2008-04-14T14:35:59+00:00

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

SnoopDog · 11/09/2008 23:51

READ THIS PLEASE

sadminster · 12/09/2008 08:10

Well my one pregnancy with steriods produced a live baby. Recent pregnancies have been

aspirin + clexane + IVIg - m/c 15 weeks
aspirin + clexane + prednisolone* - live birth
aspirin - m/c 17 weeks

*steroid 25mg/day

Who really knows, I had the NK cell testing at the ARGC in London, my levels are slightly elevated but they rocket up in pregnancy (that is levels of NK cells in my blood, I believe that the trial is looking at levels in the uterus). Mr T treats with a very short course of steroid (dexamethasone) before pregnancy then IVIg infusions when you are pregnant. My NK levels went down nicely but I still miscarried, which may or may not have been the resuilts of NK damage. With my ds1 I didn't have the IVIg but added prednisolone in & had a live birth. With DS2 I followed my mc consultant's protocol & had another late m/c. Next time we're back to the steroids.

kingfix I don't know about beast changes after mc - I now that I have had that tingley let down feeling ever since I started breastfeeding my dd (8 years ago!). I'm sorry for your loss.

kingfix · 12/09/2008 18:50

Thanks sadminster.

maz32 · 13/09/2008 23:06

hi kingfix sorry to hear of ur loss, i had one similar time when i was 8 weeks ish. it took my boobs a few weeks to settle down as they were painful but r fine now. its so hard just waiting for a period so we can try again how long does it usually take? xx

EisAHandbagaHolic · 14/09/2008 11:51

hi ladies
kingfix so sorry for your loss i had this feeling with my 2nd and 3rd MC re: the boobs. it seemed to be everytime my DD cried for about a week or so after i MC it does go away though but it is not pleasant whilst it lasts xx take care of yourself xx
sadminster i am now 8dpo and getting quite anxious about testing so i know exactly what you mean
i hope everyone is doin well this weekend
xx ei xx

kingfix · 15/09/2008 19:30

Thanks everyone. MC really is horrible, isn't it? I just keep hoping I'll get pg again v soon, but... hope you are all having better luck.

calsworld · 15/09/2008 22:11

Hi all, sorry I've not posted much - still a bit raw here even though it seems like it all happened a lifetime ago (only two weeks though)

Kingfix - sorry for your loss, you're right, it is more than horrible, its a truly cruel element of nature. I only hope that I can be a stronger person with a better understanding of others' losses in the future.

I'm waiting for my period now, and understand it can take between 4-6 weeks, which seems to be really dragging in some respects, and yet flying in others.

I went back to work today for the first time, it started off OK but I cried a bit around lunchtime, then picked up again towards the end of the day. I think it will get easier from here.

Eis - hope you're holding out OK, and can resist the urge to POAS just a bit longer, but good luck

Sorry everyone for rubbish post...

nauseous · 16/09/2008 08:34

Work has a habit of taking your mind off things at times, even when you'd rather snuggled on the sofa watching gmtv because you'd rather not face the outside world. Good luck with everything Calsworld. Sure my period took about 5 weeks to arrive, its quite bittersweet when it does of course.

Kingfx - very very sorry for your loss. Ongoing symptoms are extremely frustrating post MC. I remember most not the boobs thing but that it took me about 4 months to lose the 'tummy' I had gained during the pg. Best of luck getting pg again.

sadminster · 16/09/2008 09:39

calsworld it has always taken 4-6 weeks for me to get my period. This time it was 41 days (I counted!).

Since there's no real chance of being pg this cycle I'm having a last hurrah - I actually got drunk last night & have woken myself up with two (gasp) cups of coffee this morning. For the first time in 10 years (except post birth/loss) I have no idea when my period is due.

EisAHandbagaHolic · 16/09/2008 11:34

hi ladies
10dpo today and cd34 this is highly unusual for me to get to this point without AF and if i hadnt temped this cycle i would be convinced as usual that i am preg. my temp dropped a little today so i am fully expecting AF on thursday but who knows?? only time will tell i suppose
i hope every one is ok
xx ei xx

MollieMooma · 16/09/2008 11:46

EI You never know, it's not over til the red lady sings Keeping (nearly) everything crossed for you
Calsworld First time it took me about 4-5 weeks for AF to appear, still waiting this time, had ERPC 4 wks ago today but I OV'd on Saturday so expecting AF sometime next week. Work will get easier, but don't worry if some days you just don't want to face the world. We all have different experiences and emotions, keep your chin up
Kingsfix Sorry to hear of your loss, how are you feeling now?
Mollie waves to everyone else

barbie1 · 16/09/2008 12:38

hello ladies can i join you? im in need of some cheering up as ive just been released from 24 hours in hospital following a d&c for mmc at 11 weeks..its nice to read your positive thoughts...now only if my period would start!!! unfortuntly my periods were always so irregular so times bleeding for 6 weeks while other times waiting for 8 or nine weeks for it to arrive! just one of those things im told so im going to have to learn to be patient. hi again calsworld its seems we are following on the same path here! sure i was with you in march 09, glad to see you are ok x

calsworld · 16/09/2008 13:43

Hi Barbie, so sorry to see you here, but welcome at the same time. I was in March 09 AN with you, IIRC you had quite a rocky road at the start of the pg too - so sorry to hear your news. I had been following your mc thread, so know this past week has been a long road for you. I think you've been incredibly brave through it all

EI - sounds positive, fingers crossed here for you too!

Hi Mollie - how are you doing?

Kingsfix - Are you feeling any better?

kingfix · 16/09/2008 14:39

Barbie1 sorry to hear your news.
I'm feeling ok, thanks. Waiting for my first period too. I think I will still be in a nutty state of half-denial about mc until it comes.
Very sad to hear about those of you who have had several mc.

lastboxoftampons · 16/09/2008 15:02

Hello ladies - I haven't been on here in ages, but just thought I'd pop in and say hi. Barbie so sorry for your loss

We've just entered our 6th month trying since our mc in March (waited one cycle to TTC) and still no joy Due date is rapidly approaching and all I can think about is how I was 'supposed to be' huge by now You're right Kingfix, it's really shit.

MollieMooma · 16/09/2008 20:15

Barbie Lovely to see you on here too
Calsworld I'm fine thanks, hope you're OK too, can't believe there is three of us off the March thread, how sad
lastbox It's such a horrible waiting game isn't it, and the pressure gets worse as the due date arrives. Perhaps you should plan to mark it in someway so that you can reflect on what has happened. After the first m/c we bought a rowan tree which is the tree of life and have planted it in the garden. DH got a similar tree tattooed on him, which is what he wanted to do. It might help maybe?

sarah76 · 16/09/2008 21:56

Hi, can I join you ladies? You come highly recommended from everyone on the Miscarriage threads.

I miscarried my first pregnancy (7 weeks) last night at the EPU. It was kinda horrible, because almost everything came out all at once in what can only be described as a 'fanjo burp'. I actually saw the gestational sac, which was pretty sad for me since only 3 days before I had a scan and saw the heartbeat. They said they were going to test it for abnormalities, which from others I gather I should feel pretty grateful for because a lot of people seem to have to wait for 2-3 miscarriages before any testing.

Little more about me, I'm 32, 'morbidly obese', and have PCOS. I lost a stone before I got pregnant, but not enough to put me back in the merely 'obese' category. I'll be back to Weight Watchers this week. The metformin has helped some with weight loss, and I'll probably go back to all my weird herbs that seemed to be helping make my cycles more regular.

So how soon can I expect to start ovulating again? I'm wondering if I will be having more anovulatory cycles, or if this will jump start my ovaries (obviously hoping for the latter).

MollieMooma · 17/09/2008 09:26

Sarah Welcome, so sorry you have had to join us and to hear of your loss. You have had a terrible experience, I'm not sure I could cope with what you saw, so you must be very strong. Feel free to come and rant, cry or shout with us on here. I could be joining you at WW soon, as I need to lose rather a few stones too
Morning to everyone else

sarah76 · 17/09/2008 12:48

Thanks for the welcome Mollie. I went for the scan this morning. Poor DP starting crying in the car on the way over--I think he was really rattled by going back there, where we'd had such good news on Friday and then such a bad experience on Monday. I think he'd only just gotten used to the idea of pregnancy after seeing it on Friday, and was sooo happy about it, so to have it yanked away like that really threw him. His boss has been great though, told him to stay with me and take as much time has he needs. DP plans to go back to work tomorrow.

The people at the Warrington EPU are soooo lovely. We had the same lady for the scan this morning who did the scan last Friday. After, the nurse talked to us and said since my uterus seems clear and I'm passing everything, we can start trying whenever we like. She also confirmed what I read about the first few cycles after a MC being more fertile. If I did get pg now it might mean missing my brother's wedding in the U.S. in June, but I really don't want to wait.

I asked if they had a picture of it from the scan on Friday since we didn't get one, but they didn't have it stored. I don't even know why I wanted it, but I kind of did. DP was not so sure. He's better this afternoon, thinks he just needed to get that out of his system. He's back to filling hot water bottles, bringing me snacks/drinks, and having snuggles.

MollieMooma · 17/09/2008 14:40

Sarah Glad to hear that it is going as "smoothly" as it can and don't need any intervention. It is so hard when your OH gets upset though isn't it, my DH was a rock first time round but this time he cried lots and it really shook me up, bless them. It is easier for them to return to normal though as it isn't their body going through and we unfortunately get the constant reminders But glad to hear that he is looking after you lots now, make the most of it We tried straight away after the first m/c and got pg within 4 months, wasn't going to try straight away this time, my intentions are to wait til we have seen our consultant at the end of the month, but we have lapsed already! I think you should just go for it, but just remember that although you may be physically ready, don't forget to be emotionally ready too x

MollieMooma · 17/09/2008 14:40

Sarah Glad to hear that it is going as "smoothly" as it can and don't need any intervention. It is so hard when your OH gets upset though isn't it, my DH was a rock first time round but this time he cried lots and it really shook me up, bless them. It is easier for them to return to normal though as it isn't their body going through and we unfortunately get the constant reminders But glad to hear that he is looking after you lots now, make the most of it We tried straight away after the first m/c and got pg within 4 months, wasn't going to try straight away this time, my intentions are to wait til we have seen our consultant at the end of the month, but we have lapsed already! I think you should just go for it, but just remember that although you may be physically ready, don't forget to be emotionally ready too x

MollieMooma · 17/09/2008 14:40

Sarah Glad to hear that it is going as "smoothly" as it can and don't need any intervention. It is so hard when your OH gets upset though isn't it, my DH was a rock first time round but this time he cried lots and it really shook me up, bless them. It is easier for them to return to normal though as it isn't their body going through and we unfortunately get the constant reminders But glad to hear that he is looking after you lots now, make the most of it We tried straight away after the first m/c and got pg within 4 months, wasn't going to try straight away this time, my intentions are to wait til we have seen our consultant at the end of the month, but we have lapsed already! I think you should just go for it, but just remember that although you may be physically ready, don't forget to be emotionally ready too x

MollieMooma · 17/09/2008 16:34

Oops Bloody computer

ladyhelen2 · 17/09/2008 16:42

Hi everyone. Just popped back to see how you all are doing.

Have just been to see my recurrent miscarriage consultant for the first time. A very lovely woman indeed. As I am in fact pg now, she can't do many of the tests that she would have done, but we did ask about the Liverpool research that Siobhan Quenby is doing on steroids and recurrent miscarriage. She spoke very highly of Ms Quenby and that she is extremely thorough and thoughtful and that it was an excellent research project.
Snoopdog has posted a link higher up but I just thought that the fact that other specialists in the field really rate Quenby's was worth noting.

maz32 · 17/09/2008 19:54

hi everyone so sorry sarah to hear of your experinece. miscarriage is horrible and yours sounds like you got a raw deal, keep talking to people and keep on mumsnet thats wot kept me going. how long is everyone thinking of waiting b4 trying again? im desperate to try again now but dont know wots best? the epac said wait until you get home b4 trying! not the best thing to say at the time but kind of funnyish now!??xx